Just lost a plate to erectile dysfunction

delusionalubermensch · 2021-07-27T22:31:02+00:00

It’s the mindset around sex. For me it has helped in finding women who I am truly attracted to and who I feel safe being vulnerable with. It’s about comfort and being ok with failing. The anxiety of needing perfection really messes with it. The fear of losing them and being embarrassed just becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Let yourself fail to learn. It sucks but it’s the only way besides drugs and being stuck in manipulation due to fear forever. Take the pressure off. Find people who are understanding and who create an emotional environment of play and acceptance.

oooKenshiooo · 2021-07-27T22:18:42+00:00

TBH, If a girl started planning our future after barely knowing me, my dick would go flaccid in self defense.

But jokes aside, have you ever entertained the notion that despite you believing you were into her... Maybe you weren't? Maybe not really, beyond superficial appearance?

I have been some model tier girls with porn star skills, but looking back on it, they didnt really excite me much. I found them conventionally attractive, but only from an internalized societal perspective.

In the other hand, some girls who probably look like plain Jane to most people excited me to no end and I fucked them three times a night.

Sometimes maturing also means accepting you don't have to fuck every girl and being okay with not being turned on and excited by a girl.

There have been times were I was just genuinely not feeling it and called things off, stating the matter. I know I would have felt like shit if I had powered through skimming through my back log of hot encounters in my head.

As for you problem:

If I was worried I could not get it up,I would usually edge before certain dates. There was usually no way to not be hard when the time came.

So, all in all, don't worry. It is part of the journey. Who cares what some girl have forgotten about in a few years thinks.

Vacation_Rare · 2021-07-27T22:06:43+00:00

It has happened to me too. I feel you. Stay strong. Porn is the cause. Not just tube sites, all of it. Instagram hot models too.

p3n1x · 2021-07-28T01:20:05+00:00

she wanted me in her that bad.

No, not exactly. She dominated you, period. From the start.

Subconsciously this intimidates a lot of guys. It also turns you off, knowing you have zero frame and control of the relationship.

Then you brain fucked yourself into ED.

flooring_inspector · 2021-07-28T04:17:24+00:00

As an older guy, I promise, it wasn’t ED. And it’s not fapping, and it’s not porn. Your head wasn’t into her, and it might be just that one time wasn’t right, and it might be she isn’t right. I’ve had rock hard sex with girls I date and gone limp halfway, and usually the issue is that I have someone else on my mind or the sex isn’t going how I want.

Latest case was a chick who’s pretty hot but a little older than most girls I date and has started doing the lip injections and has big fake tits. She’s pretty, and I like her, and we’ve fucked a few times where I was rock hard. But there’s been a couple times where that stuff gets in my head and I lose the hard-on.

You’re fine. Get back out there.

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2021-07-27T21:28:38+00:00

Best potential fuck of my life and I had a similar issue. Nothing will get you to quit cold turkey like going limp at the wrong time.

Powerfucking5000 · 2021-07-28T00:27:42+00:00

it was just a flaccid chode.

Poetic. This is a description of many men in the U.S.

coucoulavie · 2021-07-28T11:51:57+00:00

Did you get the covid vaccine ?

swagwisegamggee · 2021-07-27T20:34:32+00:00

It's porn dude that shit is the devil as far as your winky is concerned

brianmcg321 · 2021-07-28T01:59:12+00:00

Flaccid Chode would be a good name for a band.

what-day-is-it · 2021-07-27T22:30:11+00:00

Let me share something maybe others can relate, I do watch porn every 2 to 3 days, what I've experienced with a recent FWB(I cut it off, she was a single mom and was starting to become a crazy bitch), I was taking a long time to cum, I'm somewhat but not super experienced, the girl was pretty crazy about me too constantly saying how she longed for me for a year and giving compliments constantly, but even when being hard as fuck, either she was sucking or we were fucking it took me at least 30-40 minutes to cum even if my plan was to cum after 10 minutes I'd still end up delaying everything (also each time i was no fap for 3+ days).

One time with a condom it straight up went flaccid inside her and I felt like shit, but after removing the condom and she sucked it I managed.. I think its about your state of mind and the more you pressure yourself to hurry the less likely it will work.

Would love to hear some other people's stories.

xDoshyx · 2021-07-28T05:52:33+00:00

The very first time I was to have sex I got erectile dysfunction. On the cusp of losing my virginity and you know how I reacted? I started laughing. 23 years old never had sex and I started fucking laughing. The reason being was because I knew in my heart that everything was going to be fine. After reading all these redpill posts and other videos on youtube I drilled into myself that no matter what happened to me I was going to be just fine. Long story short the girl didn't lose interest and I ended up losing my virginity the following week. I was actually more proud of my self for how I reacted during the bout of ED than losing my V-card. If that had been a year earlier I probably would have fucking cried.

ZachMeadows · 2021-07-28T09:17:12+00:00

All the older guys here saying it like it is. You just realised that sex isn't a on/off switch, even for men.

When there's is no chemistry, whatever the reason, you don't get hard.

Plus when a chick is too assertive in the bedroom, I get flaccid too. I don't like being passive. Maybe I can learn to like it, but for now it is just boring.

Leif- · 2021-07-27T20:41:01+00:00

I have lost my erection to overly eager girls before. So much so that I don't engage with women like that anymore. I am naturally dominant and my arousal process requires that I initiate and am in constant control.

A lot of guys without serious ED issues lose their erection while being ridden. I'd avoid that position for a bit.

talkywalkysmokie · 2021-07-27T23:08:17+00:00

It happened to me with multiple women. It sucks, yes.

But to feel emasculated and failure is just stupid. Erection is not something you can control, and with todays stress levels many guys have problems achieving one.

If she doesn't want to stick around because you have some issues, shes better gone. Put yourself first and stop caring about someone (some hoe) who doesn't care for you. If her pussy didn't work somehow you would probably stick around still.

If it happens a lot, try fapping less.

Defiant_Mess5346 · 2021-07-27T20:21:29+00:00

Try no fap, no porn, and 5 mg cialis daily

RP_utiliser · 2021-07-27T20:39:23+00:00

Have the same problem but due to accutane. I take viagra sometimes or let them suck me and finger the shit out of them. Usually it’s something like 70% fingering and 30% dick while I take the time to heal from that poisonous drug. It’s life.

Zech4riah · 2021-07-28T11:01:44+00:00

we were fucking at 3AM and after half an hour it died down again.

You managed to fuck/stay hard 30 minutes but you didn't nut? That's not ED dude.

_do_not_read_this_ · 2021-07-28T13:19:40+00:00

stop all porn
learn to breathe. I find that dirty-talking quietly during the deed helps a lot.
stop all porn. that means no bikini pictures on instabook, "R" rated movies, anything even remotely sex-related.
stop all porn
shit happens don't worry about it.

Vitamina_Del · 2021-07-27T20:21:15+00:00

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is my biggest flaw. If it wasn’t for this flaw, I’d be having 4 girls or more that would want to fuck on a consistent basis.

Cut out all porn out of your life, exercise, drink water. And don’t relapse while you’re at it.

MotiMorphosys · 2021-07-27T23:39:29+00:00

GoodRX app has a program where you can get a prescription for generic Cialis by chatting with a bot doctor on the app for $30 and the pills are like $15.

Shit works.

Cialis takes time to work (peaks at around 24-48 hours after taking the pill, then dies down) so if you have a date Friday, take one Thursday night.

It makes all of your boners much harder though so your morning wood will be almost painfully throbbing FYI.

Doesn't make it any easier to cum so stop the porn.

MisterNavit · 2021-07-27T21:38:10+00:00

Sounds like she was the erectile dysfunction. She sounds like the most basic and boring bitch I ever heard of. I wouldn't worry about it. It's fine to check your hormonal health, but you are growing up and so are your tastes. And it sounds like you have plenty of experience too, which might take the excitement out of it. A pair of tits aren't enough to hold your interest anymore, it seems. It could also be stress due to school.

thegreyone3000 · 2021-07-27T20:31:01+00:00

This is either because you beat it too often (which is why you shouldn’t really jerk off to porn) or it could be you just wasn’t into her? 🤷🏻‍♂️

Mustang1011 · 2021-07-27T22:30:24+00:00

I don’t see the humiliation. You were just too excited. Nothing to be ashamed of. It’s happened to every dude at least once in some way shape or form. Give yourself time to get over it before you try again so you don’t psyche yourself out. A lot of ED is mental so just chill out and learn to accept it happens. Once you reach an abundance mindset that you don’t care, it’ll never happen again.

Also don’t try to hook up with chicks you’re not attracted to as a way to get back on board.

Nihat_A · 2021-07-28T08:44:42+00:00

I'm in a quite a similar situation right now with a different type of girl. After it happened the first time I just decided to cut off porn, fapping, stupid IG models and everything visual and unnatural. Now I focus heavily in my lifting and super healthy diet. I'm in the same age as you're and I'd say it's 70% fucking porn and fapping, 30% anxiety that comes from porn and fapping. Going to meet her soon and fuck her brain out.
But I'd say the reason she went very cold suddenly wasn't because she didn't get the dick, it was your reaction to it, as you said you felt emasculated and she sensed that fucking weakness bro. Whatever shit you go through own it as a man, don't give a shit and don't lose your confidence, outcome will be much different.

dmoney212 · 2021-07-28T00:45:42+00:00

Dude literally the same fucking shit happened to me a few months ago. Girl was a keeper too. Whatever tho just gotta get more plates and keep pushing!

TyranaSoreWristWreck · 2021-07-28T09:22:10+00:00

I've noticed that it usually has to do with my diet. If I'm eating a lot of lean things like just chicken and broccoli, I will lose weight but also watch my libido go down. If I start eating carbs again while I'm lifting, libido skyrockets. Vitamin D absorbed through the skin by way of sunlight also plays a pretty huge role.

Get outside. Do some deadlifting. Eat some carbs. It'll make your dick hard.

ex_addict_bro · 2021-07-28T19:43:55+00:00

Came here to say what already other commenters said. Lots of wisdom in those threads.

Looks like your dick and your subconsciousness saved you. I was much younger and had no trouble with sex but I remember a particular situation when I lost erection immediately and that's not an understatement.

Stop berating yourself. Perhaps there are other things that you aren't consciously aware of (but luckily your dick is).

You're young guy so you probably aren't yet in the place to say "fuck this", fuck propaganda, fuck society etc. Who taught you that men always must be this and that?

redditisnowtrash · 2021-07-31T19:07:13+00:00

Yeah same thing happened to me years ago. I was ashamed about it at first but examined the situation a little later. Porn definitely didn't help my situation at all, nothing can ever compare to the filth that our minds get attracted to.

I was also super into how hot the girl was but she would say fucking weird things sometimes and just be super cold at other times. My brain couldn't get attracted to her as much as I wanted to fuck her.

She one day just pulled my pants off and tried to get me to mouthfuck her. It didn't work at all since there was no build up and it just went from random conversation to her forcing my junk in her face.

I felt so shamed by it afterwards and felt less like a man but then I realized that I also have standards when it comes to getting with girls.

We just want another notch on our belts because why the fuck not right? Sometimes our brains let us know to watch the fuck out. Just my two whatevers.

magicmutley · 2021-07-27T22:03:12+00:00

Probably more in your head then anything else, a bad experience and you overthink it on subsequent fucks and you lose your boner. No fap is fucking stupid, jerking off to porn unless you sit and watch it 12 hours a day is not going to cause ED. I’d consider viagra or an alternative though until you get your sexual confidence back.

Ethman2k9 · 2021-07-28T02:32:31+00:00

If you just relapsed you could have been in a flatline. That’ll do it every time.

GeuseyBetel · 2021-07-28T06:51:37+00:00

Dude I just wanna say that it's a lot more common than you think. In the age of porn and where everyone's stressed about something, ED is a full blown epidemic.

The supplements may help but the main problem is in your head. Viagra/cialis can help by providing "insurance" until you get your confidence back up.

For me, putting too much pressure on myself has been a problem. You gotta go in not giving a fuck what happens. If you got ED, that means you weren't feeling it for whatever reason in that moment. Be able to let yourself off the hook for that and move on.

Jetrous · 2021-07-28T08:38:25+00:00

Sounds like it was a crazy chick anyway, so don't be too sad about it.

It'll get better with time and with more chicks you bang. Or with more time you bang one chick.

You know the rest, stop watching porn, stop masturbating more than once in three days - at your age - eat clean, work out, you'll be fine before you know you're already fine.

Travex- · 2021-07-28T16:09:21+00:00

Regarding your diet and lifestyle consider a few things:

1) Your P:S ratio in your fat intake. This being the ratio of >Poly<unsaturated fats : Saturated fats which should be greater than 2:1 ideally. This will help cardiovascular issues that might be caused by any percentage of blockage or impediment within the vasculature. For a male who does weight training the best suggestions I can make here include adding more nuts and seeds to your diet, especially HEMP and chia, in addition to more fish while also cutting out foods that you notice have bad P:S ratios or are otherwise higher in non-polyunsaturated fats than you're comfortable with/that throw your daily average ratio off.

2) Idk your diet but make sure you aren't fat-phobic. Your body NEEDS fat in the diet to maintain proper hormone levels.

3+) The super obvious stuff for last but: Stop smoking if you are and stop recreational drinking asap.

It doesn't sound like you are but do not overtrain, this can bring T lvls down and cause ED as well.

We all hate cardio but a run or hike or two a week can improve CV performance and stamina.

SLEEP. Sleep is without question the single best thing you can do for your body and if you aren't keeping good sleep hygine you can throw everything else in this reply out the window - make your day work around your sleep schedule.

Best of luck my guy. ✊

sabanMiles11 · 2021-07-29T17:26:19+00:00

A lot of people claim nofap is pseudoscience. It might be, but from my own experience, erections are magnitudes harder after not fapping for 2 months. When I jerk off, i sometimes get the “semi rigid” erections which are hard enough to penetrate, but not that hard. When I don’t fap, erections turn into borderline rocks.

I’ve also read multiple accounts of the same thing happening to many guys. Weak erections -> nofap -> strong erections in 1-12 months generally

I would at least give it a try for 2 months if I were you

I think porn is so bad for young men that it should be illegal. It’s the leading cause of being an incel and creating weak men

PiperBigBell · 2021-08-02T23:06:38+00:00

I went through the pain you're going through right now from the time I was 13 to 19. I was a loser overall in behavior and status but for some reason girls found me charming. I had multiple women, maybe around 40+ who were more than willing to let me fuck them, but whenever I would try to go inside them raw or with a condom, my penis would refuse to cooperate and would die as I would enter.

Time, after time, after time, my dick shut down. Why? Because I was too eager to lose my v card, I wanted to impress the girl too much, I compared myself to other men, I was always trying to fuck in odd places that could get me in trouble, never being in a comfortable environment, scared of stds, of pregnancy.

No matter how much I tried to avoid porn and masterbation, practicing edging, mental conditioning to respond to beautiful women, cock rings, it didn't work. I could get it up for head 95% of the time, but vaginal, nope. I even lost the first girl I ever "loved" at 16 because I couldn't fuck her.

She was hot for my age, tight, right, willing, excited. Blew threw three condoms trying to get inside there. Like mashing jelly against a foam wall. It didn't help that I had an infinite number of negative reference experiences. Eventually I did lose it, to my "best friend" in my first year of college, a female. I had genuine feelings for her.

She had experience and found my dorkiness charming. And you know what triggered it to work, we were having an extremely vulnerable moment together crying over past heartbreaks and whatever else. I think it was the first time I was ever so open and honest, vulnerable with a woman. She never pressured me, laughed at me for how I talked, none of that.

She made a move and the rest is history. I knew in my soul I just needed one positive reference experience to become the hoe I knew I was meant to be. All of this to say, if you can stay hard for 30 minutes but then crash, that's not ED bro. That's your brain fucking with you. It might not be vulnerability from her and yourself. Maybe she isn't feminine enough.

Maybe she doesn't match your brains sacred imprint (the first few most beautiful and feminine that fucked you), maybe you cared too much and pressured yourself (fear and hard don't mix), maybe you tricked your dick into fucking a girl who was below your dicks standard. Hell, because of all the shit I've been through, I've trained my dick to respond to whatever I want it to with a thousand mental tricks.

Half the time I'm not even sure if I'm attracted to the girl because I spent my time after losing my card, trying to ensure that my dick would never fail me. That meant fucking hotties, fatties, weirdos, masculine women, brats, hood bitches, all of it. I wanted to learn game at all costs and conditioned my dick to respond to it all. I would often forget to be present in the moment and simply, wait for my body to respond.

As a guy who went through this hundreds of times with scores of women, I feel like an authority. Here's what I would recommend. First, you don't have ED if you can last 30 minutes:

Wait for your body to respond instead of jumping into it. Actually vet her in the conversation: her backstory, how she walks and talks, the way she breathes, touches you, her femininity. Be present and actually ask, does it turn you on. Do you automatically feel a tingle in your dick? If not, generally, either you're scared or she just isn't your type
Make a list of all the things in a woman that turn you on. Not enough guys do this. It's weird.
Stop letting women run the show in bed. As men, we are the ones who make sex good. It's their job to keep US, YES US, TURNED ON, as we have the most active and mental role. Women don't have to be hard. Just wet and willing, and they can use lube for that. Bitches will pick positions that don't feel good, touch you in ways that ruin your mental imagery, and make you go soft. Do what turns YOU on. If they don't like it, won't submit, they aren't your type
Get in touch with your aggression Aggression and anger will always dominate fear. They compel you to take
Move at your own pace. Again as a man you are the star of the show. Your comfort is paramount.
View sex through the lens of you having fun for your sake, not hers. Thinking about making her cum being good in bed, her being satisfied, accepting you, these are all thoughts that hinder you. They're bitch thoughts. Why? They create pressure and a win or lose mentality. When you Jack off, do you feel scared or pressured? No. Why the fuck would you????

I've trained my mind to believe sex is for my fun and is a gift to her. I'm giving her my physical energy and my skill set. When a woman touches me, even if I don't care for it after trying to correct her, I only look for and focus on what feels good. It has to be first about you. Imagine fucking a sex toy with feelings and hopes and dreams.

Anytime a woman asks me to do something sexusl for her. I view it through the lens of something fun I want to try. I completely block out her even asking me to do it. I don't care. I find the fun it it, I find little things to focus on. For example. I love eating pussy, and the way thighs feel wrapped around my head. Even if the bitch is a fatty, I'll only focus solely on how good thighs feel wrapped around me. Sex for men is about selfishness and narcissism in a consentual environment.

Being horny is not enough if you have standards. Things like her respecting you, following your lead, her femininity etc. Will definitely effect how hard you get. All the little things about her that annoy you DO ADD UP. That affects your dick. Standards come at a price brother.
Actually have the energy. Being tired and forcing it, you can still get hard, but your brain will eventually tire out from trying to focus on her that you'll go soft, not because you don't like her, but because you aren't selfish enough with your energy. Never feel guilty for saying no.
Meditate and learn to be present in the moment. All the time spent thinking about shit that doesn't feel good is time some bastard is stealing from you.
Get your emotions involved, not just your lust and turn ons. Emotional leverage makes sex amazing. Whatever emotion, posutive or negative about her, use it as leverage. She's annoying? Dramatize it in your brain and fuck her like a dumb brat. She's making you made. Embrace the anger and fuck her like she stole something from you. She's being gentle and feminine. Fuck her like you'd kill her if she ever left you and dominate her. Or maybe make sweet gentle love.

You get the point. Make it about you bro. If she doesn't fit your way of doing, she can do someone else.

maximusvegas45 · 2021-08-04T14:34:01+00:00

I had a similar issue to yours so let me tell you what helped. Issue isnt masturbation, it is solely porn. If you cut that out for a few months you will reset your brain to enjoy vanilla women. Also its important to explore secondary factors too, so start kegel exercises and regularly do cardio. And finally there is also the mental factor and nervousness. So if you can arrange it, take half a cialis the first time you are with a girl, just to take the edge off. Cut out any recreational drugs, smoking and alcohol from your life.

thebitcointroy · 2021-07-28T01:38:13+00:00

You likely have PIED = porn induced erectyle dysfunction. Start NOFAP immediately.

Snoo65420 · 2021-07-27T21:27:30+00:00

Hey brother.

Don't worry, last Saturday I was hitting a girl in the middle of the street. But I was horny, I really wanted to leave. We ended the meeting.

She told everyone I'm gay.

Redpiller1988 · 2021-07-27T21:35:10+00:00

Always no fap, but get yourself some Viagra. Even the synthetic stuff works like a charm.

With the right mix for you, you’ll have the opposite problem. You won’t be able to get her to leave.

Andy1Dandy · 2021-07-27T22:26:20+00:00

OP - have you taken Accutane, Finasteride or depression meds like SSRI? If so, look up Post Accutane Syndrome (pas), Post Finasteride Syndrome (pfs @ pfsfoundation), Post SSRI syndrome (pssd).

zUltimateRedditor · 2021-07-27T23:23:20+00:00

What’s your sexual preference just out of curiosity?

hydro908 · 2021-07-28T00:48:54+00:00

You Probly put her on a pedestal and psyched yourself out or your not that into her . The more submissive a a girl is usually increases my attraction

pyth0ns · 2021-07-28T02:31:10+00:00

“And after half an hour it died down again”

Bro… Seriously!

ReddiReaders · 2021-07-28T00:27:06+00:00

Let me ask you something. Have you been vaccinated?

eboyster · 2021-07-27T22:29:04+00:00

I took a NO2 supplement and it messed me up. That’s your problem

tobbe628 · 2021-07-31T16:55:23+00:00

Go keto, you'll be diamonds

mala_madre · 2021-07-27T23:23:01+00:00

Bro stop dating masculine feminists wtf is wrong with you, you really wrote a fuckign post on how gay you are...

teddyallagash · 2021-07-27T23:15:11+00:00

Did this place just turn into asktrp?

ArkAngelEV · 2021-07-27T23:51:06+00:00

Don’t fret, everything is going to be ok. Go for daily walks, 1 hr minimum. No more booze. Don’t fap for a month. No visual porn stimulation. It happens sometimes

TheRedPill1978 · 2021-07-28T00:43:13+00:00

I strongly recommend stay away from porn.....many guys have erectile dysfunction due to porn addictions...id suggest you to just stay away from it period (unless you are able to use it very very occasionally without being tempted to use it more) from a couple months and see if theres a difference.....theres just no real long term benefit from porn anyways...

HotConclusion0 · 2021-07-28T03:04:36+00:00

Listen to me young blood. Stay away from porn and fap COMPLETELY. That's the best thing you can ever do to elevate your performance in bed. Alcohol is not a big problem. You can still perform well with it in your system but porn/masturbation will KILL your performance in bed.

ibaketoast_ · 2021-07-28T06:46:27+00:00

Let this be a warning to everyone about porn. This happened to me too. Reading this was almost too personal.

VegetableBoner · 2021-07-28T06:56:32+00:00

Wait so how much porn is too much porn and how many weeks does it take to psychology heal from porn so you don’t have ED problems.

strikethrough123 · 2021-07-28T09:49:42+00:00

It just be like that sometimes. When I’m not fully feeling a chick it takes a minute for me to get hard, sometimes not at all. Sure it can be embarrassing, but from my experience girls see it as it’s their fault that she can’t get you hard.

IntelligenceLtd · 2021-07-28T10:05:22+00:00

I don't know about you but if a woman start planning a future with me in her head that's the quickest way to kill my erection

Hviterev · 2021-07-28T10:20:18+00:00

It can happen for basically no (obvious and controlable) reason and might stay as long as you care about it or worry about it.

That being said, I've had it with a plate and I basically didn't give a single fuck. Frame was hard enough (at least something was) that she actually got even more attracted to me instead: she figured it meant she wasn't good enough for me and acted as a validation.

largepaycheckaddict · 2021-07-28T11:03:16+00:00

Stop watching porn, start lifting weights, start doing cardio. This cured my “ED” and performance anxiety with women.

EkMard · 2021-07-28T11:26:57+00:00

Ejaculate less often, even skipping it during sex. Careful not to get too much iron (as in 2x or more the daily need).

Turbulent-Arrival845 · 2021-07-28T13:01:59+00:00

Stop watching porn and Jack off mentally.

MysteriousDingle · 2021-07-28T13:12:33+00:00

Could just be a phase though. Freaking out about it will probably make it worse. Also, I find some women just do it for me while others don't. Maybe even though you liked her your ding-a-ling wasn't that into her.

Spirited-Foot · 2021-07-28T14:44:58+00:00

This has happened to me a few times and I felt pretty shitty. You have to remember that it will happen to most men at least a few times. We are not robots. The question is really if it happens continuously, that could be a larger issue. For me, I find maca root, pomegranate juice, and dark chocolate have helped a pretty good amount. Just experiment. As long as you have decent game you can just keep trying different things and not worry about “losing”women. If they leave simply because of this, then I say good riddance. You got this bro.

Ps. 2.5mg cialis makes me a freight train for hours if I get in a pinch. No shame in that. Consider getting some 5mg and splitting them in half to raise your confidence.

Bigboost92 · 2021-07-28T14:47:25+00:00

Also remember. 3AM? Fuck that. I’d rather sleep. You might notice a difference if you were having sex at say 9-11pm as opposed to 3AM. Being tired is a factor.

Ifindoubt_flatout · 2021-07-28T15:07:40+00:00

Having the exact same problem with my first girlfriend I can tell you that NoFap is not necessarily the solution and Porn might not be the problem. I had practiced NoFap for nearly a year and had a 6 month streak when we first fucked. And I had the exact same problem. Furthermore, I had never consumed porn excessively and NoFap was more of a test of will for me. I honestly think that completely negating my sexuality for this amount of time and the induced stress, due to "this is it now" lead to the ED. After two seperate tries I managed without problem and I worked perfecrly for two years, even watching a lot of porn in this time as well.

QuickDrawDinoHunter · 2021-07-28T16:08:17+00:00

Oh no, you got laid. Poor baby

NoAARPforMe · 2021-07-28T16:45:20+00:00

65M. L-arginine and L-citrulline and no booze made a big improvement in my erections. You may need to experiment a bit to get your dosage right. I take 2000mg each of L-arginine and 2000 mg of L-citrulline before working out in the morning. If I know I am going to have sex, I take another 2000mg of L-arginine at least 30 minutes before.

There is a ton of health benefits to these to supplements.....better sex is just one. Consider cutting back or stopping drinking also as that helped me in a lot of ways....sex included.

Ich_bin_du88 · 2021-07-28T19:23:33+00:00

I'm in my 30s, have that problem right now....All I can think it must be porn related, I hace perfect health and the doctor cleared me the other day, I'm currently strugling the keep my LTR, she might be gone later if this doesn't change, and the truth is, I do love her but she barely gets me hard, anyway, that's my case, you cannot negotiate desire and porn is fucking bad, anyway, stay strong dude.

Mr_Phan · 2021-07-28T21:06:13+00:00

I would recommend looking at your diet and try cutting down on processed foods and try eating more natural foods like broccoli and bananas, also eggs and chicken

PatchThePiracy · 2021-07-29T06:38:46+00:00

Sounds like nature’s way of saying “don’t bang this girl.”

Perhaps it’s a blessing in disguise.

michael1962-01 · 2021-07-29T07:18:00+00:00

It is allways the missing energy from the girl which leads to this.

There are no (healthy) ED men only incompetent women.

I am 59 with a 22 and i had those on some occasions after hard fights between us. We are both very high libido.

She does not have the "internal energy" it needs.

A day later i can shoot into her twice in a row but she is so hot that the "energy" is vibrating all in my body.

For the fun you can have some Tadalafil 10mg and / or Sildenafil 100mg (use 50mg first) as a low dose prescription.

Those lifestyle meds will allow you to go for 1-2 hrs with a solid boner.

But if you are not into the girl or feel pressured they might not do a thing.

LawItUp77 · 2021-07-30T00:10:03+00:00

As someone that has almost 10 years of experience over you, I can tell you that sometimes this shit just happens. I had a pretty similar situation where shit would just go completely wrong and after it happened twice she just said nah. It was a huge mental issue that really made having sex with the next like 3 girls I had sex with a massive task.

You will get over it and it will probably likely happen again (drunk, exhaustion, stress) but the key to continue life is it say "well shit just happens, we can go again next time" and just push it off like it means nothing. This will not only let you push it off as a nothing, but will also shape how she feels about it. If you think it's not a big deal, she wont either.

TCH1610 · 2021-07-30T08:45:47+00:00

Stop jerk off and watching porn. Use ur fingers and eat the shit out of her, she’ll forget about ur dick. Build ur confidence and conquer all the bitches.

kraken9911 · 2021-07-31T13:36:33+00:00

Experienced that once when I was 32. Brought home this really hot girl but I had been drinking all night and it was already 5am. My body just had nothing left. Got it in her for a minute or two and then just nothing. Never saw her again. Oh well.

throwawayletsgooo · 2021-07-31T21:03:17+00:00

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pigdestroyer187 · 2021-07-31T23:56:24+00:00

It's happened to almost all of us. It happened to me once with the hottest girls Id ever been with at the time and then I didn't get a second chance. The best advice I can give you is to move on and try not to dwell on it, if it happens again dust yourself off and try again.

McLoving90 · 2021-08-03T07:04:47+00:00

Dude cut the porn out. I’ve been on NoFap since 2014-15. It’s a game changer. I’m 30 years old and have rock hard erections every time I fuck my wife. I fuck her at least three times a week. Cut the alcohol, cut the porn and get your ass in shape.

BoJvck34Empire · 2021-08-03T13:25:09+00:00

Tbh I can’t get it up when girls hunt me, only when I hunt them. I mean yeah you’re gonna wanna cut out porn, but think about what I just said… If it was you that wanted to plan the rest of your lives out, that woman would have been pregnant lol but since it was her, you probably subconsciously felt intimidated.. She did you a favor, getting dumped is better then getting cheated on. It is always a red flag when they move things too quickly, it’s almost a for sure hint of daddy issues. You probably dodged a bullet. Or even if it wasn’t a bullet, she wasn’t your soul mate..

Good_Click_565 · 2021-08-04T00:14:31+00:00

I doubt it's erectile dysfunction. Sometimes your dick just don't feel like having sex...hell all the work and effort to attract women can have a toll on you.

You could've told her she'll just have to work and try some things to make you hard for her. However, sometimes its a shot to a women's ego to not have a guy get hard so they'll feel a bit of sexual rejection.

Women are very anxious and need constant approval and direction, so when they feel they've failed with a guy they like, they'll draw themselves from the guy. Women think all sorts of things in their head. She was probably thinking "is it me? Why can't I get him hard!? I failed and I'm just unattractive to him. No! It's his own fault he can't get hard! I'll just need to call it off since I'm unable to get him hard and feel like he's unattracted to me!"

next thing they'll be telling their friends and shit. Just keep it moving on and if she comes back out the blue just say you need some extra stimuli so maybe she could've seduced you a bit more.

Aerophage1771 · 2021-08-04T16:14:11+00:00

Workout + Get a BlueChew Subscription + Stop Jerking Off

jack_napier69 · 2021-08-04T17:01:25+00:00

wise man once said:

"if your dick tends to go limp with a particular woman there tends to be a particular reason"

don't worry :)

AreOut · 2021-08-05T11:59:43+00:00

Pro tip - if you feel you are losing erection just take it out, cum and say "oh you made me so horny I never experienced this before".

Next time take Viagra or something.

SpecialistParticular · 2021-08-05T14:59:00+00:00

Isn't there some sonic shock thing you can do to your member to clean out the veins?

freqzon · 2021-08-06T06:55:16+00:00

Lifting, and being confident is the healthiest recipe for a strong mind. Not loosing confidence after smtn like ED is fucking important.

RP_McMurphy_ · 2021-08-06T15:04:00+00:00

Honestly, go to your doctor and get a scrip for Cialis or Viagra. They'll give it to you--if they don't, go to another doctor. You can also likely order it off the web too.

Guys get nervous, and when it happens once, it's likely to happen again because it's all in your head. Don't beat yourself up it happens to everyone, but sucks because oftentimes girls freak out, because they think it's because you don't find the attractive.

One tip: if you're with a girl and it happens, RELAX. Tell her to chill out, you're just a bit nervous. Reassure her that you think she's hot. Finger her, go down on her, etc. Also, tell her to grab your dick and start kissing her, play with her tits. If you can put it out of mind for a short time, often your dick will perk right back up.

Also, this is why it's best to avoid drinking as much as possible. It's super fun, but it has this effect--and if you drink often, it can carry over to times when you're sober.

pappo4ever · 2021-08-08T03:00:25+00:00

No, you dont have erectile dysfunction. It happens to every men once in a while. Maybe you were nervous, or tired, or maybe she didn't really click with you, it happens a lot, specially when you are young. The girl had red-flags everywhere and you subconscious knew about it and your dick protected you. Also, it died after an hour? dude you cannot maintain an erection for an hour, is unhealthy and can cause serious problems in your dick. Give it a rest!

Dysfunction is when it happens many times over a long period of time, with many different women.

Switch the women, if still happens many times, go see a doctor. Don't start self-medicating with bullshit.

SalesAficionado · 2021-08-09T11:30:33+00:00

Happened to the best of us my dude

qunamax · 2021-08-10T20:27:08+00:00

If it happens again, pop one bromazepam (or equivalent) pill. You'll need just one, that one time to prove that nothing is wrong.

Work_ln_Progress · 2021-08-12T22:20:06+00:00

Porn but also the desire to perform. Porn has definitely been the issue for me several times but getting in bed with your preference comes with a lot of pressure. I definitely had the ‘I can’t fuck this up’ cause me to stress and go soft. It happens. Also… an hour of fucking in might not be ED? Your body just gets tired after an hour of cardio and needs a rest.

Edit: Half an hour, yeah, probably just porn and self imposed stress then, abundance mentality fixes the stress and you already know how to fix the porn.

bassman_gio · 2021-07-27T21:10:24+00:00

If you're looking for a magic bullet try caverject. You'll have to see urologist to get a prescription and get over the fear of sticking a needle in. It also has to be kept refrigerated which makes for potential logistical issues.

FookinEl · 2021-07-27T23:44:36+00:00

Eat plant based. I have far better, longer, and harder erections then when I ate animal products

vtec__ · 2021-07-27T22:47:47+00:00

try adderall if you can get some. it makes me horny, but for some people it has the opposite effects

negdawin · 2021-07-28T11:29:02+00:00

I guarantee it's not the sexual activity that ruined it for her. You massively lowered your status by getting embarrassed by it. You should have just laughed it off and said "haha, Little Guy is not wanting to play tonight".

I've been seeing my current girl for 5 months and we haven't had sex yet (my choice) but I guarantee you she is really into me. You don't need P in V action to keep a girl happy, it's all about how you act and your status.

ED is not necessarily low status. How you react to the ED will determine whether you're a cool or a chode.

Title	Just lost a plate to erectile dysfunction
Author	throwawayletsgooo
Upvotes	213
Comments	188
Date	July 27, 2021 8:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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