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Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-26T04:18:07+00:00

You need to change your mindset to "damn, this girl has 100k followers and is getting so much attention from other guys and yet she still wants to spend time with me, I'm hot shit"

Captain_brownbeard · 2021-12-26T03:41:46+00:00

Yeah, you are way older than these guys. Showing that you don't care and aren't insecure will make her want you more. In your head you should always be the prize. She might (not saying she would) sway for a sec but believing in your worth will gravitate people to you.

learnbyrepetition · 2021-12-26T05:52:06+00:00

There’s really not much you can do to prevent other guys from reaching and trying to hit on her, especially considering what you said about her Instagram. Considering this, I believe the best you can do is keep improving yourself and ignore them, because the more you feel insecure about that, the less she’ll like you.

One last thing, instead of thinking that she has lots of guys around who can steal her think that she chose you over them.

ChaotixEDM · 2021-12-26T13:35:58+00:00

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Dannyhern13 · 2021-12-26T07:33:55+00:00

What’s her Instagram?

aidsjohnson · 2021-12-26T05:45:15+00:00

One thing about women is they don’t like simps. A guy giving her attention on social media is just that. She could always use one of those dudes to make you jealous down the line, but you gotta remember: she likes you and you’re doing something right. She probably likes you because you seem to have things figured out a bit more than some of those IG simps. And BTW, that ideology you have of girls not liking older guys is totally wrong. A lot of em actually love it because of how much different older dudes are than younger guys today.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2021-12-26T04:13:32+00:00

Like someone else stated, talk to other women. I hate to be so negative, but you’re not the only guy she’s talking to. It is what it is, so always have other women available until you two are 100% in a monogamous relationship.

LeftinthePnW · 2021-12-26T05:18:17+00:00

She was with you before she got those views on IG. Don’t change who you are! Improve on what needs to be improved but stay true to yourself…

Kingpin329 · 2021-12-26T06:24:05+00:00

All you need to do is make her orgasm regularly. Problem solved.

dark_helmt8 · 2021-12-26T04:41:20+00:00

Its just your turn with her brotha. Any girl who's life revolves around instagram is not relationship material. Enjoy yourself, have fun, hook up, and be chill AF. Never even mention her social media or anything, and Im saying this from experience. Also, dont flash money or give her any. Think hiking and nature dates and cooking at home a lot. The moment she senses insecurity, it's over. Eventually she'll get a Chad sliding into her DMs and drift away and itll be the next guys turn.

david10277 · 2021-12-26T07:46:56+00:00

Bro..I'm I the same boat..first Take advice from guys who are/have actually dating younger girls not guys who have not done this..they dont get it. It's not same game as dating someone your age or a few years apart.

When its decades (in my case) it's a different ball game There is a fine balance of treating her (not giving her money) , supporting and mentoring her . It takes a little of everything. Girls this age are dealing with immature guys who just want pussy. You have to expose her to shit those guys cant and are not willing to do.

Let no one preach to you that you dont need to do nothing extra. Anyone who says this is not dating a younger girl..Do nothing extra and your like the guys her age and now your going to lose based on age gap. So of course you have to be different, Let the guys commenting show you the hot 20+yr old there fucking while there in there 40s or 50s.

I ll wait........................................

Ok on to my story Mine is 20yrs younger.. shes on IG with alot of followers and with comments from guys trying to hit her up all the time. First .I stopped following her page I only respond to stories every now and then I keep my communication to SMS or calls only

Give her some room and dont let it get to your head Second..dont worry about the other dicks..they are not financially secure, emotional mature or sexually experienced to win her over if you manage these things well with her.

Dont try to compete with the younger guys..do other shit you know those guys won't do, and expose her to cool shit, become her rock, keep it lite and fun. Let her have her fun and tell her what your cool with. Dont become her self controlling, miserable older boyfriend - you will lose her.

Enjoy the time with some young pussy. Be prepared that she may connect with someone closer too her age. But that's gonna be rare and they would have to be better at all those things you have done. Which is even more rare and if she does..so what.. just keep it FWB ..let her be as long as she is providing you what you need. Which is the feeling you got this younger girl opening her holes to you.

That's all we really want to know. That's what I do..dont suffocate her, dont try to lock her down it won't work and you will lose her..encourage her to make money and spend the income on doing something together , build something.
See what you are doing is showing her why you are different from the other guys.

Help her grow (personally emotionally, business , financially) and give her advice. Younger girls are looking for guidance and motivation. Father figure, menor (not preachy)

My young girl explicitly text me and stating ..I want your opinion on xxxxx . So she values my input, finally key think is just keep striving for your own goals and let her see those.achievements. She will keep being attracted to your drive and motivation which many younger guys lack since there focused only on getting into her pants

Enjoy the experience and learn from it..learned alot of things about myself and how to keep things lite and as long as you are teaching her something-she will remember your forever no matter how it turns out.

My .02 -

2021-12-26T06:07:53+00:00

Enjoy your life with her.

She chose you. Females get hit on all the time. It’s why I let gf’s handle things till I need to step in. I trust them.

I got friends that are models and ignore the comments, DM’s etc. Yet if I text they’ll text right back. Truthfully the only time I go on their account is if I’m randomly doing some cyber security shit for them.

She’s not letting it get to her head, so neither should you.

Also remember all that online shit is fake. Enjoy your life bro.

Dramatic-Wishbone364 · 2021-12-26T08:49:53+00:00

Almost 99.9% of those people are total strangers she doesn't know.

I'm in the same situation. Dating younger girl and her getting thousands of people as followers on social media. It doesn't bother me. She didnt want all that attention and deleted her stuff on her own. How's your girls attitude towards the attention?

Alphaojo · 2021-12-26T16:15:32+00:00

Bruh all this “still wants to spend time” with me are b.s. She’s with you because you’re with her. When you lose interest, she loses interest. 100k likes from men she can’t touch is not as powerful as your touch. Enjoy her because 100k likes or not wtf does that make her pussy sweeter? Still the same girl.

jdgrazia · 2021-12-26T06:21:02+00:00

just focus on continuing to grow, every day get your shit together a little bit more. if she can't appreciate someone who continually grows then that's on her

Alex_O7 · 2021-12-26T11:47:05+00:00

I think you had to watch a psychologist rather than looking on reddit, honestly.

It looks like you are insecure but once again it is really hard to tackle this from the other side of the screen.

I will generally suggest you to think that your girl have decided to date with you and not with all the other dicks around IG. So this put you much higher in the social scale than 100k other dudes out there, there should not be anything to be I secure.

KingInTheNorthVI · 2021-12-26T16:07:31+00:00

What's your endgame? Are you trying to get married and have kids soon? Are you just trying to have fun? Be honest with yourself and then act accordingly you can't stop her from wanting to be with someone else all you can do is live your best life and if she factors into that great if not have some fun and move on.

DeathChess · 2021-12-26T16:29:35+00:00

Enjoy it while it lasts, friend.

I would fully expect her to move on at some point, have fun while you can, enjoy your time together, and try not to be a total tool if and when she moves on.

RoddyChooch · 2021-12-26T03:53:48+00:00

Always have a backup

Crooklar · 2021-12-26T13:54:54+00:00

Enjoy your time with her

mpower20 · 2021-12-26T16:12:45+00:00

Almost nothing she encounters online is real, like at all. Don’t get me wrong, it’s possible she’s fooled I to thinking it’s real, but it isn’t. You’re real. Just keep being the best version of you. Believe me, there’s another bus full of 20 something’s who’re looking for a legit guy like you.

VorpalPaperclip · 2021-12-26T17:27:47+00:00

Can you just not follow her on insta?

mybestlife123 · 2021-12-26T18:04:53+00:00

To her every single guy in her dm’s are creeps. To go through all of them is mentally taxing. Its the reason why she doesnt read them. This is also the reason why so many women dont use dating apps. Ur in a very secure place, way more than you think. U need to focus on ur goals and be there for her. Because all the orbitors will just reinforce in her mind the need for a strong male in her life.

poots2 · 2021-12-26T21:08:54+00:00

One thing I always told my friends:

If my girl has dick thrown at her left and right, there's nothing I can do stop her from acting on it. In fact, I encourage her to be around as many dudes as she wants. If she's going to throw away everything we have, then do it sooner rather than later, and save both of us the trouble. If she does, then good riddance. On to the next one.

Affectionate-Shine12 · 2021-12-26T11:26:37+00:00

What's her @

Mundane-Currency5088 · 2021-12-26T13:05:59+00:00

I am a woman. Do NOT not talk to her about your feelings. DO take responsibility for those feelings. Like "wow sometimes I feel a little insecure about this Instagram thing but I know you are such an attractive person of course you would do well on Instagram." Also doing well in Instagram takes talent. You have to hold your body a certain way, wear the right clothes, do your makeup, edit photos. Compliment her TALENT and abilities more than her physical appearance.

2021-12-26T04:15:17+00:00

Often, these gap situations make for great flings. Many don't survive into LTR's though. So if she does eventually decide she's happier with someone younger, you will understand. And if you do stay together long term, you might feel you are competing long term with all the cock she attracts from Instagram. In the meantime, enjoy that young punani!

Armybert · 2021-12-26T09:54:10+00:00

Even 100k is pretty average these days, just like 10,000 views in YouTube was a big deal back in the day

Motorchampion · 2021-12-26T07:56:12+00:00

You have been living a general lie like even myself some time ago and many others still do to this day, in relationship to age. You see, the ideal age of your partner should be your current age divided by two then adding 7 years. So basically the one you’ve mentioned is optimal.

There is a lot to say here. Women and men mature totally different. Men peak between 30 and 35 while women peak between roughly 21 and 26. Already two who are dating within these age ranges are considered to be dating at their peaks. Also when growing up and leading towards their peak or within the early years of it, it is normal to experiment and make mistakes. Aka “the shit you do when you’re young”. Now here’s the thing: the shit that women do when they’re young (can be festivals, tattoos, sleeping around with random persons, heavy drinking, acting slutty and thotty, drugs, wearing ugly clothing, throw in an abortion or two) damages them long term much more and permanently in the long term than men. And guys their age will not know this and will have no means of protecting them because they are young, broke, still trying to figure things out, long before their peak, and still too far from being mature. Now, if a man in his peak has his shit together well enough (high paying job, not overweight, social game on point, dresses well, knows moderation and sensibility) he will be an ideal partner for a younger woman than him because he will act as a provider, protector, mentor, and will bring the value to the relationship that close to no other men in their twenties can, while he himself is getting the benefit of dating a beautiful young woman in her who looks up to him.

So next time you shouldn’t be surprised if someone young is into you. Means that you’re doing something wrong. Women are creeped out by men your age who are overweight losers with zero skills who live in their parents’ attic still.

Those “young orbiters” have nothing that you have.

Also just a friendly word of advice. If you’re serious together, you can’t let her seek cheap validation on instagram. Either she posts pictures of you two or goodbye. It’s the cut-throat world we live in now. She needs to know that the moment you walk out the door you are not turning back and that she won’t get what you offer from Chad in her DMs.

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2021-12-26T11:25:33+00:00

Attention whoring on social media? She's for the streets, bro.

EleoraHC · 2021-12-26T14:47:57+00:00

Prenup if you marry. Sinple. Other than that jst enjoy life and the sex

tradone · 2021-12-26T13:08:04+00:00

She probably loves you for the stability as an older male. Be strong.

Donexodus · 2021-12-26T08:44:25+00:00

Let her have the 1000 inbox dicks. If she takes any of them, she’s not up to your standards. Think long term. Her being u faithful doesn’t mean you lose, it means you dodge a bullet

SnooGiraffes5176 · 2021-12-26T09:09:56+00:00

Women can sense insecurity. Maintain BDE. While she may be a catch, don’t forget you’re a prize as well. If the worst case scenario occurs, just know you pulled a baddie once and you can do it again. Have a happy holidays!

am2549 · 2021-12-26T12:26:26+00:00

Hey I want to share my experience. Middle of my thirties, I got older, girlfriends stayed between 19-22, always very pretty, always longer relationships, always had an amazing time. Enjoy this time, have fun! She chose you over them, let that sink in. But then again, chances are very high you are not gonna marry her one day if that’s what you’re looking for (maybe you’re not), because there is still too much to experience for her outside of your world. Only my personal learnings, they don’t apply to everyone.

321gumby · 2021-12-26T14:02:37+00:00

It's just your turn man...

Delicatestatesmen · 2021-12-26T15:29:07+00:00

im dating a 27 year old and im 41… works out fine just ask any men of high value. Money and success allows you to date younger.

MA_CA_NV_CA · 2021-12-26T18:38:40+00:00

Yes money success and attractiveness lets you date younger. Keep doing that.

As for her, it’s not going to last - let’s be real. 99% of relationships don’t last. she has a million backup dicks lined up already and it’s right up in your face. You need to line up lots of backup females and start seeing them regularly (but don’t put it up in her face obviously). This will also have the side effect of making you less jealous / needy and more attractive to Instagram girl.

Dpaige411 · 2021-12-26T16:36:18+00:00

Try not to show it or unconsciously show it either (I know, easier said than done and how can you hide your unconscious lol). But that will cause her to have the upper hand and I can personally tell you you don’t want that happening. And just relax and let go of the things you can’t control. It’s hard but it’ll be much harder when it’s happening and you make her feel badly about it or get insecure about it. It’ll totally change the dynamic. Trust me.

AvailableCoffee2689 · 2021-12-26T22:52:20+00:00

focus right now and stop being someone insecure. trust her and enjoy, because even u think like that or not, what happens is gonna happens you know just hang in there :-)

andr386 · 2021-12-26T14:27:52+00:00

That's insecurity talking.

The relationship could end for any good reasons. There is no way to guarantee otherwise ... You don't own her.

If she is really the one, then invest in the relationship through emotional labor to strenghten your ties. Be very open and find a way your can both be vulnerable and support each others. Make plans for the future.

I am not telling you to start a family. But sort of make her family.
Life is tough. Once you have a reliable partner that has your back and consider you family, why would you leave overnight.

Stop thinking about playing and think about building your relationship.

CombatPunk88 · 2021-12-26T14:33:49+00:00

If she's attractive, then she's been getting dicks flying at her. Scratch that, if she's not ugly then she been getting dicks flying at her. This is nothing new lol. Definitely a non issue.

No_Way2496 · 2021-12-26T11:07:05+00:00

100k followers BUT SHE IS WITH YOU, DESPITE THE 100k followers

PaqS18 · 2021-12-26T09:16:57+00:00

Why would you be with a 23 year old, even if she’s hot..? Like, as a relation? That sounds fucked up to me. You’re both in such different phases of life. Find someone of your own age jeezh.

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brabus4 · 2021-12-26T09:23:30+00:00

Bro if you close your eyes and something stops existing you probably shouldn't think about it. Like the Internet

ProfessionalWorld527 · 2021-12-26T10:02:19+00:00

Totally get you bro, dating this girl rn. And she got like blue ticks in her dms constantly. But I know they ain’t got a chance. I am a year younger than her but Still feel you. I mean I’m financially stable but I ain’t no German league footballer. But regardless. If they have so many options and still pick u, use that to ur advantage

plaaya · 2021-12-26T11:38:01+00:00

It depends what you want out of this relationship. Are you looking to marry her or something else?

ProfundaBrachii · 2021-12-26T12:14:27+00:00

No matter how beautiful she is or amazing she is, how you view your value is more important than how you view hers. Put yourself first

matterhorn10 · 2021-12-26T14:26:05+00:00

In case you are rich, don't spend too much money on her. You never know someone's true intentions. But all the best :)

prophetofthepimps · 2021-12-26T15:48:13+00:00

The maturity thing will hit you if she hasn't grown out of her teenage attention seeking phase. Was engaged to a girl who was 24 when I was 35. Things went tits up when I ended up living together during the complete shut down India had during 2020 April onwards. If she is level headed, mature and isn't attention seeking you are fine, if any off those things are off they are much more difficult to handle with younger girls.

VerySlump · 2021-12-26T16:12:02+00:00

Imma be straight up with you. This road only ends in 2 possible paths. You either get married and die together (very unlikely) or, she becomes an ex like everyone else (very likely).

Chicken_Moustache · 2021-12-26T18:20:38+00:00

I was in the same situation when I was your age. I was very much into her, but it didn’t last because I was too insecure. That is what turned her away, not attention from elsewhere, so worry about your issues and not hers!

Shadow__Account · 2021-12-26T18:51:04+00:00

I have been in a similar situation in the sense that I got insecure in the same way because I dated a successful woman and you want to fix that insecurity asap, because it will shine though no matter how well you try to hide it. I’d sit down and think about all the positive attributes and characteristics you have that she is lucky to have around.

Gravity_falls549 · 2021-12-26T19:06:29+00:00

She is young…. Sorry your in this situation. She is probably going to do what young girls do and a part of you knows it. At least you don’t have a lot of time invested into the relationship. I honestly hope things work out for you, you sound like a nice guy. Social media kills relationships

Radiant_Panda_3430 · 2021-12-26T20:55:52+00:00

Keep your options open, have girls on standby, that’s a Huge red flag

lohvei0r · 2021-12-26T21:26:55+00:00

Enjoy it while it last.

LevelUp84 · 2021-12-26T21:49:50+00:00

In my experience all those guys are randoms so don't get too jealous. Secondly, you have the biggest advantage which is seeing her face to face instead of being a face in her dms with 1,000 pictures.

reaprofsouls · 2021-12-26T22:21:42+00:00

I've been with an amazing woman 10 years younger than me for 3 years. 33 v 23.

You have to remain the confident one. The leader. The rock of the relationship. The person driving your future and enabling fun. She is most likely a lot cooler, a lot more spontaneous, and fun. But she is going to be more insecure and unsure. You are there to support her in becoming the most confident, fun and uninhibited person she can be.

She will love you for being there to support her and grow with her. If you grow together you will grow into her visions of the future.

This doesn't mean being a door mat or worshipping her but it does mean you need to be a positive influence in her live encouraging her to grow or she will resent you.

angrypuppy35 · 2021-12-27T00:43:55+00:00

“I should also state that she makes more than me solely through her Instagram… lol”

How much does she make?

You know it’s probably only a matter of time until she starts an onlyfans.

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