I am speechless

eluriaeve · 2020-12-28T22:51:15+00:00

That would be grounds for immediate breakup for me.

I once had an ex who, when his sister in law had a baby, joked and laughed with his other brother about something that I didn’t quite catch when they got the news. So I asked what did I miss? What’s so funny about her having the baby finally? He says “Oh, we were just saying that Eric was lucky because she had a c section”. I knew what he meant but I asked for an explanation anyway. I moved out shortly after that 🤮

Diamond_fairy · 2020-12-28T23:09:59+00:00

A lot of the abuse that disabled people face everyday comes from men, especially if we look at young girl in school with male teachers. The struggle is literally treated as a kink.

To say that this is disgusting is an understatement.

my_curated_life · 2020-12-28T23:10:26+00:00

For the “rational” and “logical” self, they sure don’t know how to keep their mouths shut. At every turn is a man telling on himself. For free and no prompting needed.

Onextto0 · 2020-12-28T23:29:37+00:00

My ex told me he would leave me if I gained 20 pounds, even during pregnancy. I did myself a favour and broke up with him.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2020-12-28T23:17:36+00:00

Men are always telling on themselves and it’s pathetic but also thank god so we can kick them to the curb

iaintgonnacallyou · 2020-12-29T01:56:53+00:00

“He liked that they sounded r*tarded.”

just-peepin-at-u · 2020-12-28T23:35:06+00:00

The Deaf community tends to stick to their own kind because of shit like this!

yesmme · 2020-12-29T01:36:58+00:00

This sounds like something a serial killer would do. It’s so predatory.

monatsiya · 2020-12-28T23:27:17+00:00

this is soo fucked up. what’s even more fucked up is how common or often this type of targeting or abuse of disabled women/people that most likely happens on a daily basis. my stomach is in knots.

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2020-12-28T23:26:49+00:00

I’m speechless. My son is going to go deaf. I’m going to keep an eye out for these pervs.

hollypocketer · 2020-12-29T05:13:33+00:00

That’s so fucked up, wtf? But I have a story too- My ex lied to me for months about having a vasectomy, so we didn’t use protection, he got me pregnant, we agreed on an abortion (he claimed his vasectomy “failed”), a couple days after we found out I was pregnant I caught him watching porn while he was having sex with me, I broke up with him and then he ghosted me for the abortion and I paid it on my own when he promised to pay, and he sent me a pic of another girl he was fucking 20 mins before my procedure lmaoo, he claims he didn’t know I was at the clinic but who gives a rats ass, he knew what I was going through regardless.

Btw I found out he lied to me about the vasectomy just a couple days ago after we “reconnected,” and I grilled the shit out of him to tell me the truth bc I suspected it, and I needed to hear it from him to truly get him out of my system and get rid of the attachment I had. We’d been having sex since March and I got pregnant around July, we broke up in October. I still get chills thinking of how I was with such a vile human being. He had the nerve to get mad at ME for “bringing up the past,” like wtf? How fucking stupid can one person be?

Gourmay · 2020-12-29T05:05:04+00:00

I dated a guy who also told me about noises a deaf girl he dated made.. I hope these women have amazing friends to protect them from this bullshit.

iaintgonnacallyou · 2020-12-29T05:57:14+00:00

I live under a rock, what's an r word?

yfunk3 · 2020-12-29T05:31:05+00:00

Cue the gif of Professor Farnsworth saying, "I don't want to live on this planet anymore..."

sanguine_duality · 2020-12-29T05:51:56+00:00

I found out an ex watched mother-son p0r N 🤢. We were in highschool

Mella_20 · 2020-12-29T03:53:06+00:00

I try not to let these things scare me too much but holy shit I can't believe someone can be that depraved. What a disgusting thing to do, I really don't know what to say.

spicyspa · 2020-12-29T02:40:11+00:00

This reminds me of "In the company of men," in which a player and his "nice guy" friend triangulate a deaf woman at their company while on a business trip. It's an excellent movie but very disturbing.

TexiMcCrae · 2020-12-29T04:44:50+00:00

As a person that took ASL language credits and volunteered at a deaf school ever since because she respected the community and their strength, that man can rot in fucking hell.

2020-12-29T09:21:46+00:00

Omg I hope she keeps tabs on him for the rest of his life (or until he ends up in prison) tipping off every deaf woman in his orbit that he's a misogynist, fetishist, asshole.

stormy_nocturne · 2020-12-29T06:00:48+00:00

I know I shouldn't be shocked by now but oh my God *spew*

esterfanie · 2020-12-29T19:03:34+00:00

I'm not a native speaker so at first I couldn't quite grasp what the "r-word" meant...

Now, after reading the comments, I can say that he is disgusting. To learn sign language just to fetichize women is depraved.

honey-laden · 2020-12-29T16:29:06+00:00

My ex fiance would contact prostitutes because he liked feeling powerful over them when negotiating. He would make them show up at a hotel and just ghost them. He told this to me. He *said* he never slept with them. I stopped sleeping with him once I found out.

Carpedictum · 2020-12-29T05:35:28+00:00

You’re speechless? I see what you did there...

your_last_braincell · 2020-12-29T21:51:27+00:00

So basically it’s a f3tish for him? GROSS! 🤢🙄

sacracunt · 2020-12-29T15:57:04+00:00

I WHEEZED

Title	I am speechless
Author	iaintgonnacallyou
Upvotes	534
Comments	72
Date	December 28, 2020 10:46 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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