I just dropped him

balladwilds · 2020-06-07T14:22:50+00:00

you got rid of a CLOWN, a liar and cheater. You lost nothing queen, put on your crown and walk away. You did the right thing !

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-06-07T14:22:55+00:00

Don’t give up your exclusivity without making him work hard for it, be willing to say no if they ask you to deactivate your account because most of the time they won’t deactivate theirs. Men like to think they gatekeep relationships, but we are the gatekeepers of relationships AND sex.

bqluoeoedn · 2020-06-07T14:10:09+00:00

Goodbye liar

umbralgarden · 2020-06-07T14:39:45+00:00

This happened to me. The guy stayed on the site. AND he was ugly as hell. The nerve lmao

holyhamwallet · 2020-06-07T14:15:56+00:00

Adios loser

BlueJeanMistress · 2020-06-07T14:20:18+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing! Proud of you for dropping him right away and not giving him a chance to “explain” aka lie. When the right man comes along you’ll feel at peace and happy! Onto to better things, you’ve got this!!!

randomoose123 · 2020-06-07T13:56:00+00:00

you did the right thing it’s definitely his loss and it reflects more on him than it does on your worth. i just feel bad for the next girl he matches with

Unable_Caterpillar · 2020-06-07T15:40:19+00:00

This sucks but it’s for the best. Imagine finding out he was a cheater after you were married, living together, had kids, what have you.

Also bad behaviors only get worse. If he couldn’t stop his wandering eye now imagine how he’ll be later.

Anyway it’s totally human and okay to feel sad. He wasn’t who you thought he was. He betrayed you. But you did the right thing and in time you will be much happier.

Caedere01 · 2020-06-07T14:21:33+00:00

Good job! That scrote doesn't even deserve your fine self, I'm so glad you got out. And in such style as well!

Chancedizzle · 2020-06-07T14:59:54+00:00

Don’t be heart broken! It is very great of you to follow your intuition and better it now than later especially when you thought he was High Value this whole time. Stay strong and everyone here is here for you!!!

potatodreamspablo · 2020-06-07T15:15:05+00:00

WELL DONE!! your intuition called and you followed it and THANK GOD. what a nob.

bey124 · 2020-06-07T15:19:42+00:00

Good thing you got rid of him. Sorry he lied to you, but please be proud of yourself for not settling for someone showing this behaviour!!

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-06-07T15:44:28+00:00

Yes queen! Good on you for just ending it, and also for following your initial gut instinct. We have them for a reason don’t we, and most of us ignore them. You’re doing so freaking well. I can understand feeling upset, but he would be like this with any woman, and you’re just too smart for these BS lying cheating ways. Leave him for the pick me’s who won’t want to see the truth. You’re free from the anxiety of worrying about who and what he’s lying about. Consider that to be a massive bullet dodged.

WesternGarlic · 2020-06-07T15:44:29+00:00

I’m so proud of you for both trusting your gut and kicking him to the curb when you found out! It sucks to like someone and find out they aren’t worth your time, but fortunately you found out pretty early!

Take NO shit from NO man!

gursky0 · 2020-06-07T15:33:04+00:00

You totally did the right thing. I’m glad you listened to your intuition! Always trust it.

meezapizza · 2020-06-07T15:52:49+00:00

Those were clear signs of cheating. Better kicking his ass now than later. The more time you'd have spent with him, the worse it would've gotten.

dzgata · 2020-06-07T16:06:43+00:00

You did the right thing. Coming from someone who was in the same exact position as you.

FitResearcher5 · 2020-06-07T16:13:44+00:00

It will hurt, especially if you thought he was a good guy and you wanted it to go somewhere. But, you had a verbal agreement and you trusted his word. He lied to you and broke your agreement. If he’s okay to lie to you once, he will lie to you again and it only shows he doesn’t respect you and doesn’t value your opinion. You can’t be with somebody like that. A good guy would really care about your opinion and your feelings and would respect you. If he was really into you and wanted to make it work then he would make sacrifices and he definitely wouldn’t lie to you. Well done for cutting it off, don’t give him another chance.

howdoilogoutt · 2020-06-07T16:14:35+00:00

I've been there, and I feel your pain. BUT WHAT YOU'VE DONE IS AMAZING, FUCK HIM. Treat yourself and watch a good movie, give your female friends a call. Trying to stay with him will just lead to more heartbreak and duh he ain't worth it, he's trash. We've got your back.

Howslap · 2020-06-07T16:21:50+00:00

You definitely did the right thing! Well done! Sis.Trust me if youd stayed it wouldn't have been the same. You've lost the trust and the respect that is the foundation of any decent relationship. It is FAR better to be alone without a LVM than it is to be lonely with one. It is a special kind of agony to feel alone while you are in a relationship. I'm proud of you for ripping that band-aid off quick. It's a sharp pain that will go away faster than the deep ache of staying in a shitty relationship. Good job queen! 👏🏿👏🏿👸🏿👸🏿 so wise and yet so young. 🤧 stay strong hon ❤

sstena · 2020-06-07T16:04:40+00:00

Well done girl. I'm proud of you.

zombieballerinajen · 2020-06-07T17:09:05+00:00

It might sting a bit now but know that you absolutely did the right thing by taking out the trash.

funky_worms · 2020-06-07T20:20:18+00:00

Proud of you!! You were literally asking for the bare minimum. If he was REALLY into you he wouldnt dare risk fucking it up at all. Period.

Im honestly so happy for you. Feel the pain and grieve but keep reminding yourself that you did the right thing for your happiness.

ephemeralmidnight · 2020-06-07T18:48:10+00:00

Good on you, if there is anything I have learned in my early/mid 20s it is that you cannot find a HVM without having high standards for who you will date. It takes a lot of strength to walk away especially if you really like a guy, but it's better to end things now rather than later. I am proud of you, OP!

coldwarmer · 2020-06-07T16:44:20+00:00

Good for you! Don’t let anyone walk over you like that especially after having an explicit conversation about boundaries

gigababejfl · 2020-06-07T19:46:18+00:00

Proud of you. I love seeing women walk away from fuckery. I really, really do.

prioritizingme · 2020-06-07T15:41:03+00:00

You FOR SURE did the right thing. I forgave something similar, and it led to a much longer, much more painful relationship. You deserve more and better. Getting this asshole out of the way keeps your life open for future opportunities. Glad you followed your gut.

throwawayitst · 2020-06-07T17:07:59+00:00

You are a queen and deserve the world. Your also smart af

Miss__Moonlight · 2020-06-07T19:12:35+00:00

Proud of you, baby girl 🥰🥰🥰

Unfortunately, It’s better you found out this way, on your own, otherwise he would’ve still kept the wool over your eyes.

Xoxoxo 💛🧡💛🧡💛

toast4breakfast · 2020-06-07T14:15:17+00:00

Proud of you! Wish I would’ve known to do this at your age.

DutchWaifu · 2020-06-07T15:22:11+00:00

Good riddance to bad rubbish. You go girl, own your own life and not let some half-assed idiot drag you down!

eru378 · 2020-06-07T23:59:13+00:00

This was the only right thing to do. Congrats on being strong and treating yourself with love and respect.

FDSmom · 2020-06-08T00:52:56+00:00

You did awesome! So proud of you! And you will forever be the one that got away

AfraidofFollowers · 2020-06-08T03:11:15+00:00

Now that is what I call some FDS!!!! ^mic drop

acrosstheoceanin1984 · 2020-06-07T15:19:17+00:00

You go girl! You're brave and you went with your gut. You are awesome :)

anxzu · 2020-06-07T22:28:29+00:00

The trash took itself out!!! Be proud of it. You’re HVM does exist, be glad he didn’t waste any more of your time.

willowwynn · 2020-06-08T00:14:18+00:00

Good job, you saved yourself so much heartache in the long run sister 👑

SuccessfulShow5 · 2020-06-08T01:07:06+00:00

Ew wtf man. Good for you for taking a stand and ending things !

2020-06-08T08:26:00+00:00

Better ti dump him now, and have him show his true colours early, rather than later when you are alot more invested! E.g. after marriage and kids. Onwards and upwards.

It helps me.to realise, the person I thought the NVM was, does not exist. If I just look at reality (e.g. he is a POS NVM who would leech me to death if I allowed it), then I havent made a loss in ending the relationship, I've made a gain. What hurts is the lost potential , aka something that doesnt exist in real life.

kissmyash10 · 2020-06-09T06:13:44+00:00

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Title	I just dropped him
Author	sjfghrigh349854
Upvotes	568
Comments	58
Date	June 7, 2020 1:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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