Exactly this.

wayward_woman · 2020-11-02T06:14:05+00:00

So true. Even commenting that a woman is "aging well" is rude and unnecessary because it implies that there is something wrong with a woman looking her age. Women shouldn't have to invest so much time, money, and energy into preventing aging but unfortunately we live in a society that still values a woman's looks and youth above all else.

moxymoxalone · 2020-11-02T06:43:38+00:00

The beauty industry is worth hundreds of millions of dollars annually.

If we were all happy with ourselves it wouldn’t survive. So it behooves them to peddle the lie that there is something wrong with us just for existing as women and successfully changes the playbook every decade so that the newest crop of teens can be indoctrinated in the self- hatred needed to keep the industry wildly profitable.

cicerii · 2020-11-02T07:05:14+00:00

It’s especially annoying when they comment on women 50 plus and act aghast that’s she could “let herself go” by getting wrinkles and gray hair. I was watching YouTube videos of Shania Twain, who still looks amazing, and the comments about her aging were disgusting.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-11-02T07:20:37+00:00

Mgtows comparing women (the majority) to female millionaires (the exceptions to the rule) is ridiculous. Saying that women age like milk and men age like wine is the farthest thing from "logical". Humans aren't supposed to look 30 years younger in their 50s like Jlo and Shakira. It's unnatural and very recent in human civilization. Men's sexual hypergamy Always makes them target younger and "fresher" women. But they don't want to talk about that.

Ok_Ad_67 · 2020-11-02T08:24:16+00:00

It’s like no matter what we do we get criticised.

We’re both told we can’t be beautiful if we’re old And also that we can’t age. We are pressured into spending heaps of money on anti aging creams, hair dye, Botox, fillers, etc;

And yet when we do we’re “trying too hard” or look trashy. Or that we should “dress for our age”.

But if we don’t invest in these things, we’re called ugly and old. Or people say we’ve “let ourselves go” or “hit the wall”.

You just can’t win. Men will criticise us no matter what. And the beauty industry + media will profit from our insecurities.

marilynmonw0e · 2020-11-02T10:35:12+00:00

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Mindeska · 2020-11-02T14:57:14+00:00

I also think it's wild how men seem to think women turn into old hags at 30. I get SO MANY MEN saying they can't believe I'm 35, and that I look so good. 35 IS young! Why would I look old? It's so much brainwashing of men that women over 30 are old and haggard. There's very little difference between being 28 and 35, both are 'young adult' ages. I barely look any different to how I did then and why would I?

anotherdamnloser · 2020-11-02T14:37:13+00:00

I hate that women buy into it. All the women I have on social media like school and work friends, all filter the hell out of their faces. Then the other ones compliment them and they are like thanks! I’m like facepalm she doesn’t look like that, and you can tell it’s filtered!

maryorangesquare · 2020-11-02T12:55:36+00:00

the more we age, the more we gain wisdom and THAT'S COOL!

age doesn't matter but our health does. don't forget to always take care of yourself, ladies!

InevitableHulk · 2020-11-02T06:14:44+00:00

Not everyone can age like Angela Basset and that’s perfectly fine. There are so many perks to aging and they’re often overlooked.

2020-11-02T13:16:24+00:00

totally redonkulous. People should of course take care of themselves in order to live a long and healthy life, and you'll look healthy- but this idea of filling faces with filler, getting botox, lipo, lifts and tucks is just gross.

These guys on OLD sites must live pretty unhealthy lives though because these supposed 30something dudes look more aged than my dad 🤣

Jenny_Saint_Quan · 2020-11-02T15:01:45+00:00

She has always been my favorite actress and 36 isn't old. Like at all.

Danigirl_03 · 2020-11-02T09:42:53+00:00

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kingunia · 2020-11-02T15:16:34+00:00

I read comments here under this post and you’re the part of the problem. I don’t care if you’re 35 and look 20 and I’m tired of all the spf of retinol tips here. You say that there is nothing wrong in being 40 and looking 40, but you still need to write about your precious genetics and how you somehow look younger than others.

Artemis-Liberated · 2020-11-02T16:00:29+00:00

I agree with this post. I also love it when women are looking great in their 30’s especially as a BW cause most BM expect your downfall after you age. It’s like a double edged sword do I wanna look good and feel good (whatever’s that looks like yourself, or do I have to fight someone because they’re gonna make a snide comment about my appearance that’s always been said to me my entire life. This shit happens way before your 30 and is a conditioning mechanism towards women to look like an ideal that they don’t care about.

It really puts a lot of fear in young girls minds that they’ll never be loved unless they’re like the LVMs preference to the bitter end (A.K.A EXHAUSTING!) That includes mothers and fathers because they are some of the BIGGEST perps to clown their daughters and call it “love!”

2020-11-03T00:41:24+00:00

My friends and I did some math:

$250 per haircut/dye, 4 x a year = $1000 $65 Brazilian waxes 5x a year = $325 $400 make up and hair products =400 $65 mani-pedi 5x a year = $325

I think I'm pretty low maintenance too. I don't get my nails done, I don't have false lashes, or hair extensions. I haven't gotten laser hair removal, or any eyebrow - anything.

Total $2050 a year

Let's say I've done that from ages 25-35. That's $20,500 dollars.

The LEAST a guy could do is get hair implants or use rogaine to be equivalent to our beauty expenditures.

Half_Halt · 2020-11-03T01:40:57+00:00

She was very mature/grown up looking as a teenager. I think that's part of it. Some people just look like adults once they hit puberty. I went to school with a guy that is an anchor on one of the big metro area evening news shows. I distinctly remember my mother commenting when we were in middle school that he looked like a miniature adult. 30+ years later, he's got some salt & pepper hair going on. But otherwise looks exactly the same as he did at 13. It is crazy.

2020-11-02T22:48:57+00:00

Because they don't see women as human beings and more like decorations.

Flightlessbirbz · 2020-11-03T18:48:02+00:00

The way women’s aging is viewed in America is bizarre. There is really no “mature but still young grown woman” stage acknowledged. If we can no longer pass for 18-25, we must be old hags. There’s no in between. Imo if you see her close up, Anne looks 36. She looks good because 36 is not old, not because she still looks 18.

For comparison, Chris Hemsworth is 37. Nobody ever remarks on how good he looks “for his age” because nobody thinks a man in his 30s is old. Nobody ever talks about him looking 18 because men aren’t expected to look 18 their whole lives. They’re allowed to look both mature and youthful.

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