I just wanted to share some thoughts on the matter. I know FDS strongly encourages women to not develop crushes early on - which is wise advice - but we are human beings and sometimes when we meet a guy with whom we feel a strong connection, we do get excited.

I very recently ended up blocking a guy who I was super into. I won’t go into too many details, but we were getting to know each other as friends and I was REALLY EXCITED about him in a way that is very rare for me. But then one night he texted me after 11pm asking to come over and I didn’t see the message until the next morning. I was willing to give him some benefit of doubt and asked if we could meet up again at a more reasonable hour, but he then promptly ghosted me. I blocked him when he slid into my DMs a month later and I’m really sad at how the situation played out and to to lose out on this connection. I will confess that I sometimes do find myself fantasizing about him apologizing and becoming friends with him again - even though I do realize that his behavior reflects his true colors.

My primary way of coping and accepting the issue is to tell myself that it’s not just about me. When we allow men to disrespect us, we are also teaching them that it is acceptable to disrespect any other women they may meet after us. We all have a societal duty to be ruthlessly intolerant of bad behavior from men. If there is even a slight chance that ruthlessly blocking and deleting somebody I have a connection with can help make the world a better place, it personally makes me feel better about the loss.