Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️

Zurflu · 2022-03-27T16:12:53+00:00

I love the second to last comment of the dude explaining how his gf has no reason or benefit to be with him and he assumes the relationship will eventually end because of it. He will just sit there cool as a cucumber offering his gf nothing until she goes mad and dumps him. All this effort women put into trying to "save" failing relationships and ~communicate~ our issues meanwhile the dude is fully aware of what is wrong and just choosing to watch it happen.

Snugglyy · 2022-03-27T18:44:26+00:00

He’s in his 30s and had a meltdown the second he was in a room with attractive women he did not have access to.

Completely unsalvageable— throw him back into his parent’s basement forever. He is unfit to interact with a population of singles ever again.

GeorgiaPeach_94 · 2022-03-27T16:44:17+00:00

Also notice how he's waiting for the woman to bring up the relationship talk / to find out if she wants a relationship so he can lie about it because "she might change her mind and be ok with just sex if I get her hooked in the meantime while she thinks we're in a relationship".

Very important to NOT be the one to say that you want a relationship but wait for the guy to show what he wants first so they can't lie saying whatever you want to hear to get into your pants.

dating-adventures · 2022-03-27T16:52:46+00:00

“So hypothetically assuming I am not a sociopath…” aww, he’s almost self-aware. He is sociopathic to the core.

asupernova91 · 2022-03-27T17:06:58+00:00

Men like these is why I’m afraid to date.

millions_ofpeachs4me · 2022-03-27T15:51:45+00:00

What a fucking jerk. I read most of that word salad and I still have no idea what his point was. Does he want a relationship? He certainly doesn’t act like it and prefers to waste everyone’s time, his included, while he navel gazes.

Big takeaway: women should withhold emotional investment (EDIT - also be very careful before sleeping with a guy) until a man makes it abundantly clear that he has feelings and wants to pursue things further. If he’s just going with the flow, he’s not that into you and is waiting for a better option. I feel for the woman he dumped at the destination wedding. What a POS this jackass is, stringing her along like this. But… I get the impression that she was the one escalating the relationship and probably sold him on the idea of going, paid separately, etc. He didn’t care to engage on any of it and threw a hissy fit over going to a rehearsal dinner (! Seriously?!). I’ve been in this position where I escalated the relationship. It was a hard lesson to learn as to why I shouldn’t do it again.

He was right in the first screenshot that “relationships” like these are headed for implosion. He’s very wrong about his “honesty in intentions” - that should be an immediate deal breaker for anyone. He’s smart and self aware enough to know he was always looking for something more serious, but he didn’t want to be with the women who gave him a shot. So he wasn’t really honest anyway.

Another important lesson for everyone: date someone you’re attracted to and don’t just full your time (aka waste someone else’s time and mess with their emotions). Lots of women settle for generally nice but unattractive men and then wonder why they have no libido. We deserve to be turned on, too!

ButterfliesHurricane · 2022-03-27T15:30:02+00:00

I’ll bet every one of these men expecting the women they date to look like models are subpar in looks themselves.

applestorm · 2022-03-27T14:40:25+00:00

Reminder: this is why we don't pay for dates, we don't chase men, we don't write paragraphs, we don't go out of our way for men and we block and delete at the first red flag.

Men are not like women. They don't have any problem having sex, dating, stringing along for years, marrying women they despise and are ashamed of in exchange of sex. They're willing to tie themselves to a woman they hate and are disgusted by as long as she puts out regularly.

The best way to weed this type of men out is to make them pay for wasting your time. 💅

FlockAroundtheClock · 2022-03-27T14:54:42+00:00

That guy is a psychopath. Congrats, you know what you did was shitty. Identifying your bad behavior doesn't earn you a prize. What a bunch of losers.

23eggz · 2022-03-27T18:55:57+00:00

Its so weird to seem them continually call this kind of behavior a "bad habit" as if it isn't an intentional choice they make every time they pursue someone... really minimizing their actions.

Like buddy this isn't the same as being a nail biter or smth

edwardianemerald · 2022-03-27T18:33:33+00:00

What a piece of shit. STOP bringing these losers into polite society! Leave them in the garbage where they belong.

misandryisnotreal · 2022-03-27T14:59:43+00:00

“Horse’s” mouth? Honey, that’s an entire ass.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-03-27T20:36:56+00:00

I cringe at how his idea of ‘growth’ is becoming the bare minimum version of a semi-passable decent man.

The bar is in hell.

Also proof that men lie about their intentions ALL THE TIME

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-03-27T18:36:34+00:00

and this "simply" because they want to have sex with a breathing living warm human woman... instead of their own hand. they should stick to fucking their dirty palm for all I care. men like these are aplenty. there are some "relationships" where she saves up for the future and thinks of their children and he's there going through the motions, telling her: whatever you want, sweety, while he's waiting for his "real-deal" woman. of course, the real deal never comes but he'll end up fucking what he has as well just because he doesn't like it enough to respect it. men will say yes to any kind of sex. you can tell them you have chlamydia and they will still hop on without a condom.

karma-chips · 2022-03-27T16:36:06+00:00

“I hear the praise of people who date hotties”, he doesn’t even care if he likes the woman, only cares that his friends do. How can one not lose faith, they are literal children.

cumlady · 2022-03-27T20:22:25+00:00

Reason #406 I’m staying away from dating apps 😒

clytemnestra_23 · 2022-03-27T17:12:37+00:00

Men will fuck a moldy chicken sandwich if it's the only thing they have around. Putting their dick in something warm feels better for them than using their hands, so of course they have no compunction to use a woman's body to masturbate into. They do not think like women do.

Don't put up with men who treat you in a disrespectful manner. Don't even put up with men who treat you in a lukewarm manner. If a man is truly attracted to you, and in love with you, he will move mountains for you. Don't settle for just any dick.

Sea_Lead1753 · 2022-03-27T15:41:46+00:00

Love how he initially said he left and then admitted he was kicked out lol

Creepy-Night936 · 2022-03-27T15:55:56+00:00

Not to mention him flexing his salary like what's the point? Assholes have money too. Never expect anyone with a high salary to be a HVM just because of his income. Look at this nitwit justifying his stupidity. Disgusting

Thunderbird_Freya · 2022-03-27T16:08:50+00:00

Yet men become mad when a woman only dates them for the money.

ububTkuc · 2022-03-27T20:06:18+00:00

Did I miss something? When is $70k a six figure salary??

IndianDesiQueen · 2022-03-27T20:27:10+00:00

Another really insidious aspect is that this entire point of this post was about HIS growth. I am so sick and tired of men mistreating women and then growing from it. What happens to the woman? Where is her growth or healing? This psychopathic man is so incredibly selfish that he writes the post as a way to make himself feel better. He doesn't care about the woman he led on he just cares that he didn't grow into someone who dates like he has 6 figures whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean. There is no part of this post that shows any kind of genuine self reflection or even growth.

2022-03-27T20:12:47+00:00

Thanks for the advice men, I'll be sure to raise the bar extra, extra high ;)

IndianDesiQueen · 2022-03-27T15:38:24+00:00

Look at the very last comment at the last photo. This person straight up said months and years are too long but two weeks is ok. Men are capable of being manipulative for long periods of time. As soon as that mask slips, run. It should be Queen treatment 24/7 or nothing.

Leeola_Mcgillicuddy · 2022-03-28T04:17:26+00:00

I am going to be honest. I see this casually all the time. Scrotes of all ages are incredibly entitled. They are delusional about themselves and all males including their friends and family, they believe that all males deserve a perfect 10 no matter what they look like. They high five each other about insulting and degrading a woman that they deem ugly or un*uckable. It is like breathing air to them .

If they are not outright delusional they stick to a guy code and believe all males deserve women out of their league no matter what the dudes look like. I only ever encountered one "alpha male" type that checked his friends about their ridiculous standards. He was the "leader" of the group and attracted more women than all of them combined on any given day. He was attractive and was well off. He was literally the only one who ever said anything about males that should be thankful to have any woman even looking their way at all! Lmao! I loved hearing him tell them that and I made it a point to laugh dramatically and high five that guy in front of these scrotes. They were so angry! They were salty and uncomfortable and you could clearly see they thought he broke the bro code by telling them the truth about themselves.

Another thing I want to be honest about is women's role in this. I am not trying to be mean but too many women allow males to be subpar, ugly and broke without making them feel shame for these things. Especially the physical part. We take it so easy on them and they will NEVER even think to do the same for women. They cut women no slack, even though women have hormones that fluctuate , bare children and oftentimes naturally hold on to fat in our bodies more than males do. They still will find ways to make the most beautiful amongst us feel like we are ugly and worthless. It really is the work of the devil lol. It should not be this way and women need to step it up and start being more vocal about them looking bad and having bad bodies. That means no accepting dad bods unless the male is so humble and checks all other high value boxes . They are becoming more bold every day with how they feel they get to actually be physically ugly and pay no social tax any woman would have to pay. Time to start fighting fire with fire. Because if we are honest it takes more to even get many of us in the mood to be sexual. Having a great looking male specimen to behold is a very good start and should become THE STANDARD.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2022-03-27T20:57:26+00:00

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VodkrSodr · 2022-03-27T23:07:59+00:00

Most men have dehumanized women in their minds. As you see, there is no real empathy. Not because he is incapable of empathy. Just incapable of empathy for women. Dating/fwb/marriage ALL OF IT, for your basic dude, is just about bedding the hottest woman possible. That’s it. Women are interchangeable to him. He would have been happy to switch his girlfriend out with someone else from the wedding party. He couldn’t, so he flew home in a huff.

queeninprogress · 2022-03-28T00:37:54+00:00

They always get so insulted if you actually call them out on only wanting sex. "Why would I spend all that time with you if that's all I wanted, how could you think of me this way". But they will, and they do. They'll fake relationships, friendships, attraction, anything. And THEY know the truth. I hate the gaslighting.

IndianDesiQueen · 2022-03-27T15:49:11+00:00

This is also a good example of how wealthy men doesn't equal high value. Not to say that the men we should date shouldn't be wealthy or financially secure but that it's important to continuously vet.

LizzyLady1111 · 2022-03-27T16:42:27+00:00

Yea that’s why you watch his behavior, not what he says

feelingcoolblue · 2022-03-27T17:39:10+00:00

It's not bad habits, it's being a fucked up person. Men should receive a special award for being masters of downplaying.

Ivimaiden · 2022-03-27T23:05:20+00:00

That guy definitely belongs to the dark triad personality type. They need to be weeded out and bred out into oblivion. Everything is a game for them, and people are objects to them.

AnniaT · 2022-03-27T23:54:33+00:00

What a massive scrote. And the lack of empathy for those women, not even ashamed of admiring he future fakes or pretends to want relationships with women he just wants sex with.

Men will have relationships and/or have sex with women they don't even find attractive, hate or don't feel the slightly interest in out of convenience.

veniphyl · 2022-03-27T20:00:17+00:00

Thank god my wish to date nor having anything to do with men was gone a long time ago.

2022-03-27T20:38:59+00:00

More proof that unless the man is the one initiating everything, take you out in public on Saturday nights, bringing up the relationship conversation first and after only a few months if not weeks, he doesn't like you.

jetcake · 2022-03-28T03:47:40+00:00

Remember in the early seasons of Jersey Shore when Pauly D proclaimed "certain" women he and the other guys would bring home as "GRENADES!" (and the application of the "Grenade whistle" - look it up when you get a chance-)? This moron sounds like he is applying the same concept to what he "brings home" from dating apps. (P.S. Pauly D is the embodiment of Scrote. On one of the season of Family Vacation, he coached Ronnie that "just because you get [a girl] pregnant doesn't mean you have to be with her".)

He admits to picking "unattractive" women, playing them like fiddles (agreeing to meet her friends) etc., just to get into a woman's pants. Really, I would love to see how "attractive" Don Juan is that he thinks so highly of himself and his "system". By the end of that garble, he has totally confused himself. So which is it? He swears by his "method", but he sort of feels guilty? His statement about "...and [girlfriend] is probably realizing I only wanted sex this whole time". I hope his "girlfriend" has a blast at the wedding and meets someone worth her time while this moron is stranded in another airport with luggage that got re-routed.

This guy is the reason why I avoid dating apps like the plague. Not only do they treat it like a rotating all-you-can-eat buffet of p****, but I wouldn't even want his community ween near me considering where it's been.

acidic_milkmotel · 2022-03-27T19:24:16+00:00

Jesus this is really disgusting. I went on a date last weekend with a guy I had great chemistry with, and we even made plans for a second date. Then towards the end of the week he ghosts me. I’m not a “dime” but I am “cute” and I concluded the reason for no longer perusing me was that he didn’t find me attractive. It didn’t matter that I was smart, funny and charismatic—or could hold a conversation about topics most people wouldn’t be able to. It made me feel like shit. Ugly shit. I hope the next girl he meets is fucking hot as shit and filled with nothing.

2022-03-27T23:05:17+00:00

They're all trash, holy shit. No wonder.

seekingcodingjedi · 2022-03-28T10:46:37+00:00

If this is the majority, if most men lack basic ethics and a conscience, I wonder if it's even worth looking for a man. It's like going to find a needle in a haystack - rather in the universe.

2022-03-28T01:20:46+00:00

"Claim to want a relationship though in the back of your mind you know you only want sex"

What the heck. Thats crazy.

There were girls willing to accept him when he was broke and when he was wealthy but he was terrible when he was making 20k a year and terrible when he made 6 figures.

No_Pickles87 · 2022-03-28T03:04:03+00:00

Bad habits of being a selfish dishonest sleeze bag?

roundbackpack · 2022-03-28T01:39:53+00:00

This guy literally lied to a girl when she asked if they were a couple, he said yes when he only wanted to be casual with her... What an ass

sp_juni · 2022-03-27T23:29:35+00:00

More reasons not to go on OLD apps again ew

warinmymind94 · 2022-04-01T05:26:45+00:00

Remember when there was a post on fds saying don't date men you find unattractive and there was an OUTCRY like insels were dming me, I was flooded with the r cares helpline, and so.many down votes....

But it's OKAY for men to not date unattractive women. They can just use them for attention and validation in bed though its cool. No chances for an actual relationship

Salt_Satisfaction · 2022-03-29T16:26:08+00:00

Lol what a minefield.

The only minimally decent sounding dude is the one who told him the mature thing to do would have been to suck it up and break up after the weekend.

Title	Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️
Author	applestorm
Upvotes	630
Comments	193
Date	March 27, 2022 2:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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