This has been on the back of my mind for a long time. I am a firm believer that the way the online sphere complains about women is overblown. Specifically, the being extra picky with looks, promiscuous, shallow, hoeflation, etc... I think the vast majority of women fit within the median or below of partner count life (around 7) and just date the men around them. Through work, guys they meet through friends, class, uni clubs or events, the occasional guy that cold approaches just right (an old friend of mine is currently dating a guy that shot his shot at the gym actually).

Most women report hating OLD. Most women are long-term dating strategy minded. Despite popular belief, most people still meet in person (according to pewresearch). A vast majority of the women in my life are like this, the ones I grew up with or the friends I made in college or women I met at work. Or even ones I meet randomly while practicing cold approach (I used to be in pickup) that tell me how they met their BF. They're just dating the cutest or most charming guys they met around them. The "contextual" alpha as it were, even if that guy ain't shit in the grand scheme of things.

I think where reality can be warped is that (sorry single ladies) the "effective" dating market is the women with the higher partner counts and the more sexually outgoing ones. Because the average woman is in an LTR with an organically met man.

The ones left over are going to be on apps or clubs or just have a different set of standards than meeting organically in person. I remember watching a podcast of this blackpiller admitting to this too, that most women aren't actually these manopshere caricatures but that the ones left for single men in the current market are the ones that consistently going out to clubs or on dating apps. Which are going to be women with the standards/character qualities that we complain about. This is true for me as well in my personal life, the women that were on apps or at clubs all the time were nothing but trouble lol or just have the dumbest standards I've ever heard of. It's just not the majority of women, and that's my biggest problem when I hear men talk on here talk about this. It's that we're left with the women above a certain median threshold of inputs, and those are at the more sexually charged locations (apps and clubs) that tend to be more shallow (they're shallow for a reason, it's the people). Especially given how society has failed at giving us organic social locations with social continuity and context like college post-college/high school.

You can probably cut through this with a good enough social network that will grant you access to the women that are more "normal" when they are single or just cold approaching a bunch. Or just finding a social location that gives the same parameters as college like a church. But yeah man, having only access to bars and clubs/apps to meet women is a nightmare lol. You gotta be extra shallow and play into that in those areas and often times results vary wildly. If you get any results at all. They definitely suck for finding a long term partner which I'm generally looking for. Hope I made sense.

TL;DR: the vast majority of women are not the manopsphere caricature of being shallow hoes but the ones left for us to go for kind of are to some extent.