Normalizing feminist hate: Why Am I So Sad About Having a Boy?

Definately_God · 2016-01-25T15:46:57+00:00

If she treats her child any way like she seems to treat her husband (as more or less just a means to her own ends), it doesn't really matter what the gender is, she's going to be a terrible parent either way.

blueoak9 · 2016-01-25T15:57:52+00:00

"That ultrasound revealed two things: the nature of his genitalia and my sexism. "

I was all set to hate her, but then she said this towards the end. Maybe, just maybe, there's hope for that kid.

The husband OTOH is a total pussy-whip for not pulling her up tight on her misandry when it first became obvious.

192873982 · 2016-01-25T13:58:00+00:00

Damn these stupid women in the comments. Most of them actually tell her it's normal to be irritated by just not having a girl.

EphemeralChaos · 2016-01-25T19:46:52+00:00

Do I want a boy who’s smarter than me? Not really. I already know plenty of men, young and old, who think they’re smarter than me.

Wow, so humble, but she didn't had issues admiting her daughter would be smarter than her, she was not so bad at first it just looked like dissapointment and self realization of wanting a girl that fitted gender stereotypes, but once you see through her sexist image and dislike of the sterotypical image of a boy.

But I came up short when searching for probable reasons to like him, this mysterious person whose toenails have only just started to form, when all I knew about him was that he was a boy. It seems stupid now, but all I could picture were the stereotypical-boy characteristics.

What's wrong with the stereotypical-boy characteristics?

There’s no reason my son can’t be a tiny ballerina. There's no reason I can't sign him up for a class, even if it is full of little girls. The next day I went out and bought him some useless pink ballet slippers, with bows, in the hopes of having a child who is a better version of me after all.

In other words, "there is no reason I can't push my son in becoming what I WANT him to become, because I just can't deal with the fact that he may have his own personality. I also can't accept that something that it's not what I pictured is not better than me." This woman is SOOO egocentric and clearly misandrist, she realized that she was sexist by recognizing that she was expecting her daughter or son to fit a gender stereotype already, but blind to the fact that she is making a big deal because she doesn't want him to fit the stereotype now. Controlling, egocentric and sexist. Blregh.

Freyzi · 2016-01-25T15:43:30+00:00

Guess she didn't stop and consider what if her husband wanted better version of himself? What if the girl turns out to not like all these things you're planning for her?

Well at least she realized her own sexism at the end.

gnprincess · 2016-01-25T19:19:07+00:00

What I was irritated with is how she continually described how she wouldn't push gender norms on her little girl but as soon as she found it the baby was a boy, she immediately jumped to stereotypical boy things, like video games and mud. That's so sad to me and I feel bad for that baby boy, even though she did come to the realization of her own sexism. It's so hypocritical of her and it makes me cringe.

iiiq · 2016-01-25T14:31:10+00:00

https://archive.is/oeTun

JudgyBitch · 2016-01-25T18:32:17+00:00

I know self-promotion is generally frowned upon, but I switched gender for race, just to show what this woman is actually saying http://judgybitch.com/2016/01/25/why-am-i-so-sad-about-having-a-black-baby/

sexyjeremypharoahwiz · 2016-01-25T15:49:41+00:00

Sounds like she's going to screw her son up quite a bit, putting him in dresses and treating him like a little girl to push her agenda. Poor kid.

never_said_that · 2016-01-25T19:11:53+00:00

There's no reason I can't sign him up for a class, even if it is full of little girls. The next day I went out and bought him some useless pink ballet slippers, with bows, in the hopes of having a child who is a better version of me after all.

I'll force him into girl clothes. That will give him the freedom to become exactly the gender I have chosen for him.

ARedthorn · 2016-01-25T15:12:39+00:00

For all the pessimism here... hey, look... Character growth!

Sks44 · 2016-01-25T18:06:55+00:00

I pity that poor kid. The narcissist mother is going to destroy him.

bman0001 · 2016-01-25T18:48:29+00:00

If Reddit is still around when that poor boy is a young man, I have a feeling he will be posting on /r/raisedbynarcissists .

EDIT: Should have read further. Already stated by /u/Corruptoration.

matthew_lane · 2016-01-26T00:59:30+00:00

No matter how evolved I thought we were, it turns out I wanted a girl, badly, and not for reasons I’m proud of. Do I want a boy who’s smarter than me? Not really. I already know plenty of men, young and old, who think they’re smarter than me.

Wow, you really are just a terrible human being aren't you.

NoFuryLikeKristine · 2016-01-25T15:07:55+00:00

Doesn't it seem unhealthy for a parent to want to make their child a better version of him or herself? Your children may have picked up your mannerisms, genes, and maybe some of your opinions, but they'll never be just like you. They are their own person. I feel like I've been handicapped by my parents' (especially my mom's) attempts to stifle my individuality and force me to become their idea of a perfect child.

Seems like you shouldn't have kids if you're going to treat them like that and have an unhealthy relationship with your kid from the start.

rottingchrist · 2016-01-25T15:56:25+00:00

Rather the boy be aborted than be born to someone like that.

blahblahblah005 · 2016-01-25T16:25:53+00:00

Maybe she should just fuck more less dominant, beta males; I say this with my tongue firmly planted in my cheek. Interestingly, according to this study, mammals can choose the sex of their offspring based on how the female views her mate, and the potential for their offspring to sire children. So to summarise; alpha baboon, bangs female baboon, female baboon more likely to give birth to male offpsring. Because said male issue is more likely to inherit the traits that make his father alpha. If some beta baboon gets laid, and they do occasionally, it is more likely to produce female offspring. Female offspring to beta males are more likely to breed with the alpha, because the alpha pretty much fucks all the females in the harem.

In humans, throughout the ages, only 40% of males breed, and 80% of the females have produced offspring. Source to sources here.

I don't understand the hate towards male children. I have two boys with another boy on the way. It's awesome! They are unabashedly male, boisterous, crazy, hyperactive bastards, who are going to be raised to never once apologise for being a man.

Brodusgus · 2016-01-25T14:17:38+00:00

I hate her so much that she didn't get what she hoped for. Her son will suffer.

Griever114 · 2016-01-25T16:12:54+00:00

The more and more i read about people having kids, the more I think its no longer a right everyone should have. I can bet that child is going to grow up either a giantantic mangina or hating his parents.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2016-01-25T19:52:53+00:00

Hopefully she'll get over herself and realize that having a child shouldn't be about having a miniature version of yourself so you can have a redo for all your failures.

401InvalidUsername · 2016-01-26T00:54:46+00:00

I would bet that this child will grow up with hormone blockers, because he feels like he "should've been a girl" and will be raised as a transgender girl. This is the type of disgusting behaviour common to many of these new SJW parents who use their children to push their own agenda of "acceptance", which is really anything but.

user1492 · 2016-01-25T17:58:00+00:00

what I truly wanted was a better version of myself.

I think that's what all parents want when they have a kid. Men want boys because they know what it is to be a boy. They can look to their dad and learn how to be (or not be) a good dad. Men generally don't know how to raise little girls because they don't have the perspective from the other side.

This brings to mind two things. First, good on this woman for recognizing her prejudices, but shame on her for thinking that her husband thought the same as her. Second, it is incredibly depressing how many women think they can raise men without involving a man.

7655675656 · 2016-01-25T16:26:19+00:00

We're fucked.

questionnmark · 2016-01-25T19:52:10+00:00

"No matter how evolved I thought we were, it turns out I wanted a girl, badly, and not for reasons I’m proud of. Do I want a boy who’s smarter than me? Not really. I already know plenty of men, young and old, who think they’re smarter than me."

She's pretty arrogant.

splodgenessabounds · 2016-01-26T00:17:25+00:00

For a fleeting moment there I thought "Hooray! At long last, an article by a woman who's sorry she's having a boy because she knows how the deck is stacked against boys these days, right from kindergarden to uni graduation."

Then I went and stabbed myself with a pointed stick until I got better.

SolidSpruceTop · 2016-01-26T00:26:49+00:00

Here's the issue. No matter what your child can find a way to say you fucked them up in their early stages before they could think enough to make their own decisions. This woman seems like she'll fuck her child up by forcing feminine things on him. Don't worry about colors on his clothing and don't ever stop him from wanting "girly" things, but don't force him in ballet. Don't force transgenderism on anyone.

I have a good friend who said that if somehow she becomes pregnant (she's asexual) she'll only keep the child if its a boy. Kinda funny.

arnizach · 2016-01-26T00:30:58+00:00

It's when I read articles like this that it becomes clear to me how big a loss that loss of shame has been for Western culture. The author should be ashamed of her emotions, not publicize them in an article.

Clockw0rk · 2016-01-26T02:21:35+00:00

What a narcissistic, sexist bitch.

I'm really starting to believe that people should be given psych evals before they're allowed to raise children.

Damaged parents result in damaged kids.

Political_Cuttlefish · 2016-01-26T03:48:35+00:00

Do you want the plot of the movie Sleepaway Camp? Because this is how you get the plot of the movie "Sleepaway Camp.

Antrophis · 2016-01-26T04:47:21+00:00

I laughed at the boys can wear pink bit. Of course the can pink use to be a boy's colour. At some point in time women took it.

skee_ · 2016-01-26T07:02:15+00:00

A woman in the comments wrote:

Daughters are pretty great. But sons are even better, from my experience, and I have both. The mother/son bond is a secret romance that goes on and on. My daughters are actually a pain in my ass, now that they're grown, while my son is still the love of my life. I usually keep this a secret. I'm not too articulate this morning, sorry...

I found that quite touching. There was a time when the mother-son relationship was the strongest of all relationships, even more than father-son or human-dog/cat. Perhaps nothing has changed, and she will realize the error of her ways as her son grows. But it's extremely depressing to think that modern women now regard sons as a burden, rather than the light of the world. If men have achieved all of the great advances, it was their mothers that made that possible. Please God let us end the sex wars. It is nothing but self-cannibalism.

Quintrell · 2016-01-26T19:36:40+00:00

Once we found out we were having a boy, we cringed over new visions: video games. Mud, chaos.

The horror! If the article is any indication as to this individual's parenting ability it's a shame she's having kids at all...

Tmomp · 2016-01-25T17:09:32+00:00

I think in turning out to be a boy, this baby did himself — and any theoretical future children I might have — a huge favor. That ultrasound revealed two things: the nature of his genitalia and my sexism.

Maybe there's hope -- if she believes there is a problem with sexism.

Her experience also illustrates the importance of males' involvement in identifying, revealing, and stopping sexism.

mindless_gibberish · 2016-01-25T18:41:23+00:00

Ah, clueless new parents. How little they know.

When reality doesn't meet expectations, disappointment is usually inevitable.

I'm glad she had a little boy. He'll help her dispel a lot of these myths.

Sasha_ · 2016-01-25T18:51:19+00:00

There ARE good reasons to be sadded at having a boy. Boys are dis-advanced in education, have shorter life-expectancy, more likely to be victims of crime etc.

davidrexs · 2016-01-26T01:16:04+00:00

Well... This kid is fucked.

youhatetruth · 2016-01-26T00:42:51+00:00

"Why am I so sad about having a boy?"

Because the unjustified hate required by your Vagina Club for half of your species is more important to you than your fucking offspring, you Sick BITCH!

Title	Normalizing feminist hate: Why Am I So Sad About Having a Boy?
Author	desmay
Upvotes	222
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Date	January 25, 2016 1:42 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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