After 14 and a half years, my current wife decided to tell me last week we are getting divorced. It blindsided me because I thought we were getting better but at the same point I'm not surprised because this marriage has been pretty toxic. This will be my second divorce, the first one I asked for but this one is all new to me because I'm on the other side of the fence this time. What's been tough is it was like somebody flipped a switch in her. The day after she told me we were getting divorced, it was like I'm seeing a whole different person. She's extremely cold to me but I'm also seeing other personality traits that have never been there in all the time I've known her. This is a woman who told me since we first got married that she would never be one to ask for a divorce, I would have to be the one. But yet, here she is telling me we're getting divorced and it has me questioning so much. I know, it's time to move on but it's a tough one when you have lots of health issues and not a lot of income because she's the breadwinner. I know I'll make it through this but I also know I'm going to have a lot of venting to do.