Female Dating Strategist still not feeling that ✨spark✨

Joaquino7997 · 2021-05-07T23:05:14+00:00

This woman is broken - period, point blank, bottom line.

Someone should tell her to leave the emotionally available, responsible, caring, educated, well-to-do men alone and go back to getting mistreated like she was before. For the record I do NOT condone the treatment she received before, especially if there was abuse involved. However, this woman clearly has NOT completely healed from this and is now wasting a lot of guys' time if her attitude is going to be "if he left me alone, I wouldn't even notice."

imdaad_khan · 2021-05-07T23:06:15+00:00

Stories like this make me wish a HOEFAX (like a CARFAX for dating history) was an actual thing. Many a good man would be well served by that.

This broad is alpha widowed beyond repair. Luckily she’s 35 (powdered eggs) so she isn’t going to birth or rear her venomous offspring.

Alarmed_Mechanic_403 · 2021-05-07T23:11:06+00:00

"Trauma" - always their go-to.

This pathetic individual doesn't understand that having trauma is one thing, but as an adult, you HAVE to work towards overcoming it. That's what they would expect from us (see all those unfunny running gags about us needing therapy) yet when they destroy their lifes due to their issues, it's always treated like some unbreakable spell.

I have said it before, I will say it again: FDS is just a bunch women who are too weak to work on themselves - and everything they post is an attempt at justifying their weakness. "I don't have to because woman - and when men don't play along, they are low value."

OmegaSoc · 2021-05-07T22:55:14+00:00

Who knew there was such a fine line between abuse and boredom?

Natriumzyanid · 2021-05-07T23:17:42+00:00

"due to trauma I did blahbalhblahblah"

stopped reading after that retarded bullshit

imdaad_khan · 2021-05-07T23:22:46+00:00

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me_at_myhouse · 2021-05-07T23:41:58+00:00

This just reinforces that women do not want what they say they want (stable, kind, hvm)

They want the allure of the bad boy who mistreats them, because deep down they honestly think they will 'tame' him and turn him into the kind of man that she is now claiming 'bores her'.

RealMcGonzo · 2021-05-08T00:27:34+00:00

I had one healthy beautiful relationship when I was 22.

After that relationship, due to trauma manifesting. . .

We've heard this tale a million times. She had a good guy. Along came another guy, a dangerous, sexy bad boy. Oooo the tingles. Ta ta nice guy! Then it's one bad boy after another. Plenty of tingles. Oh boy the sex! Wow they were HOT! Sure they were abusive. Slept with whomever they wanted whenever they wanted.

But once I hit my 30s, they were no longer interested. Oh sure, they might be down for a quick BJ in the alley after the bar closes, but that was about it. So I had my "Come to Jesus" moment when I realized it wasn't them, but me. It's not that the hot, sexy bad boys aren't interested in me but I am not interested in them. They're just sour grapes.

So it's time for some nice boring, safe men. Men with jobs. Reliable men that aren't going to steal money from my purse or ask me to get drugs for them. These are the kinds of men I am attracting. And I like reliable. And money. Dear FDS - how do I forget all about all that HYT DICKS I had so I can settle down with a boring guy?

Jihocech_Honza · 2021-05-07T23:20:07+00:00

Women like this are reason why the patriarchy was created. A good father would never allow her to mate with such men.

But she would probably run and end in a brothel.

dadudenines · 2021-05-07T23:23:16+00:00

Women unknowingly condition themselves physically and mentally in their 20's to be attracted to certain kinds of men, especially the more they went through. This goes deeper than even alpha widow. It is like the guys with death grip syndrome, but mental.

Cristoff13 · 2021-05-08T00:44:05+00:00

"due to trauma I was attracted to [bad boys]"

Instead of blaming "trauma", or "emotionally unavailable fathers", or whatever, women should understand they are naturally attracted to such men. Like men are naturally attracted to young, fit women. The attraction is biological. If they acknowledged this, they could learn to deal with it better. Or perhaps I'm being too optimistic.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-05-07T23:46:17+00:00

Jeez, what a superficial kunt. Cares nothing for this man. Only thinks about herself. I hope she redpills that guy and he ends up here and sees her post telling the world what she really thinks about him and what a complete loser she is.

IoSonCalaf · 2021-05-08T01:30:08+00:00

Notice how she doesn’t explain why her first relationship failed? She said it was beautiful but then mumbled something about trauma.

SeeBeyond1983 · 2021-05-07T23:33:33+00:00

She would absolutely hate me thats for sure. Im stable i mean boring, i speak when spoken to besides when i check on the needs (example inserted refers to my loved ones, friends and family) dude do you wanna get a fire started, mom would you like another coffee? You warm enough? You know that kinda enquiry, besides that i dont really ramble.

I try keep my answers clear and concise. Actions go unnoticed in relationships when it comes to me, my level of jealousy when provoked in that way is more important, a new haircut just like the old one is a nuisance if i dont compliment it again.

If i let her have the full geyser of hot water every morning it goes unnoticed until the day god forbid she gets the luke warm or cold shower that i get daily.

You know that kinda crap means nothing to a self proclaimed goddess.

Barf-fly · 2021-05-07T23:24:34+00:00

Looking for a spark? Stick your fingers in those holes in the wall. Might smarten you up a bit while you're at it.

SchmeatSchmacker · 2021-05-07T23:57:01+00:00

Someone that cares about that man should reach out to him and get him as far away as possible from this deranged succubus.

redhandsblackfuture · 2021-05-08T01:24:02+00:00

FDS spincels are thinking that their depreciating value is worth something to men of value

Neatche · 2021-05-08T04:38:45+00:00

Looking at FDS all day got me worried about several women. Alot of women need healing apperantly...

vanillapopsicle · 2021-05-08T03:55:27+00:00

I really think that staying too long in the “sexually exciting” frame of mind for too long can have these types of effects. For years and years, the only question she asked herself as she dated was, does he get me sexually excited. It’s about 10-20% of a person’s personality, but she made it 100% and now it’s locked in.

It’s almost impossible to go back. She will never be attracted to someone who doesn’t “excite” her. Even if she forced herself to marry the guy, she would always look down on him and not respect him on some level.

Eventually, she’d tell herself that she deserves better and would leave him. This is really a cautionary tale more than anything - gambling your romantic life with people who have stayed in the short-term, “excitement” game for too long is a fool’s errand.

UltimaterializerX · 2021-05-08T02:52:07+00:00

Stopped reading at the self-diagnosed trauma response. It’s made-up, because women don’t want to just admit they rode the carousel. Always an excuse.

GrannyLesbian · 2021-05-08T00:59:55+00:00

She has more rage than Kratos.

HeftyAdministration8 · 2021-05-08T02:01:54+00:00

I'm guessing the "healthy beautiful relationship" was her first alpha. She was totally into him forever. He was into her maybe a dozen times.

PirateDocBrown · 2021-05-08T02:02:42+00:00

Wow, first time looking at FDS. That is some toxic shit right there.

DankCommander7 · 2021-05-08T02:26:10+00:00

You feel nothing inside because there is nothing inside.

codeiqhq · 2021-05-08T03:18:45+00:00

As much as I hate that this sub calls women rancid meat and other demeaning words, I have to agree with you guys that this lady and that FDS sub is nothing but a bunch of delusional women who don’t take have a sense of self responsibility. I married a boring guy and he’s the only guy I’ve had a great connection with so far...I wasn’t allowed to date thanks to my dad so I don’t have much experience but, lemme tell you, the dating world is filled with poor quality people both men and women. I think this culture we live in is also very dangerous to women especially since they’re so sensitive and weak (I hate to say it but it’s true and the ones touting independence and strength are lying to themselves or are super butch).

Captain_REEcard · 2021-05-08T03:20:21+00:00

13 years of alpha widow syndrome.

That's tough. Oh well.

GentleHawk1 · 2021-05-08T04:05:49+00:00

It's like a refined sugar junkie trying to change her diet and start eating only fruit. Natural and healthy sugar no longer tastes. No sparks or butterflies in the stomach.

The sense of taste has been completely obliterated by years and years of industrialized products made just to addict people without enough self-control.

But some addicts will justify:

- If I choose the super sweet industrialized products, it's the fruit's fault for not being tasty enough! Sweeten up!

throwaway---1000 · 2021-05-08T05:52:49+00:00

She'd absolutely cheat on that guy if the opportunity presented itself

MattyK414 · 2021-05-08T04:13:36+00:00

You're not a "pick me" if you're getting rammed by junkies in an ally.

A "pick me" means that you actually TRY to care about what a decent man is looking for.

TwentyOneBeers · 2021-05-08T05:16:30+00:00

at 22 i had a beautiful healthy relationship

then i had a trauma manifesting itself

how the fuck do these two go together, what trauma? being born with an IQ of 80?

Joh_Ghurt · 2021-05-08T06:58:39+00:00

So fragile! Where are those women getting all their trauma and PTSD from?

Or is life in America really as bad as in some famine and war ravaged hellhole in Africa to traumatise at this rate?

2021-05-08T01:40:17+00:00

Fat Dumb Slampiggy's

PMmeYourHopes-Dreams · 2021-05-08T03:49:55+00:00

She can't pair bond anymore. She has been with way too many men and has had miles of dicks in her.

8LinesOfWockMGP · 2021-05-08T04:47:12+00:00

She deserves to be used up and thrown out like a condom after a $5 fuck in an alleyway

A_Roasted_Peanut · 2021-05-08T08:19:28+00:00

Blames her bad choices on "trauma", even though she later admits she gets bored with decent men.

It's a classic example of her getting wet thinking about Chad and Tyrone.

peguy2000 · 2021-05-08T09:05:55+00:00

Ill bet all of my money that she ended that first “healthy“ relationship because she needed to find herself

TheApricotCavalier · 2021-05-08T01:49:13+00:00

I know what I want too.

tylerwilson420 · 2021-05-08T02:27:29+00:00

The trick is to live your life socializing try to find that spark while living your life and then explore it on a date make sure they aren't shit on a stick you'll be happy most likely.

The chemistry has to be there from the beginning. Do we fall in love with every women who isn't shit on a stick? No we don't just like we might find a stick cool but it happens to be covered in shit. Gotta find a stick that is both interesting to you and doesn't have shit on it

I got news for everyone here and that news is that there are well to do people that don't give you sparks and there are people who give you sparks but are covered in shit. Point being marry someone who gives you sparks and isn't covered in shit. That's rare but if you don't find it better to be single and that's on point

Tell that girl to stop picking up shiny sticks with shit all over em and to just pick up clean shiny sticks. Key words clean and shiny. Don't go marrying the first fuc*in plain log you see tf wrong with chu lol

JayMeadows · 2021-05-08T02:30:51+00:00

Jesus Christ.

Just can't quit the bad boys cold turkey it seems

MrINTJ22 · 2021-05-08T03:42:02+00:00

I feel sad for her lost soul

Charmingaxelotl · 2021-05-08T06:38:58+00:00

They told her to go after a nice respectful guy, but those guys don’t get the pussy wet.

Euphoric-Cycle1688 · 2021-05-08T08:28:44+00:00

"due to trauma MANIFESTING" : never her fault. You cannot take these people seriously

Neurismus · 2021-05-08T09:15:33+00:00

Obviously FDS is working out soooo good for her...

DoTheSnoopyDance · 2021-05-08T13:35:07+00:00

But…but…women can date like men and sleep around and such and not be damaged….right?!? This isn’t damage from that, it’s trauma from all the Chads she dated that has caused her not to be attracted to quality me right?

They caused this and she holds no responsibility right? Women can be just like men and sleep away their 20s and 30s and still pair bond with good men, so what happened here?

Old_snowboarder · 2021-05-08T07:39:04+00:00

So she claims she had some kind of trauma yet spent a decade NOT dealing with it. This moron did it to herself.

Mustbeaight · 2021-05-08T11:53:24+00:00

Lol this is classic stuff... she’s a low quality woman herself

Corn_star11 · 2021-05-08T13:58:44+00:00

I am attracted to water but hate to get wet

TalonDoc · 2021-05-08T02:24:33+00:00

What should she ideally do about this thought process? Is therapy the answer?

mimiczx · 2021-05-08T03:12:39+00:00

She'll figure it out... 😂

kyledontcare · 2021-05-08T12:04:21+00:00

Just sit with your cat in your apartment. No one wants you.

Wolverinedog · 2021-05-08T18:11:10+00:00

Whammenz are often attracted to uncaring alphas who treat them like the property to be used and refused. She willingly and repeatedly engaged in this. Responsibility. Reality. Consequences. It's the adult thing to do.

Subwonderland · 2021-05-08T15:47:52+00:00

You know, I’ve seen a situation like this unfold firsthand, but the other way around. My friend (let’s call him Bob) does this with girls. It’s like he can smell crazy a mile away. Takes two hours to get ready, consistently late, always on her phone? It’s just part of the chase! Cheated on her past three (YEP. THREE.) last relationships? She just didn’t know what she wanted! Her ex legit took the time to message you about her throwing all his things in the yard and warned you not to date her? He’s just an asshole! And if you don’t think my new pumpkin princess is perfect then you’re an asshole too!!

She left you the day after Valentine’s Day? Messaged me trying to hook up? Destroyed your PS4? “Where did I go wrong?!?”

Meanwhile I’ve been in a steady monogamous relationship for 5 years, and she’s great. Mature, modest, tidy, sweet, a hell of a cook, and we have similar goals in life. Bob asks me, ‘how do get that?!’ Well, Bob, it’s a give and take relationship; I made sure she was interested in me before pursuing her, and we’ve met in the middle on subjects we disagreed on. She isn’t ‘above’ me in... any... annnnnnnnnnd he’s gone.

Over. And over. And over.

vtec__ · 2021-05-08T16:37:29+00:00

35 is not the age to start looking for a relationship for a woman. for a man, yes...lol

ltde5150 · 2021-05-09T15:25:06+00:00

Ah yes, the ever present "trauma" - lemme guess, a few drunken hookups that proved you were a stronk indeependent womyn? That you later deeply regretted?

Female Dating Strategist still not feeling that ✨spark✨

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you're retarded. comment approved.

- If I choose the super sweet industrialized products, it's the fruit's fault for not being tasty enough! Sweeten up!

Title	Female Dating Strategist still not feeling that ✨spark✨
Author	tylerwilson420
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Date	May 7, 2021 10:49 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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