We have agreed to 50/50 custody for our three kids (9, 7, 5) with her having them the 182 days she wants. My ex wife makes anywhere from 150-200k a year. I’m a first year teacher on a long term sub job and I’ll be lucky to clear 30. I have offered to let her keep the house (buy me out), leave her 401k intact ($180k more than mine) and just take 50% of our assets. I have offered to take little to no alimony and little to no child support.

She is putting things like Nintendo switches she bought the kids for Christmas on a spreadsheet in attempt to nitpick. The same spreadsheet includes no appliances, furnishings or anything else that would be left with her in the house. She has repeatedly told me that she feels bullied and I can’t wrap my head around it.

I feel like, if she doesn’t want to make a deal, I’d fare far better in court. Granted she tried to play the victim and paint me as a horrible abusive spouse but there’s really no evidence to back that up. What do I really have to lose anyway?

The mental gymnastics have really just left me scratching my head…. I’m at a loss. I have to survive and have have a place to live with my kids… pay the money for a court battle at this point?