So long story short, my marriage has been rocky for the past couple of years. I had been trying to do all the things to keep the family together (being a great dad to our 3 young kids, tending to her needs, being affectionate, etc) but something has felt off for the past few weeks.

I went thru the cell phone call logs and discovered a number that she’s been texting back and forth with for weeks. Sometimes late into the evening.

I blocked my number and called it and a man answered. I didn’t confront him but knew I had to get more concrete evidence. I hired a PI because she claimed she was going out to happy hour with her female friend. They tailed her and sure enough she met up with a guy. The PI said they were kissing and acting as if they have been in a relationship for some time.

I’m f’ing devastated. I’m sitting here taking care of our kids while she’s out doing this. But I’m not going to spring it on her. I made an appointment with an attorney for next week. But my head is spinning. I guess I need to figure out my living situation first as well. We have a house together and it kills me to think she could bring this dude to my home when I’m not here.

Any advice from others that have gone thru this would be appreciated.