Talking to Dad

cody_p24 · 2012-12-16T19:37:32+00:00

Why did I have to read this at work? All I want to do is go home and hangout with my old man now.

criticalfreddyk · 2012-12-16T19:15:49+00:00

Well that was a tear-jerker.

rains1986 · 2012-12-16T21:43:27+00:00

Coming from someone that grew up in a father-less home, this made me cry.

omagablade · 2012-12-16T20:55:34+00:00

I'm sitting in the middle of a department store and I'm really close to bawling my eyes out

Erebus77 · 2012-12-16T19:58:57+00:00

Looks like I've got a phone call to make..

poland626 · 2012-12-16T20:00:24+00:00

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macrocephalic · 2012-12-16T20:11:40+00:00

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Miss_anthropyy · 2012-12-16T20:44:07+00:00

Need to go hug my dad now...

edwardsfl · 2012-12-16T21:18:55+00:00

This is exactly how it was for me. Except towards the end I grew closer to him than I probably ever had. But I still avoided the calls here and there. Rushed through a lot of conversations and put off visiting him, but those were exactly the words I woke up to in the middle of the night and I instantly regretted every second I passed on spending time with him. No matter what anybody says, it doesn't ever get easier. You just deal with it better in front of people.

Choogly · 2012-12-16T21:40:43+00:00

The feels. The unadulterated, not from concentrate, feels.

maximumdarth · 2012-12-16T19:39:07+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUwjNBjqR-c

2012-12-16T21:00:07+00:00

I read this, put my phone down, and hugged my dad.

ZDubson_MD · 2012-12-16T22:01:07+00:00

Man. I haven't been hit that hard in the feels in a while. He just called the other night worried about me and the whole 12/21/12 garbage, and I just laughed about it. I feel like an ass now. Time to call my old man.

Avery17 · 2012-12-16T20:26:49+00:00

My dad chose alcoholism over being a father so... ya know... :/

2012-12-16T20:22:53+00:00

Me and my dad rarely get on, we have some common interests and he wants me to participate in things that I stopped doing a long time ago but I no longer look at him like he's Superman and maybe that's just the stage in my life. But damn that comic made me shed a tear.

2012-12-16T21:51:40+00:00

Damnit man. That hurt

HoundDogs · 2012-12-16T23:12:13+00:00

I'm in the middle of work, fucking crying.

Samccx19 · 2012-12-16T23:18:18+00:00

As a guy with an old father compared to my age, he was 45 when I was born, this comics hurts a hell of a lot more.

Diosjenin · 2012-12-17T01:07:31+00:00

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2012-12-16T21:58:19+00:00

That was an emotional roller coaster. Thanks... and fuck you.

2012-12-16T20:05:21+00:00

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LaughingTrees · 2012-12-17T00:18:10+00:00

This reminds me a lot of Old Man by Neil Young

2012-12-16T21:45:10+00:00

I want to go home and hug my dad :(

TitusRome · 2012-12-16T21:52:52+00:00

This hit me really hard in the feels, man. Like, it hit me harder in the feels than when Casshern Sins ended.

Cubbance · 2012-12-17T01:01:57+00:00

My father only has room in his heart to love two people, and one of them is always himself. Sadly, I've never been in that second slot. I've tried many times over the years to have a relationship with him, to no avail. This comic hits hard because it just underscores the fact that a reconciliation is beyond unlikely.

Wordshark · 2012-12-17T03:58:41+00:00

I'm crying.

My dad's birthday is in two days. I'm calling in sick from work to hang out with him.

AbsoluteBlack · 2012-12-16T21:57:51+00:00

I just found out my father has been having an affair for a year, and is divorcing my mother to move in with his mistress.
Not talking to him so much at the moment.

GabbiKat · 2012-12-16T22:36:40+00:00

People down voted this? Sigh.

I had a big fight with my Dad a month ago and Tuesday is his Birthday. Even though we had been talking and not acknowledging it I felt horrible about the things I had said to him in a email. I bought my Dad a really nice card, and I hand wrote a letter to express a lot of things I have been feeling lately about missing him and needing him as more then just a "father" and that I needed him as a friend. My Dad has said the words to me that he is "My Father, and not my friend" when I needed him in the past. I keep reaching out, and hoping. He turns 72 on Tuesday. I dont know how many more times I'll hear his voice and I have given up on seeing him or Mom again.

So, people who down voted this, no matter what you are going through, that person is your Dad, and if they have cared for you and treated you decently, realize that they are just a person too. If you have a good relationship with your father try to hold on for as long as you can. Time might heal all wounds, but time does slip away and will be gone before you acknowledge its passing.

Amunium · 2012-12-16T20:01:33+00:00

My father's an asshole, so this doesn't apply to me. :/

bettaa · 2012-12-16T23:13:34+00:00

Damned left hook and an uppercut straight to the feels...

2012-12-17T00:36:46+00:00

Very powerful I like it.

Sundanian · 2012-12-17T00:49:39+00:00

I really did get moved for a second... Man, I love my dad! I'm so sorry for those who's not as lucky as me :(

dmcginley · 2012-12-17T00:58:13+00:00

Lost my dad 2 years ago. Too fresh, thanks for sharing, but man I didn't need to read that tonight...

Spend time with your dad everyone. Didn't even get 30 years with mine...

OldZippo · 2012-12-17T01:09:12+00:00

If this was about a single mom it would be pretty spot on to where I'm at. That end part is what I'm worried about now.

greenlanternslight · 2012-12-17T01:21:40+00:00

My Dad was the best human being I ever knew,and I miss him every day.If your Dad is still around go hug his neck.

atlantis145 · 2012-12-17T01:24:42+00:00

My dad is my best friend and my father. I try to stay in daily contact with him, even if it's just a few texts back and forth (studying hard in university).

I feel very, very lucky.

Roddy0608 · 2012-12-17T01:55:42+00:00

That reminds me of my situation. Me and my dad haven't talked for years. We just kind of slowly drifted apart. Neither of us is making an effort now. Maybe we're both too stubborn.

2012-12-17T01:57:34+00:00

I lost my father at 19... I was emotional through this article before the father even died. :'( :'( :'(

redgreenapple · 2012-12-17T02:32:11+00:00

Right in the feel, my dads humor is different and he watches different sports :/

dbarts21 · 2012-12-17T02:33:34+00:00

Fuck.

MTknowsit · 2012-12-17T03:23:30+00:00

I figured out years ago that to talk to your Dad, you have to DO things with him. Build a deck. Go hunting. Do anything. I started doing that 20 years ago. Today, we just came back from Mom and Dad's house. He's in Stage 4 Prostate Cancer. It's spread to his bones and all over inside him. I take him to the doctor twice a week and help my Mom as much as I can with him. The goal was for him to make it to Christmas, and I think we're going to get there. Love your Dad while you can. Spend time doing stuff with him. They don't live forever.

Immigman · 2012-12-17T03:43:09+00:00

I lost my dad to cancer in 2001. I miss him. Thanks for the comic...

mattlohkamp · 2012-12-16T20:08:56+00:00

So. What does this have to do with MRA?

ZimbaZumba · 2012-12-16T19:48:12+00:00

2012-12-16T22:58:49+00:00

As someone who has never known his dad, I would have given pretty much anything for the memories in the first few panels.

Now I'm bitter, and wouldn't meet him if he offered. If I ever did happen to run into him, I would likely end up in jail for assault.

UnexpectedCompany · 2012-12-17T00:22:06+00:00

This is a tear-jerker.

If everyone would go please hug their dad for me that would be great.

My dad has Alzheimer's, and can't carry on a conversation. It's incredibly sad, I never got to spend any time with him as a kid since he had other priorities he always promised he'd spend more time with us when he was off work. I believed his lies. He got on disability, and refused to spend any time with his children.

I always wished we could talk about science together, build some projects, and just be "those guys". Unfortunately now he can't understand the basics, and he gets lost around our own neighborhood.

So please, just go hug your dad, mom, and family. You could lose them at any moment.

firelord1973 · 2012-12-17T02:45:06+00:00

The last words I said to my Dad (via my mum) were, 'We always win 2-1'

He hated answering the phone, and always passed it to my mum, then hovered in the doorway chipping in the conversation. I had called my mum to tell her my driving test was on the Monday, and I was going to have a relaxed weekend hoping to pass. My dad shouted 'Good luck', I asked if he was going to the match, then 'We always win 2-1' line.

Next day I get a call as i'm sitting down to watch the football, its my cousin in tears, he couldn't say anything but I'm sorry. He didnt have to say anything else, I just knew. My dad died in his seat at the match, i was devastated.

My dad worked from 15 years old, til the year before he died. He was supposed to be enjoying his retirement, going on holidays with my mum and doing things he never got a chance to. He raised 3 sons, all of whom might be a bit mad, but have never been in any real trouble. He worked his arse off when my mum couldn't work, supporting the entire household. He beat the shit out of me when I was a fucking idiot, and we had in depth conversations whilst sitting watching the Discovery channel. He taught me how to ride a bike (sat me down, pushed me down the street), taught me how to swim (threw me in the deep end), and taught me how to fight (hit first, hit fast, don't stop til you've won).

My mum is an amazing woman, and contributed to who I am today, but its my dad that I see staring back when I have a shave. Its my dad I hear when i'm having a conversation about football, or making some really lame joke that only I think is funny. I miss him every day.

Edit - I didn't grieve. I cried more when my dog died for fucks sake. I never cried once when my dad died. What happened was, I went back to my family home, and stayed strong for my mum and brothers. I stayed calm, logical and organized as much as I could. Once it was all over, I got home, and my mind fractured. I hid myself away in my room for weeks, shaking, struggling to breathe. My partner didn't know what to do. I just didn't want to carry on, I couldn't see the point. Every time I thought I'd never see his face again, or hear his stupid laugh, my brain just shut down. I'm still struggling now, although I am alot better. I just never thought it would happen (logical I know), but he was invincible to me.

Edit Mk2 - Typing all that out made me start daydreaming. I remember my mum getting her new job, and having to go away for a weekend training. My dad promised we would be in bed on time, all would be good etc etc. Until we learning that the first 3 star wars were going to be on tv, back to back. We sat from 9pm til some ungodly hour watching Star Wars, and my dad even let me drink beer! OMFG! My dad was awesome.

felinesupplement74 · 2012-12-17T03:15:31+00:00

The English was very poor in some of the panels. Found myself getting frustrated more than emotional.

deeznuts44 · 2012-12-17T03:35:35+00:00

My dad lived in Indiana for three years, (I live in Michigan). I had my own son and I still have questions to ask my own dad, I can't imagine life without him.

sanityisfortheweak96 · 2012-12-17T06:12:18+00:00

I miss my dad...

Lohengren · 2012-12-17T06:15:00+00:00

my dad would disown me if he found out I was an atheist

MysticalDarkness · 2012-12-17T01:29:15+00:00

So what did that have to do with men's rights? All I got from it is "love your dad."

jamesherr44 · 2012-12-16T22:11:35+00:00

Great now I wanna kill myself

whoatethekidsthen · 2012-12-16T22:53:20+00:00

Oh god the tears...

drumstyx · 2012-12-17T01:58:05+00:00

I knew this was going to be sad. Damn onions.

S-BRO · 2012-12-16T23:02:03+00:00

This is why I'm glad I go to watch Everton every home game with my dad and have done since I was 4 :)

relishm · 2012-12-16T23:09:01+00:00

wow i read this while listening to winter by Johsua Radin... bad choice

Komercisto · 2012-12-17T03:45:11+00:00

I thought about sending this to my dad. We have a great relationship, when we have time for each other, which is rarely. I'm not going to send it to him though. This isn't a message for both parties, fathers don't need to hear this, they already know this. Sons need to hear it. They need to hear it and do something about it. Thanks for posting, I'm glad you did, and I'm glad I had the better sense not to send it to my dad.

WhoStoleTheKarma · 2012-12-17T03:49:59+00:00

Fuck. That was depressing. Texting my dad now.

cabin5 · 2012-12-17T04:48:22+00:00

Hey, somebody explain this to me- these new 'rules'- you can't submit a link like this one anymore or post a comic like this? It HAS to be a question now and that's it?

This is what they said: 1) You must post a clear and direct question, and only the question, in your title.

2012-12-17T04:54:25+00:00

Very good meassage.

But why is this in Men's rights?

TheUnrealArchon · 2012-12-17T05:22:51+00:00

Don't know why this is here, but still touching none the less.

1dr · 2012-12-17T05:38:38+00:00

My dad is not like this at all. You lucky bastards.

Kashyyykk · 2012-12-17T05:43:02+00:00

Why did I have to read this at 1 AM? He's asleep... or playing Skyrim.

grantmoore3d · 2012-12-17T05:47:39+00:00

Teared up a little while reading this on the bus, amazing comic.

cavalier2015 · 2012-12-17T06:02:46+00:00

I wish I could have a better relationship with my dad. I really do. But we're just such different people. We were raised in 2 completely different cultures and it just makes it hard to connect on a lot of things. We just never seem to see eye to eye.

kellykebab · 2012-12-17T06:07:40+00:00

Since heading off to college 9 years ago, I've probably talked to my dad on the phone fewer than 10 times and at least one of those occasions, he called just to yell.

So this was rather...foreign.

HDATZ · 2012-12-17T06:27:27+00:00

It's funny, I feel like I can relate to my pop way more now that I'm 30 than I ever could've when I was 15.

Swinship · 2012-12-17T06:31:57+00:00

lol i teared up, i need to call my dad

Aavagadrro · 2012-12-17T07:17:32+00:00

That wasnt my dad, mine was more like Christopher Titus's dad, but not nearly as funny. Much more violent and disapproving. We have gotten better in the last few years, since he is almost 70 now. I have been trying to get him to do the Hot Rod Magazine Power Tour with my brother and I, but he isnt sure if he can get off work for a week and drive around the country in his 70 AAR Cuda clone.

I wanted to be there for my daughters, but I wasnt allowed to. Now I talk to my oldest as often as she can, she is dealing with all the shit that happened to her after he mom took her and let someone abuse her. The youngest is just like her mom now, she was taken from me before I could teach her to be a productive member of society that gives a shit about anyone other than herself.

I didnt get a dad until well after I was one, then I wasnt allowed to be a dad until they grew up. Im afraid that by the time we get to do anything fun together, he will be gone. I hope I can be there for my daughters when they need me, and I hope they reach out to me when they do.

leonsecure · 2012-12-17T09:25:26+00:00

Gotta go ice fishing with dad this year. We haven't been for so many years. My stupid job was always in the way. This year must be different. Thank you!

2012-12-17T09:29:28+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUwjNBjqR-c

This song says it all. My Dad and I joke about this song when we talk on the phone.

2012-12-17T11:05:21+00:00

All of the feels.

StarFscker · 2012-12-17T12:16:25+00:00

...That was depressing.

silveradocoa · 2012-12-17T12:50:18+00:00

goddammit, 730 on a monday thats raining too

Cypher211 · 2013-01-18T02:57:34+00:00

I know I'm a bit late here but I've seen this for the first time and I'm actually feeling quite emotional. Commenting so I can save this image later

2012-12-17T02:56:58+00:00

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

Bobsutan · 2012-12-17T04:13:48+00:00

Damn.

wagesj45 · 2012-12-16T19:57:13+00:00

They left out the part where the mother divorces the father, lies about him being violent, and extorts so much child supoport and alimony from him that he can barely afford to live.

C0CKPUNCHER · 2012-12-16T21:06:30+00:00

This is not at all familiar to me.

It's a pity this is more upvoted than the more salient submissions.

Title	Talking to Dad
Author	bodmon
Upvotes	1053
Comments	185
Date	December 16, 2012 6:34 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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