CMV: A woman's ideal future partner MUST stack up to all of her past partners... COMBINED, which is not realistic.

EulenWatcher · 2024-06-26T02:13:23+00:00

From what I've seen in my social circle women married guys who are pretty similar or somewhat better than their exes. Better not in all regards, but mostly in terms of compatibility and plans on the future. Sure, it's an anecdotal data, but I'm not sure how we can explore it objectively.

wtknight · 2024-06-26T02:26:36+00:00

Some of those men are a negative value in her mind and not a positive value, so it is realistic.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2024-06-26T03:11:22+00:00

How many women have you had this conversation with?

Electrical_Novel1156 · 2024-06-26T02:27:05+00:00

Not really all you get is women who understand what they DON'T want which is far more enjoyable to deal with than most girls my age (I'm 28) who don't actually know what kind of guy they want so they play stupid games and get mad when someone like me has 0 interested in playing them. Running into a woman with a good history (i.e actual boyfriends not hookups) means you can have a proper conversation and figure out if you click. So yes in some way you do need to stack up to her previous partners but that's a good thing. You're competing with real people not some fantasy she has in her head.

SaBahRub · 2024-06-26T02:12:15+00:00

I don’t want a 6 headed, 6 dicked man, no

Also, isn’t a woman the sum of all the dicks she’s taken ? So what’s the problem, hey?

half3mptyhalffull · 2024-06-26T02:29:04+00:00

ive dated guys that i dont consider worse in any way to my husband. the big difference is that my husband wanted the same thing in life that i did, and our personalities meshed better.

Sad_and_grossed_out · 2024-06-26T04:19:00+00:00

I don't know anyone who thinks this way. Most people know that a single person can't be everything to you, but the important stuff like good communication chemistry, good sex life, complimentary life goals, are usually what gets focused on in the end.

I can say with certainty that my husband is the only man out of every previous partner I've had that I would ever want to be married to based on what I know about my ex flames and how their lives played out, it really is the best fit for me. My husband is his own person, not some stacked up combination of my exes, that would be weird and I wouldn't even want him to have some of the qualities they had because those qualities made them exes.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2024-06-26T03:08:51+00:00

Dating till marriage is a process of elimination, I don't understand why this is controversial or unrealistic.

All my exes were cool dudes and I wish them well, and I'm sure I would have had a fine marriage with a few of them. But we never reached that point so it's moot to weigh what they did or did not have compared to my husband, nor is it worth considering how my life would have turned out with them because life didn't go that way.

Bambinnah · 2024-06-26T05:18:49+00:00

Suuuure, because more experience gives you unrealistic expectations while no experience grants you realistic ones 😃 just how it is in every other area of life 🤡

Exchange „realistic“ to „no“ in your second to last sentence. „Men prefer 18-26 as they haven’t been around the block as much and will likelier have no expectations (which makes it more realistic for us men to meet them).“ better. 😌

P.S. I do know what you are trying to say with this (as I am more familiar with Red Pill, The Game etc than most men being a part of it). And while there is some truth to it, you haven’t got the slightest idea on how to express it properly, including logical connections.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-06-26T07:33:13+00:00

Most people have more than one quality they like in a partner whether they've had a partner or not. Most teenagers could tell you what they'd like a partner to be like without having tried it.

kongeriket · 2024-06-26T03:30:16+00:00

And, this is why men prefer 18-26 y/o's as they haven't been around the block as much, and will likelier have more realistic expectations.

My opposite experience. I went for 30-32yo when I was 17-18-19 precisely because of the unrealistic expectations and the plain weird ideas that my age peers had. I almost married a 33yo at age 20 but logistics disagreed. It was nobody's fault. Life happened. Still sucked.

So many of y'all don't realize just how dumb and annoying (and thus unrealistic) a lot of 18-21 year olds are. We're all somewhat dumb when we're young. And those who graduate to "not-so-dumb" too early either date older (like I did) or stay virgin. Staying virgin was never an option for me. Life is incomplete without good sex.

GlamSunCrybabyMoon · 2024-06-26T03:40:25+00:00

Let’s break this down. 18-26 year old women haven’t been around the block, they have realistic expectations based on their little experience, then they gain experience and it changes their expectations because they now know more. They had no idea of reality, then gain the ideas, and adjust accordingly 🤯

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-06-26T02:19:11+00:00

Bro you don't need a big dick if you know how to eat pussy,a majority of women don't orgasm from penetration it's from clitoral stimulation... if you got a micro you're probably fucked but a dude with average dick that can eat pussy isn't gonna starve in a relationship

Solondthewookiee · 2024-06-26T02:30:12+00:00

Okay, so you ignored when women said dick size isn't everything and then made it sound ridiculous that a woman would want a guy with a good personality who lives nearby.

And dudes here wonder why women say the bar is in hell.

MistyMaisel · 2024-06-26T02:31:43+00:00

It wasn't hard to find a better man for me or most women. Most of our early boyfriends sucked. So much that it would be difficult to select one stand out good quality as you've done.

Most of our process is honing in on the things we actually want and learning what a good personality looks like and figuring out if we can of can't do distance and so forth.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-06-26T03:20:02+00:00

My partner doesn't have the biggest dick (no complaints here), he does have a great personality, and when we met, he lived in a city that was an hour's drive from mine (20 min on the fast train). Met him when I was 27, I started dating at 16. Dated people with bigger dicks than him, who were as lovely people as him (some, not all), who lived closer to me, but he was the one that was the most compatible with me. We also met at an age where both of us knew what we wanted and didn't want in a partner, and what we wanted and didn't want from the future.

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ezk17 · 2024-06-26T05:05:55+00:00

in my experience women most value not physical characteristics, not compatibility, not sexual chemistry but the genuine kindness, compassion, and commitment of the men they are with.

baiser_vole · 2024-06-26T10:09:10+00:00

Meanwhile, I got back together with someone from my high school days. According to your CMV, I basically dated multiple same guys.

obviousredflag · 2024-06-26T10:58:52+00:00

The error you make is to think that "ideal" is also what is required. People are in relationships with non-ideal partenrs. That is life. It cannot be any other way. People who claim their partner matches their ideal 100% are either still in love or want to believe that or tell others that, becuse it makes them feel better. We all settle. It's not relevant what the ideal looks like.

harmonica2 · 2024-06-26T13:56:20+00:00

This seems contradictory because in the red pill, they talk about how the more guys a woman has the more the next guy has to compete with those past experiences. However, it's also said in the red pill the women get easier when they get older so which one is it?

apresonly · 2024-06-26T21:58:00+00:00

most of women's past partners are complete shit

KorinTowerFreeloader · 2024-06-26T07:50:48+00:00

OP, most women will tell you it's not true and they are happily married blah blah blah. Divorce rates are extremely high, and body-count significantly increases the chances of a divorce. In reality, most of such women rode the situationship CC, settled for a Billy-beta, and they will either end up cheating on him in the future because they have no respect for him, or he will once he figures out he is being settled for.

Title	CMV: A woman's ideal future partner MUST stack up to all of her past partners... COMBINED, which is not realistic.
Author	NewOCLibraryReddit
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Comments	149
Date	June 26, 2024 2:05 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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