After seeing this shit for the past month with various family members and reflecting on the LV partners I’ve had over many holidays, your partner should not be asking you for a gift ideas list. It puts the mental load of the gift on you. A HV partner doesn’t need a list because they will take the time to actually learn your interests and wants, put effort into planning and budgeting for a gift, with the “pay-off” for them being the joy they bring to you with something surprising and thoughtful. Don’t let men gaslight you by saying “oh, you’re so hard to shop for” or “you already have everything you want” or “you already buy the things you want for yourself.”

And for the 🤷🏼‍♂️ reacts - this isn’t about money. The absolute best gift I ever received from a partner probably cost less than $20, but was a custom made curio box that he spent considerable time researching and making. Did I need it? No, not really, but I’d mentioned 6 months earlier that I’d like to have “something cute” to store a few personal items that were very meaningful to me. Every detail in design was influenced by my tastes, and I could tell how much effort he truly put into making something that made me happy. Completely unexpected, thoughtful, and full of effort.