Fellas, for real, get off the apps. Bizarre irl example

alexbananas · 2024-11-10T11:32:49+00:00

I’ve never seen a chick’s Bumble or Tinder account that doesn’t have 99+ likes it’s crazy, and I’m talking about some chicks that are 3/10 on a good day

VrilHunter · 2024-11-10T12:43:21+00:00

One of my female friends who you'd never approach irl had her bumble like this. Every right swipe was an instant match (she showed me her bumble so i right swiped everything and everything matched). Her DMs didn't end if you kept scrolling down. It was crazy. Endless supply of dicks.

Rainmaker0102 · 2024-11-10T11:59:17+00:00

IRL approaches are entirely dependent on population. The odds seem to balance when you're in a smaller town, as there are just less opportunities to meet people. Yeah, you have the grocery store, the gym, etc however those aren't exactly places people are looking for conversation.

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-10T15:26:32+00:00

Apps can be a supplement, but real life should be the main way to meet women.

Apps only have a limited selection of women and there are some types of women who are very rare or you'll never see on any app. This is not the case with reality, besides, reality allows for showing off a lot more of yourself right off the bat than just a few photos and a short bio.

Women can get a feel for you a lot easier than a dating profile ever could accomplish, which might catch their interest in ways you would be unable to with the limited tools available on apps.

Seductive_allure3000 · 2024-11-10T19:19:14+00:00

I can't remeber where I saw it but a guy went round asking Women which do they prefer more, dating apps or meeting guys IRL. Every one of them chose meeting IRL because of the connection and they can feel the guy out. You can't get that on a dating app.

I'm handsome and I've never used dating apps before. I wish I used it when it first came out, but now it seems so pointless. You're competing against hundreds (if not thousands) of Men. Even if you have your photography on point and have a good social presence, it doesn't mean you'll get loads of matches. My friend is handsome and he barely gets any matches on dating apps, it's wild. It's just luck of the draw I guess (also dependent on location).

Artium99 · 2024-11-10T11:26:21+00:00

Most of the likes aren't gonna be converted to matches anyways cos girls aren't gonna be swiping a bunch of guys to start with. Even with in those hundreds of matches, most of them just text boring shit like "Hi", "How are you", "I want sex", etc. Just be cool and smart then you'll be at top of her match lists in no time.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-11-10T16:06:28+00:00

Now, she’s a drop-dead gorgeous girl, but she had an endless list on Tinder with superlikes and 9 999+ likes…..

I don't know why this is surprising for you. If she's drop dead gorgeous, she'll have a 99% right swipe rate. You need to be a 9/10 dude with the perfect profile yourself to get a right swipe from her and even then, it's not guaranteed she'll even respond.

Girls who are 9s and up don't need the apps, they get plenty of attention IRL. However the 7s and 8s are definitely a lot more available on the apps and it can be pretty convenient and easy to game them there compared to IRL and THAT'S what the apps are good for.

CandidInevitable757 · 2024-11-10T15:50:08+00:00

Nonetheless 90% of my dates comes from the apps and some are legit cute ¯_(ツ)_/¯

LongHairedKraut · 2024-11-10T18:14:15+00:00

Not every man is able to do irl approaches for various reasons. Not every man is able to be in environments conducive to meeting women, for various reasons. The intention to tell guys to meet women in real life is good, but not every man can attain that. It might be my own biases talking, but I myself get really annoyed with the rhetoric that a man ought to “just get off the apps and meet women in real life”.

I myself am 28 and to this day I have NEVER dated any women I’ve initially met in real life. I haven’t even kissed a girl I’ve initially met in real life. All my dating experience is with women I’ve met on apps.

People say I ought to cold approach women, but that’s so forced and contrived and with randomly approaching women in real life one has nothing to go off of. One knows nothing of the woman in question yet somehow a random approach is supposed to make it more likely to get into a relationship? Chatting up a random woman in public you know nothing about, whom you have no idea would even be a good match for you, whose attention is probably directed elsewhere to more relevant things in her life and thus has no time to be bothered by some random guy talking to her is somehow supposed to make it more likely to get a date out of it? Thus for me, cold approach is a terrible idea.

Then there are others who say one should join clubs pertinent to their interests or try to date women from their own social circle, or women whom their friends introduce them to. In the example of my own life, my hobbies are either solitary or male dominated, my social circle has never allowed me to come into contact with dateable women, and the thought of joining more groups and having to shuttle myself around town in some vague hope of meeting dateable women there is laughable. Most of the guys that have heard of that have been repeatedly fed the advice of meeting women thru such channels and been gullible enough to try it have said that what ends up happening is that if they join groups to try to “meet women” or whatever is that either those groups are a huge sausage fest, or there’s women there but not any that are desirable, or there’s a woman there that they’re attracted to and seems like she’d be a good match but she’s already spoken for. People on the internet love to give out the generic, ineffectual advice to “join clubs” to meet women, but I have hardly heard of any guys actually succeeding. The reality of it is that not every guy has a social circle where he can meet women, and not every guy can join groups and meet women there.

Thus one can see why the rhetoric “just get off the apps and try real life” is one I find deeply maddening. I’ve heard it so many times, but in my own life there’s been no better method, or really no other method for me to meet women other than apps. Sure apps aren’t perfect but the reality is that they’re still pretty great. You can screen for compatibility, you can put your best pics on there, you have more to go off of as far as what to talk about with women as they put more information in their profiles than what would be available to you if you just randomly saw them in the street, you know these women are looking for men since they’re on the app, if you get rejected it doesn’t hurt as much as being rejected face to face, there’s just a lot more to go off of.

Dating apps are the best way to meet women in the present day, and nobody wants to admit it. People would rather keep promoting this fantasy about cold approach working, being drawn to the romanticism of being able to pull that off rather than admit that for most guys, learning to approach irl or trying one’s luck thru “hobby groups” is a very stupid idea compared to using dating apps. The algorithm of the apps may be flawed, and the user experience is its own can of worms, but I would much rather pay for a hinge subscription than have to put all this effort into learning to approach and have to shuttle myself around town and “put myself out there” and grind and grind and make a fool out of myself a bunch of times just in some vague hope that things will change. In my life, nothing has beaten the apps for meeting women.

“Just get off the apps” is laughably superficial, ineffective advice

sleepeipanda · 2024-11-10T16:51:47+00:00

Not improbable - does that mean we should stop using the apps? I dont think Id reach that conclusion

Its known girls get way more likes

GaryOak7 · 2024-11-10T22:15:34+00:00

This isn’t bizarre, I’ve seen it happen in real time. This chick who I messed around with years ago made a profile in front of me. Later, we watched a movie, ate etc.

No kidding, after about 3 hours she had close to 100 likes that were actual profiles.

Granted 98% of these men just wanted to sleep with her but even more bizarrely so, women can’t tell the difference often.

h0odwitch · 2024-11-11T01:34:31+00:00

this goes both ways. i have multiple guy friends who swipe yes on literally everyone. i’m talking about just yes, yes, yes without even looking. casting a wide net and then messages if he actually likes them.

BetterString9306 · 2024-11-10T12:19:17+00:00

No,

tinder give you leads keep using it but don't over invest.

Freezingrhyme · 2024-11-10T17:59:49+00:00

Jesus Christ what chance do any of us have?

Junior-Sport7376 · 2024-11-10T19:21:49+00:00

Dating apps are a piece of the puzzle. It is a pretty low-effort funnel, but I agree with you. It should not be a priority whatsoever.

Doubledip123 · 2024-11-10T19:39:25+00:00

I’ve preached that dating apps are for women and guys that are 7+/10. Women will continue to control the dating market for a while.

nordik1 · 2024-11-11T01:48:53+00:00

On paper it seems impossible due to the numbers but i've pulled a lot of hot women from dating apps and so have friends of mine. Some legit 8s+

The benefit to approaches is mainly the high you get when its successful and those skills carry over to everything else

tldr: do both

Weary_Significance53 · 2024-11-11T16:38:01+00:00

My tinder was hacked a few years ago and someone replaced my picture with some random woman. She was average looking at best. I was getting TONS of likes and messages from dudes . Everytime I opened the app I was constantly being bombarded by men .I’m sure there are a bunch of stories like this on Reddit.

cemj86 · 2024-11-12T01:44:29+00:00

The number of likes and super likes and attention a woman gets whether it's online or real. Life has nothing to do with me.

Even understanding this logic or statistic means nothing. I still do incredibly well in real life and on tinder. Regardless of her likes or attention or social media, do you realize how many of the same copy paste cookie cutter messages they get? It's almost like they're meeting the same person, time and time again. That's none of your concern. That's why you're an individual and you stand out on your own.

This could never deter me from using a dating app to my advantage.

JayinHK · 2024-11-12T11:26:30+00:00

I deleted all of mine. Met too many girls who showed up 40lbs heavier than their pics. I'm done lol. Apps fuck up your real world game if you're dependent on them

FlyByGunner · 2024-11-15T06:40:41+00:00

It’s real, went to hang sesh one night and there was -4/10 whale playing cards next to me but I was drunk and saw that she was swiping I looked at her and she was just swiping left left left left😂 I was like “that one looks good “ and she was like “eww no there all weird” she had like 99+ and told me she swipe left cause she know a lot of guys swipe on her and saves the likes for the best.

So ya fuck the delusion, go out and talk to real genuine women who appreciate men. I found a girl I really like and have been taking it easy on the seductions but the challenge now is growing and loving someone which is really fun, sex is really fun when you don’t find there personality disgusting lol

ChampionshipStock870 · 2024-11-10T14:26:19+00:00

I’ve seen the same thing from a female friend of mine. Her tinder looked exact like that and she’s cute maybe an 8/10.

mkkpt · 2024-11-10T15:33:28+00:00

This has been known for a while.

Dating apps are great for while you're on the toilet, waiting in line, on the bus. It's low reward, don't get too invested with your time, energy and emotions. Do change things up if you're getting no results though, or avoid it all together.

404PreparedNotFound · 2024-11-11T10:19:42+00:00

How’s your friend capped on tinder but single is the real question 🙋‍♂️. Oh she’s just using it for attention.

ApartmentWorried5692 · 2024-11-11T21:41:24+00:00

Dating apps are for chicks who want to rack up orbiters for the ‘gram

ThrowRAjamp · 2025-03-26T23:34:43+00:00

How old was she?

SpinPlates · 2024-11-10T18:37:09+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, if you can’t be at least mildly successful on the app (attractive) you won’t be that successful in person. You’ll just be a creep that gets escorted out of whatever property you’re on trying to day game.

Friendly reminder that having a pleasant conversation with a girl at a coffee shop and getting her number / instagram is not “success” in gaming. Success is having a roster of girls you regularly sleep with. If you can’t do that on the apps you probably aren’t cut out for doing that in person either

southseasblue · 2024-11-10T11:04:17+00:00

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Title	Fellas, for real, get off the apps. Bizarre irl example
Author	Litenpes
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Date	November 10, 2024 10:45 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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