What do you see as "Men's Issues"

EulenWatcher · 2025-01-05T16:12:06+00:00

Men have worse stats in suicide, addictions, homelessness and crime committing.
Male DV victims and rape survivors have very limited if no resources. They usually can't get help from the police either, as they risk being arrested themselves.
Men who were raped and whose rapists got pregnant still have to pay child support.
A lack of male contraception besides condoms and vasectomy.
Men ignore their health, and often suffer from untreated preventable conditions as a result.
Men experience higher pressure to confirm to their gender role.
Men are still expected to initiate dating, although dating "rules" got far murkier and less clear than they used to be.
There are more ND men than women, and they have their own set of problems linked to it.
Conscription and draft.

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-01-05T16:44:05+00:00

The male loneliness epidemic. For sure. Not in the context of romantic relationships but the fact they really don't have emotional outlets besides romantic relationships. And they lack a healthy community. Sure Red Pill and blame women for their problems spaces exist. But blaming a whole group of people for WHY you are lonely and suffering is not it.

Male normative alexithymia. Some men blame autism or neurodivergence. But a lot of men just don't understand their emotions. And can communicate those emotions. Men only are encouraged to show certain emotions but suppress others. And it is a socialization issue. I think if men have healthy emotional outlets and can understand their emotions. Which is why I think men have a higher rates or violence and issues with empathy. And have a lack of emotional awareness.

Men's lack of purpose. I think a lot of men cling to traditional gender roles because it gives them purpose. "Provider" "protector" "the man leads". They attach meaning to their sense of masculinity and identity to external things. And when those external things aren't all lining up they fall through the cracks lose ambition.

Lack of mens approach to therapy. The standard of therapy is more women's based. So telling someone who doesn't understand or can process their emotions to process their emotions. Is just unproductive. And a lot of men opt out of therapy or say it doesn't work because therapists don't have much to work with. So instead having a more specialized approach that can help men and tackle their unique sets of needs. Without harping on about how women do this or that. Would be so beneficial for them.

Gravel_Roads · 2025-01-05T16:26:01+00:00

Mental health - men have not yet begun to campaign nearly as hard as they should for both society to question WHY men are still pushed to be “tough” and “rational” when being able to acknowledge and express emotions as you feel them is infinitely more healthy on a body, AS WELL as society is not offering as much available help as men need.

Being “dangerous” - Men are seen as dangerous; we aren’t pushing back against this nearly as hard as we should. Partly, we should be DOGPILING on men who justify their explosions of anger as “being a man”, but we also should be challenging systems that assume men behave worse than women (like in paying extra on car insurance, or longer prison sentences.)

There are others but these ones I feel pretty strongly about.

meisterkraus · 2025-01-05T17:16:23+00:00

50/50 custody

Automatic parental rights

Lack of reproductive rights

Mental health bais

Social pressure to provide for others

Social pressure to protect others

Society saying getting women/laid is equal to worth

These seem to be the biggest to me.

Dry_Grab_3874 · 2025-01-06T00:41:28+00:00

Uhh... okay, I'll give you a list:

Custody court cases being skewed in the woman's favour
Male loneliness epidemic
High rates of depression and suicide
Men being ridiculed for seeking mental health support, being sexually assaulted, and other fallouts of toxic masculinity
The rise of gambling, porn, and phone addiction
Body shaming
Being excluded from the abortion debate socially
Struggling to conform to masculine expectations
Men being the most common victims (and perpretrators) of violent crimes

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Tylikcat · 2025-01-05T19:49:24+00:00

The education gap, and all the career and other things that fall out of it.

Goonerlouie · 2025-01-05T21:34:05+00:00

Apart from some great ones mentioned already, an overall sense of purpose is disappearing. Leading men to latch onto anything they can (manosphere, women hating) to feel that purpose.

Not helping that many male dominated roles will be replaced by AI/robots/automation.

I see the problem getting worse before it gets better

Kat_ri · 2025-01-06T00:16:13+00:00

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Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-01-06T14:04:49+00:00

Decentering sex and female approval, in order to become mentally functional in modern society

I don’t see it happening, frankly, and I’m not surprised as to why

It’s always easier to place your life into other people’s hands

grasso86 · 2025-01-07T06:55:58+00:00

I am still learning however this is my understanding currently:

Mental health, alot of aspects of men's lives starting all the way from childhood can create poor mental health. Adding into this I also believe that men's voicing of typical therapy solutions to not be successful should NOT be dismissed. Therapy can be a great tool I am sure and I am sure it helps for certain men but I have heard plenty of men state that current forms of therapy were not helpful to them. This should not be ignored. If current methods are not helping then new methods should be developed. I have shared before my experience with a MMA gym that had a free training program for troubled youth. It was largely utilized by frustrated, stressed and disadvantaged young men. The older male instructors essentially acted as mentors. Maybe some men would prefer trying something like that. It is just one idea, I am sure there are other types of programs that could be implemented. The suicide rate should be an obvious signal that something is not working.
The school system. I have heard plenty of men vocalize the struggle in the school system which I don't doubt because I think it is quite flawed and needs updating. Again I do not think this should be dismissed as a fault with boys. That does not seem logical. The logical answer is that the school system needs improvements. I am no expert on that and I am not saying I have the answers, however when a large amount of voices are pointing out a problem area it should be listened to, not dismissed.
A negative view or idea of what masculinity is. I am no expert on masculinity however, I do know what it is like to have femininity viewed in a negative way. That makes no sense to me, so it also makes no sense that masculinity should be negative. Again in my mind logically there should be a positive version of masculinity. It seems like people are confused on what that is.

BlueAndYellowTowels · 2025-02-25T06:20:57+00:00

From my world view “Men’s Issues” aren’t real. This notion that somehow we are at the butt end of a system is wild to me. The system was built for us, by us to enrich and protect us. To keep us patriarchal and competitive. For us to always be competing against one another because that’s what props up the system.

Men have no issues. Their hardships tend to measure in lowest terms when you place them in aggregate in the grand scheme.

Men, overwhelmingly make up serial killers, spree shooters, terrorists and criminals.

If there is a “Men’s Issues” the issue is this: why the proclivity towards violence?

That would be my response. I came to this place after just talking to listening to women in my life. Every. Single. Woman. In my life, has either suffered a sexual assault or attempted assault or sexual harassment. Every one of them. From my grandmothers to my nieces…

There’s definitely a “Men’s Issue” there and it’s why the fuck do they feel entitled to women’s bodies?

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