How MUCH Does Height Matter?

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-08-03T17:47:39+00:00

How to answer this question:

Talk to her 2a. Get rejected 2b. Or not

Don't self-reject.

Casanova-Quinn · 2021-08-03T18:44:41+00:00

In general, height only matters to the extent that women prefer men who are taller than them. So whatever your height is, you'll typically have the most success pursuing women who are at least 1-2" shorter than you. That's the key point. All the details about "how much taller" are arbitrary.

vbcbandr · 2021-08-03T17:48:36+00:00

Height matters...from a 5'4" guy. Any women who says it doesn't is lying. I especially like the women who say, "I won't date a guy who is under 6 feet", but is 100lbs overweight herself.

throwayyyallday · 2021-08-03T22:48:55+00:00

Coming from a shorter guy. I can answer this question right now. Here’s the bottom line. You can’t change it so it doesn’t matter.

I didn’t even read this cuz I don’t have to. No offense OP. It just doesn’t matter to me. just being real for my short bro’s on here. I don’t give a shit about the stats. I’m short and I barely think about it. That’s the only mindset you can have.

earsurgery9 · 2021-08-03T18:07:00+00:00

simple answer: it matters if it matters to her. Not all girls have the same tastes

yuckyuck13 · 2021-08-03T18:31:50+00:00

Height helps, just like being in good shape does. Height is not a choice but working out is. But at the end of the day neither is why she chooses to stay with you, it's your personality and what you have in common. Work on what you can change not what you can't.

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-08-03T19:45:52+00:00

You can be ugly but if your tall you have a better chance then the shorter guy.

LemonSauxe · 2021-08-03T18:04:41+00:00

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WillieMcFister · 2021-08-03T20:14:14+00:00

As a man 4 inches over 6 ft, I know my size gave me an advantage. As far as whom I dated, I've always found it odd that women under 5 and a half feet tall were my main pool. Always wanted to date a taller women, never really had an opportunity, until I met "the one." My wife is 5 ft 9in, tallest I think I have ever been with.

Course_giver · 2021-08-03T17:43:36+00:00

As long as you have game and know how to use it properly and believe in yourself have confidence and work hard on your personal -development this shouldn't matter

BulletReaper · 2021-08-03T18:20:37+00:00

Of course height matters. Just like to a man, a woman’s looks matter.

Yeah it sucks we have no control over it but so what? The average women is like 5’4. If she says she only dates guys over 6ft then guess what?

She’s a shallow pos and I wouldn’t want to date her anyways. Take it as dodging a bullet when a girl rejects you simply for your height. There are plenty of good women out there who don’t care. I’ve dated and slept with plenty of women taller than me.

KillerBBQSaucyQueen · 2021-08-03T20:13:35+00:00

I’ve done large surveys on this in the past; both on height and ideal body type.

Height:

Women want to wear heels and be shorter than you. This means height is of course relative to her height The formula for this is basically:

Mans height - 6in heel = woman’s height.

On my survey, the common ideal height was 6ft and almost all these women were 5’6 so it made sense.

Then picking their brains, being taller felt masculated, they don’t feel feminine, they feel like they’re the guy in the relationship, they feel unattractive and Unattracted to to the guy.

Body type:

Asked men using 5 cropped torso images of mens body:

1) skinny 2) lean like a swimmer 3) dad bod 4) ripped (sub 8% body fat) 5) fat

I asked men what they thought women thought was the ideal. Men chose ripped.

The logic is that men like bikini models and who is the bikini model hanging off? The ripped dude.

When asking women, the most popular was lean.

Contrary to what men thought, the ripped body was described as

1) gross 2) spends more time in the gym than with me 3) would attract too much competition 4) only good for a ONS 5) scary, he could hurt me (doesnt feel safe) 6) makes her feel insecure or her body because he’s in great shape and she’s not (insecure, feeling judged) 7) obsessed with his looks like a girl 8) not cuddly

The ripped look actually fell into 4th place if I remember correct.

Many of the comments was basically summed as this:

“I want to feel smaller than him”

This goes parallel to the height rationale as well. Women want to feel feminine and sexy. Being bigger than the guy seems to inhibit this.

cunningcaring · 2021-08-03T17:43:17+00:00

Supine we are pretty much the same height.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-08-03T20:08:58+00:00

Lol man. It aint THAT seriois

DarkSun18 · 2021-08-03T20:42:17+00:00

To me it matters somewhat. Perfect height would be slightly taller than I. If he is too tall, I’d find that worse than if he were shorter than I. But if I love his personality then it matters less.

MathematicianSuper58 · 2021-08-04T02:43:26+00:00

Bro height doesn’t matter at all I have friends that are like 4,11 pull bitches height doesn’t mean shit the ONLY thing that matters is approach and energy point blank

Sarcastic-betty · 2021-08-03T18:11:02+00:00

Gotta say I appreciate the question and thorough research and data.

That said - I’m 6’ tall woman so IT MATTERS A FUCKING LOT. I’ve dated “short”, “tall”, and “damn dude tall” and there is an awkwardness that arises when he’s shorter than me. Can’t be helped.

Edit ffs I put “ rather than ‘ initially and that made the comment so much funnier.

DakiAge · 2021-08-03T20:07:59+00:00

Height is a matter of preference for women so it's no different than building muscles.

It's a bonus rather than a reason.

Self-confidence > all

confidence_man91 · 2021-08-04T04:42:17+00:00

I'm 6'1 and I've never really had girls swoon over my height, they usually complement other things about myself but I've never heard a girl be like I love how tall you are, to me it seems that height only matters if you're shorter than her. that's all

confidence_man91 · 2021-08-04T04:43:23+00:00

If she asks how tall you are, ask her how much she weighs

thelambofdeth · 2021-08-03T18:56:30+00:00

I'm 6'3 and womem dgaf. It's all about your face. That's more important.

nyysupastar · 2021-08-03T23:17:17+00:00

As someone who used to be muscular at 6 feet who lost a lot of my gains cause Covid gym closures, I think height does matter. I’ve had better luck dating as a skinny guy than a fit one tbh.

Canttakethewhyfromme · 2021-08-03T17:59:05+00:00

Ask Tom cruise. Dude is barely 4 feet tall.

bboyFred21 · 2021-08-03T22:41:17+00:00

Never seen a woman with a man that is shorter than her... I am 30 yo

calycostyle · 2021-08-03T22:40:17+00:00

I’m 5’6 the struggle is real

Jamiepappasatlanta · 2021-08-03T23:39:33+00:00

Height matters to me. My ex was 5’6”. I’ll never date a short shrimpy man again.

screamfuckdie · 2021-08-04T00:49:22+00:00

so the average american womans 'minimum height' for a guy, is above the average height for a make in the us. nice.

2021-08-04T00:55:04+00:00

You guys have too much time

True_Music48 · 2021-08-04T01:12:18+00:00

It matters a bit cause girls see height or a guy taller than them as a big sexual plus so you can look her in the eyes when you’re fucking her and or she will always see you as the dominant one when you’re tall but you also have to be strong and you have to act dominant. Short guys can also get girls -~

Narcan9 · 2021-08-04T01:41:00+00:00

I would look at it as height affects the size of one's pool of potential mates. Generally a taller guy will have more women to choose from. However, Most guys have a potential dating pool that's far larger than they will ever have time to exhaust.

it's just one of many factors that have similar effects: personality, body type, fitness, facial attractiveness, fashion, intelligence, career, money.

Why focus on the one thing you have almost no control over?

Nouseriously · 2021-08-04T02:28:54+00:00

In online dating, height matters a lot since women will set a minimum height & won't even see anyone under it.

In person height matters to some women but not nearly as much. No one is turning down Brad Pitt because he's not 6'. Scott Caan is only 5', 5" and most women would gladly go out with him.

Take care of the things you can control: stay in shape, dress well, and be interesting.

MathematicianSuper58 · 2021-08-04T02:41:14+00:00

Doesn’t matter at all tbh

VivoTivo · 2021-08-04T03:07:45+00:00

It should matter to her , but not to you.

If you think it matters to you, work on ur inner game.

Sitchnatio · 2021-08-04T04:36:21+00:00

How bad is 174cm?

thelogbook · 2021-08-04T04:51:43+00:00

now please do a post on length and another on girth

SteneoX · 2021-08-04T06:09:03+00:00

min. height =69! I knew it. 😉

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2021-08-04T06:11:14+00:00

No shit. Ofc height matters, it helps more than looks

CrabBucketSecurity · 2021-08-04T06:52:37+00:00

It matters just as much as any other physical or personal quality you have

Godletrich · 2021-08-04T08:53:36+00:00

Me: cries in 5'4

2021-08-04T09:02:08+00:00

I'm six foot three inches tall... almost 40 years old, never had a girlfriend. Doesn't mean a fucking thing.

throwwwawayyy187 · 2021-08-04T09:28:39+00:00

It’s too superficial to really care about

faisalnazzal3 · 2021-08-04T10:22:07+00:00

Could have told you this without you having to research this much. In my opinion I think your conclusion is common sense and all this research is a big waste of time. In fact any research into dating is a waste of time. If you ask anyone that has researched game they would tell you that they learnt what they know by actually putting themselves out there. Same could go for this. If you actually put yourself out there you would figure these things out. Research to this level makes you look like a creep unless this was a study you was interested in or something.

AbsolouteBez · 2021-08-04T11:22:38+00:00

Saying ur too short means ur just handicapping urself. My friend who’s only turned 18, not the best genetics and being 5’3 is probably the biggest player out of our group going on. And we’re all pretty confident about our ability to do so.

SomeRespect · 2021-08-04T16:17:35+00:00

Carry yourself as a man who is taller than you actually are. End of story.
(Probably more difficult to show this through online dating though)

2021-08-04T19:01:19+00:00

Idk I don’t care about height. A lot of my friends don’t either.

Title	How MUCH Does Height Matter?
Author	Yahazu
Upvotes	119
Comments	93
Date	August 3, 2021 5:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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