Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys

daughniel · 2021-05-25T08:48:13+00:00

I find art shows to be a pretty good place to come in contact with women. There is something about the atmosphere that often brings about intelligent women

eternally__curious · 2021-05-25T07:28:41+00:00

>I don't know how body would impact this but I'd assume not a huge amount among reader crowds.

Body does have a huge impact on this . I can speak from experience as I my status is very similar to yours brown , loves to read , in a book club ,etc (although I will never in a 1000 years call myself intelligent ,lol ) and I saw that my success (women responding positively to me approaching them ) increased by a huge margin when I lost weight and gained some muscle.

Sure just having a sexy body won't make you instantly attractive to all smart/cerebral women but its a big bonus to your personality. You have a big advantage over a fat guy with the same personality and interests as you . Similarly you probably won't approach a woman you are not physically attracted and just because she was present in a library.

Teamtoast · 2021-05-25T11:08:33+00:00

So basically, if you have a hobby - go to the place to do hobby with others, find girl who is also doing the hobby and talk about hobby whilst exchanging contact info.

Yea of course

Complex_Parking_6644 · 2021-05-25T06:28:31+00:00

Speaking as a girl who’s always in bookstores, this would 100% work on me as long as the guy is nice about it

Throwaway2829394938 · 2021-05-25T08:17:37+00:00

As an avid reader myself of basically only Self-help/Self improvement & personal development books, I love this post, this is something I could see myself do and I'm awkward as fuck 😂

Great post

sharpknivesahead · 2021-05-25T07:34:40+00:00

Can confirm that if someone did this to me while I was in a book store I would fall in love with you right there on the spot

knockyouout31 · 2021-05-25T06:55:11+00:00

Are you indian.? Cause this sounds like an Indian thing to do.

Yoede · 2021-05-25T06:16:05+00:00

This is good information. Thanks

vaktaeru · 2021-05-25T13:54:21+00:00

TL;DR go to a public space that facilitates your interests if you want to meet people that share your interests, and seek out social activities that YOU enjoy, not the social activities that society tells you are the "right place" to meet people.

Every successful relationship I've had has been with someone who loves anime and dnd as much as I do. Do you think I met these women at bars? Of course not! I've been to bars with them, but I met them at anime conventions, university anime/gaming clubs, game stores, and libraries (manga section).

If your interests aren't heavily mainstream, you won't find what you're looking for in heavily mainstream places. Immerse yourself in social settings that make you happy and comfortable, and the women you meet there will see the side of you that your friends do - and as a result, they'll automatically like you much more.

And don't hesitate to make friends there as well. Guys that seem to exude charisma usually just happen to be friends with most of the people in the room already. It's much easier to be that guy when you're surrounded by people you would actually want to be friends with.

Smoovemammajamma · 2021-05-25T11:40:40+00:00

The fuck is a book club

mainag13 · 2021-05-25T06:48:38+00:00

Thank you for this post. It is really helpful.

theotherversionofu · 2021-05-25T13:56:22+00:00

Whoever is responding negatively / over/critical to this post and the strategies laid out, has some serious issues they need to address and talk to a therapist immediately. Don’t sweat the negative comments OP this was a good post

cooooook123 · 2021-05-25T13:59:00+00:00

Insert my dumbass who has sunk more time into bass guitar than anything else. I'm not unread in the realm of music 🤷‍♂️ lol.

Spicymayo_0507 · 2021-05-25T09:23:04+00:00

This might sounds quite negative and maybe irrelevant but when I read ‘I am an intelligent man’, it often makes me hesitant in dating app (although you are not entirely talking about OLD) Being described as ‘intelligent’ should come from others not from themselves. Sometimes it indicates arrogance and self-conceit with shallow insights. But glad this approach worked out for you. Maybe you are a lot more attractive in person than dating profile is what made it more successful :)

WalidfromMorocco · 2021-05-25T12:07:17+00:00

If she doesn't know of any, say you're trying to expand your reading group of friends and ask for her number.

Guy asks a girl number just to be friends. They hang out as friends. Some time later, he asks her on a date because he actually likes her. Gets rejected because they are just friends. Surprised pikachu face.

MrDownhillRacer · 2021-05-25T07:14:05+00:00

Eh, I like to show a little more intent than just asking for somebody's number under the pretense that I'm trying to start a book club or something.

Also, I'd be weary of immediately putting people into boxes like that. Just because she "likes to read" doesn't mean that the primary thing she's looking for in a guy is somebody whose read all the same books as her. That might just be a point of commonality to get a conversation started, but she might still be more interested in a guy who just makes her feel excited, regardless of what books he has or hasn't read.

Reading is great. But read because you enjoy reading, not because it'll help you pick up chicks or something.

SwimNatural · 2021-05-25T08:38:25+00:00

Just another anecdotal confirmation here :). I’m not single now, but when I was this would have definitely worked with me. Though only if the guy doesn’t stop talking right after getting my number, as that might leave me feeling played. I would always give a chance to smart guys who are at the same time confident enough to approach me and not intimidated to talk to me.

Muscular body...is a nice to have, I’m not going to lie. But I used to avoid men who are too fit as I associate it with other undesirable traits. But that’s just a shortcut that works often, but not always, so I kept my mind open for smart, confident + fit unicorns.

adriann255 · 2021-05-25T13:14:47+00:00

My issue is that I am not as avid a reader as I would like to be (work and language learning take up a good chunk of my time). I'd love to get back into reading, but most things I've read are either very well-known or very underground because of the language barrier.

I also love watching cult classics and listening to various types of music. So I guess I am sort of a jack of all trades.

What should i do about that ? Besides read more, which I cannot find the time to do.

peecock1337 · 2021-05-25T20:17:35+00:00

great post bro, high iq boys rise!

ShafinR12345 · 2021-05-25T07:30:27+00:00

The brown pain is real

chubby464 · 2021-05-25T13:59:01+00:00

I think Asian men have it worse for the apps

skawn · 2021-05-25T15:02:38+00:00

I tried the reading thing. I devoured stacks of books. I read books of all genres. I went on fantastical adventures while also grounded myself in the biographies of champions of the past. I even did a stint as a page at a local library.

I got 0 dates. As such, I have since abandoned reading.

WalidfromMorocco · 2021-05-25T15:04:00+00:00

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B0yW0nd3r · 2021-05-25T15:10:56+00:00

Nice job King!

I used to do this a lot in my 20s. It worked very well and I dated a lot of wonderful, smart women. I put on weight in my mid 30s but I'm still considered physically fit. And I can attest to what others are saying about how body shape works.

What works for me now, to go further on what you're saying about intelligent women, is literally making your profile into a Presentation.

DiamondRider21 · 2021-05-25T15:42:13+00:00

Yes having muscle helps but what works better than having muscle is using tight long sleeve undershirts. Makes your forearms look defined and women tend to look at that area the most. So if you have veiny arms show it.

Artrock80 · 2021-05-25T16:40:35+00:00

You met in a bookstore...Ask her if she’d like to come over for some Dickens. ;)

L1ttl3Lun4 · 2021-05-25T16:50:52+00:00

This would be great advice if all the book stores didn't shit down in my city 😭 idk where to find intelligent guys now

5kom5 · 2021-05-25T20:18:37+00:00

I’m with you on this one, this is excellent advice. I hate when men criticize the “lack” of high value women but they’re always trying to find them in the same places (bars, malls, etc.), if you want a high value partner go to places that preselects the type of people you want to socialize with.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-05-26T03:02:24+00:00

Ive actually reached a point where I’m unable to date girls who aren’t of a genuinely open minded, reasonably intelligent nature. I don’t know what to talk about with them. I guess it’s not exactly an awful dealbreaker though.

I really should consider going to places that would attract more ~intellectual~ women rather than hoping the girl I see at the mall/bar is refined

plainbread11 · 2021-05-25T10:56:52+00:00

Question— how attractive are women at book stores? I’ve seen some that are alright sure but the vast majority of attractive girls these days are better found in a) the park, b) the gym, c) Instagram at home, d) the beach, e) bars and clubs— in that order.

Risingtideresearch · 2021-05-25T13:33:08+00:00

Least liked guys on dating apps huh?

Jay_Bonk · 2021-05-25T14:27:43+00:00

This is such a romantization of reading and exactly what I expect from people of this type. Bloody everyone reads, it's not reserved for some limited intelligent group which has refined tastes. Finding a woman in a bookstore doesn't make her any more likely to be intelligent, especially in comparison to any other woman who reads books she buys from Mercado Libre or Amazon, or that reads papers in pdf format she finds online. Same thing for you, so a woman shouldn't assume oh this man is in one of the most common shop types in the world, he must be so very smart!

Kyrkrim · 2021-05-25T10:08:36+00:00

Avid readers are usually sapiosexual

This is complete bullshit

mustafarian · 2021-05-25T16:47:40+00:00

can't believe the cucks on here are giving any type of hate.

He's giving a very specific example that applies to a specific type of person and shared his success story with it. I like it and it's way more refreshing then the typical posts these days that are just generic garbage about how one just needs to improve their confidence and put themselves out there and then you will find success!!

this is much more practical and appreciate the niche example OP gave

alittlewiser · 2021-05-27T23:21:35+00:00

As a girl who has gotten hit on twice at bookstores I can tell you this shit works.

putcoolusernamehere · 2021-05-25T13:21:27+00:00

I'm not a fan of this style of approach. It feels very disingenuous. Rather than concocting this convaluted book club story, I'd rather just ask about the book she's reading or just straight up tell her she's seems cute and intelligent. Trying to indirectly slide in there through going to a club meeting just to get her specifically seems borderline creepy to me.

dibbsa · 2021-05-25T13:36:36+00:00

I disagree..the whole book club thing is a little out there. Pick up on the book they are reading and use that for a discussion.

Liebner-Anthony-S · 2021-05-25T07:32:56+00:00

You can pretend to read a Kindle.. Who knows how many books are on there. HAHA

swcult · 2021-05-25T19:58:10+00:00

This has to be one of the dumbest mf’ing subs on reddit

Olthoi_Eviscerator · 2021-05-25T13:47:06+00:00

r/iamverysmart

AnAngryYordle · 2021-05-25T08:33:35+00:00

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bradlav · 2021-05-25T13:36:21+00:00

You’re implying freedom and money for the time to read.

lnsewn12 · 2021-05-26T23:23:41+00:00

r/iamverysmart

Top-Lychee5359 · 2021-05-26T20:30:28+00:00

What's your process? Seems like you could be in a store for hours before seeing anyone you'd be interested in chatting up. Like the idea, though. Curious: Has any girl just said, 'Yeah, I know of a book club." How do transition into getting a date with her there? My only issue with this is that it might be seem obvious to her that I'm asking about the book club just to ask her out. Might this be a put-off to some ladies?

Title	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys
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Date	May 25, 2021 4:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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