Former slut is worried that her high partner count (20+) will turn off her boyfriend. Commenters in r/AskWomen yell "You go girl!!" and encourage her to lie about her number.

Labore_Et_Constantia · 2014-04-13T23:19:31+00:00

I know we all like the lock/key analogy, but this one (found on this awesome sub) is up there as well as to why the number DOES matter:

http://imgur.com/3edQoQO

2comment · 2014-04-14T02:08:40+00:00

The women there are hilarious. Telling her she's changed so much even she echos it:

I am not okay with it. I had a very rough freshman year. The freedom of college kinda got to me. And it came out in the form sleeping with guys at parties.

So both my opinion has changed and if i could do it again I would not have done some of those encounters.

So how old is this "changed", more "mature" lady with 20 partner count that won't be doing such things again because she learned? 27? 25? 23? Nope, 20.

And just last month she posted about waking up in a guy's bed she just met and what she should do. Taking the blowjob suggestion to heart.

And then askwomen post that she might like giving blowjobs too much.

And just recently the best clothed selfie where her cleavage was the star attraction. Attention whore or troll or both. If for real, this all new woman will probably slip and fall on 150+ cocks by 25.

When a woman tells you she's changed, pump and dump, and tell her to go change someplace else.

rporion · 2014-04-13T22:00:08+00:00

Why, if the number is not important, do they lie about it?

puaSenator · 2014-04-13T23:24:57+00:00

If it will ruin his opinion of you, is he a guy you want around?

Heaven forbid men having standards. Obviously the type of man that refuses to date a massive slut is clearly not dating material. All men should be perfectly happy getting tied down once she's off the carousel.

Humansteaks03 · 2014-04-13T23:43:51+00:00

The 15th comment is great, "it shouldn't matter. source: a guy who's number is zero". Classic.

AuctionSniper · 2014-04-13T21:53:23+00:00

"Former"?

I know this sounds stupid, but people say it's none of his business, but why is it okay to tell your friends (or anonymous people) how many partners you have slept with, but not your boyfriend(s)?

realniggasstandup · 2014-04-14T00:40:24+00:00

20 something number?

no big deal. people have sex with other people, casually. that is life. as long as you are clean and safe, then good on ya.

don't tell him if you want (although that may make him think on his own, and it may leave worse image than reality) to, but it really isn't anything to be ashamed of.

source: guy who has slept with zero people

LLmao

this white knight still ain't getting laid no matter how white his armor shines

nporwal · 2014-04-14T02:01:56+00:00

AskWomen is a joke sub:

20 something number?

no big deal. people have sex with other people, casually. that is life. as long as you are clean and safe, then good on ya.

don't tell him if you want (although that may make him think on his own, and it may leave worse image than reality) to, but it really isn't anything to be ashamed of.

source: guy who has slept with zero people

vandaalen · 2014-04-14T08:37:34+00:00

I honestly don't understand why you would want to ask for her amount of whoring.

There is nothing you can gain by knowing it. They are all lying about it. They will at least not include the ones that they think do not count. Blowjobs, holiday sex, meaningless sex, whatever their hamster can come up with.

Also you can not change a thing about it.

That you care so much just tells me, that you still don't get it.

Don't assume a woman is a unicorn until she proves otherwise. Assume that they are all sluts. Period.

toysjoe · 2014-04-13T23:24:00+00:00

"How do I approach telling a guy my number if I'm not proud of it?"

Post in /r/AskMen = receive advice/shaming

Post in /r/AskWomen = receive validation

Rehydrate · 2014-04-14T04:45:23+00:00

"It's really none of his business".

If I'm sticking one of my most prized possessions inside of you, then you best tell me how many other dicks have been in there before I waste any of my time on a relationship with you.

newbie3hunna · 2014-04-14T02:24:24+00:00

It comes down to the fact that these sluts have no will power what so ever. I mean their family doesn't want them to whore around, usually neither do their friends. They know it will lower their value and they are taking a huge risk of getting STDs. They just plain don't give a fuck, they think they can get away with it. Simple as that, they think they can ride as many dudes as they want and still be a "good girl" at the drop of a hat.

The issue comes up when they are with a guy who appears high value and has standards. Maybe he has made comments they have picked up on that makes them realize he won't be okay with it. That he will question how the fuck it is even possible without her just fucking at least 10 randoms (spoiler:she did). They realize that telling the truth isn't an option and that in reality the man they want would think they are a disgusting whore if they were honest.

This is when the regret comes in, only after they realize they can't get away with it.

Lipophobicity · 2014-04-14T04:54:10+00:00

I'm becoming convinced that women on this site drive up Red Pill subs more than we are.

safewinter · 2014-04-14T03:46:57+00:00

Aren't these the same people who think honesty is the core principle in a relationship? I guess it doesn't apply if it negatively effects women, like most things.

mr_throwz · 2014-04-14T00:38:35+00:00

TL;DR /r/AskWomen is full of sluts who slept around in their early 20's and are now lying about their past in the hopes of finding LTR. Hamsters gonna hamster.

RackballWilly · 2014-04-14T07:21:11+00:00

To be brief....Cant turn a hoe into a housewife

TL;DR = Cant Turn a Hoe into a Housewife

JP_Whoregan · 2014-04-14T14:48:03+00:00

No such thing as a "former slut".

animea90 · 2014-04-13T22:32:03+00:00

If someone actually thinks that their number isn't their partners business, then they aren't reformed.

raceAround126 · 2014-04-14T06:25:46+00:00

My (male) friend's number happened to come out after he got married. He's in his 35+.

He is so much under the thumb now after his wife threw the biggest hamster fit you could ever imagine! She made him go get STD tested, she threatened divorce, the works!

The funny thing is, I happen to know she slept around plenty during her university years, just before she dropped out!

But whatever. He's happy now - in his people carrier and her still belittling him in front of us.

Weird how an alpha can fall.

sway_usa · 2014-04-14T01:45:20+00:00

Your employer can judge your loyalty by your work history. A company offering credit can asses your potential by checking your credit history. People can judge your character by your past actions, with regards to charity and deeds. A woman can assess your potential to cheat by your cheating history.

Why do women continue to believe that sexual history is the only type of history that has literally no effect on your future?

trudatness · 2014-04-14T01:35:50+00:00

I thought it was already accepted as fact that women commonly lie about their number.

TheStoneyVibes · 2014-04-14T06:02:28+00:00

Did you guys see the guy chiming in with his whiteknighting two cents and saying 20 something dudes is no big deal and his source is that he's slept with zero people? Jesus

wakingslowdiver · 2014-04-14T12:10:34+00:00

if the red pill has taught me anything, it is to never marry a slut

guy is a virgin --'get away from me you creep' 'Lol neckbeard'

girl is a ho -- 'dont judge her shitlord' 'everybody has a past'

LURKERS TAKE NOTE

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T05:09:04+00:00

"4) it's really not any of his business

5) most mature people understand that as we grow older sometimes we change our attitudes and behaviors and if you truly feel like a different person who wouldn't do the things you've done in the past- just say that. Be like "I used to be a lot more interested in experimenting and casual sex but that's not really my jam anymore." No need to touch on numbers."

Found the slut. Of course its his business. Not only is it possible he doesnt want to be with a massive whore, but also he may be worried about things like STDs, etc.

MockingDead · 2014-04-14T05:13:58+00:00

Lol. You go girl, you should be proud! Except you shouldn't.

Cross_of_Coronado · 2014-04-14T09:06:57+00:00

1) it's really not any of his business

2) stop shaming yourself and feeling like you need to apologize for your experiences. even if you regret past experiences, don't project that onto others. if you don't regret these past experiences, what are you apologizing for anyway?

3) think of this as a great litmus test. you don't deserve to be mistreated based on your sexual history and any one who reacts poorly may not be a good match for you.

4) it's really not any of his business

5) most mature people understand that as we grow older sometimes we change our attitudes and behaviors and if you truly feel like a different person who wouldn't do the things you've done in the past- just say that. Be like "I used to be a lot more interested in experimenting and casual sex but that's not really my jam anymore." No need to touch on numbers.

Hamster-Level: Jedi-Master

RedBigMan · 2014-04-13T22:28:27+00:00

I typically assume women will lie about partner count and apply the rule of 3. Any number she says should be multiplied by 3.

She says she's fucked 3 guys in her lifetime the odds are she's had 9. If she says she's fucked 20 guys then it's more likely she fucked 60.

johnnight · 2014-04-14T07:45:44+00:00

Sometimes I wonder, if they are trolling people on purpose in that sub. They are giving Feel Good Malicious Advice, like:

1) it's really not any of his business

2) stop shaming yourself and feeling like you need to apologize for your experiences. even if you regret past experiences

Feel Good Validation.

just say that. Be like "I used to be a lot more interested in experimenting and casual sex but that's not really my jam anymore." No need to touch on numbers.

Malicious advice.

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T12:41:18+00:00

I made a post on /r/askwomen dealing with this subject just recently. The consensus seems to be:

-if you care about number, you're a misogynist, slut-shamer, and asshole

-there are plenty of good reasons to have casual sex, like... well, just use your imagination!

-past behavior is not predictive of future behavior; get your so-called "studies" out of here

Had this question been flipped around, with a girl worrying about her future husband's partner count, I'm certain the responses would have been wildly different. Men aren't allowed to have standards that conflict with secular status quo.

richardnorth · 2014-04-14T16:11:30+00:00

All the whores telling her not to tell her number would lose their shit if ever a guy withheld information from them.

csmass · 2014-04-14T03:22:27+00:00

These people saying it is ok are pathetic. It is not ok. We biologically are not meant to fuck 20+ partners in our lives, however, it is her choice and if he doesn't want to be with her he doesn't have to be.

loner7 · 2014-04-14T08:05:09+00:00

I wonder how she would react if she found out her boyfriend lied when he told her he wasn't a virgin. Oh fuck.

scamper_22 · 2014-04-14T15:26:21+00:00

Yeah, as always, the issue is that men do not learn how to deal with women.

Man wants an answer - were you a slut? He wants to know this to determine if she is worth being with. If she says yes or her history says yes, he very well might leave her.

A woman who is a slut getting asked that question knows he might not take it well and break up with her. However, she believes this is silly as he loves her as is and wants to be with her. Why would she let a fact or history get in the way of a good thing for both him and her? She does not care what he wants or about the truth. She only cares about what makes them happy and she knows what her wants more than he does.

The problem is today's men (and my old self) were led to believe that men and women are the same, when the vast majority are not. Men care more on average about things like truth, justice, virtues, respect... Women care more about comfort, sympathy...

redderthanpurple · 2014-04-14T12:33:07+00:00

Of course she is worried.

We should never look down on a woman who is fulfilling and following her biology. This is what they are. Truly, no woman you meet, greet, fuck, or are in familial relationship with has NOT been through this. The only difference is how well she managed to hide it.

Where as we men are encouraged to flaunt our numbers due to the society we live in and our human biology, they in turn HAVE to hide it. It is their biology. They CANNOT help it. Any woman, young, old, pretty, ugly , fat w/e MUST hide her numbers.

You are a fool of the highest degree if you think the bitch you are courting is never had a dick or never gobbled wilfully and wantonly on a dick. They ALL have by the time they are 18.

If you want a true virgin and cannot handle that kind of bitch who has had 1-3 cocks, you better pursue them when they have not yet reached high school.

The only thing a guy this age can hope for is a girl around 19-22 who has had less than 4 dicks in her. Any less is a freaking unicorn, but then they come with their own side of issues/problems.

In any case, fuck bitches, if they are totally smitten by you and during the dating time you find out (confirm) they have a low NR count and you meet her family which has a strong hold on her. Fuck it, make it an LTR because you will almost never again find that kind of bitch.

RedFlagsAreGood · 2014-04-14T15:45:23+00:00

Did anyone else notice this honest question:

A lot of women on this sub say they wouldn't date a guy who's been with a prostitute. Do you think that's any different?

and completely hypocritical answer?

I'm one of those women.

It's a bit different, because it shows you viewed sex as transactional, broke the law, and potentially enabled sex trafficking or had sex with someone who wasn't completely consenting.

I'm not an advocate of troll posts, but if someone were to go there claiming to be worried that his history of visiting prostitutes will turn off his new girlfriend, I'd understand.

trpfieldreport · 2014-04-14T16:36:01+00:00

I am not okay with it. I had a very rough freshman year. The freedom of college kinda got to me. And it came out in the form sleeping with guys at parties.

Classic hamster.

"I had the most thrilling year of riding the carousel, but now that I realize it makes me look like a slut, I will remember it as a "tough time" when I was "finding myself". It's not my fault for being an epic slut.. I had too much freedom."

It's so hamster, it's hilarious.

ASK_ABOUT_MY_SPECIAL · 2014-04-14T08:21:52+00:00

It's like a battered wife shelter support group over there without the battered wives.

silverfox007 · 2014-04-14T05:44:43+00:00

"If an explanation that you have changed your view about sex (I assume to match his, else you wouldn't be worried about it) isn't enough for him, then I don't think he'd be worth the trouble. If he doesn't believe you about it, then he obviously has issues."

So if I have a relationship with a NEW person, and they tell me they have been with 30 ppl but that was in the past and have changed (she's 20 btw). I have issues if I don't necessarily trust them? I'm investing time, energy, and money and possibly more, I would like to know what I'm getting into.

Ghost131313 · 2014-04-14T04:17:08+00:00

It's okay for a women to fuck 20+ guys, but if a guy doesn't want to take a turn with her gonorrhea invested pussy, he's seen as the bad guy? Really?

You can't have it both ways; sluts can ride the cock carousel as long as they want, but don't expect a dude to put his dick in grimy pussy just because you wanna "settle down" with him or want a "relationship" with him. He's allowed to judge, to pick and choose.

Our society has to understand what equality really is and realize that no part of the feminism or " the women's empowerment" movement cares about equality. Only that they should be allowed to dictate how a relationship between a man and women should work. Well fuck that. You can suck a patriarchal dick.

cooltrip · 2014-04-14T12:39:26+00:00

There is a red pill for healing this disease too. Here you have the recipe:

1º) Pour some water into a teacup.

2º) Add some sugar, because the final compound will taste bitter otherwise, and it'll be difficult to swallow.

3º) Add five teaspoons of "Don't take any effort for her; let her take all the imaginable efforts and begging to deserve your acceptance; make her take much more efforts and begging than she surely took for any other man before, in order to deserve your acceptance; make her solve the problem by herself".

4º) Stir well.

5º) Drink.

6º) Profit.

poopyhitlerballs · 2014-04-14T12:43:02+00:00

I love all the "no big deal!" "Having 20 different men's cocks inside you is nothing!" comments. Its not like there is a correlation between high numbers of sexual partners and divorce. Oh, and there's this sexually transmitted disease that could possibly compromise your immune system and lead to a horrific wasting death. No big deal!

krystyin · 2014-04-14T00:42:24+00:00

Since you posted about something from /r/askwomen I assume you are now banned. They are very sensitive about things trp posts - they are watching us thinking we are some women movement(wtf).

noblepaladin · 2014-04-14T15:37:36+00:00

Former?

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T12:31:26+00:00

I honestly wonder how women have the time for this kind of shit. I mean, seriously. I consider myself moderate successful sexually; what I want, I tend to get. With that in mind, I'm nearly 21 and have had 5 partners. As a student, that's all I've had time for. Man, if she spent all the time she spent dick hunting reading instead, I bet she'd be an expert in her field instead of an expert in getting plowed.

colovick · 2014-04-14T22:43:33+00:00

I normally agree with the sentiments here, but as someone who tritely isn't bothered by how many docks were in a girl before mine, why do you expect higher standards from your partner then yourself, in the case of settling down, which most people end up doing... I go into a relationship or whatnot expecting to not be the best she's ever had in any respect... I expect to be a serviceable replacement or not see her again, but it's hardly likely you'll have the biggest dick, last the longest, give her the most intense orgasm... The disconnect just didn't make logical sense to me... Anyone have an explanation or counter point for me?

LOLunlucky · 2014-04-14T04:41:24+00:00

I've posted this before, and I know it isn't a popular opinion here but I'm going to give my take on this. Look at my post history if you think I'm whiteknighting, I'm not.

My preference is for girls that have some experience. The talent of lots of girls in bed is pretty poor; give me one who knows what shes doing. I don't want to be teaching someone how to be decent in bed, or one who is afraid of a dick.

I'd much rather be with someone who has been with 30 guys than 3. I'd say anything over 40 is pushing it pretty hard for mid-20s, but 20 is probably about average or maybe even a little bit under average.

I love TRP, and it's done wonders for my outlook on life, but I've never understood the huge deal about girls that have been around the block a bit.

Realworld · 2014-04-14T01:21:58+00:00

TIL: I've had 20+ women so apparently I'm a male slut. Or does that only apply to women?

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T02:02:12+00:00

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iluminatiNYC · 2014-04-14T10:19:38+00:00

I'm going to be controversial here and say partner counts are overrated. I'm not saying they don't matter at all, but they are a symptom, not a cause. A high number count requires that you should ask more questions about a woman, but the same issues that lead to a high number count could just as well lead to a low number count as well. Pay attention people. :)

ploder · 2014-04-13T21:53:03+00:00

Correct response to "what's ur number of partners" is "none of your business."

MoldyClownSuit · 2014-04-14T02:01:33+00:00

Why does it matter? I shouldnt care how many men a woman has slept with just like women shouldn't care how many woman I've slept with. It's actually not important information to anyone at all..

Title	Former slut is worried that her high partner count (20+) will turn off her boyfriend. Commenters in r/AskWomen yell "You go girl!!" and encourage her to lie about her number.
Author	needsomehelp3211
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Comments	207
Date	April 13, 2014 9:49 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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