Age gaps in seduction

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-25T12:07:40+00:00

What matters is that you are actually convinced that your age is fine, because women will test you on it. If a woman brings out age and you start justifying yourself, being apologetic, or trying to convince her that age is just a number or that there are more important things, then that's when you fail. You need to double down and lean into it without being apologetic, or defensive, or argumentative or approval seeking,

JackSquirts · 2025-07-25T12:27:43+00:00

Unless you're top shelf attractive and charming, cold approaches in the street aren't going to be good for you. Most people are looking for people in their general age range and double their age gets into creep territory super quick. Dating apps are a safer bet, but again, don't expect amazing results. I do really well on the apps over a ~10 year gap, but it falls off once I hit 15+ and 20+ it basically dies.

Where I really do find success is at the bar. Im a regular in a couple places, so I know a lot of people, talk to a lot of people. When I approach, Im not some guy, Im the guy who knows everyone. Girls at bars cluster, so Im chatting up groups. I always find out if they're regulars and only push hard on first timers or infrequents. The regulars can wait cause I'll see them again and after a few times they start approaching me. Just gotta be careful not to shit too much where you eat, so it's a balance.

Strange-Building6304 · 2025-07-25T23:42:58+00:00

I'm in my late 30s and I have been shocked how many hot 20 year olds seem attracted to me...where were these girls in my 20s.

DavidStamina · 2025-07-25T15:46:55+00:00

Your question might be divided into 2:

1) is it morally ok or am I a creep for dating girls in their early 20s being a 43 yo ?

and

2) will I have success ?

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I'm 41 and my last 4 girls were these ages: 20, 22, 29, 23. So:

1) Is it morally ok or creepy?

Who gives a shit. If she's above 18 and game, all good.

The problem is something else. 18-22 yo girls are usually not as smart and experienced, tiktok brains, sometimes childish and naive, usually difficult to have deeper conversation. (which is not always needed lol).

On average that is.

Some 22 yos are smarter than 95% of all 40+ yos and make money. I had a 23 yo girl who made like 5 x more money than me with trading (not financial), it's crazy.

2) will I have success dating girls in their early 20s being a 43 yo ?

Yes, you will be successful, 100%, just a matter of numbers and enough attempts.

Do some looksmaxxing, get fit, shave if the beard is grey, get a nice hair cut, dress nicely, good fragrance.

The lake where you fish matters as well, will be easier in East Europe, SEA, Colombia, Brazil etc.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-07-25T11:21:08+00:00

The only problem is finding sets.

Clubs could work but u gonna standout in a wrong way, unless you can demonstrate high social value.

Cold approaching is similar.

The ideal scenario is do warm approaches. But for that you need to have either profession or hobby which would allow you to do it.

For example, being a vet.

TvIsSoma · 2025-07-25T11:44:08+00:00

If you’re looking to do more than smash I suggest women who are at least in their 30s. Those 23 year olds will start to feel like children.

BulletDodger · 2025-07-25T19:02:06+00:00

It can work if you actually look young. When I met my wife she was 23 and I was 40. She actually thought she was older than me.

FairAnalyst · 2025-07-27T23:09:52+00:00

It def helps to know how to talk to women if you’re aiming for younger. With older women you can be more direct, stronger frame, sexual and it’ll be funny to her.

You can’t do that with a lot of 20yos. A lot of them are very socially awkward. I have to water down my vibe and slow roll my escalations to get somewhere with a younger chick.

For daygame - if I can make it to the pt where I’m blasting through her resistance pts and she laughs at every reframe - I’m very sure we can makeout within a minute if she’s 30+. But if she’s 20 or so, I’d probably be at the step where I’m within 4 inches of personal space but struggling for closer and makeout would blow me out.

I’m 41 and I look older and I’ve been seeing varying results with 20 yos. I can’t say what’s what for long term dating since that’s not really my thing, but for cold approach there’s def some adjustments.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-07-25T11:17:50+00:00

As long as she's at least 21, I see no problem. Reason being is so that the both of you can go into a bar together and get to know eachother.

Legally as long as she's 18 your good but that's very young.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-07-25T18:51:34+00:00

Girls under 25 are extremely overrated.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-07-25T14:48:33+00:00

It's risky business (not legally but just being rejected for being "creepy") unless you truly have a lot of wealth/fame/status.

The vast majority of early twenties women don't even both talking to guys more than 5 years older than them. Are you planning on doing cold approach or using dating apps?

Charge36 · 2025-07-25T17:50:06+00:00

It's going to be too large a gap for most women. You'll probably find more receptive women in their mid to late 30s range, but if you're vibing with a woman in her twenties don't let the age Gap stop you.

CompleteMan_ · 2025-07-25T15:24:39+00:00

I’m around the same age and used to be into younger women (mid 20s).

First thing to remember is don’t be a lecherous boomer about it, being pervy is especially problematic with that big an age gap. Laying dirty talk on too early will kill the vibe.

The women that love older men will find YOU. Remember what you have to offer— Wisdom, maturity, and easy drama free company. The kink aspects are always bubbling underneath and you’ll know the right time to tease them. BDSM and daddy dom kinks are pretty common among women that go for our age range.

Dad bods are typically very attractive to this group of women. But don’t be a fat slob. Lean into your masculinity with body hair, facial hair and knowing how to enjoy food between gym sessions. Good luck.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-07-25T15:14:36+00:00

Yes it is. I’m 36 and when you tell young 20’s women how old you are it usually blows up. Doesn’t mean it always will though and you have to own your age and say ut with confidence. But some will just walk away when you say it.

Cloutweb1 · 2025-07-25T11:16:02+00:00

Now its the tims to get those hot babes. Go for it!

bloontsmooker · 2025-07-25T13:33:44+00:00

In my early 20s, I laughed in the faces of any man in their 40s who would hit on me.

No_Relief7644 · 2025-07-25T17:41:39+00:00

Go to the Philippines

myanxietysaysno · 2025-07-26T01:23:11+00:00

yeah, it’s a problem. that’s a little too young for you. it’s okay to have preferences, but let them be realistic. let’s make you 5 years younger and you’re still a well seasoned adult. let’s make those early 20s girls 5 years younger….yeah it’s weird. as a women in her 20s, when i meet a man that’s after younger women i always ask ‘what’s wrong with him that he can’t get with someone his age & he has to go after inexperienced adults that don’t know any better’ why not go for someone that’s in the same place in life as you? or even someone 10 years younger, but 20 years? you could have a daughter that age & that makes it weird.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-07-26T07:39:19+00:00

The thing is do the women show interest in you on a day to day basis?.

I'm 53 and I've always attracted younger women. I've never really approached. Women just make themselves available to me and I bridge that gap.

If you are getting attention then it will be easy. Just watch for the open doors and capitalize on that.

It's easier than before for older guys because the young guys out there just are clueless. They have fallen for the liberal agenda and quite a few are weak minded and just not very motivated or interesting.

GrouchNslouch777 · 2025-07-31T11:23:39+00:00

Depends on your looks. In the abstract no one gives a shit.

Id say up until your 50s casually banging girls in their early 20s isnt a big deal if you LOOK GOOD.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-07-25T13:27:44+00:00

You’re a creepy old man to 95% of them early 20s is basically a high schooler dude it’s gross and this ain’t coming from me, this generation doesn’t really do age gaps like that anymore even 30 something’s are gross to them.

If you’re rich or at least can play the part you might find someone who will use you for your money and if you’re really lucky she might fall in love with you, 30 year old woman are hot, go for that instead.

I’m 27 and like 80% of the early 20 something girls I meet literally look like children to me, you’re sick in the head if you want that at 43 years old.

mootje___ · 2025-07-26T03:21:32+00:00

In 7 years ur 50. Go chase woman of 32/35/40. Don’t you think it’s gross for you to chase woman in their early 20s? I mean, i’m almost 29 and even i don’t date girls of the age from 18 to like 21/22? In my opinion their to young and to childish. Like, they can be your daughter… i’f i am 43 the minimum age of woman i would date and not under is 32/33. My opinion. Don’t take it as a attack it’s with all due respect.

Desperate-Buddy4859 · 2025-07-26T02:24:17+00:00

what happens when your “early 20’s” girlfriend ages out of that range? of course that’s going to be a problem

Title	Age gaps in seduction
Author	j_victor_87
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Date	July 25, 2025 11:14 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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