There is nothing wrong with being single .

gutenshmeis · 2025-06-02T17:40:00+00:00

Men here don't care about being single; they care about not being able to attract women.

Being able to "casually date" as you put it is what many men wish they could do.

backstabber81 · 2025-06-02T17:46:46+00:00

You're right, there's nothing wrong with being single. But saying that you don't want marriage because is divorce is kinda like saying you don't want to live because of death (death is 100% guaranteed btw, divorce isn't), being single because you want to and you love your independence is great, but if you're just scared of relationships that's a different story.

I think there's been a huge shift in how society sees being single, it used to be more frowned upon but these days I think society doesn't push relationships as much. Personally, I don't see my friends in good relationships complaining about their relationships, or my happy single friends complaining about being single, the ones who complain are the ones unhappy with the situation.

No one says fulfillment has to come from a relationship, but if you take a look around this subreddit, there are a lot of people who are bitter about how difficult it is to have a meaningful relationship these days, and sometimes those are guys that have good careers, friends and hobbies but still crave a romantic connection. There's nothing wrong with wanting that, and there's also nothing wrong with not wanting that, but when people don't have what they want, they're more likely to complain.

lesliecarbone · 2025-06-02T17:54:18+00:00

I too enjoy the single life; I only wish I'd embraced it sooner.
Ah, well, live and learn!

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2025-06-02T18:02:00+00:00

The operative word here is chose, men who want a relationship like me to will feel some sadness by not being in one. Although mine is only once in a while like once a year and I would hazard a guess that most people want a committed relationship

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-06-02T18:50:40+00:00

There are many things that are neutral on their own, but can hurt like a motherfucker if you don't get a say in them. Single people aren't (usually) upset at being single, but upset at not being able to opt out of being single.

RelativeYak7 · 2025-06-02T17:40:56+00:00

I just hope you are crystal clear about your intentions with the women you are casually dating bc wasting the time of women during their child bearing years is imo immoral

qwertyuduyu321 · 2025-06-02T17:42:49+00:00

1) having the ability to do something but actively choosing not to is different from not/hardly being able to do smth. Most men fall under the latter

2) it’s proven that most people are most fulfilled and happy in a committed and exclusive relationship.

Sure, outliers always exist but what I write is statistically significant.

There really isn’t more to say.

kratomphysician · 2025-06-02T17:38:49+00:00

It's nice having a long term partner who gives you emotional support. I don't really like casual hookups. But, yeah, getting married as a man is a roll of the dice, so I don't blame anyone for being a committed bachelor

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Tylikcat · 2025-06-02T18:36:18+00:00

Hey, on behalf of all the single childless cat ladies, high five!

Mountain-Floor-7243 · 2025-06-02T18:47:17+00:00

I don’t know why any man would subject himself to dating except as a tax on pussy. There is nothing less interesting than listening to a woman talk about her boring, unimpressive life.

But yes, being forced to structure your life around someone else has its drawbacks.

NiaNia-Data · 2025-06-02T19:17:31+00:00

same energy as "There is nothing wrong with beng a paraplegic with MDS"

Maximiliano-Emiliano · 2025-06-02T19:40:22+00:00

Keep coping bro

stars33d33 · 2025-06-02T19:41:35+00:00

You’re gonna be an old man who died alone because you wanted to be single and casually date . Why would anyone be jealous of that?

throwawaytradesman2 · 2025-06-02T19:43:15+00:00

You are correct. Nothing wrong with being single. There are major risks involved in marriage as well. Leaving a bad marriage, I am surprised to find myself wanting a long term relationship again.

I guess I am a slow learner.

Powerful_Monitor3659 · 2025-06-02T20:19:36+00:00

Projection.

WebNew9978 · 2025-06-02T20:23:52+00:00

Well sure but the main issue is that for a lot of men, they don’t really have much of a choice to stay single or not. They are forced to stay single. With you, it seems like if you do want to be in a relationship you’ll find it somewhat easily. Not to mention how you go on casual dates and probably have hookups once in a while. Try being 30, have no dating experience, still a virgin and can’t do anything about to change it like me and see how you would feel. I bet it would be different than the way you feel about it now.

bzl33 · 2025-06-02T18:58:07+00:00

American society is centered around having a family. I don't think it's a problem being single, I enjoy it too, but you are living in a suboptimal way by doing so. I also think that most people would benefit from having a family vs. being alone.

but do what you want. I think single people spend a lot more time trying to rationalize their choices vs. married people tbh.

RareBasis9710 · 2025-06-02T19:28:58+00:00

I hated being single. Love being married.

Title	There is nothing wrong with being single .
Author	Crazy-Horror8271
Upvotes	8
Comments	95
Date	June 2, 2025 5:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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