What happened to your old Oneitis?

RedSkeller · 2018-05-23T19:43:35+00:00

They all got fat and splattered against the wall

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-05-23T18:59:35+00:00

I had a huge oneitis for the same girl from some time back in school (13ish?) right through to when I left for uni (19ish). She was the best looking girl in school and then college - a 9 on a bad day, smart, funny, you get the idea.

I was massively beta, I told her how I felt about her on more than one occasion. I did somehow manage to get a date out of her one time (pity?!) but beta’d my way through it and couldn’t get close to closing. The whole time she’d CC her way through various Chads and bad boys, always ending up the same way; ”why can’t I find a nice guy?”

I’ve improved significantly with age (38 now); I’m in much better physical condition than I was back then, look 5-10 years younger than I am, have a great job, my own house, fancy car, in a great LTR and I’m in the early stages of starting my own company.

We have mutual friends so we still bump into each other occasionally. Her? She got fat, has multiple kids with multiple fathers, still rents, has a low-paying job and looks every bit the wall-approaching 38-year-old that she is.

Funny how life works out once you understand the rules of the game.

Swoleygrowly · 2018-05-23T18:57:25+00:00

Mine messaged me asking me to fuck her because her current husband wasn’t giving it to her enough, or good enough apparently. I considered it for a few minutes, figured I might, then forgot about her again the next day.

jiveraffe · 2018-05-23T19:21:58+00:00

She cheated on me with some drug dealer, although to her credit she broke down and confessed the next day.

She since got knocked up by some other dude, but I've never seen a picture of him on her social media. She still pings me twice a year for the last seven years. I've never replied.

I've set a boundary that if she still tries after ten years I'll give her a courtesy moment and ask her what the hell she wants from me. She burned that bridge seven years ago, not me.

edit: in retrospect (thanks to TRP) I complete understand *why* she did it but I don't forgive that she did it.

snypfc · 2018-05-23T20:53:01+00:00

hence Karma***

Stop deluding yourself. Oneitis was your mistake not their's. Move the fuck on.

Ricklogical · 2018-05-23T18:59:30+00:00

Never. None of them would bother me about this.

Yes they want me back, but if they looked me up they saw the sexy full body partner I have now

5JS1XBG64A · 2018-05-23T23:00:06+00:00

No clue. Haven't seen or talked to any of them in years.

Amarke · 2018-05-24T02:16:53+00:00

What happened to your old Oneitis?

I wouldn't know. What do I care?

ZeroSixNiner · 2018-05-24T02:05:35+00:00

Mine was from high school. She eventually met a guy who was alpha as fuck, Much respect to him. She gave him 3 kids, and they're still a thing. I'm well past the one-itis and am actually happy for her. I know a lot of people posture and talk about how marriage is a bad thing, but in their case, they seem to be making it work. Kids are well-behaved and not whiny little products of a post modern parenting scheme. We have mutual friends, so I see them from time to time at community events.

Hey, sometimes life works out for the best, I suppose. My one-itis for her was puberty-driven, and now as an adult who thinks with more than my dick, I can see we wouldn't have amounted to much.

319Skew · 2018-05-23T21:02:25+00:00

Don't know. It's my ex wife and if I didn't have a kid with her, I'd be traveling the world. I keep the conversation about my son and only my son after she tried to frame me. I don't know if she's dating, doing an orgy or become a nun and doesn't matter.

azwildcat74 · 2018-05-23T20:55:05+00:00

Long story short: Broke up at the conclusion of my college football career as she "needed to find herself". I moved home, she stayed in college town. I took the red pill unknowingly after that (before knowing it was a thing) and focused on bettering myself, she jumped on the CC. She later moved home and started trying to insert herself in my activities with friends. We eventually had sex a few times (plated her) and I soft nexted her to get into a LTR.

Fast forward 12 years and I am a senior manager at a lucrative business and she is still a waitress, she just married a BB who doesn't even really have the bucks to support her. Won't last long I am sure.

resnine · 2018-05-23T21:28:23+00:00

Who cares?

rpthrowaway871 · 2018-05-23T20:52:24+00:00

My first oneitis got fat, had a kid with a beta, and is now roughly 30 and has made little intellectual, financial or any type of progress since we broke it off at about 16.

She was extremely low quality from day one, I don't know what the fuck I was thinking.

She emailed me a few years back, I ignored it of course.

SirKolbath · 2018-05-23T20:15:52+00:00

My who, now?

ronalddrump69 · 2018-05-23T20:54:03+00:00

Decided to go NC on my oneitis today. She will probably approach me irl because we usually hang out at the same bar. I'll act friendly but flirt other girls. Might try to plate her in the future. But only when I got multiple plates.

walawalawa · 2018-05-24T00:04:35+00:00

3 years ago i hard-nexted my Oneitis. We had been banging for 9 months, she dumped me...I had oneitis for a year. Finally I just realized i was an idiot.

Immediately after for at least a year she chased to get my attention.

Now, 3 years later she tries to get my attention from time to time--the latest is by trying to bang a friend of mine.

I've told him very clearly don't create drama for me and have since distanced myself from this guy.

But overall I've realized she's gotten older and is pathetic. She could pass for hot...but when i see her i feel absolutely nothing.

Metalgear222 · 2018-05-24T05:43:19+00:00

I got huge and pulled her from a DTF tinder profile. Plated her ever since

bluewalrus1001 · 2018-05-23T21:37:13+00:00

Broke up 9mo ago. Same program at uni so we see each other often. (Difficult situation at first)

Deleted her on all social media but mutual friends still follow her. She hangs around some loser looking dudes on snap and now looks like a druggy chick that posts attention seeking stuff on IG/snap. (It May be the type of dude she's trying to attract but idk) Also She had to move back home cus she couldn't hold down an aprt.

I just know that I'm moving forward and upward with my health, financial and educational growth, while she's in a downward spiralin her life. Bottom line is that if I kept her around I would be less of the person I am now and I have TRP to thank for that.

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2018-05-24T00:43:55+00:00

Have a few typical outcomes.

First oneitis turned into a psychotic trailer trash druggie cunt. Probably on meth right now. If she died tomorrow I would laugh.

Second oneitis I used to work with. We fucked after she left that job. She went to school and I never looked back. I started banging a MILF after she left.

Third oneitis wasn't the MILF but a gorgeous and damaged girl in the same neighborhood MILF lived. She wasn't anything special in bed but her personality had me hooked. Then she moved in with a guy who got her hooked on heroin and I had the opportunity to absolutely murder the guy. I don't know why I didn't.

Casd12 · 2018-05-24T02:05:08+00:00

I've had way too many oneitises that it gave me an abundance mentality.

infamous3238 · 2018-05-23T20:02:24+00:00

I have no idea, because I don't care and neither should you.

Killing__Time_ · 2018-05-23T20:42:49+00:00

After 9.5 years together, I get dumped. This is after I move to a different country. There's a whole lot of drama that goes on for three years. Basically I block her, and a year later I unblock her because I have moved on and blocking isn't necessary any more. She texts me the day after I unblock her. More drama.

Few weeks ago (this is after 4 years of dumping me), she asks me to get back together. I am bewildered, because I am here abroad, doing my PhD, have big goals and there she is 7000 kms apart asking me to be in a relationship. There's literally nothing that she brings to the table.

I apply TRP principles and finish every sentence with the intent to finish the conversation. She goes mad. At this point I decide to go full beta and call her a cheating cunt and tell her to go fuck some dudes so she can get over me. She wins and finally leaves me alone after writing a book long message on how I am an asshole etc.

Keep in mind, this was the desired outcome - over the years I tried everything. Ghosting, being nice, curt, asshole. Nothing worked. Hopefully she moves on. Poor girl.

PS: we got back together briefly for two days 2 years ago when I was a cuck - this time I ended it. I still am a giant cuck, but swallowed the red pill a few weeks ago. Going through a mix of anger and acceptance phase right now. Proud of getting rid of her, but annoyed that at the same time this whole drama happened.

redpillrobert · 2018-05-23T21:09:00+00:00

she seems fine

bruiser18 · 2018-05-23T22:52:58+00:00

Became a fat bitch, got with an even fatter, older and baldy guy. Fucking hilarious.

Aralant · 2018-05-24T02:03:59+00:00

Mine went on to have 3 kids with a fat out of shape dude who beats her.

She contacts me every few months for a fuck. I Ablige cause she takes care of herself in the gym.

_the_shape_ · 2018-05-23T22:46:19+00:00

She broke up with me, no contact for about three months, she sent me a Happy Birthday text on my birthday, and I haven't heard from her personally nor have we communicated in any capacity since (a little over three and a half years ago now).

Around this time last year though, I started messing with the Instagram stories feature for the first time, and she began consistently showing up as a viewer despite her and I not following one another. I don't know if (at the time) she was aware that I could see who's viewing my stories or if she even cared or if that was part of some ploy, but that carried on for a couple more months until I stopped posting altogether.

She's about to turn 33, and from what I can tell, she fulfilled the TRP prophecy and got herself a textbook betabucks (ex. maybe 6'0" but appears to be 145 lbs. of allergic-to-iron soy-boy flesh, considerably bald, late 30s/early 40s, works upper management IT according to another ex who knows the two of them, so probably has a respectable salary too etc.)

It took me the better half of a year to fully rid myself of any trace of revenge-fantasies, delivering karma etc. What she does with her life or what her opinion is of me is completely irrelevant.

iAMTinman_Dealwithit · 2018-05-24T00:21:38+00:00

Wouldn't know. Went r/exnocontact and got on with my life. I'm too busy working on the life I want. I hope to never see or hear from her again.

DaddyIssues6 · 2018-05-24T01:19:27+00:00

Mine stayed in her hometown for the past 3 years after our break up. Became a stripper and is probably on CC. I managed to ping her, usually when I was drunk, and she decided to block all my communications for the past 6 months. I knew it was good for both of us.

This past week I actually got a text from her asking about a surgery she wants to get done on her ass, presumably for her stripping. My mom has done multiple cosmetic surgery and she wanted me to connect her together.

I don’t ask about her stories at that gig or if she’s a full blown whore/escort; I just assume she is. We met up for coffee. Still hot, easy 7 without trying. However, she seems to have made little intellectual and social progress. She’s almost a bimbo; probably because of her new coworkers and her gig. Which is unfortunate as I grew up with her but she’s still a woman.

Im more upset that she makes more money than me, expressing herself sexually. Not by much but still.

civilizedfrog · 2018-05-24T18:44:17+00:00

My oneitis of 8 years is currently plate #2. When I was betabitch, we made a promise that if she is single by 30, I would marry her. Her 29th birthday is next month. She thinks that I am the one after years of carousel riding. Must be my high paying job or maybe my beachfront apartment. She knows my current stance on marriage but she thinks she will change my mind like some shitty romcom. She had her fun during her peak, now I will have my fun

majorketone · 2018-05-23T22:20:25+00:00

No idea. I don't worry about it. it started as a fwb but I got ultra beta so I doubt she has any desire to reinitiate contact lol

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-05-23T23:46:15+00:00

I've had three former oneitis girls that I've fucked while they were in relationships. Over a period of fifteen years. And yes, they all got fatter and two of the three took major nosedives in life.

One lesson we can all learn is that women only decline with age.

cl3537 · 2018-05-24T02:25:00+00:00

She put on 10 pounds and the magic was gone "poof" end of my attraction for her.

She tried to get me back on my birthday, she came over with a present, but I had already moved on to another women and I was still bluepill at the time but luckily I knew better than to go back.

ht2k9 · 2018-05-24T05:48:37+00:00

Said we couldn't be more than friends, I wasn't a beta, and I conffessed face to face while looking in her eyes, but still, I wasn't an alpha and didn't know how to act most of the times.

We see each other, but I am now an alpha and she isn't good enough for me at all. And she is hitting the wall slowly but surely.

Mr_Badass · 2018-05-23T21:14:47+00:00

I have no idea. I went No Contact months ago and blocked her on everything. I don't care what happens to her.

Zanford · 2018-05-24T02:20:18+00:00

Kept fucking a few of 'em when I made visits back home in between semesters, until they put on too much weight

lucasblake69 · 2018-05-24T03:46:35+00:00

Most of them kinda ended up becoming shadows of their former selves. It's a shame tho

dark_rabbit · 2018-05-24T03:50:50+00:00

Yup! I’m in my 30s now, but I’m high school told my oneitis I had feelings for her and got rejected.. a year or two later she asked me to homecoming. Honestly I should have said ‘yes’ in retrospect but was too stupid and tried to act cool by asking my friend in front of her “what do you think I should do?” So I killed the mood, and the topic wasn’t brought up again.

It gave me a chip on the shoulder by not going, but had I gone it would have been a big confidence boost at the time.

Rudeyyyy · 2018-05-24T04:35:36+00:00

Don't know don't care. I might have her in one of my college classes or see her on campus but I blocked her on social media and deleted her number so yeah that's that.

setsuna0 · 2018-05-24T04:43:36+00:00

I heard she’s engaged to the rebound after we fell off. It’s weird because last time we spoke she lamented how worthless he is. Told me that I ruined her. I’ll admit back then I felt slightly bad. But, honestly she ruined herself.

Meanwhile I’m feeling stress free. Working on myself everyday. While sometimes she crosses my mind. I snap out of it quick.

toolboy_13 · 2018-05-24T05:53:55+00:00

One of them got knocked up at 19 and the baby daddy ran off. Eventually, she hooked herself a cuck. The other is in her 40s, fat, single and childless. I'd like to thank both of them for teaching me a brutal lesson when I was younger. Without them I wouldn't be here.

DrLithium · 2018-05-24T05:55:34+00:00

I kept living.

marianasentmenudes · 2018-05-24T05:57:39+00:00

Caught it back in 2010 when we were in high school. She removed me from Snapchat 3 years ago? and I can't find her on social media anywhere (yes I used an account that wasn't mine to verify this). No clue and don't care

nofilmynofucky · 2018-05-24T06:01:26+00:00

the wall.

She still hits me up a couple times a year trying to start conversation, I don't take the bait. She was a solid 10 when we were dating, and those were some really fantastic years for me but she's nothing to me now.

I guess I feel a little sorry for her but other than that, eh

Shredderick420 · 2018-05-24T06:24:30+00:00

This is a good post. I havent seen oneitis for a year almost, she went abroad. Found a new guy and we havent spoken for a long time. She still crosses my mind though. Luckily she aint coming back in a year or two maybe even never who knows. By then life has changed and I have changed to the better and I guess no fvcks are given at that time anymore and I am thankful for her otherwise I wouldnt have found this sub nor got a honest look in the mirror.

SteveRogersPill · 2018-05-24T07:43:03+00:00

Oddly enough I was reading this laughing. A couple minutes after i got done
reading, my old oneitis hit me up today telling me “hope all is well, just wanted to let you know blah blah blah I haven’t forgiven myself. I cry everyday for hurting you like that. I feel like an asshole and won’t ever stop feeling that way.”

I haven’t made any type of conversation or in a while but keep it cordial when I do see her. I didn’t respond to that and honestly I’m proud.

I’m doing good for myself doing a new internship today for what I love and am enjoying my life now and I don’t need that. She’s blocked on everything except her number cause I’m just not like that to block unless you’re a problem. But I don’t plan on answering anything

cptgoatsack · 2018-05-24T10:17:41+00:00

A friend told me one got married but apart from that I have no clue. The quicker you erase them from your life and fuck other women they melt away.

44361066 · 2018-05-23T21:33:54+00:00

Wondering why they dump guys including me who’re headed to becoming successful in life. They end up miserable, probably fat post-wall with beta men. Does hypergamy really work for women as intended in the long run?

NJA4242 · 2018-05-23T22:20:01+00:00

I'm in my mid 20s so things will become more clear in the next decade. One got married a couple days ago to a good guy but he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed. Another one married a farmer and is on her 3rd kid. Some are doing this or that related to school and some hit the wall prematurely.

We'll see in time

bf1bro18 · 2018-05-24T04:21:32+00:00

She blew me in my car while on a "break" with her ex (lord we all know what that means) then 2 weeks later got back with her ex who came out as gay soon after so she moved to japan and started uploading pictures of herself on Instagram looking after stray cats and visibly lost like 20lbs and stopped working out because "all you need is love, good nutrition and meaning" as she put it, in ink, on her abdomen, lol. Oh she also cut her hair off to resemble the boot camp type look and posted a handful of things related to THE PATRIARCHY! (spelt that wrong?). So all in all a good show to watch. Before all this though she was legit 8/10 and seemed fairly happy. Anyways lmao.

fade2clear · 2018-05-24T12:25:45+00:00

The tables turned once I started lifting and increased my SMV. Now she has oneitis for me after we hung out a few times months later and I don't have any of the previous feelings, which at one point completely wrecked me after she broke up with me. They were completely gone, and it felt liberating. It opened my eyes.

Lesson Learned: Oneitis isn't about her, it's about you. It means you're lacking in life and you need to improve yourself. You're blinded by the validation you're receiving from your unicorn at that point in time.

Once you realize this, the whole idea of oneitis just seems silly. It's a sign of low self-image.

Lamond-Sciutto · 2018-05-24T17:59:00+00:00

Not the foggiest!

si1ma31 · 2018-05-24T18:03:37+00:00

Also had some that bloated but 1 got into a prestigious career path and maintained good figure running marathons. That plus remaining childless has pushed back the wall. I broke off contact years ago but she would ping me once in a while to keep in touch, probably just because she’s social. After a few years, the feelings finally died and I stopped responding. Can’t win’em all.

Blud_swit_tirs · 2018-05-23T21:52:00+00:00

Met my oneitis years back,as a kid,she got into highschool this year and I was starstruck(still bluepill back then) cause now not only is she pretty,but she is also hot,buuut the thing is i fucked it up somehow cause now we don't even say hi in the hallways ,probably some social reasons,would like to give it a try again after I diggest the red pill more,not as a wish to get with her but more as an ego boost thing and to basically show the virgin Chad wanna be assholes in my class that they aint shit,any advice is wellcome

Title	What happened to your old Oneitis?
Author	bluetoredd
Upvotes	49
Comments	88
Date	May 23, 2018 6:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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