Going off of this thread it seems like a lot of men were angry that women feel uncomfortable when stared at on a train or subway. One of the two videos the guy linked was deleted. Both took place in Europe.

In both videos, middle aged men are blatantly staring at young women who clearly are uncomfortable. The women film them under music about how angry they are that men make them feel this uncomfortable.

In the comments, men insist that a) these men are doing nothing wrong and b) that the women are exaggerating at best and being malicious at worst.

In the comments, one man told me that if I feel uncomfortable, I should wear a burka and a lot of men were outraged. Another guy said that when he rides the train or subway, he doesn’t necessarily want to look at his phone or out the windows, so he just sits and stares directly at the person in front of him the entire train ride, and no one has the right to feel uncomfortable.

When I am on public transit, I don’t make eye contact. I find it very easy to not stare at other people. I avert my gaze. I generally look at my phone, out the window, or at a magazine or book. I never have had any problems. But a lot of men seem to insist that this is abnormal and impossible.

My questions for men are:

How often do you stare (not glance) at women in places like public transit? How do you expect them to react? If they appear uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you ever make small talk or just stare?

How often do you stare (not glance) at men in places like public transit? How do you expect them to react? If they appear uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you ever make small talk or just stare?

If women or men feel uncomfortable, do you assume they are spoiled or malicious?

I’m just blown away that men seem to think that looking at their phone or something is too much to ask for.