[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

NaturalAFC · 2013-04-12T20:55:43+00:00

Does anyone have any techniques for getting in state or exercises for warm up approaches?

Grower-not-a-shower · 2013-04-12T20:05:58+00:00

I'm not very well endowed and if I was I might not need this subreddit as I have plenty of natural game, however, something that really stifles me with women is the size of my dick.

I get thinking about what it'll be like to take this girl home, or to F-close a girl and imagine her disappointment with my endowment (or lack thereof) and that future disappointment/judgement completely takes me out of state and discourages me from escalating. Cause what's the point if she's just going to laugh at me, or leave cause I'm not hung like a giant.

For specifics I'm 5'' on a good day when rock solid. never measured circumference but it it's not very thick either. And as the username suggest, flaccid I'm basically a rosebud.

So much of game is confidence, I need to really push past this to have true freedom in what we're about here in seddit.

Any advice?

whitecable · 2013-04-12T22:59:49+00:00

How to handle the test "please don't fall in love with me"? Assume the girl is highly interested.

Be creative!

xNaDx · 2013-04-12T19:33:51+00:00

How to open on the train?

Debonair_Gambit · 2013-04-12T21:09:34+00:00

I have wanted to try going out by myself to a social setting (bar/club). But I can't seem to get myself out on my own. I always have a buddy or two with me.

I don't know if going out alone would help my game, but I think it might build confidence? Possibly build my social circle?

Any advice is welcomed?

Dusty_Ideas · 2013-04-13T01:55:40+00:00

I've been waiting for one of these threads for awhile.

Are there any experienced Sedditors with clinical depression?

A lot of the things I learn here, like posture, body language and eye contact actually help mitigate the mild but persistent blues that this condition causes. For that I am indescribably grateful for.

However, periodically, it...flares up, I guess. Which just wrecks not just my mood, but my mentality, my ability to communicate effectively. It's an absolute nightmare.

Does anyone have any tips on dealing with this thing that occasionally indefinitely demolishes my inner game?

toiletwater · 2013-04-12T21:12:22+00:00

How do I tell a girl I've been seeing that it isn't working out. I really like her but she just has literally no time for me, how do I turn her down without completely ruining my chances with her?

dysrhythmic · 2013-04-12T22:09:29+00:00

About gaming in college: Should it be indirect like in any other place with disqualyfing and qualifying? IF yes, how to disqualify yourself? I know it's mostly long-term game and playing with social circles but are qualifying techniques recommended? I'm thinking especially when meeting new girls who I might see again but because I'm in engineering I don't know many girsl there since most of girls in uni is on other buildings of campus.

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duttymong · 2013-04-13T20:40:19+00:00

I just got a text out the blue from a girl I used to have oneitis for back in highschool (14-18) I am now 23, Since then I've learnt from my mistakes, been practicing game, dating. Many years have passed and I'm a new person.

We see each other now and then when I'm back in town, the last time I saw her she said that I've changed, grown up, not nerdy/geeky anymore (great news)

She text me tonight (8months after I last saw her) and said "I heard X and thought of you. Hope you're ok :)x"

Basically I want to set a completely new frame with this girl. Away from what I was once to her. I don't want to revert to my AFC day's, I almost did by almost texting back just after 12 minutes with some canned "i'm great how are you?????" response.

Any tips to how I should respond to this?

Mr-Metaphor · 2013-04-12T19:31:13+00:00

I've spent a whole day with this girl I really dig, we click very well but I can't seem to escalate to a K-close since she responds negatively as opposed to positively to overt kino.

I think the only way to go for a K-close is to make it a romantic setting and then kiss, or it would be completely random.

Do you guys have any advice?

DialSquare · 2013-04-12T22:49:47+00:00

I have a question about who should pay for what when first dating a girl.

Before I started reading up on this stuff and coming on this site, I was the typical type who would always just pay for everything. I recognize now that that's not necessarily the best strategy, as it makes me look like a bit of a pushover and doesn't incite as much attraction as I thought.

Now for my question: I asked a girl to go to somewhere for our first date that was relatively expensive ($30 each), and although we didn't end up going (she got sick and we had a short window before one of us left), I wasn't sure if I should have bought both tickets or not. On the one hand, I'm trying not to pay for too much early on in the dating process, not just because of how much it can add up but because I think it's counterproductive to building attraction. However on the other hand, I think it would be awkward if I walked up to the ticket booth and only bought one and then put on the onus on her to get her own.

My solution to this is to just buy both tickets myself and then say "Well you can get dinner," or something like that, but I'm curious to hear what others' opinions on this are. Also, I typically try to stick to more low-key and less expensive options for first dates to avoid this type of problem, but still I'd like to know what I should do for a situation like this in the future.

hypernati · 2013-04-12T23:01:52+00:00

how much eye contact is enough to say talk to me when crossing each others paths?

BrokenEscalator · 2013-04-12T23:27:25+00:00

What's the best way to learn to be sexual with people? I've never been comfortable enough to move conversations from buddy buddy type chat. I have a hard time seeing how I can do that without permanently altering the relationship.

I don't know how to make the jump from "this is a fun conversation, and I like this girl" to "maybe she wants to hook up, I should find out"

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-04-12T23:47:38+00:00

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Misterbbc · 2013-04-13T03:40:00+00:00

Do you guys usually wait for eye contact before you approach a girl, or do you approach regardless?

VMikeL · 2013-04-13T07:42:28+00:00

Long time lurker, I'm 24, still live with my parents, about to move to San Diego in August to finish school, just broke up with my on again off again girlfriend of 7 years, this time for good. I've made out with a total of five girls in my life, I've f-closed 2 one being my ex. I don't completely lack confidence, my AA is bad but not terrible, I have ADHD, really bad pre-mature ejaculation and I suck with girls (put my foot in my mouth, don't know what to say, etc.). Someone tell me what to do please.

Cameronious · 2013-04-13T12:34:45+00:00

This ones been bugging me for a long time: Once you have a girls number - what do you do with it?!

Seriously, I'm at university and I meet and hit it off with new women all the time. We exchange numbers or contact details and then.... err.... Get a coffee where I fail to escalate and become a "good friend" or flirtatiously text just for nothing to come of it.

HALP!

ugliestcanadian · 2013-04-12T23:54:38+00:00

I quit.

I still can't approach anyone. I still can't flirt. I still can't initiate conversation with anyone, and even then I feel like there is no way any women could ever really, truly be attracted to me.

My psyche is really starting to deteriorate. Where I once felt sadness and anxiety about relationships in general, now I feel mostly anger. I feel like I've tried everything and that my singleness is something that all of womankind has done to ME, but I know it's just my shitty ugly face and my shitty ugly body and this shitty ugly culture that FUCKING RRRRRRRGH.

I feel violent and shitty. I want to hurt someone.

Has anyone else felt like this? What can I do? I just want to be happy with myself and confident, but no amount of article reading or fucking fuzzy "I feel so good about myself" bullshit is HELPING.

tornyowl · 2013-04-12T23:23:49+00:00

I'm really into a girl on my uni course, who is really confusing to read.

When we chat in lectures and stuff she'll laugh at my jokes and seem genuinely engaged in the conversation. However when I'd try and K-close when we're out clubbing she'd pull away with no explanation. So I naturally decided that she wasn't into me at all.

It all changed the other night, the first time we'd gone out clubbing since breaking up for the Easter holidays, we both happened to be out in the smoking area with our own friends, when she came running over yelling my name excitedly, and proceeded to put her arm around my shoulder for the next few minutes.

So yeah, very mixed signals. Not sure if she's playing hard-to-get, and I'm not sure whether it's worth the chase.

tl;dr Girl in my uni class is playing hard-to-get, advice about confusing signals would be greatly appreciated

ArthurAardvark · 2013-04-12T21:46:40+00:00

How can you tell the difference between a girl trying to make you jealous and her not being interested in you (so mentioning some guy is nothing to her)?

VMikeL · 2013-04-13T00:11:51+00:00

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Vespaman · 2013-04-13T00:35:42+00:00

How do you game a girl on facebook who you have never met but is obviously hot?

new_alpha · 2013-04-13T03:31:23+00:00

We should definitely have MORE OF THESE THREADS!!!! Thank you!!!

VMikeL · 2013-04-13T03:45:26+00:00

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heyyou11 · 2013-04-13T04:11:04+00:00

Waitresses: Is there a way to filter IOIs from standard Hired Gun behavior? Is there a best approach to making it happen with one who seems to have interest beyond the tips?

MiloDiazzo · 2013-04-13T09:01:03+00:00

In what cases does being the 'comedian' fail?

DEATH_BY_TRAY · 2013-04-13T09:01:30+00:00

I'm 19, in uni, still living with parents. Is any explanation needed when bringing a 17-23 year old girl home? So far i've only been to their place. They've been living alone/parents been away.

Will they understand, or is it weird to still be with parents? Any others who have tackled this problem? I'm more worried about the interaction with my parents in the morning.

MrSocko1 · 2013-04-13T12:44:25+00:00

I was flirting with this chick at a party but the party ended badly because I got into a huge argument with one of the guys there and everyone left because it was late and things were getting hostile (no punches thrown). Then later on in the night I drunkenly sent her message which she never replied to. I might see this girl today at another party is there a way to repair the situation or should i just move on?

yarr_be_my_password · 2013-04-13T13:04:05+00:00

Hello, I, just got out of a long term relationship and I'm new at this. I'm good looking and friendly, got some sort of natural game but I'm missing something. For example yesterday I approached a good looking girl at a party, she was friendly, got her name, her major, where she's from, initiated eye and physical contact, kissed her on lips/cheek but things died out after I couldn't isolate her or take a drink with her. She seemed interested but I made couple mistakes, I didn't interact with her friends, or get any digits. I'm not worried jus embarrassed I couldn't escalate any further after the shit I've pulled this week (held umbrella to stranger girl without one, invited coworker I didn't know until two days ago ago out and got positive response), how can I work on my game?

dvallej · 2013-04-13T17:35:28+00:00

i have only had one GF. it started as a one night then fuck buddies then a relationship, we were together 2.5y, we did not fight, but things were just not good for a while. after a few months she moves to italy and after going to college there she will be back. she was there for like 4 years. for most of the time we talked 2 or 3 times a year in a very casual manner. but a couple of times a week in the last 2 months and then she told me she is coming back and the talks have been better lately.

i want to ask her that we give it another try starting slowly like the first time. what should i do to make it happen? ask her when she is here? before she flies back? how should i handle it?

Always_PM_Lyrics · 2013-04-14T04:03:30+00:00

Hey there everyone. I have never really been a fashion savvy person because I didn't grow up with... well practically any money to buy clothes. So eventually I stopped perceiving what effectively "Looked nice" and "good" to people.

Although now that I am older, and I've gotten some money of my own, I still have never really known what I should buy as far as clothes go in order to be dressed nice for day to day activities.

I'm 20 years old, and currently working on becoming a bartender at a restaurant, and I'm not going to school. I don't have that much of a social circle either for more personal reasons.

Anyways any suggestions on looking better would be greatly appreciated. Even better would be pictures as I'm a rather visual/hands on learner.

apolloblaze1814 · 2013-04-13T01:04:50+00:00

How can I talk to that cute girl in my class?

TheNealestRigga · 2013-04-13T03:38:05+00:00

There is this really cute girl in class. We've had two classes so far this quarter and we get along really well. After some quick research (creepy I know) I found out she has a boyfriend she's been with for over a year. They're separated now cos she's in school. She doesn't know I know this btw. I sit next to her and we do our work together. She's the perfect girl in almost every aspect. We have the same major , we're both freshmen and we even the same weird habits. I see her three times a week. I'm wondering if I should ask her for her number and try to be study buddies and see if I can work my way up or be more direct even though she has a boyfriend.

I also keep getting the idea that I should ask her what she's doing after class. It's a morning class that ends at noon so I really have no idea what we could do. I don't like coffee, I don't know anything about coffee.

I'm very new at this, I've been single for the better part of two years now. I'm a generally funny person which is my biggest strength.

Kass315 · 2013-04-14T22:53:27+00:00

What's a good response to "I don't give guys my number"?

Nayss · 2013-04-12T21:01:59+00:00

First of all sorry for my crappy english. Me (19), dated a girl today i get to know about the internet. She (17) is smart, symphatic, average looking and we chatted for 2 weeks and exchanged pics (chating worked good). Today as i met her, we went to a cafe and talked alot, but somehow i didnt get that feeling, this special something. I thought half the date about how we match together and if i can imagine to be together with her. I think cause i rly thought alot about this and im still not sure, it wont work. So my question is: Who has expirienced sth like this or sth similar and how did u decide.

JH1996 · 2013-04-13T03:06:47+00:00

I'm 16, just got out of a year long relationship, so I'm a little rusty, and tomorrow I'm gonna try to go a mall or something like that and meet new girls, general tips for getting back out there?

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	April 12, 2013 7:28 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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