REMINDER: BDSM is more than a kink. It’s indicative of a man who gets off from abusing women. This poor woman found gore p*rn on her bf’s laptop and the comments are saying it’s just a harmless kink and that she’s overreacting for thinking he’ll harm her. I weep for this generation.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2021-12-31T11:37:40+00:00

There is no reason that a man she has only been dating for 5 months should have ever yelled at her. Not that yelling is ever acceptable, but especially not at only a few months.

daratal · 2021-12-31T11:51:43+00:00

That poor woman. She KNOWS. She knows he's completely messed up in his head. He gets of by watching women being killed FFS. She's worried he will kill her one day. Yet, instead of blocking, deleting and running away as far and as fast as she can, she's questioning herself. I hope she'll just disappear from his life without discussing anything with him. He's dangerous, yet he can get away with it just because of female socialization. It's absolutely heartbreaking.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-12-31T15:19:12+00:00

OP in that post KNOWS this is fuc*ed up but, still questions herself and has to ask if she’s wrong for being rightfully concerned😭

Also that condescending “oh honey” in that response irritates me so much.

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-12-31T14:42:23+00:00

If you found child prn on a man's laptop, you would NOT think it's harmless and doesn't affect other areas of the man's thoughts and life. So why on earth do we not apply this logic to other porn?! If a man likes child prn, it's obvious to everyone he's sexually aroused by children and is sick in the head. Likewise if a man likes BDSM/violent porn he is aroused aroused by women being abused and is sick in the head. This is basic logic and intuition which we've been gaslight by the media and coomers to ignore and excuse. I'm no longer accepting fucking BS essay-length, ridiculous, sophistic arguments to not believe what is OBVIOUSLY true.

vaguelinen · 2021-12-31T13:33:36+00:00

“Maybe sexually he would want to do more than you let him.”

Let him? Let him! This person is in no position to give sexual advice.

samedinuitmort · 2021-12-31T11:36:47+00:00

A kink: getting turned on by feet, or a glamorous woman littering, or food fights, or ballerinas being lifted, or clown make up.

If it involves degradation, pain, violence, humiliation, or any harm, it becomes impossible to practice those acts with love and respect, even if there is “consent”. Violent acts are not kinks, you just got trained to sexualize abuse.

(To be precise, a kink is a non-sexual act or factor that has become sexualized. If the non-sexual act is harmful, violent, or abusive, it doesn’t stop being so just because now it’s also sexual. Just like food doesn’t stop being food because it turns you on. If an act became immediately excusable if it turns you on, we’d be having even bigger problems with pedophiles and murderers. Indulging in your kink is also not NECESSARY for a satisfying sexual life. Your arousal template can also include healthy wholesome activities. Engaging in harmful, risky kinks carries a huge risk not only in practical physical terms but also of traumatizing the people involved - INCLUDING the person with the kink itself!)

FluffandRainclouds · 2021-12-31T18:46:52+00:00

"He LoVeS yOu MoRe ThAn hIs KiIiIiNks"

This is what keeps women with pornsick, abusive, selfish, cheating and/or deadly men. There is never a shortage of depravity apologists on the internet.

ETA: realizing people treat men's "kinks" like a medical need. "If I don't have my kink, I'll die! 🥺🤡"

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2021-12-31T16:18:34+00:00

Right...if I had a secret folder full of gore prn that depicted men being tortured, castrated, balls smashed open, penises cut off, general male agony would reddit tell my boyfriend "It's just a harmless kink and maybe she wants to do more in bed than YOU LET HER. But the fact that she doesn't smash your testicles is proof of her love."

naps-seductively · 2021-12-31T13:31:38+00:00

Has anyone sent this woman a DM? She’s in danger and the comments are gaslighting her. I truly fear for her.

melympia · 2021-12-31T12:13:02+00:00

There's only one true part in that answer (aka "best comment"):

people watch porn, and the porn they watch can sometimes be more extreme than the things they do in real life.

(Edited for spelling; emphasis mine)

Also, BDSM =/= gore and/or snuff

Saying "gore and/or snuff is healthy and completely acceptable because it's just BDSM" is like saying pedophilia is just as healthy and acceptable because, this, too, can be considered BDSM. Let me shout out a big, loud

HELL NO

to both statements!

Davina33 · 2021-12-31T20:33:27+00:00

This sickens me so much. Commented and a scrote who brigades on anti-kink websites told me to "clutch my pearls harder". I bet he is into this nasty stuff. Men love hurting women and girls.

whatsonthetvthen · 2021-12-31T13:02:26+00:00

If he’s already yelling at her five months in that’s a red flag imo, on top of the the porn she found.

Catz10000 · 2021-12-31T18:02:40+00:00

When a person wraps their hands around anyone's throat for any reason, the chances of the victim ending up dead are exponentially increased. In play, in sex, whatever, it's dangerous and things can go wrong. That's WHY serial killers like killing this way. It's up close and personal. Anyone who deludes themselves into thinking "but I'm doing it saFeLy" is wrong.

Source: am a forensic psychologist and profiler who has heard this first hand from killers.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-12-31T15:37:40+00:00

When I was rolling into Rule 34 every so often (I was bored lol) the common thing was that whenever there was "guro" a MAJORITY of men thought it was gross.

There are only a small-ish minority of men who find this stuff arousing. It's part of the human condition to find dead and decapitated things disgusting.

I'm getting worried that more and more men will just get desensitized to more and more violent stuff, it's always questionable with why someone would want to draw such brutality towards women...sickening.

She needs to RUN.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-12-31T15:54:11+00:00

She needs an FDS rescue. I'm going to see if I can message her.

Carneliancat · 2021-12-31T17:51:11+00:00

He's broken and defective. Throw the whole man away.

23eggz · 2021-12-31T17:53:01+00:00

Not the condescending "oh honey" 🤮

BasketLow8411 · 2021-12-31T18:37:13+00:00

“What are the chances of him killing me if I try to talk to him about it?”

Fuck.

Seriously fuck.

Why in the bloody HELL do women have to even ask these questions? This pisses me off so much. Do we need a critical mass rescue mission? I hope some comments are telling her that if her instinct says something’s wrong, it is.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-12-31T11:42:39+00:00

BDSM (this gender way around) is the legal and now socially accepted narcissistic abuse perpetrated on vulnerable victims using their past trauma as a way to manipulate their consent. Of course he will not reveal himself after just 5 months.

The Commentor is gives it away: it’s ok to have a kink of violence as long as he loves you more than his kink. It really doesn’t matter that he doesn’t love you enough to stop watching it in porn or stop porn altogether or not yell at you (transition has already started there….).

It will only escalate from there. He had the seed and porn is fuelling it, creating the want which will create the need. Leave the porn sick date their right hand….

onceuponasea · 2021-12-31T15:37:10+00:00

She needs to get the hell out before he murders her.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-02T13:30:33+00:00

was him yelling at him

next you find her on AITA asking: AITA for telling my BF that yelling at me hurts my feelings?

and I was sure to find the BDSM/ kinkster defender telling her it's perfectly nAtUrAl and that it's FaNtAsY.

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