The game has changed. At one point the idea of getting the girl, settling down, and living a solid life was the goal. Men would work towards that and it would be somewhat attainable. They didn't have high standards and settled with chicks that they were able to get. Or they were hooked up by their friends and family members. Women and chicks were more "streamlined" and most were happy with what they could get, because they didn't know any better.

Now, the potential is wide open. Online dating has shown men all these women that they could "get". But it's a lie. By going on these sites you are filling yourself with false hope. These women are not available to you. The dating market is fucked. Once you've been in this game for a long time, you realize the thought of "finding a girl from online or out and about, building a bond, and having a long term relationship" is absolutely silly. This is a fairy tale, the likelihood of any of that happening are near 0%. Sure, you may have some dates and short term relationships. But to form a legitimate long term relationship from online that doesn't end in shit? Good luck. Your best bet is through friends hooking you up. Friends that you grew up with or have known for a bit. Hopefully your social circle is in check for that. Don't have a social circle? Well, then you're fucked.

The good news is that nowadays most people don't have reliable social circles. The social circle has become the internet and all the shit you can do on it. YouTube, video games, entertainment, etc. So what's a guy to do romantically in an environment like this? It's simple, the goal is to not lose.

Divorce rape is real, dead bedrooms are real. Most guys don't even realize this, but you DON'T want a relationship with western women. They don't realize that the odds of them getting fucked over are pretty damn common, similar to a coin flip. You really want to go through frustration, potentially losing half your shit, paying for child support, and more? I'd understand if the chances were not that high, but we're talking about a 50% divorce rate here.

The real winners in this dating market are the men that just don't get involved. They know the deck is stacked against them. They see the dealer smiling behind their back as they pull out half their winning cards and then shuffle up the deck for them to play. It's a fucking scam. And you can't even see it. Because you don't want to see it. For some, it would be too crushing to even come to grips with the reality that dating may be a futile effort for today's man. Like literally soul crushing, it's so bad that they just bury their head in the sand about it. And they are able to get away with it because there's so much false hope and influences out there for them to cling on to: PUA, females deluding them, the media, personal anecdotes that aren't the norm, etc.

Look at the data. How many men is this really working for? Will you take a chance and risk getting screwed over 50% of the time? In today's market, the winners are the ones that are able to come out of this shit unscathed. When the chances of winning are so low, what do you do? You focus on not losing.