Stop sending men paragraphs. There are only TWO things that are worth saying to a guy before you block and delete... and even then, it's not recommended.

I'm so tired of seeing screenshots of conversations where women are arguing back and forth with a LVM.

I don't understand the point. He's not going to change, and he's never going to give a shit about hurting you. By replying to him over and over, all you're doing is entertaining him and wasting your time. At the absolute worst, you're making it easier for him to manipulate the next woman.

That being said, a lot of women struggle with Block & Delete at first, maybe because it seems too harsh, or too sudden. Maybe you're like me and you just really like to have the last word (something I've had to get over, btw). Or maybe you're hurt and you want him to feel bad for hurting you.

In my early days of FDS, I wrote a lot of posts about walking out of dates (especially first dates), even if it seems rude, uncomfortable, or not the "right time" to do so. Side note, these experiences were largely why I decided to swear men off completely and exclusively date women. Hardly any of the men I met were even worth dating, and the ones in my scrotation that I did end up meeting could scarcely make it to the third date without disrespecting or pissing me off in some way.

Anyways, a lot of women expressed shock at this concept. "You can't just LEAVE in the middle of the date!" "This seems unsafe" "Did you say anything to these guys before you left or just walked out?"

Most of the time I did actually say something, even if it was as brief as "thanks for the drink" while putting on my jacket. Some of the time I just said "excuse me" and left.

However, there were TWO phrases that I sometimes said to men that made them go absolutely ballistic:

1. "You're being very manipulative"

OR

2. "Way too many red flags"

FOLLOWED BY AN IMMEDIATE BLOCK AND DELETE.

Don't respond after that, because their takeaway would be "how can I improve my game" not "I did something bad". Don't give these men the opportunity to become better manipulators.

Again, this was in my early days of FDS when I still cared a little too much about what men thought, positive or negative. I enjoyed getting in one last jab on my way out the door, and enjoyed their desperate attempts to contact me to find out exactly what they did wrong (so that they could argue with me about it).

I still say these lines from time to time if I know I'm about to cut contact with someone.

Quite frankly though, I still don't recommend saying anything to men at all before block and delete, but if you're one of those people who feel like you MUST have the last word or you MUST say something diabolical, these are the only two phrases that have gotten me the reaction that I wanted.

Whatever you do, DO NOT RESPOND OR EXPLAIN WHAT HE DID WRONG. First of all, he probably already has a general idea of what he did wrong and he just wants you to give specific examples to try and "reason" (argue) with you to change your mind.

Two, the purpose of these statements is to be intentionally vague so that he does some self reflection. I like to keep men on their toes. When he doesn't know exactly what he did wrong, I like to think that he is more likely to be more self conscious when he meets the next woman. And quite frankly, men already have so much undeserved arrogance, they deserve to have the seed planted in their mind that they can be wrong sometimes and that women can see right through them.