Scammed, bamboozled and hoodwinked

GlitterMars · 2021-01-06T20:36:56+00:00

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MariaDolorosa · 2021-01-06T22:39:01+00:00

And being accused of having a low libido because being awkwardly poked at by a man you’ve lost respect for isn’t your “kink”.

Sage_Planter · 2021-01-06T21:38:10+00:00

This is my biggest problem with the whole new standard of 50/50: it only extends to finances.

Every couple has to figure out a system that works for them, and all women should refuse to participate in a system where they're paying for their "fair" share and doing way more than their fair share.

Fetia_ · 2021-01-06T21:10:24+00:00

Don’t forget Your name isn’t on anything you’re paying for !!! Have fun buying him a house/car/etc that he’s going to enjoy with a new gf when he leaves you

Unless you’re married or your name is on it DONT PAY ANYTHING

loleetahaze · 2021-01-06T23:26:22+00:00

That's why marriage is harder for women. You split bills but you are expected to birth children and be their primary caretaker, cook, keep the house spotless, be the main organizer in the house. 50/50 IS A CON.

goneharolding · 2021-01-07T02:08:04+00:00

And in order to contribute your 50%, you have to sign your kids away to someone else to raise.

I know this isn’t the most popular angle here, but childcare is more than a chore, they’re saying thousands of infant deaths have been prevented bc moms are staying home due to COVID.

It’s very difficult to maintain a family with one income these days, so they’re not the only ones putting pressure on us to work. But if we put the band-aid on that problem, who raises the kids? And what if you actually want to?

oscine23 · 2021-01-06T22:36:03+00:00

When he makes 3x more than you. What a racket.

SpaceC4se · 2021-01-07T04:20:11+00:00

Scam after scam. Shopping for groceries, doing the laundry, let's take the garbage out too just for the thrill of it. And you have to still be in the mood for sex at the end of a long hard day. Don't forget to stay skinny and be nice to his family

mackenzie013 · 2021-01-06T21:58:00+00:00

I refuse to do anything more than my share of cooking, cleaning, whatever... I was lucky enough that all my bfs were more organized and cleaned more than me (even tho we didn’t live together). 😅 but I’d refuse to clean after someone.

Saphira99v · 2021-01-07T00:35:33+00:00

So glad I found this community. I thought I was being selfish for feeling upset when my Tinder date insisted on splitting the bill for 2 donuts 😭😭😭

MedulaMedusa · 2021-01-07T00:16:40+00:00

I refuse! My husband has learned through my actions. I will work on my thesis and let those dishes pile up. I will go to work, work on my thesis and go to bed without making dinner, because I picked something up for myself on the way home. I also don’t even pay the majority of the bills! We are at about 20/80 on the bills since I’m in school. He supports me, my fatigue, and my academic career. A catch that still needed to be taught.

yaythrowawayyyyyy · 2021-01-07T02:28:45+00:00

My best friends husband doesn't work :( Except sometimes PT when she asks. She works, freelances, and still does all the house chores

frogchickenhorse · 2021-01-07T01:12:55+00:00

One of the many reasons I have never wanted to live with anyone or get married

SayNad · 2021-01-07T08:56:56+00:00

majority of the cooking, cleaning...

Did you meant to say ALL? "Cooking" (aka reheating) takeout pizza and picking up his damn socks are not "cooking and cleaning". 50/50 my ass, more like 100/0.

Waste-Win · 2021-01-07T01:32:57+00:00

What about him making way more than you, how is fair for both contributing 50/50 is rediculuos for me.

hotchisbae · 2021-01-07T03:46:53+00:00

My ex LVM didn't even pay me 50% of the damn rent, it was more like 25/75 (me with the 75 of course)

dzgata · 2021-01-07T08:48:36+00:00

I expect my husband to split the chores and he still must pay for the bills and dates. My emotional labor, beauty, feminine energy, and birthing his children is more than 50% of the relationship. I’m also down for us to get a maid service.

redwineandsolitude · 2021-01-08T04:21:27+00:00

Why are we made to pretend we are treated fair and square in all realms of life? We are NOT treated equal. Interviewing for a job, going on a date, even walking/running on the damn street involve WAY more risks/disadvantages for us than them. We have to endure SO much more. Being a woman is expensive as fuck.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-01-07T16:26:06+00:00

BuT I dOnT hAvE tO pAy aLl ThE bIlLs MySeLf

Title	Scammed, bamboozled and hoodwinked
Author	intergalacticanon44
Upvotes	3203
Comments	78
Date	January 6, 2021 8:23 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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