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Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-11-16T14:44:55+00:00

I'm wondering, what are some signs that you give (as a man) to women that I should look out for that means that you like me?

If a guy approaches you, he likes you. It's pretty straightforward.

is there anything I can do to attract men?

Wear provocative clothing and make lots of eye contact with the guys you're interested in, giving them a smile when you do. Also get close to them too.

If you really want to ensure you're getting laid though, then the easiest thing to do is actually approach the guys yourself instead of waiting for them to approach. Guys are simple. You really don't need to play games with them if you want to fuck them.

if I am giving someone lots of eye contact and they don't approach me, does that mean that they don't like me?

Not always, they might just be shy. If they don't even give much eye contact back to you though, then they probably aren't interested. But again, only real way to know is to approach them yourself.

renegade453 · 2021-11-16T14:39:26+00:00

Just go up to a man u like and talk with him. Almost any man at a nightclub is only there because he wants that chance. Thats why we go to clubs.

badabing654 · 2021-11-16T18:38:13+00:00

Okay first you got to hit the gym for 6 months at least. Then get a haircut and then make sure your social skills are good. Wait you’re a woman. Just exist

BrownnPickup · 2021-11-16T14:44:29+00:00

Eye contact and proximity. Some women just won’t approach a guy and that’s okay. But if you like a guy, make it easy for him to approach you. Body language helps too

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2021-11-16T15:34:44+00:00

Smile and touch his arm. Shouldn't require much effort. Guys are already there to hookup

Borischeekibreeki · 2021-11-16T14:45:23+00:00

Alright follow my instructions very carefully

"Hi I think you're cute, let's hook up". We like to be told what you want instead of having to play 20 questions all night.

chriipping · 2021-11-17T01:47:39+00:00

This has got to be the easiest task ever. If you are above a 5 attractive just go to the bar/club, it will happen eventually. If you are below a 4, go after everyone is already drunk.

dzoya1266 · 2021-11-16T23:12:13+00:00

You have to do these things: 1. Look nice 2. Look nice 3. Read 1. and 2.

Indianbro · 2021-11-16T17:20:06+00:00

Im sorry but i cant tell if this post is serious or not. As a woman, you virtually don’t have to do ANYTHING to attract a man. Guys will do anything to try and hook up at a nightclub. That being said, giving away signal cues (eye contact, smiling, open body language) is one of the worst ways to attract a guy because most guys dont pick up on them. Hell, you could stare at a guy for a minute straight and he still may think something is wrong with you. Just easier to approach him discretely or have a friend start talking to him and let you be introduced. Seriously, its not that hard. I dont understand why women are so insistent on using signals that guys are completely oblivious too lol. Unless they are trained to look for them, its futile.

jwilhelm0618 · 2021-11-17T00:10:51+00:00

There was a Saturday night live skit that addressed this topic in the 90's. Go to the bar. Find a guy that you would like to sleep with and say, "hey I'd like to sleep with you tonight." That should be about all the advice you need. You're very welcome!

PitsKebs · 2021-11-16T19:42:54+00:00

Last week I was at a club, a random girl came to me and started kissing me. I didnt even see her face before we hooked up, thats how easy it is for girls.

yungzz400 · 2021-11-17T00:41:03+00:00

How about a novel idea? One never thought of before. Go up to the guy, and then talk to him. Rather than fucking looking at him and thinking he's a mind reader

Shuuuuup · 2021-11-16T16:02:12+00:00

Regarding your question if your eyeing a guy and he doesn't respond does that mean he doesn't like you? I don't think that's true, I feel like I've been given the eye, but have been too scared to do anything! But maybe you don't want a guy like that anyways so I'm sure there are guys that will take action. I think giving the eye and like a smile to let them know for sure, yes I'm looking at you because I want to talk with you, should work with most guys

SweetChocolate02 · 2021-11-16T16:33:51+00:00

A dead give away that a girl next to me did was accidentally touch me. That was her move now it was mine. Unfortunately for her I though she was ugly af so I removed myself from that situation. Pretty smooth on her part tho

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-16T16:53:06+00:00

Wear clothes that show off your best assets (hehehe), bright red lipstick. If you are there with a friend make sure you are not closed off and talking to her. You have to face the crowd and have an open body language that shows you want to be approached. You can always do the half smile when a guy checks you out. If you feel especially brave you can "come hither" him with your fingers. That's a super powerful move and will get you laid more than you have in the last.

Slomojoe · 2021-11-16T17:38:41+00:00

Be direct. This is the best advice any woman can get in regards to meeting dudes.

QaWaR · 2021-11-17T00:05:31+00:00

Here is the best advice to attract men: Exist Yw

laddy_McTaegue · 2021-11-16T20:42:24+00:00

Find a guy you like. Hit hit with a dart or something. Tell him you should take him home to bandage him up.

ArbitArc · 2021-11-17T01:53:31+00:00

Just being there should suffice, preferably alive. That’s men for you.

Wookieman222 · 2021-11-17T02:13:35+00:00

Step 1 for woman to attract men at a club. Show up and be a woman.

Step 2. See step one.

drunkcherries · 2021-11-17T12:41:43+00:00

Honestly, if you see a cute guy who is by himself, just ask him to dance or if he’s already dancing then go near him and dance.

If I see a super cute guy I just usually smile and well that seems to be enough lol.

wondorous · 2021-11-16T16:08:56+00:00

Think about it this way, it someone’s nervous to approach you, how can you make it easier on them? Throw in a smile with the eye contact. If you’re talking and you get the opportunity, move his hand to somewhere on you to initiate touch. Guys like to have positive reinforcement to know what they’re doing is welcome.

MauPow · 2021-11-17T00:44:58+00:00

Do we have to teach you how to shoot fish in barrels, too?

kscotty84 · 2021-11-16T15:42:01+00:00

If you're at a club just start grinding them.

ChananaKK · 2021-11-16T23:16:49+00:00

I will stare right into your soul if I am interested. And if you feel a creepy chill down your spine, thats my hint

recyclablebanthas · 2021-11-17T02:45:40+00:00

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I am a woman and I'd like to meet guys at nightclubs to hook up with. I'm wondering, what are some signs that you give (as a man) to women that I should look out for that means that you like me?

This isn't alchemy. The signs are pretty similar whether it's a guy or a girl that's interested in another person.

To be honest, guys are usually a little more obvious than girls because culturally, they're expected to be the one to make moves.

But you can't and should have standards more than simply identifying a guy who's interested. It's also important that you're screening for guys who actually know how to navigate the process from the start to the bedroom.

You could mistakenly spend time with a guy who's interested but is so awkward that the whole process is going to be painful and may actually fail because they shoot themselves down.

So with that in mind here are some indications that you're dealing with someone who's interested and worth spending time on:

The guy can look you in the eye, but in a socially aware way where he's not trying to get into a staring contest or being creep or weird about it.
He's interacting with you directly. Like dancing with you or chatting you up off the dance floor.
He seems to be paying attention to feedback you're giving him about what you want.

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And is there anything I can do to attract men?

While someone can certainly do things to avoid shooting themselves down accidentally, attraction itself isn't due to something someone deliberately does.

In fact, if you try to attract people that can come off as desperate, which is ironically unattractive.

It's more practical to think about this in terms of whether you are staying out of your own way.

But there are no magic tricks here. If the guys suggesting to go off somewhere with him, you've built up a certain amount of trust that he's not a psycho killer, and you're interested in him, then of course you're going to do things to help grease the wheels.

But as for attracting men, some men are always going to be in the market for whatever you're presenting to the world. So there's nothing for you to really do.

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Usually if I like a guy at a club I will give lots of eye contact to signal that I like him. Is this a good thing to do?

You're overthinking this. Of course eye contact is fine. Some guys will notice it. At least if they're looking at you because they are also interested.

And if I am giving someone lots of eye contact and they don't approach me, does that mean that they don't like me?

If a guy doesn't approach you then it means he's lacking in confidence or he's not interested.

If he's lacking in confidence, there's nothing you can do about it. Not your monkeys, not your circus.
If he's not interested, there's nothing you can do about it.

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Something else to keep in mind is to ask yourself whether you are doing all you can to enjoy yourself when you are at a club.

Because if you're on the dance floor interacting with people, there shouldn't be so much focus on simply making eye contact with someone. At a club, you should be in close proximity to people, dancing with them, etc.

If that isn't your bag, then you might consider shifting strategies and trying to meet people at a bar where it's normal to look at people and you can just walk over and start talking to them more easily.

wikuss475 · 2021-11-16T16:37:09+00:00

Eye contact, smile at him politely not ina creepy way, if the club is playing reggaeton go ahead and twerk on him in can be on his dick or thigh he’ll like it. Usually guys initiate the dance but girls can start aswell, once u start and if he likes u back he’ll continue the dance with u for 5 minutes u guys will talk and eventually kiss if you’re both tipsy

skinisblackmetallic · 2021-11-16T18:04:39+00:00

I’ll just say that if a guy does not approach, this has little bearing on his feelings toward you. It’s usually more about him.

Chicagoj1563 · 2021-11-16T19:13:35+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that guys are really terrible at this sort of thing. Even if a guy suspects you are making signals, many still won't know how to follow up. Don't expect guys to act on your signals all the time, or at least most of the time, unless you are really hot.

I'd say, just be persistant. If the guy seems to like you but never takes any risks and you are getting a bit frustrated he can't take the lead, just be direct. Say something like, "Are you going to ask for my number or what?" Just let him know its on him to lead and he's messing up, maybe in a playful way. Again, guys are retarded when it comes to this stuff. Not everyone, but most will be.

2021-11-16T19:44:38+00:00

It means they are scared. you could be the most attractive girl in the club so you are very intimidating so guys never do it. Especially if you reject guys and if other guys see it than thats when most men back off. Some guys who are drunk could approach but it's not guaranteed. If you brings girls with u it's very likely they will cockblock u. I don't recommend going with a group of girls. Alone or with a friend is ok but she has to be open to meet guys and not cock block u. Anyways you could do the approaching it's up to u but good luck

Future__Author · 2021-11-16T22:12:16+00:00

You could be an adult and tell him instead of trying to send signals

emperatrizyuiza · 2021-11-16T22:54:49+00:00

I just show a lot of cleavage

Katherina-petrova · 2021-11-16T23:01:33+00:00

Just get drunk/tipsy enough, come to him, talk to him, ask him to go for a walk if he is like YESSS, it’s a yes and you can be confident (most of them will be), tell him to get you a drink, and go outside, drink that drink quickly, kiss him and That’s how it goes

miamiric3 · 2021-11-17T00:38:34+00:00

Easy. Make physical contact with him. Touch his shoulder/arm while laughing or saying something. If he pulls away, he’s probably not interested. Let your hands linger a bit longer. Touch his hand. Hold his hand. Play with his fingers.

If he plays with your fingers back, he’s into it, and you can proposition him.

Eye contact is definitely good, but physical contact is what will seal the deal.

As for cold approaching, you can literally strike up a conversation about almost anything. Just say “Hi”, and ask him a question. It could be about himself, his name, the venue, with whom he’s there, etc.

wolfbee16 · 2021-11-17T01:03:00+00:00

From someone who has learned game, you have to be upfront. Most guys won’t notice the body language or subtle hints girls give off. You gotta be really nice and talkative with them for it to potentially click.

I know early on my issue was overthinking everything. A girl could be trying to grind on me and I thought well she’s not FULLY grinding on me so I shouldn’t pursue.

Be blunt, and straight up and you will have success

isaac098 · 2021-11-17T04:04:29+00:00

Just say hi, will work 9/10 times.

ProFriendZoner · 2021-11-17T06:17:57+00:00

Keep in mind a lot of guys can't "read signs" so don't take it initially as rejection

Scorchyy · 2021-11-17T17:06:20+00:00

If the guys don't come talk to you it probably means you're not very attractive, that's the sad truth

LandscapeClear1630 · 2021-11-16T15:37:51+00:00

Approach a man you like and be honest with your intentions.

As simple as that.

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-11-16T16:22:07+00:00

Literally every men there is interested just grind up on them and kiss them. If they want to do that, they will want to fuck as well.

WeedWizard69420 · 2021-11-16T20:07:56+00:00

I always feel bad for these posts, I'm sure this chick is a whale or ugly face... otherwise she wouldn't ever need to ask this question lmao

Alex_O7 · 2021-11-16T15:48:01+00:00

Eye contact and body language are a must. Also smiling a lot towards him, be open and dance with him too.

If a guy didn't look at you it is probably not interested, but you never know, so if you are really attracted to him feel free to approach.

I won't follow the suggestion of other here if I was you about wearing provocative clothes. These make you look like a slut not as an attractive girl. Imho you should rather dress as you like and as it feel more comfortable to you. As a guy I assure you I have approached girls in clubs even if they were poorly dressed, but just like because I like them and their vibes!

willgo-waggins · 2021-11-16T16:56:07+00:00

So my current girl made it very clear that she wanted me from moment one.

First it was direct eye contact, smiling and initiating conversation. All this was somewhat subtle as I was at the event kind of with another woman whom I had met a week before. When that woman left, my girl slid right over and invited me to take her seat at the patio table and immediately began with softly intimate touches to my arm, shoulder, neck and thigh. She literally looked at me almost exclusively no matter who was talking or if she was taking to others ir the group.

As the night went on she found excuses to sit on my lap, laying back body length against me in a lounging chair and press her length of her body against mine at any excuse (dancing, standing or whatever).

She made it crystal clear what her intentions were.

CalvinHobb3s · 2021-11-16T20:45:21+00:00

jesus christ...

MoStuntin · 2021-11-16T21:43:21+00:00

Basically dance near us that’s enough

stajef · 2021-11-16T22:08:33+00:00

i guess i should ask if you are attractive or land whale

tryingmybestatm · 2021-11-17T04:40:44+00:00

just go inside and wait, that's it.

CompendiumDigital · 2021-11-16T15:16:24+00:00

just ask them directly, for fuck's sake.

StereoFood · 2021-11-16T20:44:07+00:00

Lmao a girl asking for advice? If you want to get leg just walk up to literally ANY guy and tell them. Maybe start off small and vulnerably let them know the truth. Tell them you don’t do this often tho cuz they might think you’re nasty for being so easy

CorenBrightside · 2021-11-16T20:59:59+00:00

And if I am giving someone lots of eye contact and they don't approach me, does that mean that they don't like me?

Guess it depends where in the world you are. Someone staring at you all night and not approaching is creepy for men also.

JudgmentMoto · 2021-11-17T05:17:24+00:00

Literally just approach someone and ask him if he wanna fuck.

Yash313 · 2021-11-16T16:50:37+00:00

Just smile. That's enough.

REVENGEBLA · 2021-11-16T16:52:12+00:00

Go up to them be blunt and strifhr forward

TheBurningStag13 · 2021-11-16T19:01:53+00:00

Ultimately, it would be best if you were to approach someone you found attractive..but some guys (who aren’t going to put themselves out on a limb to get shot down) will likely try and communicate with you via the eyes or expressions from across the bar.

Tall_Butterscotch_32 · 2021-11-16T19:24:39+00:00

You did good for a girl,but with a smile will definitely boost confident for a men. especially in modern world, not every men learned women body-language i was like 28,when I started to understand, men who are on game they would approach right away.now I'am 36 if you have eyes on me, just a about 3s I'll make a move ain't wait for my value to drop.

TechnoGeek423 · 2021-11-16T20:26:38+00:00

A major thing I see girls do that prevents guys from even approaching is not appearing approachable. A scowl on your face, or talking with 2 of your other girlfriends in a circle with your back faced outward are surefire ways to go home without some interactions.

Imreallytired2301 · 2021-11-16T20:56:03+00:00

Okay so as a man Eye contact is good as long as I noticed you looking, the second thing would be to wait couple of minutes and walk in front of me and say something like "I like your outfit" "I like your shoes" just to spark a conversation that will ultimately give the guy a flirty vibe and will seek attraction towards your confidence, some guys will say something like "thanks!" but dont get put off they most likely want to know more about you

Moikepdx · 2021-11-16T21:17:08+00:00

I’d recommend initiating conversation, but still allowing room for him to lead.

“You’re cute.” or “You’re hot.” Or “You look interesting.” Would br a great opener. Most guys don’t get complimented regularly, so you’ll stand out.

Going further with “You’re hot. Let’s fuck.” will work on some men, but will be a huge red flag for others. If he’s not leading you can ask what he’s doing later and whether he wants company. Just leave it ambiguous enough that he can think he was the one that hooked you instead of the other way around.

This should work for pretty much any guy who’s even mildly attracted to you, without scaring off the ones with fragile masculine self images or who just like more traditional women.

OR… just be yourself and attract guys that like the person you are. You’ll get fewer matches, but better ones.

astrothunderp · 2021-11-16T22:54:21+00:00

Just go talk to him. I wish more women would know that it’s way easier for them to get laid than it is for us men because of the double standard of being direct and wanting sex on the first meet up.

One-Hedgehog4722 · 2021-11-16T23:37:04+00:00

No, if he does t approach it def doesn’t mean they don’t like you. There’s various reasons why they might not chat. Might not have picked up the signal, thinking of what to say, etc etc I would say after making eye contact, he’s seen you in his vision, you get closer, closer, then mayb bump into him or ask him a question. It could be any question, where’s the bathroom, have you seen a phone laying around, whoops its in my pocket, thanks for helping me, literally anything lol. Basically making him realize oh she asked me a question because she’s into me. If a girl asked me something and I wasn’t into her, I would still answer. But if I was into her, I’d quickly take the hint and follow her or find her to start talking. Remember most guys go to talk to women not the other way around, so I always welcome a girl approaching me, I just hope she gets the clue if Im not into her, In which case I say you ask a ?, get the answer then leave, now it’s his turn to chase you.

GorillaGlue89 · 2021-11-17T01:05:29+00:00

touch him and he will know.

corsairm · 2021-11-17T02:11:34+00:00

A smile works wonders

LA_17 · 2021-11-17T02:22:04+00:00

While making eye contact, puff out your chest a bit and slowly sway your shoulders back and forth. If ole boy doesn’t make a beeline for you, he gay.

S0GGYS4L4DS · 2021-11-17T03:07:54+00:00

Pheromones or classy perfumes. 🔥

Ouch78 · 2021-11-17T03:27:11+00:00

Walk to the bar , buy yourself a drink next to a guy you like , ask the bartender for a towel and some ice. Wrap the ice in the towel and break while maintaining eye contact say "now I've broken the ice ,what's your name?" Always works.....

SpinCity07 · 2021-11-17T04:29:33+00:00

Boobs out and challenge him.

Aromatic-Engineer-74 · 2021-11-17T12:51:54+00:00

Grab him by the dick.

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