N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

lastrevolutions · 2025-12-11T18:55:28+00:00

It’s called artistic license know your place illiterate

lastrevolutions · 2025-12-11T18:42:23+00:00

It’s called artistic license know your place illiterate

Ellen_Pao17 · 2025-12-11T16:39:43+00:00

Holy shit lads I've figured it out. Women actually want to be disrespected by a man in bed and respected in public. I read somewhere online they want a thoughtful, intellectual conversation at a restaurant and then want to be choked in bed after. Beta males can't do the latter.

I tried this at a club yesterday by acting like a confident prick who didn't give a fuck and it worked lol. I literally went up to the hottest chick there and said I'd like to get to know you and was actually interested. This might sound fake but it's 100% true. I've realised that the girls are just as insecure as us and all the makeup is a facade, which is why they flock to douchebag chads who just talk to them nice once in a while and just pump and dump em and not the guys who will treat them right, because they have low self-worth JFC i'm an idiot for respecting women lol...

N_Count_Council · 2025-12-10T17:48:29+00:00

The best way to defeat the pussy cartel is to have sex with them first. That way they're invested. Of course they can still lie to you about their number but at least they will probably give you an answer.

Desperate-Exit7423 · 2025-12-10T15:14:01+00:00

Men who have an N count preference should be unapologetic about it. Don’t let the haters shame you. You can call me insecure all day, I really don’t care.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-10T14:10:35+00:00

If men want wild enthusiastic kinky sex from a girl they are dating then they need to evoke that in the woman.

Don't expect you are entitled to it just because she has done it before.

Past-Shoulder-631 · 2025-12-06T23:41:54+00:00

If you think that woman shouldn’t be shamed, rejected, or be made to feel less than because of the people they’ve had sex with; then you should agree that men shouldn’t be shamed, rejected, or be made to feel less than, because they are lacking in sexual and relationship experience. Otherwise you’re a hypocrite woman.

If you’re a woman who thinks there’s “something wrong” with a guy cause he hasn’t managed to have a relationship by a certain point, then you can’t complain when guys think there’s something wrong with a woman who’s had lots of sexual partners

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-12-07T00:57:33+00:00

By far, the biggest cope women have is pretending that the guys they hookup with (especially if using Tinder) aren’t relationship material

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-16T15:54:51+00:00

Okay, so i created a satire post, and now i know what to answer to anyone who will claim that women should give sex quickly. So many good replies. The only regret i have is that they will miss the irony the same way they missed satire.

Scary-Mouse4817 · 2025-12-12T07:53:13+00:00

I can fully relate with EVERYTHING you say here! I too fake my orgasms because he gets insecure if I don’t get off. But the truth is I never cum with him. I am already too far doen the rabbithole to ever feel relaxed with him trying me too getvoff. He thinks I can orgasm just by piv contact but I cannot. I fake it. It is really sad and not okay and I know it cause my body tells me to stop with the whole shitshow and with him.

This is what we men have to deal with. And then women call us "insecure". Meanwhile they are all lying about sex and orgasms

Muscletov · 2025-12-12T10:39:03+00:00

[https://np.reddit.com/r/psychologyofsex/comments/1pk6wcb/kinsey_institute_researchers_find_fewer_than_half/](Kinsey Institute researchers find fewer than half of women would date an adult virgin, compared to two-thirds of men who would)

Axis_Control · 2025-12-07T13:35:29+00:00

Men need to stop obsessing about what sorta sex women had with other men, it's kinda insane and jealous ngl.

Fancy-Scallion-6682 · 2025-12-13T13:09:38+00:00

If women think it's okay to lie to men about stuff then it's okay for the men to abandon the women once they find out they've been lied to.

She might borne him children. Doesn't matter. A man who is lied to by his partner has NO obligations to his partner.

esp_1123 · 2025-12-15T20:00:48+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/yeJIZvSsJM

The comments are overwhelmingly hounding OP’s bf, calling him a sexist and a pig for believing a man’s n count and a woman’s n count are not the same thing. When will people acknowledge the elephant in the room? I feel like everyone knows but a lot of people just play dumb. OP’s bf is right, of course they’re different.

Women are much pickier than men when it comes to who they sleep with. So in order for a man to have slept with a bunch of women, he would have had to of been deemed “worthy” enough by many different women due to desirable traits he posses. And these traits are require either a lot of time and effort, or just dumb luck. Ex: Face, physique, status, height, “rizz”, money, etc. This is why women often like men that other women desire/are experienced with women. It’s also why many people see it as an achievement when a man has a high n count. In order for a woman to sleep with a bunch of men, all she needs to do is not be fugly (I’m talking a 0-2 out of 10), exist, and decide she wants to sleep with a bunch of men. Sprinkle in a dash of effort (and I mean a dash) and that woman can sleep with plenty of men she deems desirable. Some wayyyy above her league. It’s not the same thing at all. Two completely different experiences. And like I said, people understand this but just play dumb.

Popeoath · 2025-12-17T00:31:03+00:00

It is perfectly fair for people who were excluded from hookup culture to not want to date people who participated in it.

Disagreeing is like expecting me to give you a ride home from a party that I wasn't invited to.

Muscletov · 2025-12-18T08:59:21+00:00

If we consider it quantitatively, women are more likely to have hangups about a potential partner's sexual history than vice versa. First off, there are women who dislike high n-count men. Fewer than men who dislike high n-count women, but the gap isn't gigantic. Then lots of women dislike men with low or no n-count. And last but not least, women dislike men who've had same-sex partners in the past.

And yet it's still exclusively men who get flak for their n-count preferences. "Women are wonderful" effect in full motion, again.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-10T11:43:49+00:00

The thing that i've learned since i'm here is that men not just insecure and hate sex, they deny me any trace of humanity. I can't have experience, try it out and then realize that i don't like it. No, now i'm obligated to do that with any man i'm interested it. I can have moods, i'm obligated to act in a same way. I can't have different reaction to different people, no they are all should be equal. That's just so disappointing. And they think feminism has won, when they can't even comprehend that i'm a human.

TheRedPillRipper · 2025-12-10T09:13:08+00:00

CROSSPOST FROM A VENT SUB

I’m sorry but hookup culture is terrible and is ruining relationships. And I’m tired of being forced into thinking it’s ok

It is. Sex does not mean anything anymore. It’s not a gender issue. Everyone is equally to blame. Sex is the such a intimate, bonding experience. It’s the closest and most intimate you can get to someone. But it’s just completely ruined now. I feel absolutely nothing. I feel the same way holding a girls hand as I do having sex. I lost my virginity with a girl who also lost her virginity with me. And that was the only time I’ve ever massively enjoyed sex. It was over 2 years ago and I still genuinely get a bit emotional when I think about how good it was, how pure it was, how we felt in that moment. Sadly that relationship ended due to circumstances out of my control. And it annoys me because I feel like I’m being robbed of having that experience with anyone ever again because hook up culture is just so rife. I’ve never had sex with anyone outside of a relationship. So I don’t feel like I’m contributing to the issue. But it doesn’t matter because I still don’t really feel anything while having sex, like I said I genuinely feel the same intimacy holding hands with someone. Because sex isn’t something you just do with people love anymore, It’s not an intimate bonding experience anymore because we are in a culture that promotes having sex with people you don’t love. It’s lost all meaning and feeling

I hope this doesn’t come across as slut shaming, I mean I guess it technically is but again it isn’t a gendered issue. Everyone is responsible

ranorando · 2025-12-06T19:32:02+00:00

I don’t care how many people you’ve fucked. I wanna know how many people you’re responsible for putting in therapy

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-07T05:42:43+00:00

Experience matters and women knew that for a while. All those jokes how men want virgins who would be like sluts in bed showed that women did understand that women who aren't sluts can't really act like sluts, that's experience. A virgin can learn, but that's a work that needs to be done. It could be done in monogamous relationship, but as those jokes stated men want it all and now, not fantasizing how he will teach her. Another unrealistic expectation, but well. So women know that with men virgins it's the same. Experience matter. And we know that we need to teach them. And one thing is if we like that guy and he is good. But if we just want something easy and casual? I want to have already good sex and not teach some man and dance around his ego and insecurities and unrealistic expectations and whatnot. Men also not really good students and they need to like to to actually put their ego aside and learn.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-12T16:56:50+00:00

If a guy a woman is dating wants to talk in great detail about the sex she has had with other men that's a sign of insecurity and it's disrespectful to the woman.

She's with you, she doesn't want to think about the other guys she fucked and the sex she's had with them. It's just weird.

RoseyButterflies · 2025-12-13T07:22:30+00:00

If men pressure women to orgasm and question them about it, don't act surprised when they fake orgasms

brassbuffalo · 2025-12-13T16:44:46+00:00

https://preview.redd.it/i90p3dwy207g1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d85ae7861876748a1d49cda5264405107d9474b7

A PPD commenter says that if you used to pay for first dates and you stop after getting used you are treating the ones who like you worse. The shoe is on the other foot now.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-12-16T04:13:19+00:00

Things that delusional women say in 2025:

Idk why y'all think that women don't experience sexual rejection

…

Y'all seem to think that all men are desperate for pussy and will sleep with any women

…

Women are picker, yes. Which means it's not some easy thing for women to get laid. It's not easy for men either. Two completely similar experiences.

Did we slide backwards in time? What year was it that people stopped acknowledging it’s way easier for women to get sex?

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-17T05:58:26+00:00

I was today years old when i finally realised that men see women as prostitutes.

Comes from my satire post when one guy said that he will pay for a dinner if i’d agree to do what his dates agreed to, which was anal. (Pretty cheap if you ask me. 300 for anal + how many hour dinner and sex?). I pointed out that it’s prostitution, which got him super angry (not surprising, he thought that if he bought them it’s still probably out of “raw” desire?) and i said that is it was the deal it’s the deal, and it’s prostitution. We argued and of course it led nowhere, but that got me thinking. 1) that guy told me that i’m calling every woman who accepted a dinner date a prostitute 2) there was a guy who also said something of the sort 3) i remember a conversation i had with another guy about how “we both know” what a man expects if he pays, and if he buys latte and i don’t put out then I’m breaking my end of the deal….and i think it’s not that rare of a view. I remember some conversations like this in real life too (one of a ways to make sure for a guy that he wouldn’t have sex imo). They really think that women are prostitutes. Makes sense to get angry too, and call it discrimination, if they think it’s a business that doesn’t serve clients based on looks. I feel disgusted with them. Ew.

Gabsboy123 · 2025-12-18T12:10:26+00:00

Should be "N Counts Bi-weekly Discussion Thread"

VermillionVile · 2025-12-18T15:48:21+00:00

Is acceptable to lie to a potential life partner about n count? And if so, why?

Rule_Number_7 · 2025-12-19T18:36:02+00:00

A part of me envies those who enjoy the company of others on a casual basis. Must be nice.

wild_squirrel_ · 2025-12-06T18:38:05+00:00

Having sex or not or how much sex you have does not impact your intrinsic value.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-12T16:58:38+00:00

You can't be insecure as fuck and then blame people for not telling you things. Learn how to react first, then it will be on people. But if telling you anything is a shortcut to a tantrum - that's on you. Not gendered.

ThatBitchA · 2025-12-13T01:35:18+00:00

It's Friday! Perfect opportunity for getting laid!

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IgorXY · 2025-12-06T17:09:15+00:00

I am happy to inform nice and helpful people of this subreddit that my N count did, in fact, not increase since the last thread.

N_Count_Council · 2025-12-07T14:06:42+00:00

A new n count thread. I have emerged from my chrysalis state, more powerful than ever.

Popeoath · 2025-12-07T14:55:21+00:00

It's very annoying being a low-n man in a city ghetto.

Literally NO chaste women to choose from.

Yet hypergamy overdrive locks you out of casual sex too.

Nobody wants to "work or themselves" just to be a settle down guy for a high-n woman, that's BS.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-07T15:51:52+00:00

Honestly women's n count isn't any of men's business

Excellent_Badger123 · 2025-12-09T22:22:29+00:00

I can tell you with a straight face that I wouldn’t be upset. I’m waaaay more comfortable holding my own in a relationship and don’t want or need to be showered with gifts from a guy. My ex bought his former wife an expensive house in expensive England. Was I butt hurt about it? No. Literally “his money, his business, not my concern”. This kind of transactional score keeping is such a bad idea. Most women don’t dispense sexual access the way you’re describing. The ones that do are going to be disappointing partners if you want a real lasting relationship

Fancy-Scallion-6682 · 2025-12-11T03:11:27+00:00

You know what I hate.

I hate podcasts and podcasters. These things have popped up like some invasive species of weed, and completely taken over the media ecosystem.

And the absolute worst offenders are the masculinity podcasters. I don't really give much fucks about Fresh and Fit types because I don't live in the West, but this cancer has now reached my country and we have podcasters giving stupid fucking self help advice on masculinity and how to be a man and how it's so tough to be a man.

And like, I enjoy a good self pity session as much as the next guy, but the way these podcasters glaze the idea of male suffering and how suffering makes a real man, is just too much. Fucking hate hate hate hate hate hate HATE these losers. Talentless hacks with nothing good to say just invite other grifters onto their podcasts and interview them. And then cut Instagram shorts about how to be a real man.

Like, just fuck off from my feed, please.

beautiful_falcon776 · 2025-12-13T07:04:27+00:00

I thought today was friday for some reason...it's Saturday already unreal

Popeoath · 2025-12-15T11:00:55+00:00

A lot of people complain about some high-n men wanting virgins, since it's supposedly hypocritical, but how is a dude even supposed to find a virgin without becoming high-n?

They are not exactly common in Western adulthood. You probably have to go through a bunch of women to realistically find one.

Like the protocol would just be gettng with a bunch of women and then once you come across the virgin you marry her.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-18T14:18:33+00:00

Ladies what is the smallest dick size for a man you would accept for a relationship or sex? Jw.

Would you break up if he was too small?

Axis_Control · 2025-12-19T20:08:53+00:00

Ladies whats the craziest hookup you have had? Jw I want the gossippp

Axis_Control · 2025-12-19T21:21:28+00:00

Omg its 2025 how are there still men that don't know womens anatomy and that they have an Aspot 🤣

Scary-Mouse4817 · 2025-12-10T05:35:53+00:00

Men severely under estimate the value of big dick. Ask any gay guy, its hard to find good dick. Women also struggle to find it. When they find it, if the guy isn't a total dweeb, shes going to treat him different than she would you, 80% of the time, all the time.

Lump_Hudson_667 · 2025-12-09T20:55:16+00:00

Imagine you’ve been in a serious relationship with a guy who’s perfect on paper. He treats you amazingly, great chemistry... but he’s weirdly stingy. Your'e always splitting everything 50/50 and he basically acts like he’s broke.

But after almost a year into dating him you find out he’s actually loaded. Private-jet, multiple-properties rich. And every single ex? He paid for everything. Designer bags on the third date. Fully funded month-long trips to Bali. One girl got a brand new Mercedes at the 6-month mark. He literally rained gifts and money on every girl before you... but with you? It's dutch on appetizers.

How would that make you feel? Would you feel like you're being treated worse? Would you feel decieved? Humuliated?

You can't with a straight face tell me that you wouldn’t be upset. I doubt you would just shrug and say “his money, his business, not my concern.” and continue acting the same way towards that man.

Or picture this. You finally get your “dream job” at a company everyone kills for. Six-figure salary, unlimited PTO, corner office... except you find out every previous hire got a 100k signing bonus, company car, and four-day weeks. You? They “changed the policy” the day you started.

That’s the exact feeling many men get when they learn a woman was extremely sexually charitable (acts, enthusiasm, frequency, kinks, etc.) with past partners and not you... When the girl begging for a ring now suddenly “doesn’t do blowjobs,” “hates anal,” “isn’t that sexual anymore,” but used to let fuckboys and Tinder strangers film her choking on it, no dinner, no call-back, just a “thx” and a ghost. Now she expects the current guy to “wife her up,” lock her down with commitment.

The way you’d feel like you ranked lower on a man's provider/investment scale than the girls in his past. A man feels like he's ranked lower on her desire scale than the guys in her past. Men feel “Why was every other guy ‘worth’ that level of sexual generosity but I’m not?” You feel like your not worth what they gave them.

It’s not about “controlling your body.” It’s about not wanting to be the sucker who pays the highest price (lifelong commitment) for the girl who already gave away the deluxe edition for free.

Wanting the best version of your partner sexually, financially, emotionally reserved for someone who actually commits is self-respect not entitlement. Entitlement is expecting a lifetime warranty after giving out test drives to the whole city.

winter_lover28 · 2025-12-09T17:09:43+00:00

There is nothing in the world that makes me feel more desirable than a girl who wants to sleep with me. I would probably sleep with every woman if they wanted to."

Axis_Control · 2025-12-09T14:49:02+00:00

Why does it matter if a woman had sex with a 5 men vs 20, what's the difference? Appart from number obviously.

To me honestly sex with a few seems similar to like 20. Since its probably a similar experience with each one.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-09T13:32:41+00:00

I'm high n count because i care about my future husband. I don't want him to end up with starfish, i want all adventures and wildness for him. So me fucking others is me caring about him.

Popeoath · 2025-12-09T10:06:11+00:00

How do people deny AF/BB when there are guys who are just utterly flat out not allowed to have casual sex or wild kinky sex, yet are still considered fine for relationships?

scwizard · 2025-12-09T05:03:31+00:00

If the issue is just sex why can't betas just have an open marriage and live happily ever after?

ThatBitchA · 2025-12-09T05:02:40+00:00

It's not hard to be good at sex. Which seems like a lot of fear about body count comes down to. Not being able to provide good sex.

Ask questions, listen, and have fun.

TheRedPillRipper · 2025-12-08T22:38:52+00:00

CROSSPOST FROM A TRUE OFF MY CHEST SUB

I genuinely love my fiancé and I'm going to spend the rest of my life with him, but sometimes I quietly fantasize that our sex life is better.

My fiancé is really the best man I have ever met. He is sweet, funny, handsome, intelligent, and he treats me more than well. I love him more than anyone ever. We have been together for almost 6 years, engaged last year and plan to marry in July.
There is only one think that I am a bit sad about, and you can guess it from the title.

Our sex life has never been very good. At the beginning of the relationship, it was even quite bad. Over time, as a result of trial and error and communication, the quality has increased significantly. However, we probably reached a pletau in this matter somewhere after 2-3 years of relationship and it has stayed that way (and not for the lack of trying from both of us, belive me). Don't get me wrong, sex isn't bad, but it is... mediocre.

On paper, everything is fine, we have sex a couple times a week, we both usually have orgasms, my fiancé is very satisfied, but "that something" is just missing. I know it sounds a bit silly, but that's how I feel. I've had other sexual partners in my life and I kind of know how good sex can be. But currently it is usually not. To be honest, at this stage I have already accepted it. As I wrote, I love my fiancé more than anything or anyone, and I've decided that I'm willing to sacrifice great sex for everything else. Despite this, sometimes, like today, I fantasize a little about a better sex life.

(sorry for any weird grammar or errors, english is not my first language)

winter_lover28 · 2025-12-08T18:52:26+00:00

Women with a low body count can also feel insecure when their boyfriend has a high body count; the situation is no different. That is why I believe you should sleep around a lot before a long-term relationship. I am doing the same because finding virgin women or men who you truly like is rare. Therefore, it is best to get your body count as high as possible.

autistic_cool_kid · 2025-12-08T16:10:47+00:00

If men complain that some women settle for guys who are not the best sex they ever had

Then they should push for women to increase their N count

Of course if you fucked 8 guys you won't find a guy with whom sex is 10/10 and who is also relationship material

You need to fuck at least 50 guys for that, probably more.

Desperate-Exit7423 · 2025-12-08T14:30:31+00:00

Wanting a low-N woman is a perfectly reasonable and understandable preference

Muscletov · 2025-12-08T08:59:08+00:00

PPD women. women are entitled to their preferences and standards, even if they are delusinal

Also PPD women: time to berate men for a preference/standard in a dedicated thread for it

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-08T08:02:49+00:00

It's interesting how men teach me about how men are in sex when they fucked 0 straight men.

Popeoath · 2025-12-08T00:35:42+00:00

Women getting offended over porn is a similar to how n-count matters for men.

The man is not dating the pornstar. And in many cases he wouldn't. Her value is purely in providing sexual arousal. He may not even respect her as a person.

Yet the woman is mad that the dude is enticing himself with other women regardless. His sexual interest is supposed to be reserved for her.

Likewise, yes, you are not dating the past hookup guy. You are in a loving relationship with your partner. But he's gonna feel some type of way if that was the last dude you had quick lewd kinky sex with, while he had to wait for missionary.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-07T17:53:41+00:00

Why do men care about what sex acts women has done with other men? I honestly think its none of their business.

I don't start dating a guy and keep thinking about the sex I had with other guys 😵‍💫

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