I see a lot of guys struggling with getting girls to actually want them after the initial approach or first date. Im 22 and Ive slept with over 150 girls, and if there is one thing I learned that changes the game completely, it is pre-selection.

Women want what other women have already vetted. Its just human psychology. When a girl thinks you are already desired by other women, her attraction, trust, and competition anxiety all shoot through the roof. But what if you dont actually have a roster of girls? You fake it. You manufacture it from scratch.

This is the number one way to increase attraction, and here are the exact methods I use to fake pre-selection to get leverage.

  • The pink hair tie: I always wear a basic pink hair tie around my wrist. When Im talking to a girl and she notices it, her brain immediately assumes another girl left it there. You can literally see her demeanor change as competition anxiety kicks in. She instantly views you as a guy who is in demand.
  • Leaving condoms out: When I bring a girl back to my apartment, I leave a couple condoms just casually sitting on my nightstand, in my bathroom, in my office. It subtly communicates that sex is a regular, normal occurrence in my life. Weirdly enough, this increases her trust in you because she assumes other women are already comfortable sleeping with you.
  • The hidden earrings: I bought a cheap pack of women's earrings and I leave one somewhat hidden but still visible in my bathroom or bedroom. When she spots it near the sink, her desire spikes because she realizes she isnt the only one in your rotation and she now has to compete.

If you are an older guy what i see work very well is wearing a fake wedding ring, leaving lipstick or make up items around your room or bathroom. small things like this will have her worries and increase competition anxiety and makes her desire you.

The golden rule to making this work is you can never ever point these things out. If you put it in her face, you look like a try hard loser. You have to let them naturally see those items and make up their own assumptions. Let her imagination do the heavy lifting.

But what happens when she actually asks about the items? She will eventually test you. She might point to the earring or the hair tie and ask, "whose is this?"

Do not get defensive and do not overexplain. The absolute best way to deal with these tests is to be completely vague. Just shrug, look unfazed, say "not sure, probably a friends" and immediately change the subject. When you pass this test by being vague and unbothered, her desire shoots through the roof because you are not seeking her approval or validating her jealousy.

It is okay to fake it to get that initial leverage. Once she thinks you are pre-selected by other women, even if those women literally do not exist, she drops her guard. Try it out and watch how much easier it is to build attraction.

I am not saying this is ethical or the "right thing to do" i am here to give actionable steps that get real results by any means nessecary. when 20% of men sleep with 80% of the women, we must do whatever it takes to et leverage back in a very demanding and competitive dating enviroment for the average dude.