r/divorce

pk2at · 2025-11-05T02:11:17+00:00

I was banned years ago on that sub after giving advice on how to get a favorable split of assets

Wolfjak · 2025-11-01T23:44:51+00:00

It’s an echo chamber of bitter women. Viper pit

NotYours25 · 2025-11-01T21:04:25+00:00

I’m wondering how many men landed in that sub before finding this one.

47omek · 2025-11-01T20:58:08+00:00

It might as well be named Divorce_Women. Just like family court it's massively slanted in favor of the women and the man-haters there hate any thought of men being treated equitably.

BeginningProgress551 · 2025-10-31T20:34:09+00:00

It's really remarkable the difference between a tribe of men and a bunch of ladies. The advice here is genuine if sometimes misguided, and the support is always right there. Sometimes tough love even.

On that sub it bleeds over into name calling. I'm guilty of it too, some of the things that were posted are just so anti everything. Like nobody wants this experience but why go look for fighting with others going through it?

I appreciate this resource even more now after visiting them

darealyst · 2025-10-31T18:37:18+00:00

I notice the same thing as every discussion board: There are a few power-users who are in every comment chain in every thread spewing the biggest vitriol and extreme positions because they are terminally online weirdos. /r/divorce is unique in that most of them are bitter, divorced women.

OctinoxateAndZinc · 2025-10-31T17:19:31+00:00

The way to interreact there is give strait facts devoid of the emotion, if you're posting or replying, and try and be gender neutral. Never engage with someone who is bringing their emotions into someone elses question/post.

The sub is larger and people spill their guts with all the details because they are at the start and a complete mess. And I honestly don't hold it against them - no one is thinking right at the on set.

That said, there are people who ONLY show up to impose their divorce and experiences on anyone and everyone, offer nothing constructive, and then dip out.

Reddit is fine for some advice and pointers but it wont be held accountable.

LeTronique · 2025-10-31T15:39:23+00:00

I agree.

While it makes sense to feel jaded towards others with similar characteristics to one's ex or stbx, when it is primarily one-sided on a forum, it does far more damage than good for the minority.

The annoying thing is that men's spaces need better moderation because between the weird racist content/takes and the obvious religious proselytization and the sock accounts belonging to women who try to sabotage and police the space, these spaces get really toxic, really fast.

conceptcreature3D · 2025-10-31T13:53:03+00:00

Yeah I needed a proper dude perspective on it all. Already had plenty of miserable women in my life hating on me prior to divorce lol

upvotersfortruth · 2025-10-31T11:26:20+00:00

If you’re a stay at home dad trying to divorce a breadwinner - you can get some great tips there.

cheddarburner · 2025-10-31T10:48:09+00:00

My experience is that the loudest voices are: A) Severely wronged B) Narcissists C) Emotionally Immature

We never have enough information to truly know which of the three it truly is, but we can get indicators.

Comments like “She was toxic as hell and bitchy”, only to see later on in the post “she has poisoned the kids against me” show me maybe she wasn’t as toxic..

Narcissists are easy to catch in this as they get their story out loud and early. My STBXW had to go hang out with neighbors she hated and hasn’t seen in years, just to get her story out. She went right back to not hanging with these people soon after.

My therapist gave me great advice: The people who know you will see through the crap. If they don’t and judge you on half truths, what are you losing?

StandardButPoor500 · 2025-10-31T09:31:00+00:00

I don't find it toxic, but if it was, what's wrong with visiting a toxic hellscape now and again? As long as you know what to expect.

Consistent-Cry-9452 · 2025-10-31T07:44:14+00:00

Woman are like that they wash their hands in innocence and throw it all on the man. My current GF also cannot stop calling her ex husband toxic, abusive etc....

I am like why did you endure it so long then, how did it change from the start till then.

I care for her a lot but i am vigilant. flipping the switch can be done by me too these days, i am no longer value myself based on my relationship/love i get from someone.

EarlDooku · 2025-10-31T07:02:49+00:00

Of course it's a toxic hellscape. There are women there.

Bagman220 · 2025-10-31T03:05:49+00:00

I think there’s a stigma around a man who gets divorced. I feel like a lot of times since women typically file, it’s assumed the man wasn’t good.

If you explain your story that you were cheated on or she was toxic and abusive, then women look at you like it’s your fault that she was toxic and abusive or they just assume if you were a better partner you wouldn’t have been cheated on.

Personally, I don’t find any issues with r/divorce. I still peak my head in there regularly. I just have issues with the whole traditional 50/50 split of assets. I kept like 95% of everything cause my ex didn’t want anything, wish more women would let men off the hook. So when I see comments like “get what you deserve” or “take everything you can get” it’s like bro, chill out.

RemarkableDonut2676 · 2025-10-31T03:04:58+00:00

What's wrong with it? Honest question.

NOT-packers-fan2022 · 2025-10-31T02:50:43+00:00

He’s right you know. You ask a simple question, straight forward question then spend hours describing what your ex wife did to you before you’re offered any practical advice. Waste of time.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-10-31T02:26:44+00:00

Who hurt you?

Daddygamer84 · 2025-10-31T02:13:05+00:00

Cool story bro

Title	r/divorce
Author	NotYours25
Upvotes	25
Comments	38
Date	October 31, 2025 2:10 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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