Using alcohol to start cold approaching

3141592652 · 2024-05-14T20:41:40+00:00

This is such a bad habit. I was a day driver for awhile and it never actually solved any issues. Plus the fact that people can actually smell the alcohol on you. This might work if you’re on a booze cruise or on a night out with friends but please learn to get rejected sober and you’ll feel so much better.

dobbs1997 · 2024-05-14T23:04:08+00:00

NOPE, get to the root of why you’re scared. Alcohol won’t fix anything, tbh it’s some loser shit in my opinion, it’s a loser move.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-05-14T20:14:18+00:00

Can be an asset or hindrance, you could end up drunk early because you got carried away or someone is buying you shots.

Also, what if you are at the grocery store, this total cutie is giving you the signs to approach and you won’t because you’re not drunk?

I personally don’t drink, and when I did I’d end up going home with some below par talent because my judgement was compromised, plus fights, arguments and drama.

That being said, a couple bevy’s will loosen you up, but can work against you, and are you not relying on a substance at that point?

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-14T20:45:57+00:00

Do you think this could work out or has anyone done it like this?

Don't do it.

I like to drink but I approach women with and without drinking. But when I started out I never drank. It will cloud your judgement and mess up your style. You'll just appear way less attractive because of your behavior.

Start small if you're scared. But start.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2024-05-14T21:36:07+00:00

I had the same thought when I just started off, I felt like I needed the extra confidence. I actually did it once, had one bacardi coke at home, went out, and it ironically turned out to be a really shitty day weather wise and game wise, because nobody was there. Later I realised that it’s kinda stupid to do mid day, and made me feel like an alcoholic. And I came to the point that you just have to let it rip man, that’s what this is all about anyway, about letting it rip. It’s gonna freaking hurt, there is no way around it. Ask yourself, do you want to live the rest of your life in excuses, or do you actually want to live for a chance?

I would say keep the alcohol at night game, like someone else already said, it will be a new excuse when you didn’t had a drink and you see a cute girl

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-14T22:23:06+00:00

Just drop the outcome focussed mindset and just concentrate on talking to people. Talking to people and getting a good reception will do more for you than any books, courses or YT vids.

omega05 · 2024-05-14T21:19:46+00:00

If youre at a bar or place serving alcohol sure but what are you gonna do walking down the street or at the grocery store, theatre, gym, etc

Altec5499 · 2024-05-14T23:50:51+00:00

Start out by giving compliments to random people and then walk away. Inject and eject… do this approximately 50 times or until you’re comfortable with it while you’re sober. Next, move into striking up random conversations with everyone, not just women. You want to build your mind up to a cold approach if you have a lot of anxiety. Like easing an old lady into a hot bath. Eventually your confidence will grow and you can directly approach women. Tried and tested.

Competitive-Ask4393 · 2024-05-14T20:20:53+00:00

Don’t. You’re avoiding the problem and just kicking the rock down the road

Sooner or later you’ll have to face women and flirt with them sober. You’re just delaying the inevitable, be a man and face your problems.

And no, being drunk + seducing won’t magically make you feel more confident sober. You’ll actually feel worse and believe ur sober (true) personality is worthless, needing to mask it with a fake drunk version for an inch of success. Alcoholism speed run

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-05-15T08:50:03+00:00

Bad idea. You should want to embrace the discomfort so you can level up. Not avoid it. You can’t improve if you avoid it. Your mind needs to go through it.

Using alcohol will simply make you dependent on alcohol to game.

MyUsername0_0 · 2024-05-14T20:14:43+00:00

This is a bad habit and won't help you when you're sober.
Maybe you'll have the balls to do it but what about when you go on a date?
Are you just always going to be drunk?

icxcnika1 · 2024-05-14T20:25:11+00:00

The problem with so many guys like you with cold approaching isn't just the fact that you're not confident. You guys also approach women in the dumbest, most illogical, least efficient ways humanly possible.

You're literally going to a random area of the city that you have no business being in (hoping there's women there), spam approaching any random woman on the street that seems cute, at 2pm on a Tuesday afternoon while they're either out running errands, have places to be, strolling back to the office during a busy ass day after having a long lunch with their annoying coworker Karen, etc. It's just so inefficient and it's not even fun. It's like a chore. And women can just feel how desperate you are.

And that's where you see all of these "field reports" here where you fucking losers are like "Hey guys, I approached 300 women on the street this month and I was able to get 5% (15) to give me their phone number. And then I was able to get 6 of them to go on a date with me and then 5 out of 6 of them ghosted me after the first date. But 1 actually liked me a little bit and kissed me. It's all a numbers game Now I just need to approach another 500 women and then I should be able to get my 5% rate up to 9.7% like the PROS"

Like it's fine to have some drinks and meet people. But at that point just go to a fucking bar or club or any nightlife spot. Where women are also drinking, where there's shit tons of single women looking to meet dudes. Where people go to be social and have fun. And then look for women that are giving you signals or seem bored or seem like they want to meet dudes. And approach the women you're truly drawn towards so you actually come off as a genuine person and not some weird, drunk, creep strolling down the block hunting for pussy.

You'll have way more fun, it won't feel like a chore, women will actually respect you more and not look at you like a weirdo, you'll have WAY better interactions and you'll have WAY more success with way less approaches.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-14T20:33:14+00:00

Keep it to two drinks MAX.

OneTxp · 2024-05-14T21:42:51+00:00

Just recently been through this myself. Don’t do it man cause it’s absolutely a crutch mindset wise if not done properly. Literally just start small. Today was my 2nd day trying and I walked around for 2 hours before I just said fuck it I really need to do something fucking anything. I finally just asked someone for directions and once you get that first one over it becomes a lot easier and you can just roll into the second and third one. Make the first one as simple as you can.

z7zark7z · 2024-05-14T23:00:23+00:00

Stage one of any endeavor is always the awkward period. Learn how to be comfortable in your own skin and around people.

Soft approach is to talk about things in the room. Stuff on the TV at a bar helps. A laser compliment specifically about their style can never go wrong. Third is talk about things that you like to do, or places to go, movies, etc. When you find some agreement or interest, you say, "we should do that together sometime. How can I get a hold of you?" She gives you her number. Done. Clean. This formula got me a lot of dates.

c_setup_exe · 2024-05-15T00:46:01+00:00

Alcohol is fake confidence

Who are you when you're sober?

trifling-pickle · 2024-05-15T02:35:15+00:00

You could try just dropping compliments. You can go up to someone, compliment them on something and then just walk away. Nice shoes, I like your jewelry, I like your style, whatever. Build up some confidence talking to strangers. Do it to dudes too, just so you can normalize chatting with strangers.

r_gui · 2024-05-15T04:49:41+00:00

You'd rather risk becoming an addict than fostering some courage?

FrederickVonFanculen · 2024-05-15T06:53:50+00:00

Man just DM me, I've got you govered

Goldliner6263 · 2024-05-15T08:36:19+00:00

Definitely do not go down this route. It's a really bad idea. Why not, take smaller steps. Like go up to ten girls and ask the time, or ask for directions. Just say your phone has run out of battery. That's what I did when I started. Took baby steps and eventually began doing actual approaches.

agentStag · 2024-05-15T10:06:44+00:00

No. Just don't! Don't use a crutch. That's it. Don't do it brother.

fernandohhhh · 2024-05-15T23:46:27+00:00

I started off with baby steps. Ask a guy for directions then the next day ask a girl for directions. After that I asked a lady at campus for directions to a class and then told her I knew where it was I just thought she was cute and asked for her number. She laughed so hard i made her day but she had a man and it felt good so I proceeded to make an approach right after that and got a girls number. She ended up flaking though but I still felt good

FromYourEyes · 2024-09-14T23:52:02+00:00

Making an asterisk in the middle of the word retard doesn’t make it not a word you used

Come on man

It’s not a swear… it’s a retired word

cemj86 · 2024-05-14T21:21:51+00:00

Loser juice

Nervous-Bench8090 · 2024-05-15T05:52:46+00:00

I started drinking because of my introverted / social anxiety self....it made me feel more confident to hang out with people because I was tipsy and ultimately didn't give a fuck what anyone thought of me.. three years later I am a raging alcoholic that cannot even go to the grocery store on a week day night to get simple groceries without being tipsy.

Forcing myself to drink in order to hang out with others / be social; ultimately killed me in the long run.. I can no longer do a minimal task without wanting a drink, and I need a drink in order to do anything, which is very sad and not ideal

Stop. Do not go further. Meet people sober, organically. I promise you, more people out there are just as socially awkward as you are, and you don't need to be fucked up to vibe with them ✌🏻

99probs-allbitches · 2024-05-15T00:31:43+00:00

Eat shrooms instead

Title	Using alcohol to start cold approaching
Author	icxcnika1
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Date	May 14, 2024 8:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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