The best advice I've got for beginner's with AA...

thecajunone · 2012-10-05T14:58:18+00:00

Word, its overcoming the giving of fucks you must do. Not sure why that came out like Yoda, but it seemed right...

choc_is_back · 2012-10-05T16:14:25+00:00

"Let's make a story!"

TofuTofu · 2012-10-05T20:43:32+00:00

Reframe your night when you go out. Make it all about the lulz and less about getting laid. It will lead to all sorts of benefits.

Rejections should be hilarious, not soul-crushing.

dking168 · 2012-10-05T18:52:21+00:00

As I quoted before:

The less fucks you give. The more fucks you get.

kurtgodelisdead · 2012-10-05T16:46:46+00:00

I once tried to say "hi" to a girl passing by. She ignored me. It ruined the rest of my day.

I mean, I just ending up lying in bed for the rest of the day, feeling like an idiot. Didn't get any work done. My boss was wondering what happened to me.

If rejection is going to be this punishing for someone like me, I need better advice than simply ignoring the fear.

thebayway · 2012-10-05T17:32:10+00:00

The best advice I've got for beginner's with AA: Lift weights, and go on a weightlifters diet. Your positive response rate will go throught the roof, and you won't need this silly subreddit ;)

monsterballads · 2012-10-05T15:57:50+00:00

Stephen

2012-10-05T19:29:06+00:00

This is the truth. an old college buddy, really the alpha of betas, was notorious for his female flunkings. He truly believed that if he wasn't going to get laid then he should blow it as spectacularly as possible, since then he would at least have a story out of it. In freshman year we got his crush in his room, in his bed on a friday night, and he panicked and called her ugly. The next year, he uttered probably my favorite line of frustration to a girl who was dozing on his shoulder:

"You're gonna fall asleep when I'm tryna spit game at you?"

Needless to say she went home not long after. Steve, you were a man among gods.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-10-05T16:15:30+00:00

I like it. I also like to think of every life even as something that builds experience points. Because it's actually 100% true.

jackzander · 2012-10-05T16:17:23+00:00

I laugh out of reflex when in pain. If I learned to laugh while in fear...

I have to go.

dwon · 2012-10-05T19:35:31+00:00

Recommendation: no fap. Srs, haven't fapped since 8/10 (10/5 now) and feel like a god. Not sure if placebo or real but it still has a profound effect in terms of aggressiveness/lack of fear for me

edit:

also, it's a mind state; once you get into it, you'll find it hard to regress. It's like riding a bike, you might be scared at first, but once you get the hang of it, it comes naturally. (Source = former phaggot)

2012-10-05T19:41:49+00:00

I just recently realized this myself. I got a date after my first FR but quickly found out I don't have many stories to tell. I need to go out and make more mistakes.

Actively doing lots of shit now.

GoP-Demon · 2012-10-05T23:19:48+00:00

Thanks. I read this and 2 hours later got a date for tomorrow. Finally WOOOOO

Axyia · 2012-10-05T14:43:51+00:00

You know what, this seems perfectly tailored to me thank you sir

chimobayo · 2012-10-05T17:28:28+00:00

I'd just do the same as always.... stay quiet. I'd fail the worst and still manage to not get laid.

Neutr4lNumb3r · 2012-10-05T15:08:15+00:00

I like it! I'll try it.

2012-10-05T17:09:39+00:00

The 'let's make this night legendary' state of mind that Barney proclaims, is a good way to start I think. Have fun and don't give a fuck,

japko · 2012-10-05T17:21:37+00:00

I agree with the first part but... Did you just deny the whole notion of nervous laughter?

Clearlyvenus802 · 2012-10-05T18:38:32+00:00

LOVE it! I started doing my signature move (holding eye contact juuuuuust long enough, longer than girls he won't remember) and the first time I just laughed at how silly I probably looked... and it worked and I was not afraid!

Damn_ImGood · 2012-10-05T18:45:08+00:00

It's funny, because looking back, this would have helped me. But since I've gotten used to approaching I looked at this and thought "But I probably won't get rejected that badly".

Just goes to show that you really can get over the fear and self-doubt.

Mariuslol · 2012-10-05T19:52:32+00:00

Ohh, I can laugh and be afraid at the same time.

Tobislu · 2012-10-06T00:32:15+00:00

The biggest problem I'm having right now is escalating with girls I know. How badly can I mess up and how badly could it mess up what we already have?

Fukitol13 · 2012-10-06T06:58:54+00:00

Quite.

EZLIVIN · 2012-10-06T07:11:19+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/JkdvD.jpg

EZLIVIN · 2012-10-06T07:13:11+00:00

Real seductive !! And i wasn't sure where to put this

toysjoe · 2012-10-05T20:20:20+00:00

The plural for beginner is beginners, not beginner's.

Title	The best advice I've got for beginner's with AA...
Author	AlwaysLeaveANote
Upvotes	330
Comments	116
Date	October 5, 2012 2:12 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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