Dating or getting should absolutely not your goal, it should be the natural conclusion of you applying FDS' rules and embracing FDS' values.

Often, I see posts from recovering pickmeishas confessing that they had a "pickme relapse". I believe that one of the reasons of this relapse is that while the poster fully understand FDS and read all the material given, the poster still goes on dates with the mindset of making the man they're seeing their boyfriend and later their husband.

No, this is where they're wrong.

You should go on dates for the fun of going on dates. You should go on dates to assess the man you're seeing and see if you deem him worthy of being your boyfriend. You're not here to convince him to make you his girlfriend, he's the one who has to convince you here.

Every woman should definitely have a roster of men (around 3) they're going on dates with. First, because seeing other men prevent women from becoming attached. Second, seeing three different men helps you evaluate each of them better since you can compare them to one another. The one who treats you the best should be the one you're willing to commit to.

Never forget that men want to impress and chase women so let him try. He's the one who has to tie you down, NOT the other way around!

Once you're dating, don't date him with a marriage in mind or he'll take you for granted. If he knows all you're waiting for is for him to wife you up, he's going to string you along until he finds a woman he has to constantly work for or is forced to settle for you. Date for the fun of dating.

Be ready to walk away from him at any time and make him understand that. If he's scared of losing you, he'll do everything to keep you - including wifing you up.

And, finally, when this happens, be still ready to walk away from him at any moment and let him know that again. Marriage isn't the end all be all, this is the start of a new journey. If he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger, he's going to stop trying to impress you, stop trying to romance you, stop taking care of himself so you find him attractive. Why bother when you're not going to leave him anyway?