Rich get richer and poor get poorer. Same is absolutely true in dating world.

Where a cimp buys her flowers, arranges elaborate dates in $1000 a night resorts etc..., whereas Cad is taking in in a car in a dark alley behind the bar.

When you make female friends, you realize how little the efforts mean to women.

And how much more the intrinsic qualities matters which means efforts are not really needed by a woman. It's needed to overcome her resentment when choosing bottom 80% which she clearly knows.