I slid in the dm's and got rejected

Grinnov · 2021-03-21T21:59:13+00:00

Nah you're all good. If you feel embarrassed by rejection it's normal but you'll get used to it.

weirdgroovynerd · 2021-03-21T22:19:35+00:00

Taking your shot outweighs the miss.

You only need one hit, and the attempts are free.

AXxi0S · 2021-03-21T22:41:36+00:00

So just do it again.

I got really comfortable with rejection by just asking 50 random girls that I found the slightest bit attractive for their number. I’d go start a conversation and give myself 5 minutes to ask for their number. I ended up getting like three girls numbers out of it, plus a fake number, but that also means I got rejected 46 times. By that 46th rejection, I could not have cared less. Whatever part of your brain helps you deal with rejection clearly functions just like a muscle, because if you don’t work it, it’s going to be very weak. So keep getting rejected.

Hats off to you for being a woman and making the first move tho, it’s a very rare and valuable skill especially for women. But also now you know what it’s like when a guy shoots his shot and gets curved. This has been by all accounts, a net positive experience for you imo.

beenstickin19 · 2021-03-21T22:00:07+00:00

Don’t take it personal or be embarrassed, that’s part of the game- keep shooting your shot lol

Viarco · 2021-03-21T22:11:15+00:00

You just got a taste of what guys endure on a regular basis. And that's perfectly normal.

Think about it this way: everyone has their own preferences and their own lives. It could be that the guy wasn't that into you but, unless you have an unrealistic idea that everyone in the world adores you, it's pretty normal that people who aren't into you won't give you the response you wish they did.

You've done nothing wrong, it's just a mismatch. I'm sure you can remember guys that you weren't into as well from the time when you were it on more regularly. Just accept it and move on. Take consolation from the fact that you gathered the nerve to took a shot at success. That's more than 90% are willing to do.

Or it could just be that the guy was going through something at the moment in his life/not willing to chat at the moment/feeling tired/etc. I usually imagine that they were in the middle of something really urgent atm and didn't have the time for small chat.

RossyB-123 · 2021-03-21T21:59:21+00:00

100% of people regret the shots they don’t take.

DMTmeister · 2021-03-21T22:11:53+00:00

Now go out and do it another 1000 times. You may get a few yes out of the hundreds of nos. Welcome to the male side of dating.

TzatzikiCrisps · 2021-03-21T23:05:46+00:00

A woman shooting her shot? I thought it was only a myth

Ironicgal · 2021-03-22T00:01:34+00:00

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chromelogan · 2021-03-22T00:52:24+00:00

It's fine. The only people who were never rejected are those who have never tried

forbiddencoochiegang · 2021-03-22T03:25:12+00:00

I (22F) have recently just started shooting my shot and have been taking the initiative to start conversations, ask guys out, and make the first move. There’s three things I tell myself:

Not everyone is going to like you the same way you don’t like everyone
If you don’t start a conversation there’s a chance that you might never talk to them. If things go somewhere, great! If they don’t, that doesn’t really change anything in the grand scheme of things
Someone not responding to your message or responding with the same energy is almost always for reasons to do with them (they’re busy, maybe they’re not looking for anything, maybe you aren’t what they’re looking for, etc.) and it’s never a reflection of your worth

Rejection hurts when you make it personal. A really piece of advice I was given was that sometimes you aren’t what someone is looking for and that’s okay. Anyways best of luck and I hope you find something that you’re looking for :)

Train3162 · 2021-03-21T21:59:54+00:00

Were you direct or did your “shot” leave room for interpretation? Maybe he didn’t want to jump the gun and seem thirsty.

ImJustSo · 2021-03-22T02:16:36+00:00

Maybe you're just fine as fuck and he automatically thought, "Definitely a bot."

zzssibk · 2021-03-21T23:48:03+00:00

At first you'll feel bad about it but after some time you'll be glad you did it.

ijustwannagofasssst · 2021-03-22T01:26:34+00:00

Just remember you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Useful_Bread_4496 · 2021-03-21T22:37:40+00:00

You’ll get the next one! ✨

nofapjourney666 · 2021-03-21T22:48:47+00:00

there are so many ppl out there keep your head up queen beimg rejected is normal just dont give up. pat yourself on the back for actually shooting your shot. 💪🏽

LandscapeClear1630 · 2021-03-21T23:01:16+00:00

Now you know how it is for men 24/7

Hegemon1984 · 2021-03-21T23:56:43+00:00

I don't say this very often, but this is just a girl fishing for pity points.

Guys who've gone through the same bullshit of getting rejected hundreds of times, I feel for. It's a soul-crushing grind that takes months of consistent work and practice to get even a GRASP of what you're doing right.

What do we have instead? A bunch of dudes on r/seduction back patting some girl who got rejected on Instagram. Not even in-person, mind you. This is the weakest form of rejection anyone can get.

Holy shit y'all, get out there and get to work infield.

JHighMusic · 2021-03-21T23:15:57+00:00

I’ve done this to a girl I was interested in and didn’t even get a response at all, just that she had seen the message. So, count yourself lucky.

somenightsgone · 2021-03-22T00:28:24+00:00

I’m honestly proud of you! Guy or girl, NOBODY enjoys rejection, and it takes some courage to put yourself out there. Don’t feel embarrassed, feel proud! In my entire life, I’ve only ever had 1 girl “slide in my DM” and even tho I wasn’t into her, it made me feel pretty fuckin awesome for a whole month lol. It also made me realize how awesome it was of her to break social norms and go after something she was interested in.

somestupidelf · 2021-03-22T02:39:54+00:00

I'm a 26m and I've dated women 30+. I don't know how the interaction between you and him went but I guarantee there are other guys out there that would love to be with you regardless of your age.

The dating world has changed and the key point to take away is to just relax, enjoy yourself, and keep trying. You'll find your groove :)

Hegemon1984 · 2021-03-21T22:43:00+00:00

Wait, you're sad because you got rejected ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

Holy shit, if you knew what guys who got good at game have to go through

M5B53 · 2021-03-21T23:10:27+00:00

Good for you having the courage to do this in the first place, easy to say, but try not to be embarrassed, better luck next time!

Alonso81687 · 2021-03-22T02:48:04+00:00

Look at it like this, us guys have to be rejected multiple times and keep going. You'll find the right one if you keep putting yourself out there, promise.

_kcrc · 2021-03-22T03:49:09+00:00

It’s ok girl! Learn to accept rejection and find ways to move past it too. I second guess myself so much but the worst that can happen is dry convo or no response at all. Just move on and take breaks sometimes. Also be choosy.

lonelydinner_ · 2021-03-22T06:16:17+00:00

a man’s rejection is God’s protection

Dilostilo · 2021-03-21T22:38:01+00:00

Aim lower... Get a boost in confidence and shoot higher. Always works.

RealKillerSean · 2021-03-21T22:49:31+00:00

Good job for trying! Keep going after what you want, better selection prospects instead of waiting.

nfornear · 2021-03-21T23:15:39+00:00

Would be curious to see what you said and he said

Maybe he got scared! Girls never slide guys' DM so keep on doing what you are doing and dont let a rejection get in the way

vaevictus75 · 2021-03-21T23:16:29+00:00

Don't look at it as an embarrassment, look at it as experience that you can apply to the next person you try to contact.

daproest1 · 2021-03-21T23:18:34+00:00

This happens to us (guys) our whole life. Don’t let the rejection get to you.

Luckyguy_10 · 2021-03-21T23:23:26+00:00

I'm happy that you put your things together and went after what you want! If you succeeded or failed may let you up or down but you got a victory because you take the risk! I went to a girl at the gym that I thought very beaultiful and it was very awkward 😂😂 and I was like "omg I shouldn't have done that" and at the same time "holy fuck I really went talk to her with no reason just cause I want that".. it was my first time doing something like that and just by doing I was happy haha. So be proud of yourself as well.

racyLacy456 · 2021-03-21T23:32:56+00:00

I have a question!! By any chance, has this person been following your instagram by any chance and if he has, did you used to post photos of you and your now ex? Its just a thought but if this is the case then maybe he might think you still have a partner?

Either way, dont give up and remember, sometimes msgs whether it's text, email or dm's, dont come across in the right tone! You will find that someone, goodluck!

rc_91_D · 2021-03-21T23:45:03+00:00

Story of our men since human existence.

buddyboibaker · 2021-03-21T23:46:30+00:00

I’m recently divorced and get some girls sliding in the DMs with random comments / questions. I know where they are going but yeah, not really into starting anything new yet and just working on myself for now — so kind of give short and no sow great replies. If anything, I’d just ask the person if they are into dating at all before diving in and asking to go on a date.

2021-03-22T00:02:18+00:00

You become desensitized to it the more it happens. It’s best not to fixate on. Good luck!

grpocz · 2021-03-22T00:21:36+00:00

Do reframe your efforts into something positive regardless of outcome. I am happy I gave myself a chance. I am grateful I have courage. Or something else.

Its a good way to build and have a sense of moving in the right direction.

phreekk · 2021-03-22T00:21:58+00:00

Well what was the message? Could help you figure it out

feenchbarmaid0024 · 2021-03-22T00:38:38+00:00

At least yiur tried and now know, if you didn't try, it would be eating at yiu I should have or what if. Be happy that you have a go, even if you got shot down, look at it as though yiu dodged a bullet, and I'd say in person, yiu would prob have a different reaction from him. Good luck and happy hunting.

TwoTinders · 2021-03-22T03:29:29+00:00

Slide in to r/askseddit if you want to work on your dm game.

shayze07 · 2021-03-22T03:57:33+00:00

Good for you that you weren’t for it! Hey you had nothing to lose when you went for it and nothing to lose now! Just because he rejected you doesn’t reflect on you as a person. Don’t give up and keep your head up! Goodluck!

abjones97 · 2021-03-22T05:46:47+00:00

brush it off, so what. Maybe you have brown hair and his ex had brown hair will never date another brunette, or anything. Don't take it personal or let it bog you down, you keep goin girl!

fixmyskinplz · 2021-03-22T05:59:37+00:00

Longbeachgriffy posted a video about this issue 2 days ago. https://youtu.be/Yp4dlBCYajI

el_guerrero98 · 2021-03-22T06:11:14+00:00

Being rejected and feeling embarrassed is literally part of the journey. Keep it up! Us guys have to go thru it all the time anyway lol

terimaakichut69 · 2021-03-22T10:04:05+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but the reason why guys are not approaching you like before your relationship is because your SMV has dropped. You reached your peak SMV and now it's only downhill from here. Just like dumb people over estimate their intelligence, I'm afraid you have over-estimated your looks.

Lauracurieuse · 2021-03-22T14:41:04+00:00

Way to go girl! It’s so cool you when and made the first step. I’m a girl and I’ve been rejected too. Yep it sucks and it’s embarrassing. Buuuut, think about it for a sec. there can be so many reasons for being rejected that actually don’t have anything to do with you, like bad timing, bad mood, the guy just doesn’t think it’s serious because hey, seldom girls do make the move so, he might think that it’s just impossible, he’s not used to it....

Fees years ago, I got interest in the PUA topic, found it quite interesting. Not always agreeing with the philosophy but one thing I thought they were right about it was that you shouldn’t be afraid of rejection. A lots of men are scared to approach women, and one of the way to get rid of the weirdness of it is to practice, practice, practice until they become more confident. Now I’m not sure how much this would work for a woman especially if you go heavy on the flirting, but I think that finding a way to not be so sensitive about rejection is actually a pretty good idea.

Has many guys said, it happens a lot to them ( and kudo you guys for keeping the spirit up even though it happens) but it’s not a rejection of your entire self, it’s a no for the approach.

Keep on glowing girl! You rock!!!

Uprooted101 · 2021-03-22T15:00:13+00:00

And now you see how half the men feel on the other end of the spectrum

Kitchen_Entertainer9 · 2021-03-22T01:25:41+00:00

Maybe you came on too strong, but keep trying

Plane-Strike-4248 · 2021-03-21T22:35:43+00:00

It’ll take time girl! Just don’t become a ‘pickme’. Guys will easily spot you and be able to manipulate you easily. Be yourself, have standards and don’t settle for anyone less than you deserve! 😊

FabulousStomach · 2021-03-22T12:28:26+00:00

Lmao woman gets rejected once and breaks down meanwhile we dudes get rejected on a daily basis and no one gives a shit

Also not to be an asshole but you probably aren't as good looking as you think you are, if you actually were you would be approached a lot, trust me

omicron01 · 2021-03-22T01:53:21+00:00

You do that once and feel embarrassed, imagine a brave men trying that more than once and not getting successful

roman99789 · 2021-03-22T02:25:35+00:00

I think I'm very attractive but guys jus haven't been approaching me like they used to before my relationship

A difference of 7 years: you are 33 now, 26 before your relationship. Welcome to the world of post-wall feminine existence. Unfortunately it only gets worse. Your real "shot" was in your early 20s prime. You blew it.

iamwolfe · 2021-03-22T00:34:25+00:00

dude no reason to be embarrassed. ultimately, if you are trying to date you should be sending so many messages to different people that you don’t even remember if theyve gotten back to you or not. it’s a numbers game and the secret is not to take it personally

sbp1991 · 2021-03-22T07:06:40+00:00

I hate to burst your bubble, but guys don't approach you like they used to because you are 33. 7-8 years ago before your relationship, you were in your prime years, therefore you got all the attention you wanted.

just_some_dude_blah · 2021-03-22T06:08:56+00:00

At 33, it's an uphill battle. If you were 22, there would already be plenty of guys at your backyard without you even lifting a finger. So, its really age and has nothing to do with your 7 yr relationship. If you get rejected once and stop trying you will be lost and believe me no one will pity you. If you continue despite the rejections then you will eventually find someone who will make you happy the 7 yr relationship is over.

Upset_Ad_136 · 2021-03-21T22:37:11+00:00

are you sure your attractive? Everyone likes to think they are attractive but its not always the reality.

If you are attractive then you can just wait for guys to approach you and if not you just have to lower your standards and go for desperate guys

flipster007 · 2021-03-22T05:08:21+00:00

LOL. Yes this might sound shocking but now that your kinda old your gonna have to you to put some effort into finding a relationship. Simply texting a random guy won't work. Well maybe some guys or girls it would work but whatever. One attempt is kinda silly get frustrated already. Try 100 attempts and come back. Heck maybe try approaching people in person.

Crypt0JAy · 2021-03-21T22:49:12+00:00

Don't get at women you have never met via social media Don't. Not worth it

nearedge · 2021-03-21T23:04:11+00:00

The girl I'm dating at the moment gave me her number through insta dm. However there's a catch, we knew each other for a while and would often comment random playful stuff on each other's stories post etc. They weren't overly flirty but got got with time.

saltaisu · 2021-03-21T23:52:17+00:00

Get on a dating app and let men come to you. Men don't respect women who pursue them.

Edit to add: most of them aren't worth pursuing, either.

zachery2693 · 2021-03-22T00:33:16+00:00

Guy's only get accepted every 2 of 5 times (fake statistic). But, the main point, is that rejection is part of of the approach process, regardless of which gender is doing the approaching.

And I believe your feelings of embarrassment are normal (they resonated with me at least); I myself realized that that embarrassment is part of the process, and definitely nothing to actually be embarrassed about.

DickHerDownn · 2021-03-22T01:22:57+00:00

Welcome to a guys world ik it suck but u don’t stop alotta women don’t get what they want because there not active about getting it

Mental_Bad · 2021-03-22T06:14:14+00:00

Bruh I get rejected like every third attempt. It’s part of the game when dating online tbh

EleoraHC · 2021-03-22T06:59:26+00:00

Take the shot and you will never regret your life at the end

Aristox · 2021-03-22T07:22:43+00:00

Assuming you're gonna get a positive response on 100% of your interactions is pretty arrogant lol. The more people you try to hit on the more rejections you're gonna get, that's just the way things go. Doesn't mean it's not a good idea to hit on people you like

SandtheB · 2021-03-22T07:38:05+00:00

You are fine. sometimes girls slide into MY DMS.. or CALL me at work.. or or Flirt with me in front of their boyfriend/girlfriends.

You can't let an initial failure discourage you from putting yourself out there. I didn't and now I am doing very well for myself. As for getting back out there don't let anxiety stop you from putting yourself out there many people do and it breaks my heart.. if you don't believe in yourself yet.. just remember that I believe in you.

For this forum it's designed for men seeking Pick Up Artist (PUA) advice. If you are serious about dating I suggest /r/fPUA and a female dating coach Mathew Hussey he gives AMAZING dating advice for women.

Find Yourself After Heartbreak

Starting Over After Heartbreak

Put youself out there and don't forget to have fun! :)

catblack8008 · 2021-03-22T08:24:02+00:00

Imagine boys facing this situation on daily basis.

catblack8008 · 2021-03-22T08:28:29+00:00

Girls should do this more often just to get taste of rejection

ScrymFire · 2021-03-22T09:10:31+00:00

If it's been 7 years since you dated it would be weird that the dating scene looked alike before your relationship. Times change fast

AK1010 · 2021-03-21T23:12:28+00:00

Have you hit the wall. It's all different after the wall lol

chelco95 · 2021-03-21T22:27:39+00:00

Dont want to be mean, but you do know that once you hit your 30 s , you will start becoming "invisible" :(

SadChoppaHours · 2021-03-22T02:05:08+00:00

never go into the DMs (ik covid dif now) but in general it's a lot easier to make a HUMAN connection irl. which is how people get attracted ;)

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-03-22T06:17:29+00:00

You can get chicks over dms, but I dont recommend it. Real life is way better due to the better quality of girls you can get, plus a far higher success rate than dms

2021-03-22T06:53:08+00:00

It might not have anything to do with you when I was younger and I had no money or car I turned girls down all the time I had nothing to offer them.

Plane-Strike-4248 · 2021-03-21T23:23:47+00:00

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Dangerous-Girl1984 · 2021-03-22T00:07:02+00:00

Who cares if he cared he will make the effort . Pretty simple really .

niks2592 · 2021-03-22T07:22:12+00:00

I am Assuming this is ur first rejection ever.. 😅.what's so embarrassing about it?, may be he is into much older women, like in 40s or something lol.. This says nothing about u..

TeslaNicole · 2021-03-22T15:04:37+00:00

Very attractive as a 33 year old female? Sorry, your best days are past, never to return.

gowatchanimefgt · 2021-03-22T06:21:48+00:00

My dms are open. Forever

devjohnson13 · 2021-03-21T23:02:14+00:00

I want your confidence at LEAST ..also welcome to a dudes world

1Life2Live209R · 2021-03-22T04:18:08+00:00

Hmmmmm message me 🤔

Elitenova45 · 2021-03-22T05:13:49+00:00

I mean, at least you did what a lot of men and women don't do, and that's something that takes guts. I mean like how would you know otherwise if this person doesn't share the same feelings if you don't reach out. Just keep shooting; you'll get frustrated when you don't hit the target, but you will eventually. Now, no excuses. Pick your self, dust your self off and go get 'em.

keepturning1 · 2021-03-22T07:12:37+00:00

You can be hot but not hot to that person you find hot, happens to all hot people, myself included.

Max-Zook · 2021-03-22T10:07:14+00:00

I was in the same situation. Keep shooting your shots, but each time you’re shot down pick a better target for the next round. Persevere.

Bikno · 2021-03-22T10:32:45+00:00

Keep trying,you don't know how much a guy likes it when a girl texts first

PillowPants_TheTroll · 2021-03-22T10:40:48+00:00

Welcome to the world of dating. Gotta take those shots

hey_bum · 2021-03-22T11:29:43+00:00

It happens when you look out to date

Disastrous_Ad_632 · 2021-03-22T11:36:52+00:00

Welcome to basically a guy’s life 30% o the time altho its no longer embarrassing i just accept that i did what i could and it was her move if it didn’t work out then such is life

WomanAscending · 2021-03-22T11:37:41+00:00

Girl congrats for doing this! Absolutely amazing. Now go read G.L. Lambert's books for some great great tips on rock-stellar confidence, approaching men, winning at the dating game and handling rejection. I recommend 'men dont like women like you' and 'date like a spartan'

TusharDaniel · 2021-03-22T11:45:51+00:00

I think it's a reflection of him and not on you.

a2899 · 2021-03-22T12:25:48+00:00

Please don’t regret this or feel embarrassed or like you shouldn’t have done it. It’s very rare for women to slide in DMs and it can be very effective, as a man I wanna tell you it will be successful and is definitely more likely than a guy dming a girl so keep going and don’t ever regret it, someone like you who DMs guys is a rare blessing!

LongjumpingClothes3 · 2021-03-22T12:26:11+00:00

IT happens every day! Lets connect

bluep3001 · 2021-03-22T13:22:00+00:00

There’s NOTHING embarrassing about liking someone, telling them gently and hearing that they don’t like you back.

Hopefully they say so in a kindly flattered way but if they don’t then it’s more of a reflection on them than you.

That said, any approach to anyone via message is a shot in the dark. They don’t know you, can only judge by a few pictures /image on social media. There are all sorts of reasons someone might respond half heartedly and most of them aren’t anything to do with you personally.

Rectal_Tuna_Horn · 2021-03-22T13:53:48+00:00

Whatever you do just don’t stop taking your shots.

john_dune · 2021-03-22T14:03:36+00:00

Guys get rejected a lot. It happens. Props on you for approaching at all though, that's pretty rare.

Don't give up :)

ElectronicAmphibian7 · 2021-03-22T14:26:33+00:00

Don’t be embarrassed!! You did something brave and didn’t get the result you wanted. Keep trying. Don’t give up!!

2021-03-22T14:58:16+00:00

Have you got a kid and maybe you’re older and not as attractive as you think/used to be. If you’re not getting the outcomes you expect maybe your lens is broken.

2021-03-22T14:59:56+00:00

In this one situation there’s a lot to ask. We’re you direct that you like him or did you waste his time with pointless filler conversation. Females struggle with expectations a lot. They’re used to thinking they can get any guy they want so they’re not usually trained on approach.

kal6547 · 2021-03-22T15:17:07+00:00

Rejection hurts. I slid into someone’s dm’s once and then he left me on read then posted a picture with his girlfriend lol. I mean I wouldn’t have sent him a message if he didn’t look single on his profile! Lol but whatever life continues. There are many more awkward moments to experience 😂

techtom10 · 2021-03-22T15:28:18+00:00

Hey. You might look too good for him. I palmed off my now girlfriend because I thought she was too pretty to be real and was probably fake.

Revolutionary_Ad1846 · 2021-03-22T16:29:31+00:00

Your self worth is not defined by the esteem of another person.

Not the right fit or the right timing. THANK YOU, NEXT.

ghostzfh · 2021-03-22T17:49:51+00:00

Now imagine how a guy feels, but 10x the frequency.

vshubh · 2021-03-22T19:13:51+00:00

keep trying

RemixxMG · 2021-03-22T20:26:40+00:00

Don't sweat it. Shooting shots might annoy a few people and get you rejected but like...you'll never get anyone if you don't try.

Own-Salad1974 · 2021-03-22T21:19:05+00:00

Is this guy your ex? Someone else just posted about getting out of a 7 year relationship https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ma7umr/tips_on_how_to_get_girls_from_someone_who_was_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Superb-Pickle9827 · 2021-03-22T21:38:29+00:00

Yeah, that'll happen. Next!

i-once-was-young · 2021-03-22T22:51:22+00:00

So what? It’s the attempt that matters. You went after what you wanted. So what you just didn’t get it this time but you will. (You got on base, you just didn’t score the run).

Woujo · 2021-03-23T00:08:00+00:00

Sliding into DMs very rarely works, whether you are a man or a woman. You need to get out there and meet people in person.

Correct_Law_7171 · 2021-03-25T20:02:31+00:00

Really?? I don't want to be mean, but welcome to our world. As men we get rejected all the time and have learned to brush it off and move on. Nobody besides you and the male in question know about you sliding into his dms. Nobody walking down the street is going to roast you about it, nobody really cares. You obviously invested emotion into this situation without even knowing the guy. Just because you find someone attractive, does not make them your soulmate or future husband. You win some you lose some. Life is too short. You can't get everyone you want unfortunately. Rejection is part of life.

tradery · 2021-03-27T19:29:01+00:00

In my experience sliding into dms have like 5% success rate. You should expect to get rejected 20 times before you actually succeed

Title	I slid in the dm's and got rejected
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Upvotes	716
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Date	March 21, 2021 9:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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