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| 1 | The problem with today's dating...- Men and women are starting to adapt grass is greener... mindset, That's literally how evolution works. Since the dawn of civilization women have always chosen the best possible guy available. That's not something happening just in modern dating. Since we lived in caves women wanted the alpha, the most well positioned guy, the guy who had more power, better genes and more resources available. And men wanted the most fertile and young women, the most submissive, the best cooker, the best lover, … | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 06:05 PM |
| 1 | The problem with today's dating...You are talking about a different thing than me. You are talkng about women having more options, while I am talking about women's feelings. You seem to think that women having more options makes their feelings shift, but in reality women's feelings shift both with and without options. So a woman being interested in you and then not being interested is not due to having more options, it's due to her not feeling anything for you. You are suggesting that if a woman had no options then she would set… | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 05:38 PM |
| 19 | Are women more on the average side more receptive to cold approach (daygame)? (18-20 range)No. Every woman is different and can react differently and not conform to any averages or trends. In fact, in my subjective experience i'd say hot women usually react better than average or uglier ones. My theory for that is that because since they are mid or not that attractive, they feel like "im just messing with them, pranking them" or they feel i am not being authentic about my interest for them. And they are probably right to feel that way. Either way, what i call mid or not so attractive … | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 04:31 PM |
| 11 | Women who dress in revealing/sexy clothing motivations?Because women like feeling pretty, feminine and feeling admired to raise their self-esteem. Yes they are seeking attention, but the way men like you are choosing to interpret "them seeking attention" is not exactly accurate. They seek attention to feel good about themselves, but you interpret seeking attention as "i want some other guy to date me". Failing to recognize that if they dumped the guy for another guy they'd still dress sexy with him too immediately as soon as the relationship. So doe… | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 04:00 PM |
| 2 | The problem with today's dating...That's not a problem of Today's dating. That's a problem of dating. That has happened for centuries so don't come here glorifying the past, because men from the past have had the exact same problems that men have now. Now, the reason that happens is because women interest in a guy shifts constantly depending on how they feel and whether things cool down. For women dating is an spontaneous activity where the only thing that matters is what's happening in the present moment when she is with you. T… | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 03:06 PM |
| 20 | Do we really have any control over if they message us after we get socials?The point of nightgame is to kiss and hookup that same night. Not to get numbers or date in the future. Women don't often go to a nightclub thinking "i hope i can find my next boyfriend here in a venue or get a date". They go there to have fun and do sponatenous things without caring about the future. So if a woman is enjoying yourself with you in that moment, then that moment is the only thing that matters and you need to strike all the way when the iron is hot. A woman being interested means s… | /r/seduction | 13/09/25 06:21 PM |
| 5 | Does sliding in the DM’s actually work? If so, how do you do it?Everything can work or not work depending on each person. It's about whether you manage to connect with the particular girl or not. It's not about "infallible tricks that guarantee no women can ever say no to you". So when you ask "does X thing work?" it's a flawed question. You can get rejected many times in DMs, much like you can get rejected many times in tinder, in social cirlcle, in nightclubs, in workplace, in daygame, in bars, in colleges, in gyms, and any imaginable situation where you m… | /r/seduction | 12/09/25 10:42 AM |
| 15 | I realised what's the biggest thing holding me back. I need your opinion on it.Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of lighthearted sexual desire (not of love). The emotional effect her body, her behavio… | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Need advice to start again- I know I should definitely open up when eye contact is strong. But what if she is looking at other things, do I leave her alone? I don't approach woman because they give me signals, i approach women because i want to. It's a feeling, it's an impulse. I give myself permission, and women may respond one way or another, which is not my problem. My only concern comes down to, "Am i doing what i genuniely feel like doing regardless of consequences, or am i waiting for signals that it's safe to do i… | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How to react when she shows disinterest/mixed signals?The problem is you think: "If it's not an absolute no, then its a maybe" which is a mindset rooted in neediness and desperation where guys cling to breadcrumps because they don't think they deserve better. And needy guys always fail. When you are not needy, then the mindset is "If it's not an absolute yes, then it's a no". And you walk away/let her go and focus on new girls. | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 07:28 PM |
| 86 | How to react when she shows disinterest/mixed signals?Mixed signals don't exists when you are not needy and simply understand that if it's not a fuck yes, the it's a no. Mixed signals only exists in the mind of needy guys who cling onto any breadcrumps because deep down they don't think it's possible that a woman will say "fuck yes" to them. So their desperation causes them to interpret anything that isn't an "absolute no" from her, as a "maybe",... And that as such they have to keep chasing, insisting and being patient hoping their patience will g… | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Need Advice- She then asked me if I won't mispell her name too, to which I replied that I won't cause it was easy Who is gonna tell him... So you would not mispell her name because it's easy, right? That makes so much logical sense, doesn't it? What a silly question from her, right? Imagine if instead you had said something like: "You know I think you are right. Why don't you write your name on my phone, so i know how to spell it? And add your number too just in case" Do you get it now what she was doing? | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 04:13 PM |
| 3 | First dates should always be on a weekday or Sunday?Counterpoint: The date should be whenever the fuck you feel like having the date. We are not NPCS or robots programmed to do things in the way that some author or anyone says. We do things when we have time, when we feel like it, and if somebody doesn't align with your schedule so be it. - His reason is that women should not have the impression that you have nothing to do on these two nights other than having coffee with them. I have a different frame which is that first dates are about inviting… | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Game in London together M20I suggest you now read Models by Mark Manson and Mode One by Alan Roger Currie and Daygame Mode. | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Restoring frame in a LTR?- how do I go about restoring my frame and being someone she actually respects and admires? Stop letting feelings control you, and learn to feel things without letting those feelings control your behaviour, start practing self-control or finding other avenues to express feelings and don't make woman responsible for your feelings because you are the one who needs to take ownership of his feelings without making it a burden she has to bare, or something she has to manage or fix for you. And stop t… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 11:48 PM |
| 4 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".- If she tells me I'm worthless/unlovable (no connection/spark) for no reason, then yeah it will hurt. Did she literally say the words "Hey mister, i wanna tell you that i think you are wrotheless and unlovable"? Or is that what you are choosing to interpret? I have a hard time believing that the words "worthless and unlovable" came out of their mouth. Stop making your interpreatations of women's behaviours something that happened when it didn't happen dude. It's so disrespectful because when yo… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Girl has stopped texting me after we hooked up after texting me non stop for two days?Exactly the ball is in her court, she will show up if she misses you. If she never ends up missing you, so be it, be completel cool about it. And when she does miss you, don't demand explanations or act hurt that she took so long. Just welcome her and set up a date and maybe hopefully the date leads to sex if everything goes smooth. It's not your job to act butthurt for a woman being spontaneous and wnating one thing in one moment and her wanting a completely different one the next. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 05:30 PM |
| 14 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".- The woman who told me I didn't possess a spark yesterday just obliterated my confidence. It's not a woman's job to manage how you choose to feel about yourself. You should not make a woman responsible for how you feel and you don't need her give yourself permission to feel good about who you are. The spark is not a reflection of who you are, but on how she feels aroound you. She feels nothing because you showed nothing and you showed nothing because you deliberately chosed to prioritize being … | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 05:25 PM |
| 26 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".The spark is an emotion that she feels when you have actually managed to stir her emotions and managed to get under her skin.. As in managing to have an influnece on her emotional state, on whether you can get her to feel mystery, sexual tension, anticipation, adrenaline, sadness, joy, anxiety, relief, thrill, suspense, shyness, or even make her feel pissed off, a little bit upset, sad, angry,... The opposite of feeling the spark is feeling absolutely nothing at all, just pure indifferene as in … | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 05:10 PM |
| 8 | Girl has stopped texting me after we hooked up after texting me non stop for two days?It's not weird. Women act based on how they feel like in the moment. Women don't promise anything and their behaviour is not something that you should interpret with expectations. When you said "i thought she wanted more than a one night stand like a friends with benefits situation", that's you making that interpretation, not what she has actually implied or said, insinuated, promised or anything You are the one creating that interpreataiton on your own and even if she did it doesn't matter beca… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Ignoring flirty cashier to wake interest. What could go wrong?You mean if being manipulative, instead of seductive, works? Yeh sure it can work as long as you keep the facade permanently and when you finally remove the facade, then she will lose interest when she knows the real you or you begin to show the interest that you were withholding all of the sudden. This has hpapened over and over in the community hence why you often guys saying things like: "She was interested when i acted like i didn't care, as soon as i showed any sign of being interested, it … | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Scared of second meetingStop being needy first of all. You need to act based not on what you think she will like but on who you actually are no matter the outcome. That means being willing to say: "If i say this joke or opinion, she might get offended or get upset, and yet i'm gonna do it anyway". That's what being authentic without being needy is, that's what truly being yourself is, alinging yourself with your actions, and detaching yourself from the result of your actions. You do things that represent "you" and then… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 03:06 PM |
| 5 | How to overcome limiting thoughts/beliefsWell, the first step is to stop making women responsible for managing how you feel about yourself. It's not a woman's job to give you permission to feel good about yourselve and your desirability. They don't exist to make you fee like you are still good enough or not. Women are not tools of self-affirmaion where if they like you that's something you interpret as proof that you are worth something and if they don't like you that's something you interpret as proof that you are worth nothing now...… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 01:58 AM |
| 7 | Frat Game for a complete beginnerSex happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate. And it first requires you to stop filtering yourself, to stop playing it safe, to stop trying to be "nice" and stop trying to prioritize making women feel comfortable over expressing your honest truth no matter the consequences. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything,… | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 11:04 PM |
| 1 | How to flirtIt happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel… | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 01:11 PM |
| 8 | How I get good at flirtingYou should have been more direct and be willing to take the risk to go for a kiss way faster no matter the consequences. | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Not every girl you like has to like you back and that doesn't mean it's because you are not good enoughNot every has to like you regardless of what you do. It's unrealistic. And also not every woman that you like is a woman you should be with anyway because many women can make your life a living hell. And lastly, doing anything to get her is manipulative dishonest behaviour, as doing everything requires you to do things that are not authentic to get an outcome. It means you are pretending to be someone you are not to get her, and the worst part is that not only it usually doesn't work since it sh… | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 10:09 AM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingIt happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingI published it already. It's called Daygame Code. This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to develop real self-esteem and true confidence and stop… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingI published it already. It's called Daygame Code. This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to develop real self-esteem and true confidence and stop… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingI published it already. It's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to develop real self-este… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingI published it already. It's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to develop real self-este… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:49 PM |
| 1 | How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate?I published a book on amazon so if you like this advice, the book will blow your mind. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:26 PM |
| 4 | Navigating intimacy boundaries with my girlfriend—need adviceYou think people that break up due to incompatibility don't also really like each other? Mate you can't have your cake and eat it too. You either wait for years, or you find yourself another girl. SImple as that. She is also waiting for you to marry. So both of you are struggling with getting what you want sooner than what the other parner seems to want. If you want sex now then marry her. If you make her wait, then she will make you wait. Your desires aren't any more important than hers, so you… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 10:51 PM |
| 9 | Navigating intimacy boundaries with my girlfriend—need adviceIt's very simple. She wants to wait until marriage. So you either accept it and wait till marriage or move on and find someone who is ok with wanting sex before marriage. That's how you handle it. You said you respected her decision right? Then you wait. If you are trying to change her mind or something, then it's clear you are not respecting her decision and should break up. You don't do ultimatums, you simply say "i don't feel we are aligned and im breaking up" you don't tell her the reason. Y… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. Hope you like it! | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingHey man, i already published it. Daygame Code. Hope it will really work to get better results with women. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Places to meet new womenCollege campuses, large malls, and gyms. Your success will not depend on the location, but on your actual skills during each approach and each girl's particular circumnstances. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:35 AM |
| 22 | Im insecure physically and mentally. How do I stop this?So you have a "flaw", maybe you are "bald" for example and u r thinking "omg, i hate my hair, how do i hide it so women won't dislike me :((((". Dude, attraction isn't about proving your adequacy, seeking their approval, proving your worth to women or trying to convince them that u r good enough or to give you a chance to impress them. So, it's not a woman's job to make you feel understood or make u feel good about being bald. SHe is not there to soothe you and tell u "it's ok little boy". You n… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 11:07 AM |
| 6 | What were some situations where you dropped the ball on obvious situations and what did you learn from it?The lesson is dont approach because you get signals, approach because you want to even if you don't get signals at all. That's the ultimate cheatcode towards having a good dating life. Do what you want, not what you think a woman wants you to do before you even do it. Her job isn't to tell you via telepathy or singals that it's safe to approach or do something. It's not her job to give you a script of how you should act around her. Her job is to either accept or reject your invitation to do some… | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 10:08 AM |
| 128 | Signs she’s looking to get laid that nightThe more you sit there trying to analyse her signals the more likely another guy who didn't give a fuck about any signals will approach her without thinking and start making out and taking her home right in front of you. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Club Event with mostly uni studentsNo problem, if you need any further clarification you can let me know on DMs | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 11:29 PM |
| 3 | 31/M, 64" black guy living in Toronto. Dating Apps are unusable for me and I need to know where to startYou simply don't understand women at all. Looks matter? yes having better looks will get better initial reactions, but they are not crucial and not what determines the entire outcome. There are a lot of things that sabotage your interactions with women, such us: Being boring, dull, logical, generic, ordinary, being approval-seeking, your fear of rejection, your anxiety, trying to negotiate with women, trying to get something from women, and my favorite form of self-sabotage, treating sex like so… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 07:35 PM |
| 3 | A random date with a girl from instagramDont send good morning or good night messages to women who are not your offical girlfriends. This is a girl you went on one date, so this is extremely unnecesary, counterproductive and it's only gonna mae her feel like you are rushing things towards a relationship too soon which is only gonna turn her off. So don't send that and if she leaves you on seen never double text. | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Club Event with mostly uni studentsYou have to cold approach women in pubclic spaces, your job when you cold approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of lighthearted sexual desire (… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 05:03 PM |
| 3 | 31/M, 64" black guy living in Toronto. Dating Apps are unusable for me and I need to know where to startYou get treated badly when you simply have no clue how to appraoch, don't show empathy to girls during the appraoch, are completely tone deaf, and go expecting the worst before it even happens, and are socially unaware. Sit it's a problem of skills and internal conviction that approaching someone is legitimate. Not a problem of approaching itself. It's a battle with your mind more than anything else. | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 05:02 PM |
| 1 | 31/M, 64" black guy living in Toronto. Dating Apps are unusable for me and I need to know where to startI don't get any signals to approach and that doesn't stop me from approaching any girl i want, specially the most attractive ones. I simply do it because it's in my control to do whatever the hell i want. If they accept my invitation to get to know each other cool, if not im also cool with it. On to the next one. | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 04:56 PM |
| 10 | 31/M, 64" black guy living in Toronto. Dating Apps are unusable for me and I need to know where to startYou cold approach her in public space in real life because you want to approach her and won't apologize for approaching. You don't approach because you suspect she wants you to. In other words, you don't need to read her mind to do what you want. You approach her to invite her to get to know each other and her job is to either accept you or reject you your invitation. It's not her job to tell you whether you should even invite her in the first place. Her only job is to accept or reject your invi… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 04:52 PM |
| 8 | In your experience how often do girls sleep with multiple guys at once?If you have those views then it's your job to tell her straight up. If you want exclusivity then ask for it. Now she might tell you it's too soon, well then you let her go if it's so important for you. But what you can't do is to assume that your values are universal and that she should adhere to them simply as if it's a life rule and then complaining that she didn't do what you thought everyone did by default in your mind. So yes many girls will sleep with other guys, maybe this one will too. J… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 03:19 PM |
| 26 | How to tell if a girl is looking at you with a interest or just looking aroundIt doesn't really matter. You approach her because you want to approach her and won't apologize for approaching. You don't approach because you suspect she wants you to. In other words, you don't need to read her mind to do what you want. You approach her to invite her to get to know each other and her job is to either accept you or reject you your invitation. It's not her job to tell you whether you should even invite her in the first place. Her obly job is to accept or reject your invitation, … | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 03:09 PM |
| 4 | Cannot tell for the life of me if while dancing they are just having fun or trying to hit on meYou always fuck up the moment you begin to analyse signals instead of doing what you want no matter the consequences. So yes you fucked up, not because i think they were hitting on you, but because you clearly wanted to hit on them and make your intentions known in a 100% clear way and didn't do it out of fear. What a woman wants is irrelevant because it's constantly changing, the only thing that matters is what you want. Overthinkers who try to read minds or play it safe don't get anywhere with… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 02:40 AM |
| 1 | 18M BOOKS you would recommend to me (any book) for my age that will help me in upcoming yearsHey if you are from India you can get the ebook version here | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 01:55 PM |
| 1 | I can get numbers but have 0 texting game and am even worse on first dates. Haven’t closed in ages, but get a number 8/10 timesGetting numbers is meaningless. Many men struggle to understand that a woman giving their number doesn't mean you seduced her, she will give it more often than not without thinking about it and then no matter what you text her it won't change the fact that in person you didn't seduced them and so they feel no attraction for you or anything that "good texting" will change. You are measuring your success in a cold approach based on whether you get a number or not. And if they don't want to date yo… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 11:42 PM |
| 131 | why do girls say they want a nice guy and then date someone who looks like he eats drywallWomen mean that they want guys they are attracted to in the first place, to be nice. If they are not attracted to you then it won't matter if you are nice or not nice. Your confusion arises from the erroneous belief that a girl's heart is somethign to earn by doing what they say a guy should do. So you are essentially misinterpreting what they mean. They don't want a puppet. It's not: "Be nice and i will like you" It's: "I like you, and i wish you would be nice to me, but if not i still like you… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Is it better to have no hope?As a guy who spent years in my teenage and early 20s struggling with girls, always getting friendzoned, resenting women, even insulting them for not liking me (yeah i know fucking embarrasing to admit...) the answer is there is hope. You can improve your results, because i did it, and when i look back i cringe at how many fucking things i was doing wrong, how even if those girls had wanted to date me i would have still fumble the relationship because of my ignorance, immaturity, and my poor sens… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Not all cold approaches are built the same! 10 approaches that lasted 10 minutes are far more valuable than 100 approaches that lasted a minute.I agree. Quality over quantity. Is it a numbers game? A bit yeah, but not quite. Do you need to stretch the interaction as much as possible, mm not always, but many times it's a good idea to speak for more than 1 minute to the woman before you try to get something from her like a beggar. It's more like 50% luck / 50% skills... (percentages are an approximation) Part of it is gonna be faith, right timing, being her particular preference, being available, destiny, etc... But your actions matter to… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is there so little eye contact on the streetsI am in madrid. Madrid is great for cold approaching women | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Should I be more patient?With women everything is mostly about the present, not the future. You want to plan things in advance, women want to enjoy the present moment. Hence a woman will avoid giving any promises about the future because she doens't now how she will feel in the future. Even if she promises something now, it would only matter now the moment she says it. You shouldn't rely too much on what she says now to determine your future, because that can easily change if her feelings change. So when you understand … | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 05:49 PM |
| 9 | Why is there so little eye contact on the streetsYou don't need eye contact to approach women on the streets. What you need is balls. If you have balls you approach who you want to whne you want to without any signals at all. | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Who else feels like pick up is a gimmick?You don't treat women that you want to fuck the way you would treat your mother or your sister dude. that would be extremely weird and innapropiate | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 04:29 PM |
| 1 | How to approach women in gym?It goes fine in my expereince, as long as you are being respectful | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Which is better? Masking or be my unhinged selfYou must be willing to be your own unhungied version of yourself yes, but that doesn't mean every woman will like it. Some will show dissaproval and when they show dissaproval you cannot act apologetic or defeated, you must double down with a smile on whatever trait they show dissaproval on. You never act defensive or bactrack for being you, you always amplify it even more when a girl challenges you on it without being defensive or aggresive about it. And also understand that being authentic doe… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 12:06 PM |
| 1 | How to approach women in gym?Or you can simply skip all that and just approach her straight away in a respectful way like a regular authentic person would do. | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 03:14 AM |
| 3 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?You need to invite women to feel the emotional effect those women cuase you to feel without pressuring them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 01:32 AM |
| 5 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?Mate, no offence, but the problem is you don't know how to seduce women. So of course this ain't gonna work. You are starting with a rehearsed pick up line which is bad as it makes women feel like you do this with everygirl which tells them you are not being authentic about desiring them. Then you switch instea boring small talk about what she is doing, which creates no connection or anything, and lastly you swithh into the number after like 50 seconds of conversation which of couse means yo uar… | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 10:54 PM |
| 29 | How do you know if a girl likes you if she is nice and flirty with everyoneYou simply escalate, keep making moves, building up towards a date, towards a kiss, towards sex as long as she doesn't stop you/doesn't say not interested. If she lets you progress things, she likes you if she stops you for good, then she doesn't. It's very simple. Because her job isn't to tell you if you can make moves, her only job is to stop you if she doesn't want you to do them. | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 08:30 PM |
| 7 | Wrong game ?Simple, just because a woman looks a you doesn't mean she is looking because she is interested in meeting you. Women are not machines whose actions come with a manual of specific actions and meanings. Different women can do the exact same actions or what you call "signals" and not all of them have to be interested.. Hence why you shouldn't bother trying to interpret signals. You should just approach women you like without any signals simply because you want to. | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I felt super anxious and confused around a new cute girl in the gym today! Need direction.I understand where the mindset of "im gonna ignore her so she sees that im not impressed and thus im different and have higer standards" is coming from. You don't worship her, you don't put her on a pedestal just because she is hot and so hopefully she notices. However there is a problem with that because you are cherry picking things here. - I'll just be that "he approached me lol" guy in the gym. The problem is that unfortunately you have to take action or else she simply doesn't even care she… | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 06:21 PM |
| 2 | What do I have to do to date/sleep with girls "out of my league"?What society says is irrelevant to me, My actions are based on what i want, not on what society expects, and since i did that, it's being going much much better with women and my dating life has improved a lot. I don't try to impress women at all. And i odn't have a gym body, Im 176cm tall, Im not rich or an amazing job (im just a freelance photographer who makes enoug to get by without any luxuries)... So no, from my experience i can testify that the mindset of you needing to have value is simp… | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 04:07 PM |
| 2 | What do I have to do to date/sleep with girls "out of my league"?My mindset is that i know how aweful choosing the wrong women just because she is hot can be for my hapiness, my wellbeing, my satisfaction in life, etc. So naturally i just screen women naturally, i don't go thinking how can i get her number, i go there thinking is she even worth my time, how am i feeling with her? Do i feel like i enjoy the way she talks, the way she expresses herself, do i feel like she is being calculative or impulsive? Do i feel like she is whthodling and filtering herself … | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 03:51 PM |
| 16 | What do I have to do to date/sleep with girls "out of my league"?You can't until you stop overvaluing girls for being pretty, and undervaluing yourself for not being handome. It's a battle with your mind, and your poor self-esteem. Deep down you don't feel worrthy and when you approach these women you are not treating them as humans with falws, you are treating them as judges of your worth. Behind your attempt to talk to her isn't a real attempt to connect with who they are, all you are thinking is about what sleeping with them would say about your worth as a… | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Vacation plays?I live in Madrid and I can help you to do Daygame, cold approach during the day. We can just meet up, just DM me. I'm 176cm, mixed race, not particularly fit, and yet i do approach despite not receiving any signals from women. I don't do nightgame though as i don't like the nighttime. But if you are capable of doing daygame, then nightclub should be easier, or maybe not lol, but ill least you will get experience | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 11:08 PM |
| 321 | Shouldn’t we have evolved to be able to naturally do this shit?You were naturally able to do this when you were a kid when you still had confidence in yourself as you had't learned yet to doubt yourself, undervalue yourself, fear consequences and had not learned social conditioning to have self-doubt and hesitations. The problem is when you were a kid you were not interested in dating or sleeping with women, but if you would have been interested you would have been killing it. Your fear or anxiety when you see a hot girl happens because you have internalize… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 07:22 PM |
| 30 | How to convince her to send photos?You don't convince a girl to send you naked photos because it's not a negotiation. If she wants to send nude photos is because she naturally feels like doing it without you having to request it from her, simply because you are either the type of man she feels like sending those photos without you having to ask for it, or because she is the kind of girl who likes to do that with any man she trusts irrespectively of what the guy wants. In other words, it's a form of self-expression that comes from… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Maintaining interestYou don't try to mantain her interest long term, because that action by itseld is needy no matter how the action is performed to look like you are not needy. It's needy because it shows you are clinging to a breadcrump, a vague future promise of something that could happen or not happen in the future and treating it as if it's some type of unbreakable commitment from her, when in reality things might change regardless of what you do now. So you don't orbit around her, you don't try to chase. You… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:07 PM |
| 7 | Escalate from a friendship to something more?It's funny how some guys tell you to ask her what she wants, which clearly shows they don't understand women at all, how seduction and emotions works and how they clearly don't have enough experience with women. A woman can easily tell you that she wants to have sex with you and go to your place to sleep with you, but then when she actually arrives at your place she might get cold feet and change her mind about having sex and thus refuses to do it even though an hour before she said she wanted t… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Which book worked for you the most?I wrote one which is gonna blow your mind, it's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to dev… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Best courses for conversation skills/inner gameI wrote one which is gonna blow your mind, it's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to dev… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:39 AM |
| 2 | 18M BOOKS you would recommend to me (any book) for my age that will help me in upcoming yearsI wrote one which is gonna blow your mind, it's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to dev… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Help a brother out (Book recommendations)I wrote one which is gonna blow your mind, it's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to dev… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Seduction booksI wrote one which is gonna blow your mind, it's called Daygame Code, you can find it on amazon here This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to dev… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:29 AM |
| 5 | Daygame Report - First Time- "Excuse me, you're cute and I wanted to say hi. Do you have instagram?" Seduction requires you to make her feel something, not to ask her for something or to negotiate. So the question about instagram so early on without a proper connection built or without making her feel anything was a bad move because it made her start analsying you in a logical way about whether she should or shoudln't give you an isntagram or whatever you asked her for. This is why she brought up the "age" objection. The … | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 11:05 PM |
| 1 | I'm new into practice, what do I do next?You are overthinking because you are obssesed with not fucking up, which is ironic considering you said: "I don't want to seem needy". This is contradictory because when you overthink you are already being needy, since neediness is based on you trying to make sure you don't lose a girl or trying to play it safe in order to make sure that a girl becomes a part of your life. You are also basing your life schedule based on her schedule which is another sign of neediness and of being off-center. You… | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 08:37 PM |
| 6 | first cold approach after yearsThe problem here is that you are watiting for eye contact. You don't need eye contact to cold approach whoever the fuck you want. The reason I approach women who don't give me any signals at all is because I feel the impulse or desire to do so, and because of that that's the only justification or permission that i need to go there and approach her and invite her to meet each other. Because my chances of being with a girl have nothing to do with whether she gives me signals or not, they have to d… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 04:59 PM |
| 1 | I'm dead afraid of approaching women, how can I get better.No it's not doomed because despite your upbringing you can still work on your confidence. You are not sentenced for life just because your parents or teachers didn't do a good job because people can and should work towards evolving, maturing, and develipoing reselieince, a tougher skin, etc,... And regardless of social conditioning, the point is not about doing it because it's the norm, it's doing it because you want to. Dating is not about following social conventions or normality or being poli… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 04:54 PM |
| 2 | I'm dead afraid of approaching women, how can I get better.People don't understand the problem you have. Your fear probably comes from a combination of social conditioning, low self-esteem and social anxiety. Social conditioning: The belief that approaching random women in public spaces is not correct, specially those who did not indicated to you via silent signals that they want you to approach. This is false because all you need is to approach them and tell them that "you would like to get to know them because you find them cute", this is basically as… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Women test you by showing dissaproval to see if you are comfortable in your own skin.Why would you need alcohol to do this? That's some limiting belief you've chosen to tell yourself. You just do it by giving yourself permission to do it simiply because you say so. Because you are the ultimate authority on what you can and should do. | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | How to escalate when meeting up with someone?When you let a woman know you only want to be friends, then they will happily go alogn with that and start acting platonic around you and being completely fine with being friends forever. So this is not the jedi mindtrick that you think it is. When a guy behaves in such a way that the girl thinks he just wants to be friends, then women will be happy that for once a guy doesn't want to sleep with him and make you her "bestie" or gay best friend" while she fucks other dudes who laugh at you for th… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 01:12 PM |
| 1 | I need helpThe problem is not whether it works, because first of all attraction is about mutual alignment, not about becoming an infallible god that no woman on the planet can resist if you learn ther right techniques.... Everyone gets rejected, some more often than not. But eventually everyone meets a bunch of woman that aren't interested in them and that is ok. The problem you have is that you still can't manage to get rejected without taking it personal, without beating yourself for it, without acting l… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Questionado to spark emotions ?It's not questions what you need. It's statements, opinions, jokes to spark joy, anecdotes and memories to create joy or nostalgia, expressions of how you feel about things you do to create any type of emotion that's relevant based on how you feel, and ambiguous comments or ambiguous actions to create mystery, teasing to create provocative tension, flirting to create sexual tension,... etc | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Why do women show a lot of interest in me then suddenly it vanishes into thin air?Becasue their attracion level can go up and down depending on their mood each moment. It's not stable, it shifts depending on her feelings. So they can be very interested one day, and then their feelings change like the weather for no reason and they are not feeling drawn to you anymore. So it's not something they get to control, it's just that women based their actions on how they feel and feelings are chaotic as fuck. She kissed you and maybe later she regretted it because maybe it was too fas… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 02:54 AM |
| 8 | Girls only lust after me, but have no interest in datingBecause the more you try to convince girls to start a relationship before they are ready, the more off put they get. A realtionship has to be the woman's idea and pursuit not yours. Your job is to hang out, have fun and hookup. When a woman senses you want something serious too soon, or like you want commtiemtns and stuff women tend to feel pressured. It's like you are trying to push for something that they are not feeling yet and trying to negotiate and women dont like that. They don't negotiat… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Why do women emotion dump?Women only do this with guys who are not 100% clear with their sexual intentions. When you act ambiguous, like a nice guy, like a friend, then women might typically do this to you. So what probably happend is that your conversation with her was simply too platonic. She felt your vibe was too freindly, too polite, too safe, too comforting and so she naturally felt safe to dump her emotions on you because she thinks you are the kind of respectful nice guy who would actually sit there and listen. B… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Approaching Girls in Public- Are people this insanely disconnected from their purpose as humans? Being respectful and polite goes without saying of course, I know how to behave and it’s a minimum in society. I think people thinking strangers cannot talk to each other randomly are completely insane, I know for a fact I’m right, this is an insane level of limiting beliefs. Look mate, you can do whatever you want, you can approach anyone that's true. But that doesn't mean people will applaud you. You seem to think that peopl… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 10:41 PM |
| 19 | Most of the girls have bf- Why women show interest in another guy when they are with their partner? Cuz just because a woman has a boyfriend doesn't mean she respects her boyfriend. You seem to assume that every women out there are angels who would never cheat or betray their boyfriends for a quick rush of dopamine. Women can erotisize the idea of cheating and betraying their boyfrineds trust and get turned on by it. I'm not saying that you should make them cheat, im just saying that sometimes women might not hesitate t… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 10:28 PM |
| 2 | How to approach girlsYou are nervous because rather than focusing on expressing yourself without caring where it leads, you are more focused on trying to make sure you don't say the wrong thing that will cause her to lose interest and that's exactly the problem. You need to forget about trying to get an outcome. You need to drop the mission to get a number, to get a date, to get sex, to get a relationship and instead focus on expressing yourself authentically, focus on what you feel now in the present and let go of … | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 08:18 PM |
| 2 | How to approach girlsSeduction is not about following social norms, or doing things because they are normal in a particular culture. You are missing the fundamental point of what seduction is about if you are thinking "yeah but doing this in x country is weird". The main reason guys don't get laid or have problems with women is because they are always adapting to social norms, playing by the rules, being a good little boy who does not what he wants, but what's expected of him. This type of guy has been conidtioned t… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Married, but stuck in a 10-year friendzone — can the dynamic ever change?Nice bait, but ill answer anywyas since other guys who are actually in a situation with a friend for so long will probably want a serious answer to this. Some people just don't want to date you. They might want to be friends, but they don't want to date you. the problem is you are tryig to force something that isn't there, the feelings are not mutal. This is like you forcing someone to like a particular type of music that they don't like, and because you want to keep trying to make them like you… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 05:27 PM |
| 3 | 20 truths about seducing women that transform ordinary men into magnetic menTrying to be liked by women is one thing, seducing women is another thing. A woman can like you and not feel seduced by you, and a woman can feel seduced despite not liking you. But it requires high level of reading comprehension to understand the difference. | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 03:01 PM |
| 7 | How do you deal with FOMO and morality when it comes to casual sex?- Should I stop going for casual sex, or should I accept the double standard and think: “Yes, it’s a double standard, but I’m a man, so that’s okay”? Yes, but rather than saying: "It's a double standard, but im a man so that's ok" it's more like you say: "It's a double standard, but it's just how i feel, and that's ok" (because you say so) You don't negotiate wiht women, you don't argue, you don't make this a gender issue, you simply say "It's just how i feel" period. You don't try to mae her un… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Getting to the point of kissing in the club seems so impossible to me?- I live in Bulgaria and here I don't think it is accepted to directly declare sexual intentions You dont get it. It's not about what's accepted. IT's about doing it even when it's not socially accepted. Seduction is not about social norms, its about being authentic despite your authenticity going against social norms. People don't do that because society approves, they do it because they are being themesleves and don't need society to approve. Tha'ts why i sadi when you are more concerened on w… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 02:03 PM |
| 4 | I wanna be a gym rat and date gym womenIf you need to wait to be fit to approach gym girls then you don't deserve them anyways. Also trying to focus on being liked by one specific girl that you call your "gym crush" is needy by itself because it means you have already decided that you are sold without even knowing her properly, and that as such you are gonna try to say whatever you think she wants to hear or do whatever you think she want you to do in order to be with her. This is manipulative, it's what politicians do when they want… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 01:12 PM |
| 3 | How Valuable Is Being Morally Upstanding With Women?You don't get rewarded or punsihed for being a morally good person. Attractions is not about you doing the right thing and then women acting thinking "oh he is a good moral person, let me reward him with pussy". Whether a guy is good or not is not the reason a woman will sleep with him or date him, it's whether she is attracted to him or not regardless of how morally good or questiomable he is. In other words, it's not what you should focus on if your goal is to seduce women. If you wanna be a g… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 12:39 PM |
| 5 | Just got a girls snap from tinder and need some pointers guysSo on the one hand you said "i understand that the point of getting contact is to set up a date" On the other you basically say: "But in reality i don't understand the point and i still refuse to accept it's just for setting up a date and that i think i have to make conversation with her". You are still not getting, do you? The phone is for setting up dates means you don't use it making convo interesting, or to get her to be prepared, or anything that you are asking here. I love how these people… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 08:35 AM |
| 3 | Getting to the point of kissing in the club seems so impossible to me?The thing is in order to do that you first need to have a high self-esteem which you don't have, and being ok with rejection without letting it affect you which is not possible without a high self-esteem and then being direct and honest about expressing your desire to a woman that you see there either verbally or not verbally and have the guts to just go for it even when there are no 100% guarantees she will accept it. It's not a nuclear science, it's about being direct right away without trying… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 01:38 AM |
| 30 | 20 truths about seducing women that transform ordinary men into magnetic menGood question. Maybe i did not phrase it correctly as english is not my native langugage. I meant that you should not pretend like you want to be just her friend, when in reality you want something sexual or romantic because it's dishonest with her and with yourself and only leads to misunderstandings. Refusing to treat her like a friend does not mean that you treat her like an enemy. It means you are honest about your intentions and don't settle to be just her friend. There are woman you will m… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 12:45 AM |
| 2 | I may have missed the signals but do i have still have a chance?- You can roast me if that helps. All right then. - There was this girl, who is way outta my league If she is out of your league then why do you go for her? When you say a girl is out of your league what you are really saying is: That person deserves way better than me, and if that's your belief then why do you offer yourself to her. You trying to scam her or what? - I have low self-esteem. So that's why you approach her? because you don't believe you are good enough, but secretly hope she tells… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How to be that man1 - Be authentic and honest without filtering yourself, instead of approval-seeking and manipulative. 2 - Don't be needy or try to keep a woman at any cost and always be willing to let her go 3 - Have abundance mentality and always be willing to replace women that disrespect you 4 - Forget about the outcome and do what feels honest in the present regardless of the consequences 6 - Express the desire she causes you to feel in the present moment but without having an agenda 7 - Don't be transactio… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 10:55 PM |
| 2 | How to aproche a woman, that is alone and makes i contact ?You say jokingly: "You broke my heart, but ill get over it, don't worry, have a good day! | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 05:52 PM |
| 4 | Is she interested?The question is not "what does she want?" or "is she interested?"... The question is what do YOU want? Men get caught up in the trap of trying to analyse a woman's behaviour like they are crazy computers that don't make any sense, and they lose sight of what really matters, which is what they as men want. Women don't want anything, they don't have a secret agenda, they don't have some secret mission or goal that justifies why they behave the way they do wih a guy like you. Instead they go with t… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Nightclub. Girl flips the bird for absolutely no reason.So this woman did not act according to the script you had in your mind, huh? Women filter, but you did not seem to understand that you had already been filtered with the first no. You assume you had a second chance because according to your script that's the way it's supposed to happpen and because she did not follow your script, you are left wondering if the girl is malfunctioning or why she is not acting according to the usual protocol of behaviour. Life doesn't always go according to your the… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Where did all the grown men go? Stop whining read this it’s all the help you need.You seem to be very in control of your emotions right now. I can feel you are very calm and collected in the way you expressed yourself in the main post and in the responses you gave to other people. The way you’re arguing and talking down to strangers online while telling them not to care is pure stoicism. Marcus Aurelius could never. I can only hope to one day reach that level of calm, collected masculinity. If masculintiy and being a man is about not letting your emotions control you, but bei… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:19 PM |
| 9 | What Women WantWhat women want is irrelevant, the only thing that matters is what you as the man want. Authenticity without neediness is what women respect. A man who stops being authentic because he wants to secure a woman no matter what is exactly what repels women like the plague, because he stops being himself and starts neglecting his wants, his desires, his opinions, his behaviour any time he feels like it might cost him the woman. And when a woman feels that the guy is prioritizing winning her over or k… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Field report/ adviceNot every woman you approach is gonna react positively, and that's ok. That's something you need to accept without you doubting yourself. It's about understanding that not not evreryone likes to eat steaks even if you have the best steak ever made. | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 08:32 PM |
| 14 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?Damn, ok this will be long so i don't blame you if u don¡t read, neediness comes from many things: - First of yeh, it's scarcity mindset, in other words you believe the amount of hot women that will give you attention is extremely low so you must feel lucky that you even got one. It's like being a fisher on an empty river, where there is only one fish passing by once per year hence the desperate need to fish that one no matter what. The solution for this would be to tell the fisher to fish in a … | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 03:35 PM |
| 70 | Need advice please , I fucked upYou are behaving in a needy way now. The date went bad and now you are being all needy trying to salvage things that did not naturally click. This is not how seduction works. Seduction is not about salvaging things, since the whole idea of salvaging things is rooted in the belief that this girl is your 1 in a million opportunity that you must not lose, and that as such you have to find ways to solve things, ways to reignite her attraction, ways to get things back on track. This is exactly what n… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 02:16 PM |
| 53 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?- Since most women are naturally a bit guarded, even getting a number can be tricky Women being guarded with you does not mean being guarded in general or with other men. Don't assume what you expereince with women that you talk to is a universal thing that happens sistematically with everyone else. I don't say this to put you down, i just say this so you understand that your reality is just a story you tell yourself based on how your biased brain interprets the world. I could say women are frie… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 01:00 PM |
| 1 | How do you flirt and can you give me examples of what it sounds like?Cheesy suggests you are being sweet in a way that sounds unauthentic and that you are not being genuinely honest about the effect you said she has on you, so if it feels unauthentic don't say it. Those are examples to understand the difference, not pick-up lines you memorize and say them without feeling them just because you read them online. Another more extreme example would be: "That dress makes me feel a boner" You would probably not say that cuz that would come on too strong, but if i put i… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 09:45 AM |
| 2 | I feel confident but I can’t approach womenAsking people if they are together is not awkward unless you decide to make it awkward. You seem to think it is because they will interpret you seeking something, but that's the thing. Don't hide it. "Oh man, i was gonna try to get to know her, but i respect that you two are togheter" You don't have to lie, you don't have to hide intentions. And what boyfriends will respond badly is if they tell you she is mine and you still try in front of him, or if you try in front of him without asking first… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 01:58 AM |
| 4 | I feel confident but I can’t approach womenThat's because you feel anxiety. Anxiety is a mechanisms that projects future negative otucomes that could happen if you lose control of the situation. The less control anxiety feels you have over the situation, the more exxagerated those imaginary negative outcomes will tend to be leading you to paralysis. For example in your case, you fear "a guy potentially being her boyfriend or lover" because if he is then he might get upset with you, threathen you or punch you. So while you might confident… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 11:21 PM |
| 2 | I keep freezing when it’s time to kiss, and it’s making me sad and frustrated — how do I break this pattern?Kiss her or not kiss her on the first date? It’s not about figuring out what’s statistically more likely to lead to more future dates, it's also not about adapting to what you think she wants. It’s about recognizing the impulse you feel right now, in this exact moment, regardless of future consequences,... and expressing that impulse in a way that she feels it as something authentic of where you are at in the present. So you express it like this: "You know? I keep seeing your smile and the way y… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Anyone experienced in Sweden on here?Yeah sure | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 05:36 PM |
| 13 | Why you shoud not double text a woman that's making you chase or ghosting you- But for me, I actually tried out this whole “double texting” thing with a few women I still had in my contact Yeah ok, but that's not what i mean with double texting. I mean when she is clearly saying almost saying "fuck off" with her actions.. And again the point is not whether they reply, the point is are you doing this because you are needy and desperate and don't have any other choices, or are you doing this from a position of strength where you don't actually need her because you got plen… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Anyone experienced in Sweden on here?I have done daygame in Malmo, in the south of sweden and Halmstad, it's a great thing to do in summer there. | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 05:23 PM |
| 3 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?You know there is way too many reasons for women not to be interested in you right? You are assuming the rejection is all based on whether it's the norm to approach or not. Have you considered all these other perfectly valid reasons why they are not interested: · You did not cause them to feel anything · Because they are already taken · Because they are not in the right mood · Because she has different values · Because she has different preference or type · Because she didn't connect with you · … | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Fake muscle suits for dating?"Why don't women like nice guys?" The nice guy: "Should i be dishonest and try to trick women to like me?" | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 03:39 PM |
| 5 | Reality Check for Daygame Pick-up?One of the key things you need to understand in seduction, is that you need be outcome independent. Seduction works best when you align yourself with your authentic true-self that expresses what's real without caring about the result, which is something that the vast majority of men in the world will never be able to do due to social conditioning, fears, neediness, anxities, and their outcome-driven agendas when they interact with women. You see, it's not just daygame. The reality is that the va… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 02:41 PM |
| 66 | How did y'all beaten your lust and p addiction?Who says feeling lust is wrong? Wanting sex is a natural human instinct driven by the nature's drive to reproduce with fertile women. Hence it's not a "flaw" or a "disease" or "something to cure". It's what drives you to pursue women and to reproduce and it's what nature has designed humans and all living species to do. Now porn addiction? Well, that might be slightly different, that hits the brain with dopamine and in a way it can satisfy your need of reproduction without actually having to do … | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Need your 2CTeasing requires proper voice tonality for it to land playfully. WHen you text that voice tonality is missing therefore, everything reads not how you intended, but rather how they interpreted in their own head. You think you are saying something lighthearted but the way she reads it is completely serious. So your tease now becomes an attack in her mind. That's why we have repeated in this sub countless of times, that the phone is for setting up dates, not to seduce her, not to game her, not to g… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 10:55 AM |
| 3 | How to escalate things? (Failed to close a date)First problem: You acted friendly and suggested a friendly hangout. Why is this a problem? Because you were dishonest, and manipulative. WOW, isn't that a big accusation i just made? Well, you've been manipulative, not out of malice, but out of self-preservation. Instead of being authentic and honest and real with her with what you wanted, you decided that your truth was something to repress and hide out of fear. Either because you think she would have rejected you or laugh at you. So instead, y… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 10:40 PM |
| 68 | How do you flirt and can you give me examples of what it sounds like?Flirting is not the same thing as complimenting. Complimenting is recognizing she has something appealing or worthy of praise but it does nothing to create sexual tension because everyone can say that and it's more like giving her a Yelp or Amazon review than anything else. Flirting is expressing the desire or emotional effect she causes you to feel interanally simply because it's true expression of what happens inside your body. So it's the difference between saying: "i like your smile" vs "whe… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Getting started at 50You seduce women by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without making it feel like you want them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything from her, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you ex… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 08:22 PM |
| 2 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?listen, you choose your own reality. You tell yourself stories to interpret the world but they are just that, stories. You are focused on the outcome, hence outcome dependent. I focus on being real without attaching myself to the results of my actions, hence outcome independent. You say, they give you a number and then they don't follow up. Yes, that happens literally everywhere. You think it's only in canada? Most numbers in any country you get will lead nowhere, and that's ok. That's because n… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 11:43 AM |
| 2 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?Being ignored has to do with your game, not with the audience. What you need is to be authentic when you express soemthing to the woman, something that feels real and honest, not rehearsed. Again, my priority is being real and true to myself, so i don't approach because a woman gives me signals or because a particular society approves, i approach because i feel the impulse in my body to approach a woman that i like. And so the impulse i feel is valid enough justification to go for what i want. B… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 11:17 AM |
| 4 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?I don't think you understand something. You don't do cold approach because it's the norm in a particular country, you do it because you want to. It's not about being normal, it's about being willing to be "weird" because "weird" just means different, and "normal" just means ordinary. So when you simply say "fuck yeah i love being weird, then women will jjust go along with it as long as you seem completely comfortable in yur own skin doing what you do. And if some woman isn't into you, or thinks … | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Would you text back a girl who ghosted you for 2 days?What your heart wants: A pretty girl who respects you and chooses to engage with you without you having to request it or having to double text her. What your fear says: A pretty girl who respects you and choses you naturally might not be something you can get and should lower your standards and settle for low effort or breadcrumps. Now if she replied, then now it's your turn. You don't need to mirror her behaviour because it's too obvious when you try to wait deliberately the exact amount of tim… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 11:20 PM |
| 21 | I suck at escalating into the intimate stuffExtremely false. Women can be interestd in you and then gradually lose interest later. I have seen that happen over and over and over, women giving signals, taking the initiative, giving compliments, flirting for real in a shameless way, but as soon as they see your hesitation, how boring and dull you are, etc you can feel it how all that interest they had initially goes to shit. It's a fact that women interest isn't stable, it can shift depending on how they are feeling about you and the things… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 08:33 PM |
| 11 | Here is the deal: I can’t imagine myself with a hot girlI think i already said it. You screen and vet women by understanding that no matter how hot she is she will have flaws or things that upset you or annoy you that you need to find out. Your job shouldn't be How do i get something from her or how do i win her over, your job should be what flaws does she have that i am not seeing and how do i test her subtly to find them, and most importantly let her go if she doesn't match my standards of what i expect woman to do. You need to be ok with the idea … | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 07:39 PM |
| 0 | Can I cold approach even after I feel hurt from getting rejected and ghosted?You need to stop acting like numbers mean anything. A woman is not saying comitting to see you again by giving you her number or saying that she is into you. I don't even go for numbers when i cold approach women. Cuz my point is im trying to get laid, not get dates in the future. My job is to go there to see if i can make her feel the sexual tension in the approach and take it from there either for a same day lay or maybe an isntant date or something. Numbers are a waste of time. | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 12:30 PM |
| 31 | Here is the deal: I can’t imagine myself with a hot girl"She is hot therefore she has value, i'm not hot therefore i don't have value." The problem is you are too immature to date when you think like this. Is the worth of your mother based on how attractive she was to your dad? That's it, that's all she is good for an object that your dad uses for sex? Being pretty and nothing else? Or did your mother have more worth to your dad than simply being pretty and fuckable for him? What about flaws? Because every girl no matter if she is hot or not has flaw… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Need advice about my arranged relationship – she’s suddenly distantIf it's arranged, the most normal thing is that she doesn't have feelings for you. Because you have both not chosen freely to be together. It's being a choice made by your families. You don't actually love this woman even if you think you do because you have seen each other twice in person so you barely know each other in a way that truly matters (and no texting and video calling is not a way that matters),... You only said you love her because you were trying to secure your marriage and you tho… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 03:28 AM |
| 5 | How to do Cold Approach in a Small CityYou don't destroy your reputation by approaching women that you like, you destroy your reputation when you are manipulative, dishonest, disrespectful and lie to women. Now if you assume that seduction or cold approach means that you must be manipualtive, disrespectful, dishonest or lie to women to get what you want, then you are the problem, not the city being small. So yeah, if you are gonna start doing manipulative crap like the mystery method, then yes you are gonna get your reputation ruined… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 01:44 AM |
| 2 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"The problem with conffession is when you expect something in return for her, like you are demanding her to give you clarity about where you stand, or to tell you that she feels the same way, or validation, or to give you a relationship or anything. This is the mistake when guys try to express their feelings, they want something from the woman for doing it, instead of simply sharing it without looking for anything in return. So express feelings without demanding anything in return for sharing you… | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 12:00 AM |
| 8 | How do you deal with brutal shutdowns? Are they preventable?They are preventable as long as you understand why those brutal shutdowns even happen. And the reason they happen is because rather than going there to express without agenda, you go there to negoitate with an agenda and ulterior motives. The thing you need to understand is that every woman in the nightclub knows exactly what you want when you approach them. You want something from them, you want sex and the problem is not that wanting sex is bad or something you should not want. The problem is … | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 08:07 PM |
| 11 | Fashion and different kinds of gameYou need to dress however you like and own your style unapologetically no matter what anybody else has to say about it. This ain't about trying to fit into a mold. It's about being so unapologetically yourself that you don't give a fuck about anyone else's opinions and don't get affected by them. Women want a guy with strength and character, if a woman judges your outfit and you fold, you apologize or you show shame, that's the real problem. Not the outfit, but your lame approval-seeking and apo… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 01:33 AM |
| 2 | How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate?Think about why you are terrified. You've probably learned that your feelings are a problem, annoying, a nuisance, a distraction, a weakness or something to be ashamed about. Something you've interanlized so much to the point that it now makes you terrified. But when you understand that self-expression is not about looking for validation, but to simply let your inner world breathe, release what’s inside without judgment, and honor your truth for its own sake. Self-expression isn’t about impressi… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Being a 22m virgin is making me suicidalLook dude, sex and eventually relationships happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion tha… | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 09:19 PM |
| -4 | We've all been wrong about showing vulnerability and women being turned off because of itThat's as cynical as saying: "Just shows that the only value a woman has in a relationship is making babies and doing chores." This ain't about men have to be providers or useless, or women have to be domestic workers or disposable. Have you ever noticed that when a woman talks about her problems and you give solutions, she gets mad and says you don't listen because that's all she wants someone that listens to her.... She doesn't demand you fix her feelings, or that you offer solutions or anythi… | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 12:26 PM |
| 9 | How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate?What you need to understand is that when you do this, you cannot be attached to the result. If you are hoping to force an specific result with an specific woman you are going with the wrong midnset here. Because some women will feel it, some women will not. If you somehow are fixated into forcing things, trying to force her to feel what she naturally is not feeling, then that's like forcing someone who doesn't like a particular music genre to like it, when in fact it just doesn't resonate with t… | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Men are like a moving train with a clear path. You either stop letting women steer your destination or you lose their respect.Collaborating on small issues yes, like cleaning the bathroom, not leaving the toilet seat up, doing chores, taking care of kids when you would rather be that day with your friends sure... But sacrifacing core parts of your identity, your path, your purpose, your goals, your carrer, your ambitions, your friends because she threathens you to leave if you don't, whch is what this post is about.... Absolutely not. Many men need to understand that you as a man need to have certain boundaries and tha… | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 12:06 AM |
| 67 | How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate?It happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate. Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Do you step up or check out when a woman has high standards?When you seduce a woman her superficial standards she tells you about become irrelevant. Her superficial standards only matter when you can't stop a woman from evaluating or analysing you which is something that happens to men who try to communicate with them in a logical way or a transactional way where they constantly try to prove their worth or focus so much on sharing facts about themselves that don't resonate emotionally at all with women. The real core standards that truly matter for any w… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:47 PM |
| 1 | It's crazy out hereWell, one of the biggest mistakes a guy can do and which often pushes a woman away is the idea that he wants guarantees before allowing himself to be vulnerable. In other words, you fear getting hurt, because if you get invested in a woman, but she is still is not exclsuive with you and might potnetially be open to meet other guys until you both agree to be exclusive, then you fear that she might choose to be with someone else in the end. And i get it, but it doesn't make it a legitimate action.… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:21 PM |
| 3 | It's crazy out here- I think "oh this person is different. She is putting in effort, so it would be rude not to put in effort too) This is the part where you begin to scew up. You did not clarify exactly what you meant by putting more effort, but my guess is you start acting like you are already thinking of labels, relationships, commitments, making things serious... This is not a good idea for a guy to do. You don't actually mirrror her interest, because a woman's interest has to be always higher than you. She ha… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 07:39 PM |
| 1 | "Eye Contact Spell" GameEveryone can claim to be a seducer and brag that it's so easy and simple, when the girl is already interested in the first place and doing all the work. It's harder when a woman is simply neutral about you, where she is neither interested nor desinterested, just observant and allowing herself to see if they feel something or not with you based on how you acts and what you say. It's also easy to claim you are good at seducing girls when you are just looking for one night stands, but then when you… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 04:27 PM |
| 2 | When to disclose mental health problemsYou express your truth without making women feel responsible for managing your emotional state. It's not about hiding your stuff, it's about you not expressing that in such a way that it feels like you need someone to rescue you from your mystery. You need to take ownership of your situation and feelings about it, and do it from a position of strength, not from helplessness and weakness. That's what women respond to, not fa guy pretending to be flawless, but rather admitting you are flawed, but … | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 03:28 PM |
| 15 | Best Cold Approach Openers – What Actually Works for You?Your opener is not very effective because you are failing to understand women¡s perspective on this. When a woman hears "can i chat to you" her first instinct will be to anlayse whether she should, her analysis is logical, and thus she is will think all the followign thoughts super quick: who is this guy, what does he want, am i safe, is he trustworthy, talk about what exactly?, do i have time, how long is he gonna be chatting me for, what if i just want to leave? and do i even care about anythi… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Failure after failure- Another big flaw I see is that 2 months is a normal time to seduce. A month of casual dating to demonstrate your high status and desirability, a month of serious dating to demonstrate your value and deep commitment This is not true at all. Sex can and does happen way faster than this. You can even get same day lays ocasionally. But the idea that you need two freaking months to sleep with someone? That might be if you want her to be your exlcusive monogamous girlfriend, in that case yes, but wh… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 01:37 AM |
| 73 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"The spark is an emotion that she feels when you have actually managed to stir her emotions and managed to get under her skin.. As in managing to have an influnece on her emotional state, on whether you can get her to feel mystery, sexual tension, anticipation, adrenaline, sadness, joy, anxiety, relief, thrill, suspense, shyness, or even make her feel pissed off, a little bit upset, sad, angry,... The opposite of feeling the spark is feeling absolutely nothing at all, just pure indifferene as in … | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Failure after failureLook mate the problem is your cold approaches probably fail becuase the girls you approched did not feel the spark. The spark is an emotion that she feels when you have actually managed to stir her emotions and managed to get under her skin.. As in managing to have an influence on her emotional state, on whether you can get her to feel mystery, sexual tension, anticipation, adrenaline, sadness, joy, anxiety, relief, thrill, suspense, shyness, or even make her feel pissed off, a little bit upset,… | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"The spark is an emotion that she feels when you have actually managed to stir her emotions and managed to get under her skin.. As in managing to have an influnece on her emotional state, on whether you can get her to feel mystery, sexual tension, anticipation, adrenaline, sadness, joy, anxiety, relief, thrill, suspense, shyness, or even make her feel pissed off, a little bit upset, sad, angry,... The opposite of feeling the spark is feeling absolutely nothing at all, just pure indifferene as in … | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Men are like a moving train with a clear path. You either stop letting women steer your destination or you lose their respect.Yeah, i can see the frustration, but it's nature doing what it always has done. Natural selection. But, let's imagine if the opposite happened. Imagine a woman asked you to give up your best friends because he doesn't like them, your business because she wants stability and wants you to get a dead end job that you hate instead, your parents because he doesn't get along with them, she wants you to stop going to the gym because you look too good and is jealous that other girls in the gym or whatev… | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Mind gamesBullshit | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:17 PM |
| 4 | Talking to my girl “friends”made me realise I’m actually not that guyIt's 2025 and there are still guys who don't understand that women aren't moral guardians arbiteering who deserves romance or who doesn't based on how morally pure those men are. Women are not vending machies were you put nice guy coins in exchange of sex or romantic affection. Neither are men by the way. Or do you think guys, (specially the guys in this sub) fuck girls based on how nice or bad they are rather than simply thinking with their dick and fucking the hottest girl they can, or even wh… | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 06:05 PM |
| 5 | Men are like a moving train with a clear path. You either stop letting women steer your destination or you lose their respect.You get it! | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 03:53 PM |
| 9 | Men are like a moving train with a clear path. You either stop letting women steer your destination or you lose their respect.If you read carefully my point, you have to ask yourself, what is it that you deep down feel it's your path? If a woman tells you that you should lose weight, be more social or anything else, you can consider it, sure. But the final decision to do it cannot come from fear of losing her, it has to come from your own internal belief that this is what's good for you even if you know she may leave you anyways. In other words, you lose wieght because you want to, not because she told you, not because… | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingFalse. Putting someone on a pedestal means acting like you are beaneth them and giving them unnecesary praise. This post however is not about doing that, it's about understanding how to comunicate with women so that you both understand and attaract each other naturally which is done by feeling and inviting them to feel. So it seems like you read this wrong or got confused and were trying to reply to someone else. | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 02:51 PM |
| 0 | More Trouble than its worthGood news is that, the calculated approach is not how women and seduction works. Most guys are trying to rationalize seduction in a logical linear way, where: "A action" has "X consequence", and "B action has Y consequence" in a consistent manner. And if women were like computers or something that would be true, unfortunately that's now how they operate Sometimes doing A can result in X but sometimes doing A can result in Y... Much like sometimes doing B can result in X, while other times doing … | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 10:56 AM |
| 9 | Does not reaching sex when escalating physically make women distance themself from you?- After that, she would reply less and less to my messages.if we were to have had sex, how would her attraction to me change? Same question to if we didn’t escalate past kissing too? This is not how women and seduction works. You are trying to rationalize things in a logical linear way, where: "A action" has "X consequence", and "B action has Y consequence" in a consistent manner. And if women were like computers or something that would be true, unfortunately that's now how they operate Sometime… | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 10:47 AM |
| 2 | No problem approaching & getting the contact, but having difficulty getting engagement after- I usually approach saying you look ____ (European country). I get conversations with tourists visiting from Europe or other American states. However, I’m having difficulty translating the Instagram contact to real dates. Women don't care how they look or what descriptions you do of them, what they care is how her look causes you to feel. When you descirbe her, you are talking about facts, logic. It's like describing a tree, "This tree looks green with a bit of yellow on the leafs...." This is … | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Putting the heat back into hot & cold?You don't need to do anything special, because if you do, then you are gonna risk putting pressure. You need to let women come to you at their own pace, while you stay 100% patient. Your only job is hang out, have fun and hookup. That's it. It's not your job to bring up talk about labels, commtiments, obligations, realtionships, expectations, or anything like that. A woman wants to see you when she feels like naturally, not when you try to pressure her into wanting it more frequently. If the sex… | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Putting the heat back into hot & cold?This is making assumptions about what an individual woman wants based on a stereotype. Be careful when you do that because it can lead to completely miseread of the situation. Don't try to read into a woman's mind because everytime guys do this, they get it wrong more often than not, which can make them act in ways that are unauthentic and calculated based on a premise that might not even be real in the first place. A woman's mind is chaos, and even they don't know what they want very often. | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 02:07 PM |
| 15 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingWomen usually want less chaos when they age, so yeah just date older women and they'll be ok with being bored as they prioritize stability since they already had their fun in their youth, but from young women however don't exepct much, either you are the fun, or someone else will be both in or out the relationship. Women need to be emotionally stimulated, they hate feeling numb. | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 12:33 AM |
| 4 | No follows up after sexIf a woman doesn't get on board your train, her loss. It's not a failure, it's clarity. There will be more girls many of whom will be better and you'll be damn thankful that you didn't settle for the first one that gave you just a slightly higer bit of attention . | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 12:08 AM |
| 21 | No follows up after sexNo, you simply are assuming you can retain every girl if you do the right things ignoring the fact that women have their own agency and sometimes just don't want to have more than a one night stand and that's it or that they simply don't feel like they naturally connect with you for something long term. | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 11:37 PM |
| 2 | This date is important . I'll leave dating site, if I get herLook, im gonna be honest with you. You are already putting her on a pedestal and trying to secure an outcome which means you are more likely to fail than anything else, no matter what you do. The moment you need to win a girl over, the moment you try to make sure you can't lose her, the moment she feels like you are trying to lock her down, or telling her what you think she wants to hear, you've already lost the battle. Charimsa comes from being detached from the outcome and being unapologetical… | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 08:13 PM |
| 34 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingActuallly, I am publishing a book in english soon this month. Will be called Daygame Code. | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 08:01 PM |
| 22 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingMy point is about making her feel emotions, and those are just examples so you understand the point im making. There is no obligation to give her that contrast on purpose, but you should know that accidentally giving her that contrast without that being your intention would have the effect of keeping her hooked to you even if you didn't intend to. Im simply making you aware of it from a psychological perspective so that you understand women in general and why they often can't walk away from cert… | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Why men obsessed with analysing women's signals keep failing with them and why men just need to follow their desiresYeah, it's important to distinguish between following your heart vs following your fears. What the heart wants is actual standards that you don't compromise, and when you are forced to double text because she ignores you, your heart resents that, your heart protests, you resent it. But your fear causes you to ignore that and compromise. So we must learn to listen to what the heart really wants and be willing let go of that which it doesn't genuinely want. | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Why men obsessed with analysing women's signals keep failing with them and why men just need to follow their desires- If you say dont double text, then you're not really taking the advice on follow your heart Double texting isn't rooted in honesty from your heart, it's rooted in neediness, aka the believe that you can't get a woman who doesn't ingore you, and that you have to get any breadcrump that she gives while you can, at the expense of your actual standards. So that's not being honest with yourself because if you were honest with yourself and what your heart naturally desires, you wouldn't settle for le… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 11:36 PM |
| 6 | Second Date, More Nervous then First Date.You still haven't learn that your mindset should be that you are the prize, the gatekeeper of a potential relationship that she has to earn, and that your job is not to do thigns well to impress them, but to evaluate whether she deserves not just to have a relationship wiht you, but to see if she even deserves a 3rd date. That's why you are nervous, because instead of acting like a man who knows his worth and who screens and vets women properly before giving the privielge of dating someone as go… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 09:33 PM |
| 5 | How do I know if girl being flirty/interested or just friendly?Signals are irrelevant. You don't approach or ask women out because they give you signals. You approach because thats being honest, thats being real and you want it, withotu caring what the result is. It's about aligning yourself with your desires. If someone can't accept the real you, or rejects you for being real then you shouldn't want to be with them anyway. Because it's not wrong to feel attraction to someone, it's not wrong to want something. You should never apologize for what you want. S… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 07:55 PM |
| 11 | How many women are you currently seeing at once? And is she aware that you're dating multiple people?3 and yes they all know because im clear about that, i also know 2 of them are seeing other guys too. | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 03:25 PM |
| 8 | What do YOU do after first date to keep the ball rollingDon't try to read into what a woman does, don't try to read minds, don't try to create meaning to ambiguous behaviour, don't make assumptions about her actions, don't overanalyse or overthink and don't base your behavior based on what she does, but on what truly aligns with your desires. Your message does not require a response, her like is just a polite way to say "yeah i read it, im not ingoring you". So, if you wanna say something, say it. Don't wait for some type of signal to express what yo… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 03:24 PM |
| 8 | Confidence boosters are holding me backNever apologize for your identity. The way you dress is part of your identity and self-expression. Therefore you don't apologze for being who you are, and for expressing yourself. You double down always and if someone has a problem with that, they don't belong in your life, so you simply show them the door. | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Made creepy first impression to a girl I meet every day. How to make myself safe again?You are reading too much into this It's not that serious, she will get over it. It was not creepy it was just awkward. You don't need to do anything to fix her image of you. All she is thinking is "well that was awkward". You don't need to be apologeitc, if you see her again and she sees you you just can be polite, smile, nodding your head or simply saying "hi". If she avoids eye contact when she crosses paths with you, then just mirror her bevaiour and don't say anything. | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Last semester- I usually ask them about something they’re doing or wearing, or why they’re where we are. Maybe mention something about where we are. And move conversation from there. But idk girls never seem interested in talking. Sometimes a little, but if I ever move in the direction of flirting it seems to only make them less interested. The problem is that you not making them feel anything. You are just asking to exchange facts about each other like some boring interview. You are not flirting, you are no… | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 11:49 PM |
| 8 | Dealing With Mr Nice Guy SyndromeYou need to flirt, which doesn't mean complimenting, it means expressing the emotional effect she has on you. Te desire she makes you feel, the way her smile makes you feel, the way her she looks at you makes you feel. The way her mannerisms or perosnality makes you feel... That's when you begin to be honest with her because you are not hiding what you feel out of fear of rejection, but rather expressing something that's true, an emotion that she causes you to feel and inviting her to feel it to… | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 11:37 PM |
| 17 | Dealing With Mr Nice Guy SyndromeNice guys are manipulative because rather than being honest and authentic, they try to control the outcome by prioritizing being safe over being real and honest with what they feel and want in an attempt to get the approval of a girl they are interested in or at the very least avoid dissaproval and conflict. So in reality mister nice guys are not actually nice because they just seek approval and hide what they want because they fear being rejected. You said it yourself: "I play it safe, act poli… | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Getting rejected after sex on first date?The problem is that you assume that these women were planning for the future with you when in reality they just wanted to hookup once and that's it. It's on you if you have expectations about future encounters that were never signed into any contract. "Wanting sex once" doesn't mean "wanting sex multiple times". | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Approaching/dating when mental health isn't greatIf you try to date with those issues then you will not have good relationships with women and most of them won't last. Self-esteem is something that has to come from the belief that you are at peace with who you are, and don't need anything from women to feel good about yourself. How do you expect women to feel safe around a man who deosn't have his shit together? A man who has problems with self-esteem. A man who deep down he doesn't feel he is good enough. That's the reason you keep crushing a… | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 06:38 PM |
| 4 | i am confused for my female friend- why the fuck she is being comfortable with me, is it because of the attention she wants and i am providing. Because girls are always comfortable with close male friends. No different than being comfortable with her brother. You got friendzoned plain and simple. No need to read more into it, because that's all. | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 11:59 AM |
| 10 | Why men obsessed with analysing women's signals keep failing with them and why men just need to follow their desiresBy not treating seduction in an outcome oriented way, but rather in a experience-driven way. Instead of thinking "how do i get her number" how do i get a date" how to i convince her to have sex", start being more selective, more picky, vet and screen women more, don't give yourself away and don't be sold on any woman right away or too early, just because she is pretty attractive and gives you attention. Start speaking from the heart, not from the brain. Express how you feel without making it sou… | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 12:31 AM |
| 24 | Gf(27F) wants to break up over religion with me (27M)Never try to convince or beg a woman to stay. Always let her go, and challenge her to find someone better while you stay completely unperturbed. When you do this and never chase her or check in, sooner or later they come back. | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 04:07 PM |
| 4 | A question for my Indian brothersRead Mode one by Alan Roger Currie instead and Models by Mark Manson. They will be more relevant. | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 04:05 PM |
| 27 | Is there any truth to the idea that too many consecutive rejections will damage your psyche and ultimately hurt you?- I quit and decided to try cold approach instead. So last week I did my first ever cold approach, and it was a rejection. Not a particularly bad one, but part of me is concerned. I feel like I might lose motivation and hurt my self esteem if I get too many rejections in a row. I’ve still only done one approach, and while I consciously want to do some more, I can’t help but feel apprehensive. Most guys don’t go through this, most guys meet women through friends instead of getting rejected over a… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Paying, feeling disrespectShe isn’t responsible for your understanding or comfort beyond basic respect. Asking for constant explanations turns natural uncertainty into an obligation, which is controlling as you’re essentially trying to dictate how someone should behave or communicate to satisfy your expectations. This mindset restricts their autonomy because instead of letting them bieng themselves you are impposing a standard they are morally obligated to meet and it signasl yet again more entitlement, as it implies tha… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Paying, feeling disrespect- If someone does what 'feels right in the moment,' they can be as unclear as they want? Yes, they can for the simple fact that they don't have an agenda, and so them being unclear is not about dishonesty, it's about genuinely having no clue what they want with you specifically, until thigns unfold. And this is actually s far more legitimate than doing things with a secret agenda that you hide from them like: " I will spend money on these girls, but only if I'm promised me that there will be a s… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 03:58 AM |
| 0 | Paying, feeling disrespect- Girl 1. We meet at a mexican bar near her place. She comes all nervous, then eases up. Gets a drink we get nachos, she almost eats everything, gets tipsy. I pay for everything, doesnt says thank you. We kiss at the end (like a short kiss), we touched, i flirted. But tells me she doesnt want an encore and that it was nice. Friendzoned. Nobody is forcing you to invite her to things that cost money. If you are so upset that women don't thank you for inviting them, maybe you can just do something … | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 03:24 AM |
| 2 | How to open up and escalate sexually?- I was of the impression that any reference to physical reaction was bad? Like it was obvious and cringe to say, for ex. "I'm trying so hard not to kiss you right now" That's a line you can use when you've already beeing talking for a while, the mood invites for a kiss, but aren't sure how to go for it or if she wants to. So you use it if you want to go for a kiss to get consent without treating it like it's a logical negotiation which would kill the mood. If you said "can i kiss you" it doesn'… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Mind games- In today's dating market, if such a thing can even be said to exist, casual sex is rare and women are more guarded than ever. Completely untrue. Women in history have never been as promiscuous as now. As a guy who lived in different apartments with college girls, most young girls between 18 and 25 are fucking so many dudes that they never want to see again after fucking once. - I feel like the classic techniques don't work and seduction is played out. It seems you have to future fake the fuck … | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Direct approach vs Indirect approach?Depends on what feels more authentic and honest for the context that you are in. If you approach a random girl for no reason, no context, when there is nothing happening that justifies talking with her, then the authentic honest thign to do is to be direct, where being direct means saying something like: "Hey i know this is random, but I like (X thing) about you, which makes me feel drawn to you right now, and i know i would regret it, if i did not get to know you real quick" Because if you are … | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 11:57 PM |
| 5 | How to open up and escalate sexually?Tell her the things she makes you feel in terms of attraction and sexual desire "The way you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now", "the way you lose concentration when she smiles cute like that, the way your heart rate increases when she does "that" particular thing", "the way her gaze kinda hypnotizes you", "the way her touch hits you like a wave", "the way her mannersims warm up your heart", "the way you feel so drawn to her and can't help it". That's how you flirt, not by telling the… | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 10:54 PM |
| 8 | How to open up and escalate sexually?The things she makes you feel in terms of attraction. For example: "The way you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now", "the way you lose concentration when she smiles cute like that, the way your heart rate increases when she does "that" particular thing", "the way her gaze kinda hypnotizes you", the way her touch hits you like a wave, the way her mannersims warm up your heart. That's how you flirt, not by telling them compliments or descriptions of what good qualities she has, but by ex… | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 10:50 PM |
| 3 | Girl at the poolTell her that you want to get to know her, and start bodning over stuff you like to do, things you'd like to do, experiences, plans, hobbies, and if you both get along then after 10 mins of conversation or so, tell her that you are enjpying the conversation, that you are amazed you have so many things in commun and that you'd like to see each ohter again and if she feels the same way after you tell her that, then you ask for her number. | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 03:42 PM |
| 0 | When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?Why do you need her feedback in order to do what you want? If you want something tell her simple as that. If she lets it happen you continue, if she tells you no or to stop, you stop. Seduction is not about reading minds, it's about taking action. You do things as long as she keeps allowing it, you don't wait for her to tell you what to do. | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 11:46 AM |
| 2 | When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?You are not being a leader if you stop yourself to try to analyse what a woman wants or not before you make a decision to act. I don't approach woman because they give me signals, i approach women because i want to. It's a feeling, it's an impulse. I give myself permission, and women may respond one way or another, which is not my problem. My only issue comes down to, "Am i doing what i genuniely feel like doing, or am i waiting for people to tell me it's safe to do it?". And whenever i do what … | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 10:21 AM |
| 5 | Desperation and the resetSeems like you are making your lack of sex an issue that wouldn't be an issue if you just didn't treat it as an issue. The idea that you can't get women if you haven't had some for a while is simply false. What turns off women is you not being comfortable in your own skin, not whether you've had sex or not lately. But the fact that you are bothered by that. And being bothered is a choice. You can simply accept that sometimes you don't get sex and that's ok, instead of acting like there is someth… | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 11:27 PM |
| 0 | Approaching 2 500 women without ANY ResultsYou are successful in your career because your carrer involves logic, consistency, rationality, commun sense, and objective analysis of the problems/situations that arise. You are unsuccessful in your dating life because it involves feeling emotions, dealing with inconsitency, emotioanal intelligence, empathy, and understanding rather than fixing and going against social conditioning, social norms, and being authentic in a culture that encourages men to be dishonest to get what they want and hav… | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 10:07 PM |
| 1 | How to sound authentic and actually confident ?- You don't mention the feelings or talk directly about them, that's weird. Being weird doesn't mean bad or undesirable, it just means being different so invalid point. Women feel what you feel. If you stand by what you do, they'll adapt to your frame because yours is more solid and unshakeable. You live in your reality, not hers. In your reality, being authentic and expressing your feelings of sexual attraction is "the normal" simply because you say so, simple as that. If you doubt your actions… | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 05:55 PM |
| 1 | How to sound authentic and actually confident ?Dude, don't think and don't make women think, instead feel and make women feel! You need to learn that everything you feel that you want is valid, never apoligze for what you want, never justify it, never be defensive about it, never argue about it, just accept and let it be known that "it's just how you feel" and you don't fight, hide, censor or repress what you feel. You express your impulse, your desire, not because you want her to say she feels the same attraction, but rather because you are… | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Chat GPT’s Monday is my new wingman and it is hilariousIf there is one thing AI sucks is at dating dynamics, because AI looks for consistency, patterns and logic. And women are literally the opposite of that when it coems to dating. AI would always take what a woman says at face value, without questionign if she is playing games, or if she is using double meaning, or if she doesn't really mean what she says. Because for that you need to feel the tone, the vibe shifts, the emotional mood of the moment, her body language... And on top of that there ar… | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 08:27 AM |
| 4 | How do I start flirting with strangersFlirting comes from internally feeling honry, feeling desire, feeling what you'd like to do to her sexually and just blurting it out unapologetically as a self-expression that is real in order to create sexual tension. The basic structure is "i feel this feeling/desire for you right now". For example: You need to create sexual tension in your interactions which can be done in the following ways: Holding eye contact just a bit longer than usual while biting your lip suggestively, glancing at her … | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 10:05 PM |
| 30 | Women I dont want want me and women I want dont want meSo there is a reason why girls you like don't feel attracted to you, and girls you don't like, feel attracted to you. A woman is really hot, therefore the guy concludes she has value. Then the guy looks at himself and thinks: “i’m not that attractive, therefore i’m not as valuable. I’d be lucky to sleep with such a hot girl.” So they start filtering themesleves, and trying harder to perform in order to please, and thus stop being authentic. However if a woman is unnatractive for any other reason… | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 07:07 PM |
| 0 | The Chase doesn't appeal to me. Am I cooked?That's the thing, you are not supposed to chase because chasing makes women run away from you. You are supposed to attact by creating emotional gravity, so women feel drawn towards you and start chasing you Low-value men chase, high-value men attract. If you feel like you have to chase, it's because you've got nothing of value that women naturally gravitate towards to, or you have that value, but you don't know how to make them realize that you have it. Seduction is not about chasing. Unless you… | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Really angry on myselfWhen you say that you are thinking of giving a woman everything she deserves, it doesn't come from generosity or abundance, it comes from a place where you feel like you're not good enough so you’re trying to compensate hoping that by over-giving, you’ll finally prove your worth or keep her interested. But real value isn’t about what you hand out, it’s about knowing your own worth first, setting your standards, and offering connection from a place of confidence, not scarcity and gvingin her only… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Really angry on myselfNah, if a man thinks that, it has to do with the story he is telling himself. He is the one deciding for her that he doesn't deserve her because he doesn't value himself. And not valuing yourself is a choice you make. It's a sign the guy has really low self-esteem and unresolved emotional baggage. Dating and seduction also is not about whether you deserve someone, it's about whether you actually have chemistry. Chemistry isn't based on your worth, it's based on natural compatibility. You could b… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 08:41 PM |
| 16 | What do you do on a date if...It's not about recovery. If she says no, it doesn't mean you fucked up by asking her to go to your place or that you need to fix something you broke. She just doesn't feel like it, much like she might not want a chewing gum if you offer her one, and that's fair. You shouldn't overreact, or insist or go into a crisis. You need to kill the idea that every “no” is a personal failure or something to “recover” from. It’s just a boundary or a mood on their part, not a reflection of your value or your … | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Really angry on myselfAs a dating coach i know this happens to some of my clients usually because some of the following reasons: 1 - You don't have the full conviction that cold approaching is right or desirable for women or acceptable by society standards. So there is a dissonance between your insticts and your need to follow social norms to fit in. 2 - You are afraid about looking dumb and inadequate, which triggers your inferiority complex, as she may see that you can't even have a conversation as you run out of t… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 08:25 PM |
| 10 | When should you start “investing” in someone you’re dating for the long term?Because it's not about having tactics or specific actions, it's about having self-confidence. If you develop confidence in yourself and know your worth, then what happens is that you naturally don't fear losing a woman, you raise your standards naturally, you are not sold at all in an specific woman so early on, and you don't fear competition from other guys at all and are always willing to let women choose someone else if that's what they feel like without you acting like you "failed" or like y… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 07:33 PM |
| 14 | When should you start “investing” in someone you’re dating for the long term?- When a date goes really well and a woman shows interest by the second date, I tend to start “investing” emotionally. In my mind, she’s already someone I don’t want to lose. This shows extreme neediness. You barely know her and you don't even "have" her at this early stage. So you can't really lose someone you don't even have yet. The idea that someone you barely know is someone you are already sold on and not want to lose is not based on standards and genuine choice, but from the feeling that … | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 06:23 PM |
| -9 | Can you transform yourself from a man with zero success to a man with many successes?One of my coachign clients is from Bulgaria, Sofia. He literally went from being friendzoned by his crush and completely anxious to cold approach women during the day in public, to getting numbers, dates, and hookups with random women he cold approached on the street or public spaces during the day in a few months. You can book a coaching session for free here as a trial to see if you can learn something. And no its not a sales call, it's literally a coaching session with practical advice you ca… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 12:14 AM |
| 2 | 38, divorcing after 17 years—how do I re-enter dating in 2025?The correct question is not how do women view a 38 year old man who is freshly single. The correct question to ask yourself is "how do i see myself? Do i accept myself completely without being apologetic about my age or begging women to overlook my age? or am i gonna flinch as soon as a woman tests me about my age?". The problem is not being old, the problem is folding as soon as a woman tests you about it. Acting defensive, apologetic, self-rejecting yourself, or trying to convince her that age… | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Why she feels instantly that you are not the prize? Because you are chasing her as you have nothing to offerThat's good. | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 05:33 PM |
| 4 | Does it makes sens ro go alone in club and approaching thereWhy wouldn't it make sense to do what you want if that's what you feel like doing? Men who are confident and comfortable in their own skin, don't do things because society will approve, they do things because they don't give a fuck what anybody else thinks. If someone tests them, they don't crumble or overcompensate or justify themsleves or show shame or self-doubt about being alone, they fucking own it without apologosing because no one but themselves can dictate their own worth. If you however… | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Are guys giving up on dating?No. I said people having girlfriends, going on dates, shows people don't give up on dating. They are not out of the dating pool when dating means exactly that, going on dates, dating women, etc. The majority of guys try to get laid and date women they like. The online dating industry is worth US$8.29bn in 2025 and it's expected to reach 13.13bn by 2030. The number of Tinde users has increased from 0.7 million in 2015 to 9.6 million now. Hinge revenue has increased from 2 million in 2017 to 550 m… | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Are guys giving up on dating?Your life experience isn't universal. The idea that men aren't trying to get laid all the time and trying to meet women is simply ridiculously false. There is a niche of guys who feel hopeless but which don't represent the full landscape. It's not that easy to simply say "yeah, im gonna be asexual by choice and never meet a woman ever again". That goes against their own natural insticts and evolutionary wiring. But i suppose you need to tell yourself the story that everyone is giving up to feel … | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Are guys giving up on dating?Sorry, but you are missing the point. | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Are guys giving up on dating?Oh well, i guess the world is bigger than your city because i see the complete opposite. | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | How to game women in night clubBy telling women in the club how the emotionally erotic effect they have on you. It's not about asking for sex or anything from them. It's about expressing your sexua desire by simply expressing as an emotional truth with emotionally driven language. Expressing how they make you feel, expressing what you want to do to them in a way that sparks her imagination, without needing to justify it, without being apologetic, without looking for her to validate it, but simply because it's your truth and y… | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Are guys giving up on dating?You are asking men in this sub, so of course almost every answer is gonna be like "yeah im giving up". In the real world, you see straight couples everywhere. | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:35 PM |
| 26 | I did something a bit creepy, and I’m wondering if I can still turn things around.- What should I do now Just move on, learn from your mistakes and don't do it again. That's it. and no, you cannot turn it around and you shouldn't cling onto one woman you don't know at all. | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Being short and skinny with an attractive face.So your problem is that you can't accept the possibility that not every woman that you like has to like you back? Because, it's actually normal and ok, that not every woman has to find you desirable and that isn't something that should trigger a crisis in you. You also don't like every woman that exists in this world, so why do you feel bad that not every woman on earth will not be into you? You need to learn to be more humble. You are trying to make this into an issue when there is no issue. Ye… | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Invite for mentor/guruThis is a list of reddit posts i wrote that can help any guy who feels lost about how to date women, how to pick them up, how to approach them or how to get rid of social anxiety or fear of rejection. My step by step daygame cold approach method to get numbers, dates, and sexual encounters. How to talk with women to bond with them How to flirt with women to attract them and avoid being friendzoned without being a creep What every teenager should know about dating girls that they won't learn in s… | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Can you be the prize as a male?The prize is the person that has more value to offer than the other. Most men here have nothing to offer so they are never the prize, and so they chase instead of attract, which naturally causes women to run away form them even more cuz men chasing them repels them. Women have are the gatekeeepers of sex and have beauty so they tend to be the prize for most men here. But men who have and know their worth and don't give themselves away too easily because they only show conditional interest if the… | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 02:45 PM |
| 7 | Funny or fail?Look man, the real question here is: Are you trying to screening her to see if you connect naturally? Or, are you making the mistake of trying to get validation and get upset when you don't get it? you are not there to get hahas, you are not there perform like a clown hoping for applause. You ain't audioning dude. You are there to observe, to play and provoke in a way that reveals who she is, not just how she reacts to you. Cuz dude the moment you seek validation, you hand her the frame and you … | /r/seduction | 08/08/25 02:57 AM |
| 1 | How to proceed?She is a low interest girl based on the fact that she already denied your first attempt by saying she doesn't drink. It's likely that before you take her out you need to get her emotionally invested because so fat it seems like she barely knows anything about you and only gave you her number without being genuinely invested in you, just to see what else is there about you but still not sold on the idea of meeting up with you yet. In other words, you have to connect over texts first, and forget a… | /r/seduction | 07/08/25 01:03 AM |
| 13 | Older waitress flirted with me at a salsa club, gave me her number, but our 'date' felt like I was just a ride for her — what happened?Seems like she used you for a free dinner that she didn't even enjoy and a free therapy session to whine about her boyfriend. So a "2 for the price of 1" combo. You should have just ended things the moment she told you she had a boyfriend that she is not happy with, but you were probably thinking with your dick, and so you ended up being used. Next time, never let a woman lead the interaction towards platonic stuff or boyfriend stuff, you are the one who should have told her clearly and unapolog… | /r/seduction | 07/08/25 12:58 AM |
| -2 | How should I approach girls at university?Let’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous… | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 10:19 PM |
| 13 | Is it too late ? 31 never had a physical girlfriendYou are not dating as a means to connect and create something together, you are trying to date to see if a woman makes you feel like you are worth something or to see if you are good enough. Even your reason fro wanting marriage with one woman doesn't come from genuine love or choice, but from the toxic belief that you have to lock the first woman that likes you down, before she realizes you aren't worthy or meets some other dude. And the 24 year old girl you are talking to? Based on what you sa… | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 08:10 PM |
| 5 | Stop treating her like an overrated celebrity and raise your standards. No woman is a 10 even if she is the hottest girl on earth.There are more categories than looks and attitude. Also, the flaws you don't see initially, will come up when you are in a relationship. You could even ask her what she doesn't like about herself and she will bring herself all her insecurities. If you see no flaws in a woman, it means you are idealizing her, And girls hate that because they can never leave up to the ideal which makes them feel pressured. If you however see so many flaws in yourself and no virtues it means you are insecure as fuc… | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 05:40 PM |
| 6 | What's a good reaction/response when a girl calls you out (playfully or otherwise) for teasing her?"I said what i said" or stick out your tongue at her to tease her like a kid. | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Guitar: I have been playing and singing for years. What can I do within the 1st date to bring her home without making her uncomfortable?Tell her that you composed a new song with your guitar, and if she would like you to sing it to her at your place. If you did not compose any song, tell her you'd like to sing a song to her that you like with your guitar. If she asks just the song? you say yeah, just a quick one before we go, you'll love it. | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to consider dating a lifelong friend? [M27] [F28]Older women will be less patient or tolerant of inexperienced guys. | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to consider dating a lifelong friend? [M27] [F28]Date whatever age you want then (just warning you that women who are same age as you or older will be less patient with inexperienced guys). Just don't bother with good female friends cuz it's high risk of losing the friendship as it was, low chance of reward because desire is extremely unlikely to be there. | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to consider dating a lifelong friend? [M27] [F28]So typical. "Oh my friend is now available, my turn (apparently) to date her! Oh but i don't want consequences if she is not interested as i want the friendship to continue like nothing happened if she is not into me." "I wanna have my cake and eat it too" mentality from guys who don't undesrstand why their female friends are extremely unlikely to want to date them. Why? Because women don't feel sexual tension with guys they are close friends with, simple as that. It's like dating a brother, no … | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Cold Approach does it work?In a big city with over 1 million in population. | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Cold Approach does it work?That's like asking: "Does tinder work? Does social circle game work? Does going to nightclubs work? Does meeting people in the workplace, gym or college class work? Does being introduced to someone by someone else work? Does social media apps game work? Does speed-dating work? Does going to parties or festivals work? Does meeting someone by pure chance work? Does any possible form of meeting someone imaginable work?" I hope you understand the point i am making with this, which is that cold appro… | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 02:41 AM |
| 2 | How do you approach women when you have that fear of doing it?The thougth of talking to them makes you nervous because you are afraid of rejection and of them reacting badly to you. Deep down you think you are not gonna be welcome by them for different reasons, one might be your body. You probably think being out of shape means women might find you disgistuing if you approach them and so you would rather avoid getting confirmation of that, because getting confirmation would mean you can no longer stop neglecting your body anymore, it would mean having to p… | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Teasing a girl..Tonality matters a lot when you do those things. In texts it can be taken badly if she reads it with a wrong tone. In person it would be easier to make it known that you are not being serious, but in texts it can backfire. A better way to say it would be: "Look at you brains and beauty, you are setting the bar high" This way it sounds less judgmental, but still conveys a tone of "welcome" surprise. | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Gym openYou are way too obssesed with preselection, with competing with other guys, and DHVs... man it reads like you've just read some old fashioned pick-up manual and are behaving robotic as fuck like a computer. Your whole mindset you wrote here is also wrong on top of it... Because the gym is not a nightclub... There is no competition or a battle for the girls, there is just you being a normal chilled pleasant guy to talk to whose priority is fitness, not seducing women,... You are not there to domi… | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 01:01 PM |
| 2 | Photo with platonic female friend on dating profile, yes or no?Not a good idea cuz women will assume the worst. Put yourself in a woman's shoes: He sees a guy, she sees the girl next to him in the picture.... She starts to ask herself: Is she his ex? why would he put his ex? Didn't he get over her? If that's the case, that's a red flag. If he got over her, it's still weird and suspicious to show yourself with your ex, so also a red flag. Is she just a friend? How close is she to him? Does he like her? Red flag. Does she like him? Even bigger red flag. Do th… | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 12:13 PM |
| 21 | How do you deal with cockblocking friends at parties?If her friend cockblocks you is usually because either her friend feels ditched/ignored, or because the girl you are talking to gave her the subtle signal with just a look that most guys can't pick up on. Some guys think it's the friend being intrusive for no reason, but in reality if the girl really likes you she won't give the signal and thus the friend won't cockblock you unless of course the friend feels ditched. So "the no real reason" argument is flawed, because women will often put a faca… | /r/seduction | 04/08/25 11:42 PM |
| 3 | How to approach girls properly?From 100 approaches you could get between literally 0 dates or 40 dates depending on your socail skills level, your confidence, your looks, your ability to connect emotioanlly with those women, their receptiveness, and their availability. Some guys can approach thousands of women in any country or culture without a single date, and other guys can approach 20 women and get 10 dates. | /r/seduction | 04/08/25 11:03 PM |
| 1 | OLDThey have tons of guys asking them out every week in those apps, so why should they go with you instead of others? They have to filter, they can't really go out with all of them. So it makes sense that asking so quick will get you nowhere, unless your value is so self-evident in the pictures alone which clearly is not. | /r/seduction | 04/08/25 07:59 PM |
| 13 | How do I shoot my shot for a casual fling?You have to hit on one of the girls, and yes you have to choose and sacriface the others. So you only got one shot if they all know each other. In order to hit on one girl, you need to tell her that you find her cute, that you love something specific about her, and that you wanna go for a walk with her or take some drink at the bar to get to know each other better. If she is not interested, your chances are pretty much over because she will tell the rest of the girls and thus it's unlikey that t… | /r/seduction | 04/08/25 05:01 PM |
| 16 | How to know if the girl you're texting not into you or just playing hard to get or do not wanna be perceived as despo?When a girl is into you she makes things easy as she is quite submissive, when things are complicated and when she isn't submissive, it means they are not that into you and thus they might say they are busy, but keep talking to you just for attention or politeness without any intention of ever doing what you want. Women can only do mix signals if you are willing to play that game, the moment you stop entertaining wishy washy women who give you breadrumps, mixed signals cease to exist. Because ei… | /r/seduction | 04/08/25 04:49 PM |
| 0 | Why is night game so difficult?Nah, it's just mode one. | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 11:44 PM |
| 13 | No success on dating apps and little to no success in the wild.The thougth of talking to them makes you nervous because you are afraid of rejection and of them reacting badly to you. Deep down you think you are not gonna be welcome by them for different reasons, one might be your body. You probably think being out of shape means women might find you disgistuing if you approach them and so you would rather avoid getting confirmation of that, because getting confirmation would mean you can no longer stop neglecting your body anymore, it would mean having to p… | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Trying to figure out exactly what is different between the city I moved to versus my previous city that has caused the indicators of interest to absolutely plummetIt doesn't matter what the reason is. You just need to learn to seduce without indicators of interest since it seems to be an area that you've been neglected due to having it in easy mode all this time. So don't bother trying to understand why, and just get into the action of learning to adapt. | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Why is night game so difficult?Women in the nightclubs don't care much about what you have to say to them because they know what you want already and thus don't appreciate the fact that you are pretending that you don't want that and are talking about some nonsense or pretending to be interested in who they are, when they know that sex is all you want. You should be honest, and just tell them what you would like to do with them, you want sex? Tell them but not in a brief way, tell them exactly your sexual fantasy with a lot o… | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Getting a girl backShe is not ready for a relationship, so just because you love her a lot doesn't mean she becomes ready for a relationship. Seems like you struggle to understand that your feelings don't entitle you to have someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship. There is nothing you can tell her because it's not about convicing her or fighting to keep her. If she is not ready, she is not ready. And contrary to what someone else said, it's not even about changing. Because not being ready means that it's… | /r/seduction | 02/08/25 07:54 PM |
| 48 | How to get her to come home?Attraction thrives on sexual tension, not on comfort. You are making a mistake by being so "kind" and so "safe" because you end up coming on too weak and with platonic energy. Letting her talk most of the time isn't really that great of a move. It should be 50/50 because you actually have to say things that make her feel something, and add value,... not just act as a therapist who only listens and listens and barely makes some brief questions or comments that don't really make things playful, se… | /r/seduction | 02/08/25 12:12 AM |
| 3 | Is it really possible to be successful online as an average men? 26Same level of looks is questionable and subjective. You might think that you are not so different from other guys you know, but women can have a completely different opinion and think that those guys have much better looks or aura than you. The reality is you can tell pretty much immediately if you are one of the top guys based on how easy it is to get dates and matches. If you struggle, and feel like you have to put effort, you are not in the top percentage, because guys who are on the top don'… | /r/seduction | 01/08/25 09:18 PM |
| 12 | Is it really possible to be successful online as an average men? 26For average guys, meeting people face to face through social circle, hobbies, social events, coworkers, classmates, hostel social areas or even train trips, is far easier than online dating. Online dating is all about superficiality, dopamine hits and ego. Connecting there is hard because men outnumber women by a lot, and most women are super picky and selective there, looking more for red flags than for green flags at best, and at worst just there to get free validation to raise their self-este… | /r/seduction | 01/08/25 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Hookups and second date?- Then I pulled out my phone to grab her number and she goes, “You gotta promise you’re not gonna stalk or harass me.” I just shook my head like nah, I’m not like that. Missed opportunity to be playful and tease her with something like: "i'll try to resist the temptation" or "ok, one sec (act like you are gonna talk to your voice assistant and say) "hey siri remember to harass this girl and stalk her as much as possible". The goal here is to make the conversation playful and create some tension … | /r/seduction | 01/08/25 04:43 PM |
| 9 | Tips 4 Confidence?So how to approach a girl that didn’t signal any interest in a way which doesn’t make her feel uncomfortable or creeped out? This tip is perfect for begginers like you who want to minimize risk as much as possible, but still get into the habit of approaching. Let’s look at 3 very socially acceptable behaviours in social dynamics: 1 - Asking for consent. 2 - Complimenting non physical traits. 3 - Easing the tension by giving them a feeling of easy escape so they don’t feel trapped or pressured. 4… | /r/seduction | 31/07/25 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Why is escalating to sex on dates so difficult?Because the vast majority of women don't have the same need for one time sex than guys. Women and men are different. Most guys want to fuck with women and not care about her. They want a body and nothing more. Most women however want to connect with a man, feel understood and appreciated for who they are. There are a few exceptions to this of course, but the reason it feels difficult it's because those exceptions are a tiny minority, specially for women. Most women also complain that men just on… | /r/seduction | 31/07/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Pickup with depression. Is it possible?I'd say your advice is the one that's terrible because there are many people who did that and instead of getting better, their self-esteem got destroyed even more because they kept getting rejected over and over and over and over... And all those rejections, just increased their depression to the point of wanting to kill themselves. So just because you could handle it, doesn't mean others have the capacity to do it, and advicing them to do that, is extremely dangerous, but you don't care about t… | /r/seduction | 31/07/25 04:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you distinguish the difference between love bombing and putting in effort?You are creating a false dillema here. Love bombing doesn't mean that you are putting too much effort and that you need to put less. Love bombing means that you are rushing things emotionally by acting like you are completely in love with the other person in a way that doesn't feel authentic, earned, organic and grounded in reality. It happens when you barely know the other person, and you make that person believe this was such huge love a first sight, that you are completely sold on that person… | /r/seduction | 31/07/25 03:47 PM |
| 1 | A letter with the dating advice I would send to my 13 year-old selfDon't be an open book means being ambiguous, you can flirt and show sexual desire, but also not reveal if you truly feel something more than that or not for her. Where she cannot tell if you are just interested in something physical or something more emotional because that's something she has to deserve cuz you are the prize. So as you can see there is no contradiction. | /r/seduction | 31/07/25 02:24 PM |
| 44 | Pickup with depression. Is it possible?In reality, you are not depressed because u don't get women, you are depressed because u want to fill a void, and women just happen to be the way you have chosen to try to fill it, but unforuntately women can't fill that void. So it’s not “I need a woman.” It’s “I need what I believe a woman's presence will fix in me" And tha'ts the trap. The more you try to use women to soothe ur inner chaos, the more chaotic and off-putting u feel to them and even if a girl falls for u, the desperation and nee… | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 11:53 PM |
| 54 | Pickup with depression. Is it possible?If you are depressed you need to forget about women. Sort out your priorities mate. Find your purpose, your mission, work out, travel, write a diary, but pusrusing owmen is not a good idea, cuz the negative vibe you radiate will be off-putting as women will sense something is off about you. And women don't wanna be your emotional caretaker. Women also don't exists to take you out of depression, women cannot be the solution you seek to your deprresion. | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 11:00 PM |
| 3 | How to flirt?There is no guarantees that you will never fail. Even if you do everything correctly, ultimately it depends on her mood and cirumstances whether you succeed or not. So you need to start forgetting about the idea of "never being rejected" or "never failing", because that's simply not possible. | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 10:12 PM |
| 12 | A letter with the dating advice I would send to my 13 year-old selfI see what you mean, and i would agree, but black and white is what my 13 year old needed. Nuance just wouldn't have been something that registers in my 13 year old head when i was that age. And so this would have been far more helpful than over explaining every little thing imaginable, which is something that comes from experience. | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 06:07 PM |
| 5 | A letter with the dating advice I would send to my 13 year-old selfI mean to who i was when i was 13 and I needed to hear this as i was already getting interested in girls at that age. | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 05:19 PM |
| 1 | GUYs - I need helpYour actions are the problem because while you might think you are doing the exact same thing as other guys, you area actually not. There are nuances in behaviour, tonality, body language, mannerisms and specific wording that they use that you don't. Trying to copy someone else's personality is harder than it seems, it's not as easy as saying one phrase that another guy said, the way you say the phrase also matters. Being able to adatp to each particular girl vibe also matters even if you say th… | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | GUYs - I need helpIt's unwelcome because of the way you do it. Many guys don't have any clue at all how to approach a woman. On the one hand they approach with a lot of self-doubt and almost as if expecting a rejection before they even open their mouth which makes them come across with a weird vibe due to those nerves, insecurities that their body lanugage shows. On the other hand, they really don't have the proper social skills to start a conversation in a way that doesn't cause confusion, akwardness or uncertai… | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 03:27 PM |
| 6 | I have set a new goal for myselfThe main struggle for my clients is not neccesarily dping the approaches, it's learning how to handle the fact that 99% of all those approaches won't go anywhere, and they will be turned down a lot. Many people are not capable of handling that lack of success at all. 3 rejections in a row is enough for them t ogive up because they thin rejection means something inherently wrong not just with how they do things, but with their whole identity as a whole. | /r/seduction | 30/07/25 12:26 AM |
| 1 | is she just being friendly or flirty ?No you are afraid of rejection. Learn to accept rejection without acting like you are worthless for experiencing one. Rejection just means she didn't connect with you, not that you are not good enough. Rejection is not somethign to avoid, it's something that gives you clarity and an opportunity to learn and grow. If she is not interested, just say "had to try anyway, have a good day", simple as that. | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 09:08 PM |
| 1 | is she just being friendly or flirty ?No offence dude, but you are 35 years old and you still try to read women's minds instead of just taking action without any certianty like actual real mature men do? Mate, start acting your age, instead of acting like a 14 year old. Women respect men who approach because they want to not because they think the result is guaranteed to be good. | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 09:00 PM |
| 1 | GUYs - I need helpBy understanding that "being wierd" just means "being different and unique", while "being normal" is just a term often used to glamorize being ordinary, predictable and compliant as if that's supposed to be a badge of honor. And so if someone interprets being different as bad, and being normal as good, that's their problem and a story they are telling themselves to justify their conformity, their herd mentality and lack of personality. When you care about what other people think, you are basical… | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | GUYs - I need helpIt all comes down to you using empahty, asking for consent and being polite in your approaches. You do that and nothing tragic will happen. So it's not about what you tell yourself, it's about being respectful and then just doing it over and over. The more you do it wihout negative consequences, the more you get used to doing it with less and less self-doubt because your brain can see that nothing bad happened. No different than how you get used to driving a car in the highway even though the fi… | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 07:54 PM |
| 6 | GUYs - I need helpThe problem is that you still don't have the full conviction that approaching women is right. You still feel it's dirty, innapropiate, undesirable... This is a deep rooted belief you have internalized to the core of your being, so even if you rationally think it's not that bad, your emotions cling onto that belief that it's really the worst thing you can do, and that you will suffer negative consequences for doing it. This is why, you are stuck. Your anxiety about what could happen. The idea tha… | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 05:20 PM |
| 7 | Second Shift = No Dates. What Would You Do?Your purpose and mission are alwyas more important than getting women. Even women themselves don't respect guys who ditch their priorities for them. So you shouldn't really bother with women until your business is running smoothly without you having to be involved in it all the time. Only when the business can survibe without you micromanaging everything then you can change your schedule. Also, even if you want to approach you don't need to go for dates, you can just do instant dates instead. Da… | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Help approaching- Look at what you're saying and tell me it doesn't give off a weird loner vibe. "Weird" just means different, "normal" just means ordinary. That's a "you" problem if you think being different is bad or undesirable, and being ordinary something good. Loner is a person that prefers not to associate with others and who is not seeking out, actively avoiding interpersonal relationships. Approaching people and wanting to interact with them is literally the opposite of this. - Walking around with the … | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 02:04 PM |
| 1 | She got scared thinking I am 'stalking' her? Any way I clear her doubts or do damage control?You are self-sabotaging here. She doesn't think you are creepy, it's you who is convicinging yourself that you think she finds you creepy. Unless a woman literally brings it up you cannot preemtively bring it up yourself, simple as that. You cannot play defens before someone actually goes on the offensive. Stop assuming you can read her mind, stop assuming her actions have anything to do with you. And just keep acting as if you know you did nothign wrong, because the fact is unless a woman speci… | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | How to conduct myself in an age gap situationGo ahead and try arguing with your employers that it's ridiculous.. Denial won't work as a defense if you get reported by one of the girls there. | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 01:33 PM |
| 2 | How to conduct myself in an age gap situationLike i alreayd said in my first comment, it doesn't matter if you are not a teacher or professor. You work for the agency, and any woman complaining about you will have consequneces, even if you are just the guy who cleans toilets in the building. This is something you need to ask the agency if it's ok. If they tell you it's ok, do it. If you don't wanna bring this up with them, that's because you already know it's not right and are choosing to be in denial. | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 01:24 PM |
| 31 | What’s the difference between the guy who ends up becoming the best friend and the guy who fucks her?- The guy who ends up as just a best friend usually isn't clear about his intentions, he starts off as friends but he never indicates that he is into her... At most he says a compliment, but a compliment isn't enough to indicate you are interested in someone, because a compliment is just a way to celebrate someone's good qualities, not a way to express desire. He just sems to interact with the girl in platonic terms, being friendly, being helpful, being there for her as emotional support, doing … | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 01:21 PM |
| 1 | How to conduct myself in an age gap situationThe problem here is not the age gap, the real problem is that you are in a position of trust because you are working for the agency, and thus any sexual conduct or romantic pursuit with students not only will get you fired, but you could also face legal consequences depending on the laws of your country if someone sues you. You can only engage in a romantic pursuit with them if you are no longer working for the agency, and are no longer in a position of trust. In other words, when you quit your … | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Getting rejections recently from cold approachesYou said it yourself, you used to be in better shape before, you used to be less outcome dependent, you used to be more confident, you used to be younger, and now you are in an approval-seeking mode, and doubting yourself. And the more you keep getting bad results the more serious you take yourself which in turn makes you even more insecure. You forgot one thing which is women chosing you cannot be the reason why you feel confident about who you are. You are also still going for superficiality d… | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 10:24 PM |
| 7 | What does it mean when a woman says 'I feel so many things for you and you don't appreciate them'?It means she is attracted to you precisely because of this attitude you have towards her. Women are simply attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, so while she might seek clarity, the fact is you shouldn't actually change much of what you are doing. I mean eventually you have to kiss her, specially after rejecting a kiss twice, but you still should not be easy to read for her. | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Need adviceBecause you are trying to define what it is that you two have indirectly and she felt it, so she tells you that. But i have had women telling me that and hten they changed their mind when i still act like i want to fuck. What a woman says is never a permanent rule, it's more like a defensive mechanism whenever a guy tries to ask what she wants. If you don't ask what she wants and just seduce her and act like a guy who wants to fuck, then depending on how she feels in the moment, she will let it … | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Need adviceWhat she doesn't want is spoilers and expectations of what should happen in the next dates/hangouts, and if you ask then she will draw a line in that effectively telling you no kissing/no sex, but that's only if you ask... Why? Because if you ask then you are forcing her to make a choice now, and since she can't promise she will be in the mood when you two meet, she doesn't want to feel like the villian because she promised "sex or kissing was ok next date", and then changed her mind last minute… | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Can’t get hookups but can’t get a girlfriend despite trying.That if you can get women that you don't want, but you can't get women that you want. That is not a coincidence. And it has everything to do with what everyone here in this thread is telling you; that your behaviour and mindset changes (for the worst) when it's women that you want | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 11:37 PM |
| 0 | Can’t get hookups but can’t get a girlfriend despite trying.So you mean that you can actually get women that you don't want into a long term relationship then? interesting huh? | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Can’t get hookups but can’t get a girlfriend despite trying.You could not offend me even if you tried. The point is that women can smell off desperation, and the first signal is "Man wants really bad a relationship not just necessarily with me but with any woman he meets that makes it easy enough to get it". The second one is "he wants to rush real quick to lock me down into ca commitment". | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Can’t get hookups but can’t get a girlfriend despite trying.The more you make woman feel like you want a relationship, the less likely you are to get one, specially if it feels like it's your idea and that you want it way more than any girl you hookup with. Women don't respond well to guys who seem desperate to get into a relationship. It's a bad sign that a man wants a girlfriend in general, let alone before a certain deadline. Why do you want a girlfriend? If you want a girlfriend to fill a void, to not be alone, to feel good about yourself, that's not… | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Stop OverthinkingA woman's type is nothing but wishful thinking. It's like saying a man's type is a porn star. Every woman on earth has dated someone that deviates from their "type" at some point. The point is that you don't even know if you are her type or not until you actually talk to her with or without signals. Just because a man happens to be her exact type doesn't mean the woman will always give him any signal. It's not your job to assume that you are not her type before she even tells you clearly with ac… | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 10:38 PM |
| 16 | How do I stop hyper-fixating on female approval?When you look for female approval is because deep down you still feel like you are not good enough, that you have internalized the belief from a young age that love is conditional, that respect has to be earned, that your quirks or unique charactersitics are undesirable or problematic, and thus you need woman to convince you that they are fine in order to feel at peace with yourself. The problem is women can't never give you that peace, so using women to find that peace within yourself is a futi… | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 04:48 PM |
| 9 | Stop OverthinkingYou don't even need a woman to glance at you to approach her. If a guy doesn't approach a woman they are interested in, it's him who is self-rejecting himself because he has decided unilaterally that he isn't good enough, which speaks more about how he feels about himself than how the woman feels about him. Either that or that he isn't good enough to habdle the uncertainty of the situation which shows he is anxious. So it's a battle with his own mind, more than anything. | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 04:42 PM |
| 4 | I think im afraid of women and I feel that Im going to die alone if I dont change nothing.- I'm going to die alone Is that even a bad thing? I think some people need to learn that "being alone without romantic partner" is not a tragedy or some type of ultimate horror story. U might live a life where u r not in a traditional romantic partnership, but that doesn't mean it's a bad life by default. uou can be married for 50 years, surrounded by people and still feel alone, unseen, misunderstood or emotionally disconnected. And u can be single ur entire life and still feel connected, deep… | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Why she pulls away when you ask "where is this going?" and demand spoilers from her- Woman can’t know they “have you” yet If u’re sold on a woman too soon, it usually says more about ur fear than about her value. It means u’re operating from scarcity, scared she’ll lose interest, scared that another guy will swoop in or scared you won’t find another girl like her who is just as interested. So u rush to lock her down, not because she’s earned that level of commitment, but because u’re trying to silence your own self-doubt. to give yourself the illusion that it's all under contr… | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 08:35 PM |
| 112 | Age gaps in seductionWhat matters is that you are actually convinced that your age is fine, because women will test you on it. If a woman brings out age and you start justifying yourself, being apologetic, or trying to convince her that age is just a number or that there are more important things, then that's when you fail. You need to double down and lean into it without being apologetic, or defensive, or argumentative or approval seeking, | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 12:07 PM |
| 3 | I get unmatched due to no text game?- Now the problem is ik I'm 6-7/10 tbh( my usp is height). Rating systems are subjective as fuck. When you say you are a 6 or 7 out of 10, that's not how women see you, that's how you see yourself, which is subjective and each woman can have a different opinion. Some woman can think you are higher than that, other women can think you are actually lower than that, and some can think that yeah, that's an accurate number. Because every woman has different preferences or things they value more than … | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Help on dating an avoidant woman?- I’m thinking about next time I see her at an event to just ask her out for dinner since we both like vegan food and say something like “I can’t believe we have never gone out to try some vegan food, there’s this really good restaurant I have been meaning to try”. When you say it like this, all she will think is that you just want a friednship and that you just want to hang out with her. So she won't actually treat it as a date, unless you specify that you are into her and want to take her on a… | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 11:28 AM |
| 14 | Gym Approach During the Day, Not What I ExpectedNot if you are also talking with guys as well. The trick is to be seen as a social guy who just talks to anyone casually and politely to lower all their guards. So i disagree with your disagreement because i know perfectly well what works for me. I got two girlfriends in different times doing it this way and plenty of dates and hangouts. | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 10:27 AM |
| 40 | Gym Approach During the Day, Not What I ExpectedThat's unlikely in my experience. You also need to be aware that the likelyhood of women complaining to the staff is higher than the girl never going back to the gym forever after you approached her. The long game in the gym works better than going there to hunt girls in a rushed way. The long game doesn't have to be months it could be a week or even days if you go everyday, the point is it should not be done on the first approach or second. She should lower her guard first whcih she will after … | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 12:49 AM |
| 140 | Gym Approach During the Day, Not What I ExpectedIn the gym, it's better to be indirect rather than direct. That means don't try to hit on her directly, instead just become a "gym buddy" by asking for her hlp to spot you or to give you advice, then thank her and end it right there without any more conversation, another day you see her say hi from a distance and share an anecdote about how you really feeling the muscle pain after following her advice, then end it, and so on. Just brief conversations without any outcome that gradually become lon… | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 11:31 PM |
| 4 | Women will disrespect you when you win the frame controlYou need to give an example of the coversation with actual lines of dialogues to find out why that's happening. Cuz all you said is you mantaned your frame and they start disrespecting. What test did they do? what specific answer did you give to mantain your frame? what specific insults do they say then. Add the examples | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Self-Improvement is Making me Worse with Women- Doesn’t treating dating women as a game though sort of devalue them, in a bad way? No, because games aren't about devaluing people, but about engagement and challenge. Great games require respect, effort, and growth, but also enjoying the proccess of playing, tyring different things, and not being a sore loser when you lose or taking it personal. You improve your abilities, your skills the more you play and the same is true for dating. I Calling it a game isn’t cynical, it's what keeps u playf… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Self-Improvement is Making me Worse with WomenSelf-improvement is mostly getting therapy or learning inner game to fix your insecurities, neediness, anxieties, traumas, emotional baggages, feeligns of self-doubt, emotional voids and toxic patterns of behaviour... and also learning social skills, to flirt with women and to connect with them. Sure, working out is also part of self-inprovement but nowhere near important as those thigns i just mentioned. And yes, not giving a fuck about about being judged, or being rejected, or what people thin… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 06:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach women- How to start a conversation? You: “Hey, I know ur n the middle of something and I respect that so I’ll be quick. I don't usually do this, but the thing is i saw you and i immediately thought “oh man, she is just my type, and i thought i would regret it if i didn’t at least try to get to know her real quick" or You: “Hey, I know ur n the middle of something and I respect that so I’ll be quick. The thing is i saw your friend here and i thought “oh man, she is just my type, and i thought i would … | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | How to proceed from hereWomen don't care abour your frustration. Women only do things if they feel like it, not because you guilt trip them into it, or because you complain that you want more. The fact that you are more invested than she is with 3 dates is your problem. It's you trying to go at a faster pace than she feels like going. That suggests you are not on the same page and she is not going to catch up to your rhythm just because you are frustrated she doesn't go faster, specially when it's only being 3 dates. W… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 03:32 PM |
| 5 | How should I act when she starts to get cold in text replies?You don't seek answers about where you stand to connect more, you seek clear answers to protect yourself from a potential future dissapointment and that is not a legitimate need. You are trying to avoid being vulnerable unless there is guarantees and that disconnects you from your authenticity and hers. So your need for clear answers is not legitimate because it's rooted in not wanting to be dissapointed, on wanting guarantees to avoid having to expose yourself or wasting time, unless the result… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 03:31 AM |
| 1 | What if a dating assistant could help filter out bad openers – and help you refine your own game?Dude, even AI itself sucks when it comes to dating advice, for the simple fact that it works based on logic, predictable behaviour and outcomes, consistency, rational analysis, clarity, objectivity,... And dating is all about inconsistency, ambiguity, uncertainty, mystery, unpredictibility, emotional chaos, subjective preferences that are never universal and which vary from culture to culture and person to person, mixed signals that can have a million interpretations in each girl, mind-games, ma… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 03:09 AM |
| 7 | hate towards women: how to get rid of it?U don't hate women, u hate what women awaken in you. Ur negative feelings towards them are a projection of inner conflict, resentment towards ur own insecurities, unmet desires and unhealed wounds that women inadvertently expose. You hate the fact that u don't feel like a real man unless you get sex, that you don't feel good enough unless they give you sex. You don't like women, but feel they are the gatekeeprs of sex which is a physical activity that u feel you have a right to but can't have ac… | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 09:46 AM |
| 34 | Woman sleeps over and I never hear from her againHave you considered that sometimes women just don't want to see you again after a random hookup regardless of what you do? Like you seem to think that women are PCs where doing the correct input will give you an specific output from them everytime. Sometimes women just know what they want, and that is to just fuck and never see the guy the fuck ever again, and that is something they can choose regardless of any possible action you as the guy, could have taken to try to control things. You can li… | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Help with my text game- So I started off with saying hi, she responded hi. I asked how she was doing and how is she handling the heat to which she responded "fine". Do you really give a fuck about how she handles the heat? I doubt it. You are just doing small talk and nobody genuinely gives a fuck about such surface leve staff. You know you want something else, not talk about the whether. that topic is simply boring and that's why she won't entertain it with more than breadcrumps because she also feels like you don't… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Girl Stopped RespondingMost likely she got bored of the conversation cuz it seems pretty dull, so at some point she thinks, "do i really care about what he is tellign me? Not really" and that's when she just ghosts, she doens't say please stop talking to me because that's rude, but she also starts acting like this, less consistent, ghosting, if you insist she replies to be polite but ghosts again, and so on. That attitude is a huge indicator that she is not interested, but prefers to just hint it, instead of being cle… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 02:47 PM |
| 9 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?When a woman drops the word "busy" that's the key signal that she is not interested. It's alwas the ones who say that specific word "busy" that 99% of the time end up going nowhere. And the more busy they say they are by making it sound like they have a huge amount of duties in order to "prove" that they genuinely are busy, the more clear the signal is that she is indirectly telling you to give up and move on because she is not interested. And if it follows large texting gaps, between each of he… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendTell me you lack reading comprehension without telling me. Roleplay is a consensual game where two participants agree to act an specific scenario that they both erotisize. You'd know the difference between that and real thing if you were older than a 15 year old keyboard warrior. Same goes for taking calculated risk like having sex in places where you could potentially be caight, not my problem that your sex life is boring as fuck and never tried anything beyond missionary if you even tried that… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 12:39 AM |
| 1 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendYou say "Do not listen to him (me)" and then you tell him that he has to throw his girlfriend, accuse her of being manipulative without even knowing her, instead of communicating and solving things because you are so experienced that you still haven't figure out a way to fix this type of thing succesffully? What kinda shit advice is that. What a clown. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 12:31 AM |
| 0 | Lost All Confidence After a Date. All Hope is GoneBecause the vibe she felt with you, was too platonic and friendly. You basically acted like a buddy instead of like a lover. You never made her feel any sexaul tension, it was all too safe, too polite, too comfortable... Avoiding sexual insinuations of you towards her completely. Treating her like you could probably treat your sister or a female cousin. Just no risks, always focused on safe topics, isntead of showing your horniness and the fact that you desire her for more than her personality, … | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 09:55 PM |
| 13 | Did an approach at the bar and it was going well. I don’t know what went wrongJust because you think it goes well doesn't mean the other girl sees it the same way. For the most part a lot of women will be polite, friendly and talkative, even if they are not enjoying the conversation. That's because they wanna be nice, and avoid tension or confrontation, and they might not know how to turn you down quicker. So they signal subtly to their female friends with a subtle gaze whether they need rescuing or not. It's very subtle and most guys can't pick up on it, but her friends … | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Lost All Confidence After a Date. All Hope is Gone- She enjoyed herself but didn't really feel a romantic connection" (which basically means you're repulsive and have no hope That interpretation is a story you are telling yourself. She did not say that and she didn't mean that at all. That's just you being dramatic due to how poorly you see yourself. So that's on you. It's not a woman's problem that you tell yourself those type of stories that have absolutely nothing to do with the way she sees things. | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 07:20 PM |
| 1 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesyes too platonic and too safe in dates.... No sexual tension at all, no risks taken, no sexual insinuations and not making moves at all throughout the date just acting like a friend treating them like buddies, instead of women you'd like to make out with. Thats the issue. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 10:48 PM |
| 2 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesattempt at shitty flirting That's the problem. You are not creating sexual tension, because you still haven't figure out the difference between acting like a potential lover and acting like just a friend. You treat girls in such a way that it's too platonic, too safe, too comfortable. You don't create any sexual tension, you don't actaully act like you want to fuck them, you don't act in a sexual way. Maybe you refuse to take that risk because you fear being creepy or perverted or whatever, but … | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | How do I avoid coming off as a creep/weirdo? What should I be saying when I approach?And who says you have to obey the arbitrary social norms of "modern society", i certainly don't. If it's not illegal, then you can do whatever the fuck you want. It's up to you to just own what you do without apologizing for it, without having to owe anyone explanations. Doing it because you fucking create your own rules, you don't play by someone else's arbitarary rules. Whoever aligns with you and yoru worldview great, whoever doesn't also great, let them go. But if you are trying to play by t… | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I avoid coming off as a creep/weirdo? What should I be saying when I approach?What makes you creepy isn't your appearance, it's your lack of conviction that approaching a woman is right. When you doubt yoruself if approaching her is good, when you act guilty for approaching, for having desires,... that mindset is what causes you to act cautios, wary, apologetic, fearful, nervous... And women feel those nerves you have, they feel you aren't sure if you should approach or not, they just feel it even if they can't fully word that soemthing is not right with your vibe when yo… | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 10:06 PM |
| 1 | How to destory self-limiting beliefsThis is simply false and written by a guy who just wants to vicitimize himself to cope, instead of taking responsibility for himself. Because it's easier to blame something outside your control than admitting the impact of your own wrong choices and wrong actions in the results that you currently get. "Hey nothing is my fault, it must be something wrong with the universe". That's a typical woman's mentality that avoid responisbility at all costs. You are a man, and it's embarrasing for a man to … | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Girl pulling back or fumbled?No. It's the man who leads and the girl follows. Not the other way around. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 12:16 PM |
| 10 | Sent me a paragraph wishing me a happy birthday 3 weeks after she rejected me. What did she want?"If people are nice to me, they must want something in return or have a hidden agenda". "No way someone can be nice without wanting to get something from it, because i wouldn't give something valuable to someone out of generosity". This transactional mindset doesn't reflect who she is, it just reflects who you are as a person. | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 11:15 AM |
| 1 | As a minority male what type of women should I be aiming for?If you didn't care what she thinks of you then you would approach and hit on girls of any race even if you feel the likelyhood of success is little because you would have nothing to lose anyways. You are asking which girls to avoid to save yourself from rejection therefore that proves you care. You can only get help if you start being honest with yourself first. This is not me trying to get under your skin this is just me setting you straight. | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 02:21 AM |
| 1 | As a minority male what type of women should I be aiming for?And yet, your main problem beyond your looks is your attitude with women when you interact with them. Im not saying that your race or looks don't matter, they do, but your attitude matters just as much if not more. You do hate yourself and it's obvious that you hate being indian, because if you didn't hate yourself, you wouldnt dread women opinions on you like you do. You wouldn't be scared of rejection. Men who love themselves don't get affected by rejection, only those who don't actually like … | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 02:13 AM |
| 2 | What is the next step?Stop complimenting women, it just feeds their ego at best and many don't even want someone to comment on their looks. Instead start expressing how they made you feel when you looked at them. Instead of saying “You’re so beautiful”. Say things like: “You walked in and I forgot what I was saying". Instead of saying: "You are stunning". Say things like: "That smile just hit me like a wave. I wasn’t ready for that" or "u are so much toruble i can already feel it in my chest" or "u walked in and my m… | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 02:03 AM |
| 1 | As a minority male what type of women should I be aiming for?The problem with interanlising these beliefs is that you make them become your truth. If you start to believe that you can only get a certain race of girl, you will then refuse to go for any other girl that isn't from the only race you think you can get, and that's when the belief becomes reality. Not because it was true, but because your actions that arise from that belief, now lead to a self-fulfilling prohecy. Im sorry but questions like these are only asked by people who really have very low… | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 01:56 AM |
| 80 | What makes someone go from attractive to just a friend before anything even starts?Because you still haven't figure out the difference between acting like a potential lover and acting like just a friend. You treat girls in such a way that it's too platonic, too safe, too comfortable. You don't create any sexual tension, you don't actaully act like you want to fuck them, you don't act in a sexual way. Maybe you refuse to take that risk because you fear being creepy or perverted or whatever, but that's exactly the problem. When you don't treat women like you want to fuck them, y… | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Help with textPretty good. Get dates, get lays here and there, i have more fun when interacting with girls. Hence why i give my advice. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Help with textNo, there is no more pressure just because it's texting. The pressure is self-imposed when you are trying to force an outcome and being worried about protecting what you've achieved. If you don't care whether you get another result or not, then there is no pressure. You just say what you feel like with the sole purpose of amusing yourself, and detach yourself from the results of those actions. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Help with textI don't get why if you could say things in person without help, now in texts you need help to say things? You already could say anything, and the only reason you are probably asking is because you want to say the right thing to get an specific result, instead of being yourself and just not caring about the result that being yourself brings you. Yesteryday, in person you said things that could have had any result, you didn't care apparently about the result, you just said whatever came to mind. N… | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 01:43 PM |
| 5 | 30's aged guys how do you source leads offline? (online dont work where i live coz issa small island)Stop using marketing or sales terms to refer to seduction and dating women. It just creates a really wrong mindset about what seduction is. You are not even there to sell something to a woman contrary to popular belief. If anything, it's more like you are there to see if you buy what she offers... But even that distracts from the main purpose of seduction which is to connect and create something together. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 01:07 PM |
| 9 | Where do you go to approach women?Seems like you need to learn how to break the ice then. It's not the place, it's the person. So if women seem unreachable, then that's your sign you need to learn more social skills, more ways to break the ice, more ways to make the conversation flow, and sound efforless, more ways to lighten the mood and get them to laugh. The best way to break through "barriers" or "coldness" from women is through humor. If you can make them laugh with you right away then they will open up to you. You can do t… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 07:28 PM |
| 14 | Where do you go to approach women?Nah mate, that's a myth. The people who complain about the gym being a bad place, just refuse to see and aknolwedge that the problem is not the gym, it's them. Because they dont know what they are doing and thus miscalibrate the whole thing. I had two girlfriends that i met in different gyms, and i keep meeting people there and get dates. So it's a good place to meet people if you know what you are doing. | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendTalk about your kinks and fantasies., tell her that you want to explore without judgments things you've both done or will like to do. The more kinky the better. You have to be able to talk to your girl about that stuff, with a none judgmental curiousity. Can you handle her being open about the crazy slutty things she's done with other men without feeling inferior, or showing ovious discomfort because you are comparing yourself to them? Can you actually praise her for doing those thigns and putti… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 06:29 PM |
| 9 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendwhat are you talking about dude. I wrote this. Just because you are lazy and cant fanthom the idea of someone writing long texts, doesn't mean it was copied, not that if it was, would make it any less valid. | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 06:18 PM |
| 7 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendu/Inevitable_Trick4433 It's not so much that she wears what she likes, it's you leading and telling her "i want you to dress like a school girl, or like a dominatrix, i want you to dress like a slutty police officer". Note that it's not about demanding it or `pressuring her to dress like that, but more like expressing your kinks or sexual fantasies so she knows you have them, cuz i doubt she does and kinda be a bit more assertive and dominant when it comes to sex instead of asking her what she w… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 41 | Where do you go to approach women?Usually in big metropolitan cities. Large malls, public squares, large public parks, beaches, busy train stations, college campuses, concerts, festivals, tourist attractions, amusement parks, museums, art galleries, hostels, airbnbs, gyms, yoga classes,... etc All it takes is for you to cold approach them to strike conversations. | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 05:51 PM |
| 12 | 22m feeling emotionally connected but not sexually desired by 22F girlfriendShe doesn't feel safe being the sexual beast that she used to be with you, because the problem with relationships is that women often feel like they will be judged if they act too "slutty" for lack of a better term to describe how crazy and wild she can be when it comes to sex. If she is built a particular image with you that she is sweet, innocent, respectable, composed, respectable lady she won't feel comfortable breaking out of that image with you because it would make you see her different w… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | How to approach myself to women? Leaving a tough periodLet’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 04:27 PM |
| 12 | Do women really like men who are players, or have opinions?If they are players it's because they get women, if they don't get women they can't be called players. Women might not like the fact that players can lie or lead them on, but that's different. It's not the same to say that women don't like when a guy they are attracted to leads them on, than women not liking guys who happen to be players. They can like the guy and then realize he was a player who lied to them and that's what they mean when they say "i don't like players" as in they are attracted… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 02:53 AM |
| 5 | A little vent about women's behaviorYou are not apologizing, you are just showing that you are not completely deaf to the situation. Cuz nothing worst than a person who invades a group uninvited and everyone is thinking "when the fuck is this guy leaving us?" So you can own your desire, without demanding. The moment you act entitled to their time, their defences will tend to be high. "Who is she" you ask? Who are you to act entitled to her attention or like she owes you something? | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 10:48 PM |
| 25 | A little vent about women's behavior- How to loosen things up with strangers without lowering your ego I don't think that's the right term here. Your ego is not your friend or ally, specially in dynamics with women you are trying to seduce. I think what you mean is "How to make the conversation less tense, more spontaneous, relaxed and fun with random women without acting insecure, submissive or approval-seeking", which is not the same thing as ego. For that you need to understand that what you seek is connection. Which is a state… | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 08:32 PM |
| 3 | She’s been dressing masculine when she’s out with me..is this a power move or something thats supposed to feminize me?Nah you just need to mature. She dressed like that because that's how she likes to dress. So it's not a power move or a test, or something to emasculate you or anything that has to do with you. This is her being herself, if you don't like it, get another girl. But don't make this about you being alpha or some shit like that, because you'll just look cringe and petty instead of alpha. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Me (M25) worried about my new girlfriend’s (F25) posts?The more u show a woman you are worried about being cheated, the more likely she is to cheat as a result sooner or later. Women often interpret ur discomfort about another guy, not as a boundary, but as an insecurity. So even if she stops doing that in photos to soothe you, she can't help but interpret your need for being soothed as an insecurity that makes you weak in her eyes. Seeing your history in your account, i feel like you naturally tend to be an insecure person, which means that she is … | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 06:00 PM |
| 2 | How to say “sorry for making it awkward”?You don't. It's not cute or charmign to say that in any form, and it just makes you look more awkward making the whole thing cringe as fuck. It would make you sound insecure because you are assuming that the gazes you've been having are uncomfortable for him wihout knowing if that's how he sees it. It's like you are hoping he tells you "not at all, you'd never make me uncomfortable" or some bs from a wattpad fan fic story like that. And this is real life, not fantasy. So just don't. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 01:31 AM |
| 22 | Gaming College Age GirlsYou need to dumb down the conversation: Be more playful, tease them more, mimick them for fun, misinterpret on purpose what she says, mess with her by trolling them, suggest absurd role plays like robbing a bank, or getting married right there on the spot for fun, accuse them of dumb things, exaggerate your reactions by being overly expressive, provoke them more, express desire more, avoid complimenting them, and be more fun , subjective, emotional, and less rational and objecitve and logical. Y… | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 10:51 PM |
| 2 | how likely are my chances here?I always cringe when i hear a man say the words "do i have a chance", because that question alone tells me how poorly he sees himself, clearly showing he doesn't have any self-esteem, any self-worth and pretty much goes around hoping a woman will make him believe he is worthy or good enough to deserve love. By itself, it gives it away that he doesn't get girls, and that he'd consider himself lucky if a woma ngave attention to him. So how the heck can a woman really like him when he doesn't even … | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 08:33 PM |
| 3 | I managed to approach a girl at the mall.- "Look I don’t wanna make u uncomfortable, it’s totally fine if u can’t", "Sorry if I made u uncomfortable". Stop apologising for approaching her. It just makes you look insecure, as if you are not convinced that what you are doing is legitimate and that only sends bad vibes to women. It's like you are premtively beggin for mercy in case she didn't like your approach. And it makes you look weak, insecure and unmasculine to women. Women need to feel that you are absolutely convinced that what yo… | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 1 | First date convosWe are logical when we have to solve problems, get shit done and overcome obstacles. Bonding however isnt about that, it's about learnign to understand someone and being understood. And the way we understand people and become understood isn't through logic. It's through emotion, presence, shared experiences and shared vulnerability. It's the courage to say things that don’t always make perfect sense, but that feel true. When someone says, “I had the worst day cuz i just got rejected by being lau… | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 12:44 PM |
| 2 | For 40s MenNah, i slept with girls who said that. Most girls are neutral initially, because attraction is a feeling that can be triggered or not depending on the things you say or do. | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 12:05 AM |
| 4 | How do you check if the friend that said "No" to a date is having a change of heart ?When i say women don't have intentions, i mean that the outcome is not predetermined before the whole thing even begins. You can be perfect according to her rational checklist and she still might not feel anything for you and not be interested. In other words, even if she asks how much money you have or what your carreer is, it doesn't mean that if you answer "correctly" she is promising her affection and interest towards you after that. She could still want you to be just a friend if she is not… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 11:31 PM |
| 75 | How do you check if the friend that said "No" to a date is having a change of heart ?Here is what you don't understand. Women don't have intentions. They just feel like doing things without seeking any particular outcome. It's more like "let's see how i feel when i am with him, am i having a good time, am i enjoying myself with him? Do i feel something? do i not?" They don't know what the end result is, they don't wanna know neither. They don't want spoilers. So when she tells you to meet, it doesn't carry a secret ulterior motive. So it's not like you can say it's a change of h… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 09:53 PM |
| 3 | After the approachIt's the opposite. Women are far more defensive and guarded in the nightclub because almost every guy there is acting like a predator, waiting for an innocent pray to hit on. Women will quickly act more arrogant, dismissive in an evnironemnt like the club where here ego is through the roof due to all the male attention competing for her. In the day people don't expect to be approached, which makes them more relaxed and natural. If someone approaches them, two thigns will usually happen either th… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 06:06 PM |
| 44 | What's your experience with local Spanish ladies?You did not described spanish women, you described women. Met women like this from any other nationality. | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on a situationWhat she means is: "If this guy comes all the way from his city to here, will he have expectations of sex? What if i don't feel like it? What if i turn out not to be into him when we are together? Will he get angry because he invested so much coming from such a far distance for "nothing"? Will he get mad if we don't have sex?" The pressure is basically that, the believe that you have expectations that she might not feel like fulfilling. So i'd suggest you reassure her, you don't expect anything,… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 10:49 AM |
| 3 | Sweet guy vs confident guy: results20 girls that were not the ones for you. You seem to think that a good valuable authentic connection is something easy to get, something that you find every day. There is a reason we marry "the one". There are probably only like 5 women who can qualify as "the one" in your entire life. So your unrealistic expectations are the problem here. Some people are lucky to find the one early on, but that's like winning the lottery, it isn't the norm. Most people date people that are not "the one"... Wome… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 12:22 AM |
| 9 | Sweet guy vs confident guy: resultsYou see it as failure because you don't accept that if a girl is not interested in you making a move is not advisable because it's forced. You need to stop believing that every girl is someone you can pull. Not every girl that you like has to like you back. Not every girl you speak with can be seduced. Girls have their own agency, they are not just passive objects that respond to the "right commands". Failure is a word you can use when you are talking about computers, whre things are predictable… | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 11:59 PM |
| 23 | Sweet guy vs confident guy: results- She casually mentioned she was currently seeing a "booty call." Immediately after, she said "booty calls aren't really my thing, I just want to meet people." Massive contradiction right there. She says that because she fears you will think she is a slut, so it's just making it look lie it's an exception and not something she usually does. - The conversation veered into politics Bad move. if there is something that can create disconnect is getting into this topic, speically on a first or second… | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Second date ideas and how to escalate?Refusing by principle to kiss on first date, leads to you being less spontaneous and less authentic. It's not about kissing on the first date, or on second date or third date. It's about kissing when the time calls for it, and if the moment calls for it and you don't do it, that can easily be counterproductive as it can lead to the girl starting to see you as a friend if she was ready on the first date. You need to feel the mood, the vibe, and go for it, but not in a sexual way, more like a way … | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 09:54 PM |
| 17 | For 40s MenAnd that's ok, not every girl you are interested in has to be interested in you. That's normal. Just like you are not interested in every girl. Just need to accept with hummility when that happens. | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 04:30 PM |
| 24 | For 40s MenYou are only creepy when you approach women without having the conviction thatwhat you are doing is right. If you have inner doubts, and you approach a woman, those inner doubts will cause you to be wary, as if execting a rejection or a bad reaction from a woman at any moment, and women will pick up on that insecurity quite easily because they'll notice your body lanuage, your nervousness, and will notice that you are not fully relaxed. They might be even test you by saying: "aren't you a bit to… | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Who has the most "Game"?Watch videos like this from craig ferguson on youtube and you'll understand what having game is. He is probably the one with the "most" game that i've seen. It's basically the ability to be smooth, witty, quick, spontaneous, effortless when you interact with women in a way that's flirty, playful, sexually suggestive without coming on too strong, and doing it all without looking like you rehearsed. It can be done by using double entendre/double meaning, using pick up lines, teasing, misinterpreti… | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 12:29 PM |
| 1 | i stuck at textingWomen text without any goal in mind, while you are trying to get a goal. That's why the imbalance works against you. They want nothing in particular although they are not closed to anything neither, and you want a date or else you wouldnt even be talking to them. Women want to talk to see if they feel something strong and intense, the comfort of texting allows them to do that without having to invest in u or risk anything by meeting you in person. Women therefore are happy to prolong the convers… | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 11:06 PM |
| 0 | Some guys just have itRead the book "Daygame Code", which comes out in a month on amazon in hard cover, though you can find it here on ebook already. It will change your life. It's what those two books you mentioned should have been and written specifically for people who feel hopeless by someone who was also hopeless. | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 09:49 PM |
| 43 | What is the difference between American and European Women in terms of Seduction?I have slept with women from 4 different continents and 20 countries, by treating them all exactly the same way. Those i slept with all responded to playfulness, provocations, self-confidence, mystery, and stirring their emotions. And the othe women that i met, but didn't succeed from all those continents all got turned off by neediness, insecurity, self-doubt, logic, predictibility and try-hard behaviour. I succeeded only when i played by my own set of rules, not by the ones the women tried to … | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Will my height affect my dating life?Depends on your social skills, how confident you are, how funny you are, how witty you are, how muscular or fat you are, how charismatic, your smooth you are, how non-needy you are, how fun you are to be around, how superficial you are, how try-hard you are, and how comfortable in your own skin you show up when a woman tests you on any of your short-comings. If you have many of these and other positive qualities, you can compnesate that height which isn't even that short. Im 5’77” and i have nev… | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 12:51 PM |
| 2 | You can't get girls if you need to get girls to feel good about yourself.It's not how society treated you, it's how you digested it and interpreted that treatment. And your parents and family first, and teachers secondly had a lot of responsibility in that aspect. All of us lived similar events in childhood, we all experience rejetion or desinterest from others at certain points during our childhood, and yet no everyone is carrying that self-doubt as an adult. That's because other kids were luckier to have better role models that taught them how to interpret setbacks… | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 03:16 AM |
| 1 | You can't get girls if you need to get girls to feel good about yourself.Not until he is a bit older. A kid relies on parents to understand the world, and cannot develop the belief there is something wrrong with him on his own until he is a bit older. The point is that you weren't born thinking you are not good enough, you had to learned that. And by learnign that you stopped believing in yourself and decided to pursue validation from women to believe again. | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 03:02 AM |
| 0 | You can't get girls if you need to get girls to feel good about yourself.At such a young ages like the ones i mentioned you weren't concious enough to even be aware of thigns like social outcast, your don't even have memories of such a young age because that's not how it works when you are 2, 3 or 4. You weren't even in elementary school, and your brain had not developed that level of self-aweraness and introspection until later. And girls can't fix what you can't fix in yourself first. They never will even if a girl liked you it wouldn't fix it. | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 02:57 AM |
| 4 | You can't get girls if you need to get girls to feel good about yourself.Because it's false that you've never been there. When you were 3 or 4 years old, you never doubted you were worthy. You simply took it for granted. You didn't think to yourself you were unworthy If you were just 4 years old, you would have just walked up to another kid, or girl, without overthinking at all, just on pure impulse with pure curiosity on her and without caring what result doing that brings you. The same way a kid touches a frog with a stick not to get a specific outcome, but to see … | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 01:37 AM |
| 11 | How can I overcome the fear of rejection?You are afraid of rejection because you are not hoping to get women for the connection, you are hoping to get woman to use them as proof to yourself (and maybe even to prove to others too) that you are worth something, that you have value, that you deserve to have women and that you are good enough. You are treating women as tools of self-affrimation where you interpret a woman liking you as proof that you are worth something, and a woman not liking you as proof that you are worth nothing. That … | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 11:39 PM |
| 4 | Does asking "are you single" makes you weird?It's not smooth, (weird is not the right word to use here) it's not smooth when it's a random question that comes out of nowhere, or when it isn't even accompanied of a proper conversation. If you simply approached her and said "are you single" and then when you heard her answer you said "cool" and went on your way, yes it's not very smooth. Asking after the end of a random conversation about work if she is single, is also not smooth because the switch up of one topic to another isn't organic. O… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 11:09 PM |
| 1 | How to destory self-limiting beliefsU are desperate cuz u don't get girls, and ironically u don't get girls because u are desperate. A vicious cycle. When u ask, “Don’t I even deserve a woman?” what u’re really saying is: “I feel unloved inside, i don't think im good enough, and I need someone else to rescue me from that feeling.” So in reality u are not desperate because u don't get girls, u are desperate because u want to fill a void, and women just happen to be the most socially acceptable and emotionally intense wya to fill it… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 11:00 PM |
| 1 | When she asks about my workI don't have any idea what it feels to be in your field, so you have to just be honest with yoruself how do you feel about it and express it. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 08:06 PM |
| 12 | When she asks about my workShe doesn't care about medicine, or diagnostics or any of the tehcnical stuff. Women care about how you feel about it. So describe with a lot of detail how excited you are about it, the feeling of euphoria you get when you do something you enjoy, the suspense when you don't know whats gonna happen with a patient and the relief you feel when it goes well, the tears of joy when someone trusts you... They care about the emotional aspect of your experience with your job. So that's what you need to t… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How to Have Better Conversations Over Text In Order To Make It To The First Date - Amateur Levels of Success?I suggest you read this reddit post on how to have fun conversations with girls, instead of asking girls questions. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 06:05 PM |
| 22 | How to get women at clubsMate, seduction in the nightclub is not about chasing or hunting women, it's about attracting them so they choose to come to you. Your job is to figure out how to become the gravitional pull in the room. You do that when you become the life of the party, dance like no one's watching you, and not paying attention to women at all. Tha'ts when they join u. women are drawn to the guy who’s already creating the fun without them. Theh guy whos dancing without self-consciousness, vibing with the music,… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 04:11 PM |
| 2 | How do I get over my fear of creep shaming?If you were just 4 years old, you would have just walked up to her without overthinking at all on pure impulse with pure curiosity on her and without caring what result doing that brings you. Now you are 21, full of hestiation, doubts, fears, anxieties, filters, and outcome-dependence.... Your 4 year old self was more free, charismatic and authentic, and now you're here overthinking saying hi because in your mind it's creepy to tell a girl something like: "Hi, i wanna be honest. I approach you b… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 03:48 PM |
| 2 | How to approach a girl on vacation?If you were just 4 years old, you would have just walked up to her without overthinking at all on pure impulse with pure curiosity on her and without caring what result doing that brings you. Now you are 21, full of hestiation, doubts, fears, anxieties, filters, and outcome-dependence.... Your 4 year old self was more free, charismatic and authentic, and now you're here overthinking saying hi because in your mind it's creepy to tell a girl something like: "Hi, i wanna be honest. I approach you b… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 03:46 PM |
| 5 | I find myself being too direct or not direct enough, how do i find the sweet spot?If they don't get sexual is because u are not acting sexual with them. You are just saying jokes or funny humurous things and making them laugh, so what did you expect? So how to flirt? u need to create sexual tension in your interactions which can be done in the following ways: Holding eye contact just a bit longer than usual while biting your lip suggestively, glancing at her lips like someone who wants to kiss her but hasn’t made up his mind yet. So she feels desired… but isn’t sure if you’ll… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 12:32 AM |
| 83 | Why is showing interest such a turn of to some people?It's not a turn off. It depends on how you show interest, how much interest you show, whether it's earned, and whether it's based on authenticity or only on superficial qualities. | /r/seduction | 08/07/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Some limiting beliefs i have about women, let me know how true they actually are.It's not cold approach that's creepy. It's the specific person doing it whether they find it creepy or not. Guys who know what they are doing, awho feel comfortable doing it, who don't doubt for any second that their approach is fine, who make the girl feel like this is an excpetion and not a commun activity for them, and who can instantly make the conversation feel smooth, effortless, fun and without pressure to get something from the woman they approached, are not creepy. If the guy is nervous… | /r/seduction | 08/07/25 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Sticking point after getting instaTHat she doesnt0 know you enough. You seem to thin that the get to know each other should be done in the date, and sure it is, but that's when you get more deep. Before the date you still have to create trust, relate to eah other more, be someone trustworthy and create hype and anticipation. Women don't go out with strangers for good reason. Unlike what others have said about texting more before the date, what you need to do is to speak more during the approach. You need to get to know her for 1… | /r/seduction | 08/07/25 08:44 PM |
| 4 | Advice for gay person who just moved out of their homophobic parents' basement in their 30s?The problem is that all of the advice here is for the purpose of heterosexual men attracting straight women. It's not even a sub for dating advice, but seduction advice focused on women. I think you need to find a sub that focuses on gay dating or seduction advice, because if you apply things that would work with women, with men your results will not be good since it will not work because men adn women don't neccesarily respond to the same triggers. Women repond a lot to mystery, confidence, dom… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 04:57 PM |
| 1 | The difference between confidence and arrogance👌 | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 03:22 PM |
| 1 | My girlfriend disrespected me in this situation, right? what should i do?Grow up dude. Your girlfriend is right. | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 02:28 PM |
| 1 | How confidence can be misunderstood as over confidenceArrognace is believing you are superior to to others, and acting like it. Looking down on everyone else for not being at ur level and dismissing them as if they are beneath you and don't deserve to be treated as your equals or with respect. Confidence is believing in ur own value and abilities without needing to compare yourself to others or diminish them. It's a quiet, grounded trust in who you are, without seeking to prove it, flaunt it, or use it to put anyone else down. Confidence allows roo… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Time-Sensitive Advice Needed Please!You simply say: "i'm just seeing if i enjoy myself when i spend time with you. If i feel the vibe and something real happens, i go with it. If not, no hard feelings at all." That's all you have to say to pass the test. | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 01:09 AM |
| 3 | It hurts when girls act so into you… then ghost you. What do I do differently?What happens in the club stays in the club. That's the norm. Not the exception. You are getting upset because your unrealistic expectations are not being met. You want women to take guys from nightclubs seriously and that's the problem. It's not just you, it's any guy. Girls go there to have fun. The idea of telling their female friends that they are going on a date with someone they met on a club makes them feel dirty, slutty,... It's just not a good loo and every one of her female friends is l… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 12:40 AM |
| 2 | I think I came on a little too strong. You tell me. How do I recover?I think you need to be less eager in the type of enthusiasm you showed her, and be a bit more aloof. You don't wanna be an open book after a good date. You don't want to be like: "omg that was the most amazing date i've had, it was so great, i can't wait to see you again, oh my god, you free this week? when???"... This is too much no matter how amazing the date was, you should be more hard to read, more hard to interpret, not show desinterest, but also not act like you are sold and like you can'… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Someone recently asked on reddit “women how do you know when you’re attracted to a guy”Problem is that many guys want sex with many women for only one reason, validation. Because they don't feel good about themselves until a woman or enough women indirectly says so with their decision to choose them. And in reality the vast majority of men are ok with meeting one that's good for them, they usually marry and have children with. If the majority of men were virgins forever then population wouldb't be growing at all like it's doing, it would be decreasing massviely. So most guys are n… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Someone recently asked on reddit “women how do you know when you’re attracted to a guy”By not taking the game seriously, not treating the game as a measurement of my worth, and understand with humility that i am not perfect, that I can make mistakes, and also that other people are not perfect and can do things that say more about them than about me and i shouldn't take their actions as reflections of me. Basically having a good self-esteeem and knowing who you are, your worth, makes it effortless to get over any bad outcomes without haiving a personal crisis. | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 12:05 AM |
| 10 | Someone recently asked on reddit “women how do you know when you’re attracted to a guy”- a more fit, stronger, taller guy comes their way That's another conversation. The point i was making is that I can get girls despite not being an athelete actor, famous or having muscles or amazing looks. This new point you are making is a different one as it now wonders if it's possible to keep them around forever, or will they dump you with some other "better" guy. And being dumped can happen yes, specially the more you worry about being dumped. It can also happen to them (the top guys), bec… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 07:31 PM |
| 12 | Someone recently asked on reddit “women how do you know when you’re attracted to a guy”- athlete, actor, musician, influencer etc you better work on being as physically attractive as you can I'm none of those things. I have a bit of belly fat, though I'm mostly thin with no visible muscles, and i'm 5,77 feet tall with an average looking face, women never stop me to compliment me or approach me; I have to do it myself always... And yet, I get laid frequently enough. Sure they are not neccesarily top models you'd see on a vicotrai secret runway, but they are within the 6-8 out of 10… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | ,,We'll see each other sometime again"The woman who went out with me on dates were always enthusiastic and available. Those that said things such us: "i'll let you know", "i'm busy but maybe next time", "im seeing someone, but im open for freindship",... etc. Basically anything that wasn't an enthusiastic yes, but a breadcrump, are women who just are hinting you their lack of interest. Even some of those I insisited on where they said "ok, let's give this a chance", you could tell that they weren't trying their best, that they could… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 04:49 PM |
| 8 | What’s the best way to react when a lady friendzoned you a on date?If she says i thought we were going out as friends is because you clearly were not acting in a way taht was clear you were hitting on her from the beggining. You were acting like a buddy, not like a guy who is clearly showing sexual desire for her. So this is not about you do after she says that, because it really doesn't matter because it won't change anything at that point. This is about what you are doing before you ask a woman out. You are assuming that asking a woman out is something she sh… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 04:48 PM |
| 4 | ,,We'll see each other sometime again"It's just a polite thing they say. You need to stop engaging with women through logic, and use your intuiton. It's the equivalent of a woman saying "im fine" when you sense something is wrong, and you can feel that she clearly is not fine. If you used logic, you would take her words for granted, you would assume she is fine because if she is not she wouldn't have said she is, but becase you are not that dumb, you know that her energy saying it shows a repressed feeling and thus you know they are… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 04:27 PM |
| 5 | Asking her for a drink = Clear intention ??Are you hitting on her or not? Are you showing sexual desire or just acting nice? It seems like you jsut talk to her in a platonic way, where you never show any sexual desire, then suggest to meet again, and assume that is gonna be a date, when your behaviour is making it clear that you are just connecting as a friend, so she treats it as a hangout. Alternatively, it could also be that she sees the first meetup as a date, but your behaviour during the date, is platonic, and so even if she has a … | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Testing if shes an attention seeker or an average womanIt's quite obvious that you have scarcity of women in your life. And that's basically the problem. Not her behaviour, but yours. How much you over analyse her behaviour, how much you can't stop thining about a girl you met so many weeks ago... It's quite clear you still can't believe how she gave you her number, you are so invested in her, because you don't seem to be getting women often, and now that one has finally give you breadcrumps, you are clinging to them like it’s a full course meal, ro… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Comprehensive begginers guide to understand flirting and how to start doing the basics properly.- "It has to be something that is “accidentally” lowering of their self worth." That mindset doesn't make it better buddy. If you are delibertely trying to sound "accidental" in your attempt to lower her self-worth, you are still a dickhead. Seducing women doesn't require at all to lower a woman's self-worth deliberately or accidentally. | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 10:44 AM |
| 6 | Comprehensive begginers guide to understand flirting and how to start doing the basics properly.Sure, but we are not trying to attract guys. Men and women are different. And this is about what works with the majority when they are not analysing tactics (because analsing them cause them to lose their impact), but when they allow themselves to feel it spontaneously without seeing it coming. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Mission 1 : Talk to 1000 Girlsoh ok | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Mission 1 : Talk to 1000 GirlsSeems like you are trying to convince yourself more than anything else. Good for you. Hope it's worth it. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Approaching can be so difficult without looking like a creepLet’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous… | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | How to approach girl and ask her out ?Random women you haven't talked much with, don't care about how you feel, specially when you expect something from revealing your feelings, like validation, reciprocation, a date, a relationship, or anything like that. They are not gonna like you just because you feel something for them. Not to mention that pouring your heart out when you don't know much from her comes across as unauthentic because your feelings are not based on who she is for real, but on a fnatasy you build in your head about … | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 07:43 PM |
| 4 | Comprehensive begginers guide to understand flirting and how to start doing the basics properly.No. Read it again. It has to be a backhanded compliment to be considered negging. That's just a compliment. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 07:24 PM |
| 8 | Comprehensive begginers guide to understand flirting and how to start doing the basics properly.Push and pull i already gave exmples in the post above. It's a cycle of showing interest and removing interest, to be ambiguos, hard to read and unpredictable in order to create flirty romantic tension. Negging (Which i don't recommend doing at all) is saying backhanded compliments that aim to lower women's self-esteem, by humbling down women who act like they are better than you in an attempt to get them to seek your approval, but which often backfires, if the woman is confident enough in herse… | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 0 | Mission 1 : Talk to 1000 GirlsNot sure if mentioning "billionaire" is relevant at all, being a billionaire doesn't neccesarily make the coaching or mentorship better. Also, if your goal is to get rid of the fear of rejection and anxiety, then mass approach isn't necesarily the best way. That requires work on your inner game, your confidence, your self-worth, your mindset, and the way you interpret rejections. You also don't need to do 1000 approaches to get laid. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Mission 1 : Talk to 1000 GirlsI mean, yes and no. There are people who do thousnads of approaches and are just as uncalibrated as when they started because they keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results It's more complex than that. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Never chase a womanYou are confusing invititing with chasing. Starting a conversation is inviting a woman to create something together without any specific goal in mind, and being detached from the final outcome because you are simply evaluating who she is as person, adn then determine if she is worth yoru time or not. Chasing means you cahse a specific goal or outcome from the interaction with a woman, often pushing and performing to get there no matter what, even at the cost of your own personal integrity and st… | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Tried talking to Anody, but not sure how to keep the conversation going—help?She doesn't know you at all, so of course the most likely outcome is that she doesn't wanna grab a coffee with you. You haven't buiild any trust or connection for her to really take your interest seriously. So no you can't ask for a number over such a dull empty converation. Have a 5-10 min conversation with the girl to show that you don’t just decide to ask for a girl’s snap or number just because she is pretty, but because you enjoyed the chemistry, her behaviour or personality, and thus she e… | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 10:56 PM |
| 5 | "I'm married" joke, how to handle challenges?Just stop using jokes that don't land? But the bigger problem however is you expect a good response. You shouldn't say jokes because you expect an outcome, you should only say them because you genienly find them funny even if no one laughs with you, and then learn to smoothly change topics quickly if the reaction was null to show that you don't need other people's approval and smoothy get to another topic. The reason they are not laighing is because they probably feel you are serious and as such… | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 09:50 PM |
| 4 | Why is this sh*t so hard?- I’m just a nice person, I never look at girls in a way of sex. If you want just sex and nothing more and let her know that, that doesn't mean you stop being nice. You stop being nice when you pretend to want something you don't actually want. In other words, when you hide your intentions or lie about them. If you want sex own it without apologising for it. That's what women respect. A guy who with character who knows what he wants, and leads himself without doubting himself or apologizing for … | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 08:31 PM |
| 8 | Why is this sh*t so hard?Seems difficult because you put them on a pedestal, you don’t treat them as people but as objects of desire. You overvalue them while undervaluing yourself. You try to please them, to seek their approval, to prove yourself to them, and to impress, hoping to convince them to give you a chance. And you also probably reject yourself with many girls before they even have a chance to reject you because you also see them as tools of self-affirmation to measure your own worth based on their acceptance … | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 03:01 PM |
| 1 | How do yall stop freezing when you’re along with a girl and the vibes there?Say: "You know what?" she will say: "What?" then, just look at her lips, bite your bottom lip, look at her eyes again, and say: "Im trying so hard not kiss you right now"... That way you are not asking if she wants to, you are merely expressig your desire, and it's up to her how to react to that. If she doesn't say anything, and just looks at you as if wathcing what you'll do, then you can and must go for it. She is unliley to say "ok me too, or go for it", but silence is enough for you to go fo… | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 09:03 AM |
| 11 | Some people are dying of thirst while others are drowning.Because when he talks with women, he isn't trying to seek approval or trying to impress them; he just makes them feel intense emotions through his actions and words, whereas all you are doing is seeking approval and validation from women, which shows women how needy, insecure and desperate you are, and that repels them. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Why does this always happen to me?look mate... the problem is u are desperate. U are desperate cuz u don't get girls, and ironically u can't get girls because u are desperate. A vicious cycle. When u ask, “Don’t I deserve love?” what u’re really saying is: “I feel unloved inside, i don't think im good enough, and I need someone else to rescue me from that feeling.” So in reality u are not desperate because u don't get girls, u are desperate because you want to fill a void, and women just happen to be the most socially acceptable… | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Could do with some adviceThe key thing is that you need to learn to be ok with uncertianty and ambiguiy and with not knowing where you stand. Stop seeking reassurance. Stop interpreting her silence and distance as a threat or as a sign that you did something wrong or somethin... When a woman is still not sure how she feels, she doesn’t want clarity cuz clarity would kill the emotional tension she needs in order to feel something deeper.... They want to feel what it’s like to miss u, to feel the contrast of being with yo… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Could do with some adviceYou were being too needy, instead of letting her time to process and giving her time to miss you, you were too eager to hangout again. You need to let women come to you at their own pace. Not by you pushing and pushing for a meet up. Asking her anything of the following "what's wrong, don't you like me? are you not interested anymore? Did i do something wrong" was the worst thing you could have done. This showed so much neediness and emotional uncertinaty from your part that it probably killed t… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Shit test?More like a dissonance, when she rationalizes what happened. She is thinking what the fuck am i doing with a stranger? How often does he do this with so many other girls?", "he just wants to use me for sex",... etc. So, she is thinking rationally which creates disconnection and feeling pressured To prevent the dissonance, you should have said in the approach, that this isn't normal for you,, that she is an exception since you don't usually do this,, but she felt different, and that you are not e… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 09:27 PM |
| 1 | What should my dating strategy be?👍 | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 09:03 PM |
| 1 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingu should not bring up the things you said because then you are backpedalling and she feels it. She feels you are trying to do something, and you start to come off as calculated and manipulative. If yo uare gonna talk to her, don't mention the past, and jsut treat her like a new girl | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 01:16 PM |
| 1 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingYou gave her an answer that you shouldn't have. It gave her clarity, so mystery solved. To quote my own post: u never "confess ur feelings", "declare ur undying love", "pour your heart out" or "how u can't stop thinking about her because of how much you like her" or anything that gives her conclusive clarity... That instantly kills the whole thing, and makes women lose any interest they might have had until that point. Effectively friendzoning you. So she moved on. You can't rebuild attraction b… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 12:57 PM |
| 2 | What should my dating strategy be?- Eye contact/body language + approach Women won't really give you any signs they want you to cold approach, not because they don't like the idea, but because they don't really expect a guy to cold approach them, so there is no point for them to give any signs. So you have to approach without them giving them any eye contact or anything. Or else, you won't end up approaching any of them. - Make small talk for 1-2 minutes or so about the area around us, etc. Bad move here. The point of a cold app… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 12:48 PM |
| 3 | How to win a girl over in limited time?Man the question itself shows how little understanding of women you have. "Winning a girl over", Make a strong case for a relationship or a hookup"... If that's your midnset you've already lost. It's not ntil you start acting like you are the prize, and that she is the one that has to win you over that you won't lose your virginity and get a girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Need advice on how I fumbled and what I could do better.You need to learn to be ok with things not being clear, and just lead with what aligns with you and what feels real in the present moment, without seeking answers from her about where you stand. Take your power back by not needing an outcome, clarity, approval, certainty from her, and instead just escalate when it feels right into physical intimate touch, sexual flirting, and going for a kiss, not because she signasl she wants you to, but rather because you feel like it and it she doesn't say no… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 04:30 PM |
| 9 | Is bold & honest about everything makes you attractive?- I tend to be very honest... I tell them upfront that I’m currently unemployed and that I dropped out of college. I don’t try to fake anything. But almost every time, I end up getting ghosted. The problem is the way you reveal this honesty. the way u make it sound carries an approval-seeking mindset, which is off putting. It's like you are saying; "Im not sure Im good enough for u and I’m waiting to see if u still accept me.” It feels like an apology or conffesion of how poorly you see yourself… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Is bold & honest about everything makes you attractive?- I tend to be very honest... I tell them upfront that I’m currently unemployed and that I dropped out of college. I don’t try to fake anything. But almost every time, I end up getting ghosted. The problem is the frame in which you reveal this honesty. the way u make it sound carries an approval-seeking mindset, which is off putting. It's like you are saying; "Im not sure Im good enough for u and I’m waiting to see if u still accept me.” It feels like an apology or conffesion of how poorly you s… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 10:53 AM |
| 1 | You stop being yourself with hot women and thus fail, because you don't see her as a regular person, but as a symbol of your worthWhether it's a big deal or not, it's irrelevant. The question is the why. And the reason why is because being with the hot girl is the ultimate form of validation. That's why you are willing to tolerate it more, if it will ultimately get you laid with her. Because that's all the ego wants. The proof that YOU are worthy. It's about what being with her does for your self-esteem and your ego. So of course for your ego, all the effort, all the sacriface, all the bullshitt you have to deal with will … | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 10:46 AM |
| 44 | Do you think you can bypass women’s standard with game/personality"You're not my type" A girl's ideal type barely matters. It doesn't matter if you're not her type because her pre-defined preferences are rational and mainly a filter built by the ego, which is shattered when emotions come into play. Many times, they sleep with men who "weren't their type". They fall in love with someone who moves them in ways they didn’t expect. And they even reject those who perfectly match their list… but don’t make them feel anything. Therefore, it’s false that if you don’t … | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Why are emojis seen as childish when you texting girls, but not using them makes you come off too serious?Sexual tension isn't permanent, it dissolves if you start acting like a kid. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Why are emojis seen as childish when you texting girls, but not using them makes you come off too serious?This is not a generational thing first because attraction is universal and has been the same for centuries ever since we were in caves. Secondly. I'm in my early 20s, you are not far from me. You are confusing yourself because you see girls sending emojis and then assume it's fine for you too to do it, but that's the thing, women and men are NOT the same when it comes to attraction. Men like the emojis because it feels validating and gives them clarity which we men highly value, however women li… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Why are emojis seen as childish when you texting girls, but not using them makes you come off too serious?If your conversations are not fun without an emoji, then they were never fun to begin with. The fun comes from the words you choose to write, not from the emoji. But if you are gonna use emojis, just don't use the ones that make you sound overly emotional, overly femenine and cringe like the cryigng emojis, the puppy eyes emoji, the haert face emoji, and any other intense ulra expressive emoji that you would cringe if you tired to act like that in real life. Wink emojis, smirk emojis, sunglasses… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 05:23 PM |
| 28 | Why are emojis seen as childish when you texting girls, but not using them makes you come off too serious?It's better that a woman can't read you, so being dry or serious increases tension which is good and effective for the purpose on seducing women. Because attraction isn't based on being easy to read, but the opposite being ambiguos, being mysterious, being hard to decipher... Emojis with cries are really bad, the smirk face can ocassionally be good. Another thing is that flirtin should be done in person, not through texts. The right balance is being flirty in person and then on texts be ambiguou… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 05:12 PM |
| 10 | Women don't care how much you want them or how much effort you are willing to put for them. Stop acting like that should make them attracted to you.Women care if they feel something for you, if they don't feel anything for you, then they don't care about your effort. They care more about the effort they do for you for instance than the effor you do for them. But she has to feel something first for you. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with mixed signalsYou should not be matching her energy, you should be making sure that you are not boring to talk to and that you have more important things to do than texting instantly to women. Not because she is taking longer, but because you shouldn't be glued to your phone even if she was responding instantly. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 03:18 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with mixed signalsThe point still stands, she shouldn't be the woman you prioritize. You should be interacting with more simultaneously, just like she is probably doing. Because women don't talk exclusively to one guy, they talk to many and keep their options open, you should also keeep your options open and prioritize other women that live where you live. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 03:00 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with mixed signalsit's not about how much you wait to text her, it's about whether your texts make her feel emotions or not. When a woman feels something by reading what you wrote, then they are more likely to respond faster and engange more. If the conversation is bland, neutral, dull, or feels like an interview then they will be less interested in responding. You also should be mindful that if you text for months without meeting up, the interest will also die down. The point of texting isn't to get to know each… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 02:51 PM |
| 31 | Having a "womanizer" energy a good or a bad thing?The problem is not what they accuse you of, the problem is that you care about their opinion. If someone told me "you are a womanizer" i would double down. I'd just probably say "thank you, you are not so bad yoruself neither", or "seem like you recognized talent". I wouldn't deny it, i wouldn't ask what maes them think that, i'd just act like it's a compliment without giving a shit if they meant it as a compliment or as a criticism. Because what matters when you seduce is not what they think ab… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 01:55 PM |
| 0 | Logistics on picking up women traveling with their family, especially parents?But that's the thing, i say that because it's my sense of humor. Im not gonna filter myself just to please someone, if they don't like it ill own the impact, but i know i can make it work. Seduction isn't about trying to use humor that a particular person would find funny, it's about being you and if they like you great, if they don't like, then fine. Not everyone is gonna be uncomdortable just because you and your family would be. Everyone can react differently, i have tried that with parents a… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Coworker didn’t reply to flirt text. How do I keep it from getting awkward?Dude flirting and sending crying emojis don't mix well together. The crying emojis make you look childish, immature, or like a pussy at best. No it's not cute, to send the crying emojis, it basically kills your cool vibe and makes you seem like a little brother or child she is talking to. And yes you should just ignore the fact that she didn't respond, pretend like you never even said anything and just continue the conversation other day abotu something completely different. this time without em… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 11:34 AM |
| 0 | Logistics on picking up women traveling with their family, especially parents?I wasn't gonna comment, but i saw another dude saying some nonsnse about choosing the "right targets" and avoiding "bad targets", to justify his aproach anxiety, so had to comment. The reason you get intimidated is because your ego and anxiety come into play. Those emotions believe that you the parent's will see through your bullshit, they will feel if you are being authentic or fake, they will see through any facade, any ulterior motives, and any rehearsed lines. That they will evaluate your wi… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 11:18 AM |
| 5 | You stop being yourself with hot women and thus fail, because you don't see her as a regular person, but as a symbol of your worthI already addressed that question in the post. The point is not that you want to fuck hot girls, but the why. You say just wnana have fun with the hot chick, right? But if your whole attitude changes with her, if you start being nicer than you usually are, if you start trying to impress her, if you start trying to tolerate more flaky or shitty behaviour than you would normally do with other girls or men, if you find yourself agreeing with her, not because you do, but to avoid controversy or offe… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 10:41 AM |
| 19 | Is cold approach worth it?Let me translate what your friend is actually saying underneath those words: "I am actually insecure, i think women would reject me if i did that, and i want to tell myself that they would reject you too to feel good about myself, however if you tried to do cold approach and found any success, no matter how small it is, that would make me uncomfortable because it would force me to maybe having to dare doing it to see if i can also get some success and if i don't get it, then i'd be forced to ack… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 01:39 AM |
| 8 | Is it really true that a lot of girls flirting signs is just eye contact and a smile?I have spelling errors yets, because my keybaord auto correct function doesn't work well. and yes it responds what you asked. Your need to avoid rejection at all costs is the exact reason why you keep looking for signals. If you don't care about rejection then you don't give a fuc about signals and you just approach without giving a shit how she reacts to that. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 10:58 PM |
| 15 | Is it really true that a lot of girls flirting signs is just eye contact and a smile?Seducing girls requires you to stop seeking an outcome, and instead express yourself without caring where that self-expression will take you with women. If she likes your self-expression great, enjoy and keep expressing, if she doesn't like or care about your self-expression, also great, move on and meet other women without questioning your entire fucking worth as a person. When women feel you want an outcome that depends on them, they get turned off. They don't want you to approach them thining… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Why girls you like don't feel attracted to you, and girls you don't like, feel attracted to you.I hear you. But u dont have to ignore looks, you have to let her looks affect you in such a way that you start thinking about the outcome because of what it represents. You are attracted yes, but when you stop being yourself and try to perform to be liked, you are neglecting other important thigns of her idenity that also have value. I mean at some point if you had been with enough hot women you would naturally reach the point where beuty alone isn't enough, beauty would just be something you ta… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 10:00 PM |
| 2 | How do I know if she rejected me for my looks?He probably looked just fine. But like most guys driven by ego, is chosing to overlook other flaws and choices he made. Easier to cope by telling yourself you did everything right and that you are flawless, than recognizing the impact of other flaws you chose to ignore, and taking responsibility. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 03:53 PM |
| 5 | How do I know if she rejected me for my looks?Men are more visual, women are more emotional. Those men who complain about looks more often than not tend to have way more flaws, than they recognize. Problems with ego, insecurity, anxiety, lack of social skills, lack of authenticity, approval-seeking behaviour, scarcity, mindset, neediness, and not caring at all about the woman they supposedly like, other than what they can get from her. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 03:26 PM |
| 7 | How do I know if she rejected me for my looks?If you managed to get a date from the apps, then you were fine with looks. It's always have to do with your inability to make her feel a connection and sexual tension that they don't wanna see you again. The idea that if you are 100% her type in temrs of looks, she won't reject you is simply wrong. Plenty of women find many guys super hot and attractive, but they don't want them because they are boring, or have nothing in common with them or they don't respect her, or women don't feel seen and a… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 12:11 PM |
| 5 | Do any other men feel like it's impossible to make the first move?You have unresolved traumas mate, that's the problem and not an easy fix. One key in seduction is you cannot be outcome dependent, meaning that you need to detach yourself from the results of your actions. Do things without caring what ends up happening, if it goes well, great if it goes bad, then own it, learn from it and move on. You also need to stop interpreting woman's response to your actions as a measure of yoru worth. Yes a woman can respond negatively, and that's ok you will fuck up man… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 03:35 AM |
| 15 | Why girls you like don't feel attracted to you, and girls you don't like, feel attracted to you.Authentic means i don't hide anything, i don't pretend to be someone i am not just to be get something or be with you, but i also don't seek anything from you for doing that. U can't cherry pick qualities also though, because while being authetnic is important, u also need empathy and compassion. You cannot just tell someone an insult or punch him in the face, or hummiliate them just because u think that's just u being real. You still have to respect people, but there is a difference in respecti… | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 11:28 PM |
| 117 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Women don't care how excited you are about them or how much you want them. Women only care about whether they arer excited to see you. So if they are not interested, it's completely irrelevant how interested you were. | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Date bailed what's next?Women won't care if they are inconsiderate with ur time.. It's like arguing with a cat. So all those comments about "you couldn't have know earlier" of course she does because it's just an excuse, she is probablly not even at her job. Her excuse is just translation for "i don't feel like going". ANd yes women don't care if you believe that they should have said that earlier. Which is why you also should not do activities that rely on a woman showing up. You want to invite her to things you are g… | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 11:22 AM |
| 1 | What to do when you get disrespected?- I did what you said, but she still seems mad and is airing me. Well what i told u is to say is: "Listen i thought about it and yeah I overreacted. I misread your tone and took it the wrong way. I'm not saying this to undo anything or to expect a reaction, I'm just owning where I slipped" that's was all you had to write, If you wrote anything more than that it was another new mistake. I told u write that, but with no further comment, no further justification, no further "i didn't mean to", not … | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Why my girl is not ready to commit to our relationship?Looks like you are friendzoned. This girl is not into you like that. If you have been meeting for a month and you have not even kissed her in the mouth, then sorry but she doesn't you like that. Even if she says "we can see things in future", that's not a promise of anything. You should not assume that she is serious about that because that's a vague empty statement, not a social contract. So don't come later saying "she led me on" or something, because you have already been warned here that she… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Need help in the next step.u’re not here to get anything.u're there to see if the vibe is worth continuing to see if she is worhty of your time. The number or the date should be a byproduct of connection, not a target u're chasing before the conversation even begins. Approach without a hidden agenda, don't seek an outcome that depends on her, and instead be curious to evalauate whether she deserves to go on a date with you. Don't be sold on her just because she is hot. I suggest you book a call here with me. and ill expla… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Need help in the next step.Let’s say u see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, u approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous. Im… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 11:57 AM |
| 1 | "Never Chase Women" doesn’t mean "ignore them and hope they notice you"That's why you don't ignore women, you simply talk to them without chasing them. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 11:45 AM |
| 1 | What to do when you get disrespected?You clearly were not messing with her, so she won't believe that. All she would think is you are trying to deescalate the tension by being submissive now. As if you are saying "please like me back i beg you, let's reignited the playful vibe again, please!" disguised with a nonchalant facade. You can instead say: "Listen i thought about it and yeah I overreacted. I misread your tone and took it the wrong way. I'm not saying this to undo anything or to expect a reaction, I'm just owning where I sl… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 11:42 AM |
| 4 | Where am I going wrong with my approach to dating?So your actual problem is lack of sexual tension mostly. You as the nice guy never act sexual around women, you never act like you are horny, you never act like you desire them sexually. Because that's not nice maybe? And that's exactly why you get friendzoned, because i don't know who made you believe that showing sexual interest in a woman is not nice, or illgitimate. When it's the most natural thing in the world. The way your interaction felt like was similar to how it would feel to talk with… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 11:11 AM |
| 1 | What's my next move?seems like you are overcomplicating something that anybody else finds simple if they were in your shoes. Why take action? because you can and got nothing to lose. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 04:19 AM |
| 1 | What's my next move?Then take her back to your house, have some drins in your house, and undress her in your house. Sorry but it seems like you are trying to read her instead of taking action. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 01:52 AM |
| 2 | No inner game?Here is second part u/dpjglad Silencing your ego. This wierd need to fit in with others, to seek their respect and approval. The need to prove yourself, your worth, your manliness, to other people. The need to project an image of success to other people. The need to make sure that you avoid rejection because then other people would think you are a loser for getting rejected, so you would rather avoid rejection than having your image that you want others to believe destroyed. Your ego wants to be… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | No inner game?Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in your head will make your less confident in a steady manner. Because you are basically being a bad friend to yourself. If you… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Are accountability, self reflection, and apologizing masculine traits, or are they perceived as weakness?This has always been happening since the dawn of civilization. Women are never wrong, that's not a 21st century thing or a 20st century thing. This has been going for centuries. Women won't say sorry, because of feelings. They feel lie they are right, and as such any logical arugment you make is less valid than how they feel in their mind. Hence you can't really argue with women, because women just want to feel understood. Men who understand women don't argue with them. It's only the men who don… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:52 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you get disrespected?You made the mistake to make a playful jab as something serious that irritated you. I mean mate, it wasn't that serious and you started acting defensive, and argumentative, and demanding explanations and killing the whole vibe. - I then ask her why we're talking if she thinks I'm annoying, This right here is show emotionally reactive, as if she had said some nasty thing that really triggered you. Talk about killing a playful vibe and turning into an unnecesary argument because you became insecur… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:45 PM |
| 1 | 22M and 21F(not sure) – Does she want me to talk to her again?Just ask her again, "hey i know i asked you before, but i really want to get to know u as i am really curious to see if we connect or not, and if we don't at least i won't regret not trying to know u. If that's cool with u of course." | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:29 PM |
| 24 | 6s/7s throwing themselves at me but struggling to pull 9s/10sA woman is really hot, therefore the guy concludes she has value. then the guy looks at himself and thinks: “i’m not that hot, therefore i’m not as valuable. I’d be lucky to sleep with such a hot girl.” So they start filtering themesleves, and trying harder to perform in order to please, and thus stop being authentic. However if a woman is fat or ugly or unnatractive for whatever reason, it’s likely that the guy suddenly acts as if he is the prize. I met many guys go for fatties because it’s eas… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Why do women like older guys so muchi didn't say that, alotugh that can be possible. I said that women are attracted to men who have those traits. Its not about the woman thinking she is more confident than you, it's about her responding to men who are more conrfident and expereinced than those who are insecure and needy, | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach?Cool, if you can start doing it. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 04:40 PM |
| 0 | Why do women like older guys so muchBecause women mature faster than guys. A guy younger than her in most cases is a grown up kid from her point of view. He still not at her same level of maturity even if he is an adult. Even guys her age can feel like kids to her. Because being the same age doesn't mean you both are equally matured. Women don't want grown up kids for partners, they want men. The difference? The boys their age or younger tend to be less expereinced, more emotionally unstable, more financially stable, less good at … | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 03:42 PM |
| 1 | How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach?Treating women as targets, more rejections. Treating women as people, more connections This doesn't mean that treating women as people means you get every girl that exists. Because that's impposible, but it increases the success. You are dumb if you expect 100 % success rate. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 03:12 PM |
| 2 | How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach?It is, if you want to increase your success rate. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 03:07 PM |
| 4 | How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach?The justification is quite simple actually. Not every girl you like has to like you back, even if you think she should. (smells like humble pie) Not every girl you are interested in has to be interested in you. Just like you are not interested in every girl. Not every girl you approach is in the mood for flirting with a guy, even if you are. Not every girl you approach is available because some are in commited relationships. Not every girl you approach has to connect with you, which is normal be… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 03:04 PM |
| 52 | 50 first dates, they all say no "spark"A spark, meaning they did not feel sexual tension. The way your interaction felt like was similar to how it would feel to talk with your sister or your mother or your male friend. Safe, polite, maybe even engaging, with laughs and all, but there was not that atmosphere of "i want to fuck u so hard right now", "i am so turned on by you", "i am blushing by the way you look at me with so much desire". So it's likely that your conversations in those dates are too safe, too platonic, too logical, too… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 02:47 PM |
| 2 | How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach?Your problem is that u are not treating women as people with emotions, feelings, expereinces, circumstances, moods... You are treating them as prey and being needy and those two reasons are why ur "success rate" might be too low for yoru expectations. Heck, the fact that u even keep track of a success rate, is also part of the problem. Instead of going there to see if she is worth your time, to see if you vibe and click, and have natural chemsitry and makes sense to see each other again. You go … | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What's my next move?You are not having sex because you are not even undressing her, taking her clothes off, spreading her legs, taking your undies off, etc... You gotta lead mate. Not wait for her lead. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 02:17 PM |
| 2 | How do I become badboyJust read the books "No more mister nice guy", "Mystery method" and "Models" You can find them in amazon. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 12:58 PM |
| 7 | I have one of my girl friends athomeIf she is your friend, then you treat her like a friend. She is not at your place thinking that you want to get in her pants, and you attempting anything like that will be met with resistance and cause huge distrust potentially ruining the friendship. Her breaking up with your boyfriend or whatever doesn't mean you are in line for sex or romance or anything, she just goes to you because you are safe place to stay. The idea of sleeping with u isn't even in her mind at all. You are not her second … | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Have yall ever recovered from an LWhat do you mean "recovered from"? Did you like suffer physical pain or something because the random stranger you taled to for a few minutes didn't end up being interested and you are recovering from the pain. Why do you act emotionally over a woman not being interested? She doesn't owe u anything, and she also doesn't give a fuck how upset her lack of interest makes u feel. She could not give a flying fuck, if you cry, if you whine that you feel led on, if you whine that she is inconsistent, or… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 12:07 PM |
| 12 | How to overcome the frame of "I don't have sex in the first date/that early/only in a relationship"The thing is u should be the one saying those things that women say. you should be the one that doesn't seek an outcome that depends on her. It's not about disrespecting her boundaries, but it's also not about playing into her rules niether. Because when a woman syays things like that, shes trying to define the rules of engagement, not just for safety, but to keep control and as a test. So if you u push against those rules, u come off as needy or disrespectful. If u agree and self-censor, u beco… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 01:42 AM |
| 0 | How to approach women in public?Let’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 11:09 PM |
| 22 | Confidence hits harder to women when it looks unjustified and you have no objective reason to be so comfortable with yourselfHer: "You are very fat, you even have man boobs..." You: "Be honest, you've never seen a dad bod this stunning ;)" Her: "You man boobs are bigger than mine" You: "Tell me you are jealous without telling me you are jealous ;)" Her: "I don't date fat guys sorry" You: "No waaay!! (surprised) have you seen this curves, this body screams sex appeal, girl" Her: "Shouldn't you lose a bit of weigh? You: "Nah, I’d rather keep my sexy boobies and be the envy of the town ;)" Basically the idea is with your… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 01:56 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with time wastersYeah he is sabotaging you a bit, but the reality is you are so emotionally reactive, that you would sabotage yourself anyways. Because women who are interested in you will test you first before being sold on you, and those tests will immeidately get you to respond emotionally and so you'd fail them anyways causing them to lose interest. The problem is not what he does, the problem is you don't know how to deal with that. He cockblokcs you yes, but if you could overcome that, then it wouldn't be … | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 01:30 PM |
| 7 | How to deal with time wastersWomen don't give a fuck how upset their actions, inconsitencies or uncertainties make you feel. It falls through deaf ears. No matter how much you complain to them about being inconsiderate, unclear, blah blah blah... For them it's like "tell someone who cares". They are like cats in that aspect. You ever see a cat show remorse or apologize? Not really, they don't give a fuck because the cat does not care if you approve or not, or get mad or not. A dog would, but a cat not really. Your emotional… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 01:04 PM |
| 28 | What is you cold approach success rate?You are asking the wrong question dude. It's not about success rate. When you focus on that, then you are outcome dependent, more ego driven, you are not present in the conversations that you have with them, you are not seeing women as people you may or may not connect with, but as targets to hunt. The point of cold approaching is to start a conversation, not to get a number or a date, but to see if you vibe, connect, have fun together, and evaluate whether she is worth your time to see her agai… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 11:56 AM |
| 2 | Who else feels less confident in shirts without ink?Confidence doesnt come from external tricks like tattoos, it comes from the internal as you begin to stop giving a shit what other people think about u and own yourself as you are. When instead of molding yourself to fit the expectations of others or trying to impress them, you lean into your current self and situation, reaffirm it, don't apologize for it, don't show shame for it, and don't find any reason to defend it or explain it to anyone. When you stop trying to be liked by people who don't… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 02:32 AM |
| 6 | Should i use a hat to approach women if i have a receding hairline?It's not a woman's job to make you feel understood or make u feel good about being bald. SHe is not there to soothe you and tell u "it's ok little boy". You need to be comofortable in your own skin specially when she brings up your "flaws". The problem is not being bald, the real problem is hating yourself for being bald. Feeling ashamed, feeling uncomfortable about it and feeling like you are lesser for it. Not accepting yourself as you are and hoping she accepts you first, so you can finally g… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 01:55 AM |
| 5 | I feel more confident in daygame than in nightgameIn the nightclub, it's more about provoking feelings like mystery and sexual tension in women. It's about playing with them but not chasing an outcome. U're just being, flirting because it amuses u, teasing because it delights u, like whispering something spicy in her ear with zero need for what happens next,... basically become unpredictable. you give someone attention, but without looking for women to give it back, for example you might blow a kiss, but you don’t wait to see her reaction. Mayb… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Anyone ever experienced a random dude interrupt and hit on your date?There are way better compliments than giving compliments that imply you are lucky to be with a woman. If you are gonna choose to say a compliment when a dude says she is pretty, then it's better to just say "you've got good taste buddy" than "yeah i am so lucky to be with her". You call that overthinking, but im just explaining social dynamics, so people understand them. Because while it's easy to say "just say x" without any explanation, the reasonon behind it gives a much better understanding … | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Why I am singlekiss, 2. sex (for a couple of months without labels) 3. relationship | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Got ghosted need helpWhat happens in the bar usually stays in the bar. Not always, but usually. You move on and stop expecting women you meet at a bar to still be interested the next day, specially if you did not even had sex or kissed in that bar. | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"- When in doubt assume the best intentions. She’s not “shit testing”, she’s teasing. You are the one who assumes shit testing means bad intentions. Shit testing is just a woman's way to find out your actual character, that's not a bad intention, that's basic evaluation that any smart woman should do to make sure she doesn't end up with a problematic, insecure or unstable guy. Teasing therefore is a form of shit test, because if you get mad about the teasing, then you fail the test of character. … | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Flirting without neggingFlirting is different from complimenting or insulting. It's about showing desire, but not confirming it fully. It's making her feel like you want her, but also her not being sure about it because you are not completely clear. She can sense your desire, but she also feels like she could be misreading the signals you give her. She feels the sexual insinuation, but you don't act on it just yet, to keep her guessing. That's when you begin to be a challange and a mystery, she feels like you are teasi… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Encouragement needed for complimenting girls - so hard !I did not say it's wrong, i said it's not effective. It's like her parents telling her she is pretty. It does nothing, it accomplishes nothing. It just makes her feel good about herself, and therefore your anxiety to do it, is nonsensical because there is no personal risk for you. The wrost she can say is thank you and think she is better than you and that's it in the worst case scenario. Flirting has real risk because it's about expressing desire which she might react more strongly, but complim… | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Encouragement needed for complimenting girls - so hard !Seduction is not about giving compliments. You know what a compliment is? A compliment is basically recognzing someone for a positive quality, action or characteristic that they have, so they feel recognized and valued. At best a compliment makes women feel good about themsleves, at worst it puts women on a pedestal above you, and feeds her ego. A compliment therfore doesn't make her attracted to you. It's more like "thanks peasant now i feel great about myself. And "Feeling better about yoursel… | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 03:23 PM |
| 100 | Anyone ever experienced a random dude interrupt and hit on your date?I've never had this happend to me, but if it happens is because the girl is probably hot, and they see you as easy target. Other guys feel competitive and see this as an easy target because they feel confident as they see themselves as better than you. You say you are short so that might be it. The reality is you are kinda fucked in that aspect, you can't fight, you can't get aggresive or upset... The only way would be to show non-neediness at all, for example by saying "hey dude, i'll give you … | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Why I am single1.) first one is that I'm afraid that she will tell everyone that I proposed her and I'll be the center of their mockery and they'll make fun of me Even if she didn't tell everyone that fact that you propose to a woman that you haven't even kissed is not going to work. That's not how you get into relationships with any girl. That's not how relationships start. That's not how dating works. So while yes there is a risk that she might make fun of you, the problem is that even if she is nice and doe… | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 02:34 PM |
| 5 | How do I convince my best friend for FWB ?- I’ve been thinking about bringing up the idea of a FWB (friends with benefits) arrangement, but I don’t want to seem needy or destroy the friendship. Because she was the one who said to keep it platonic. Sorry, but forget it dude. Sex is not something you negotiate, it's something women do if they feel turned on in the moment. Sex is not like a hobbie you schedule on your agenda, where you agree to have sex at 19:00 on thursdays. It's not something you sit down with a woman to tell her: Hey co… | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"You don't owe her explanations, so you don't need to justify your decisions or convince her of how reasonable your choice for this house was. It's better to not take the question seriously and double down without apologizing or justifying yourself | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 12:03 AM |
| 7 | How do I become more attractive to women in the US?Be more fun to talk to, filter yourself less, act like you don't even care what she thinks of you when you interact with her, speak your mind freely to make things more fun. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 08:27 PM |
| 3 | What are some things you like to talk about with cute girls you just met at the gym?I see posts of women saying different thigns, some say don't talk to them and some complain that men never approach them. My algorythim must be different to yours. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Women will try to get you to qualify yourself to them, your job is to play by your own rules, not hers.You don't need to have something to offer to hookup with a girl you met at a nightclub or on tinder. Plenty of girls just wanna have fun for one night without seeking any long term commitment. Just have sex and forget. The problem however is not that you have all those issues you mentioned, the problem like i said, is you acting ashamed of them, feeling guilty, feeling like you don't accept it yourself. And by the looks of it, that's exactly the problem that you don't accept yourself as you are,… | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:20 PM |
| 1 | If you had to pick between being flirty and being funny, which one would you pick?You can't really afford to sacriface one or the other, both have their utility and importance in different contexts with women. So your pressure to choose one or the other is childish, because it's like saying what should i chose being confident or emotionally stable. You can easily turn-off women if you lack any of those. Seduction is not about cherry-picking. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How do I change my beliefs?- I believe “I am too broke to be attractive” how do I change it into “I have enough money to be considered attractive”? Because habing money or not is not what attracts women, i don't have a penny and that has not stopped me from hooking up with women and having casual sex on regular basis. I never need to pay or tell a woman any lies about me having money or anything to kiss them and sleep with them. Its abotu how you make them feel. Women care about money if they are thinking of marriage, but… | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"Never try to tell a woman that you compensate with whatever. Wrong frame because it communicates "please, ignore this objection you have, and choose me for this other thing". That is approval seeking behaviour. You are not there to covnicne her, you are there to be yourself without apologising for it. You are the one evaluating her, hence you are not there to be evaluated by her, or to make merits, or to convince her, or to enter a negotiation about why you are good enough for her, because that'… | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"You need to understand that women will try to act as if they are a judge sometimes to test you and that's because they feel you want something from them, your job is to play by your own rules instead and show her that you don't need anything from her and might not even want anything at all from her hence your refusal to defend yourself, convince her If you do nothing with yourl ife, then you own it. You say "i do absolutely nothing at all with my life, and it's the best thing that's happened to … | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 05:24 PM |
| 1 | how to make a second hookup happen?You might be acting too eager and too interested to see her again, far more than she is, and that's not good. After a date you should be mysteruous and be hard to read for her, she should need to wonder what you are thinking and instead you are the one wondering what she must be thinking which means you are starting to be needy and starting to chase, losing your power. So no, you shouldnt tell her you had a good time, why would you want to say that? You are just looking for reassurance from her … | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Need a little emotional support and feedback from you guys- She said that she doesn't think I'm naturally a sexy guy-- that I don't come across as sexy-- and that on first impression she would assume I had a small dick. I'm having a really hard time crawling out of the psychological hole that put me in. I don't give a shit if I fuck this girl or not. I sleep with women constantly. I have a rotation going and I meet new girls on dating apps often. But all my insecurities have popped out and are dogging me So here is the thing, you say you get girls on d… | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 09:08 PM |
| 2 | How should i follow upShe probbaly forgot about u already. Specially with such a generic text that doesn't make her feel anything in particular. | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | How should I approach girls in public and how can I flirt with them with out being creepyIf you want to cold approach during the day to meet women here is a step by step list you could use to have solid interactions: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can bu… | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 07:45 PM |
| 71 | Nearing 30's; I feel my space is not good enough for women my ageYour mistake is trying to justify yourself to them. When a woman tests you on something, you cannot act defensive, apologetic, or justify yourself or convince her with logic. You are buying into the frame that you need to convince her that you are good enough for her so that she chooses you, when you should always be the one evaluating her on whether she deserves to have the experience that you may give her if she deserves it. So when a woman starts testing you by judging you or comparing to thi… | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingYeah good luck with that shit in the friendzone. If you think a woman is going to date you just because you pour your haert out, you clearly don't know what you are talking about. You seriously using fiction or rich people and famous to make an argument... lmfao. Yeah if you are rich you can do whatever you want and get the girl. Amazing discovery you just made. It's not due to them "pouring their haer out", it's due to them having something that women value above all else, money and status. Ton… | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 01:59 PM |
| 1 | What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?You are reading the situation wrong. You say that you are taking longer to reply because she took longer to reply, but the real question is in the fact that she is taking longer and that's not gonna be fixed by you mirroing her or anything, and texting more often also won't fix it. In other words, regardless of how long you take to text is not gonna fix anything. So what then? If she is ignoring you is because she is losing interest, not because she is somehow playing a game. You had a date and … | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Going out aloneNo, i'm telling him to have fun, to make himself be noticed, to show that he is not self-concious and doesn't need anything from women at all. When you do that, it's very easy to get girls to join you and when they join you to dance with you, it's up to you to lead it into flirtation while you dance with them to escalate things. Whatever you find laughable about that, is a you problem, because i don't need to argue further about what i know from expereince works, let alone with someone who benea… | /r/seduction | 18/06/25 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Should I pursue?- She's pretty attractive and borderline out of my league which makes it harder. This right here is your main problem. The fact that you put her on a pedestal and that you don't fully believe you deserve a girl like her and expect her to make you believe that you are enough. Women don't exist to measure how much you are worth, they don't exist for you to figure out if you worthy or not. So when you go there with the mindset of "i hope she likes me", "i hope i don't fuck up"... You already lost. … | /r/seduction | 18/06/25 01:32 AM |
| 7 | Going out aloneMate, seduction in the nightclub is not about chasing or hunting women, it's about attracting them so they choose to come to you. Your job is to figure out how to become the gravitional pull in the room. You do that when you become the life of the party, dance like no one's watching you, and not paying attention to women at all. Tha'ts when they join u. women are drawn to the guy who’s already creating the fun without them. Theh guy whos dancing without self-consciousness, vibing with the music,… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Tinder is easy as a man - You just dont know how to use itNone of this works if you are not attrative. And if you are attractive anything can work, not just this. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 04:44 PM |
| 4 | Am i missing out the game?You never stop learning game regardless of your age. The idea that your life is over at 18 is hillariously wrong. Even if you were 50 you still have to keep learning about women, even if you thin you already figure it out, there is always more to learn. It's a never ending process of constant learning. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Was ghosting her the right choice?Love bombing doesn't mean she is singing a contract with obligations, it's just expressing how she feels in the moment. Hence why she doesn't owe you anything. You should recognzie that. Her emotions aren't a contract. So you should never asssume that short term affection equals to long term intent. Remember! the cat doesn't give a fuck and doesn't show remorse. If she is not your girlfriend, she won't feel like she did anything wrong, because she doesn't owe you anything in her mind. This is al… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Did I misread the situation or move too slowly? Got ghosted after a promising start.Attraction grows on uncertainty and mystery, while she thinks about you trying to figure you out, not on you being constantly present in her life which kills all mystery and doesn't give her time to miss you. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Was ghosting her the right choice?You should not acknowledge anything like you pulling away or her being flaky, because that doesn't do anything in your favour. Demanding explanaions, clarifying your actions or seeking certainty from her about where you stand also doesn't do anything in your favour, it just makes the thing serious and that's not what you need to do with a girl who isn't commited to you. Any attempt at trying to have a serious conversation when she is not your girlfriend will be met with any woman pulling away. Y… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Did I misread the situation or move too slowly? Got ghosted after a promising start.You met a girl on x day at a club, a few day laters you met again, the next day you texted to meet again... Seems like too many meetups within one week. Makes you seem overeager as if you've got no life other than meeting up with her. She is likely feeling exhausted and like she has no time to let things breath and really thing about how things are unfolding. You shouldn' be meeting up with a girl more than once per 7 days. Quality over quantity mate. 3 times within a week with a girl u just met… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Was ghosting her the right choice?You are rushing things to relationship too fast, and that's why she is getting cold feet. You are making things serious too soon and you are also getting already upset by her actions which is illing the fun of the whole thing. Sorry but you have no business taling abotu realtionhips, labels, commitments, meeting family members, etc at this point. In fact, she should be the one to ask for that first, not you. The fact that you are trying to push towards a relationship so quick is what dries her p… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 12:27 AM |
| 2 | One of several thoughts that go through my head as a single dad trying to attract women. Does scent matter?This is the equivalent of asking "does showering matter"? Yes it matters it's the bare minimum to not be repulsive, but just because you shower doesn't mean a woman is gonna be in love with you, or be massively interested in you, and same thing happens with perfume or scents. You still have to connect iwht her and make her feel something, if you don't connect or don't make her feel something then it won't matter if you smell great. | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 10:36 PM |
| 15 | Did my 23F coworker only like the chase? Did she give up once I showed how much I actually liked her and only wanted attention ?- I was scared of rejection. I texted her saying I overthink a lot and etc and she said it’s ok, that she’s down to chill whenever. This tells me that you are not very confident person in yourself and that is quite problematic when it comes to attracting women. It's not a woman's job to give you reassurance, or to tell you it's ok little boy". Are you a man or are you her child? Because you saying "i overthink a lot" and she telling you "it's ok" frames the interaction in a son/mom vibe rather t… | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 06:38 PM |
| 2 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessing- Attraction isn’t about control... it’s about connection. Let me just clarify that attraction is about mystery and tension, while connection is about vulnerability and emotional resonance. You can connect with someone and not be attracted to them. Hence attraction is not about connection. Attraction can happen without connection and connection can happen without attraction. I connect with my sister, that doesn't mean i am attraced to her. I connect with my male friend, that doesn't mean i am at… | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 01:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I rebuild emotional investment after pushing her away?Yes. Just learn from it, find new women, and don't do the same mistakes with the next woman. | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 12:58 PM |
| 9 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingYou are right to be skeptical, never take someone's words as gospel. Try it yourself with enough women who you are relatively on good terms, but which you may not care that much about, and see results for yourself. alternatively try to do the opposite: Be an open book, be super easy to get, don't be a challange at all, never maker her doubt your absolute unearned comittment, never be mysterious, make her feel like she has to do nothing for you to be completely sold on her other than simply exisi… | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 10:33 PM |
| 1 | How to be open minded about your thoughtsYes, you got it. You are the experience, she may or may not be the lucky one to experience it. You don't give it to her unless she proved (subtly) through the conversation that she deserve it. You are giving, not taking. Rewarding, not gifting. | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 08:47 PM |
| 3 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingSo you are the exception to the rule huh? If he didnt get you is because he chose not to, not because you had the chance to say no. | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 07:38 PM |
| 24 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingAnd yet the one who made you crazy was the one you couldn't figure out. | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 07:33 PM |
| 11 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingAnd yet it works in my experience. | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 07:30 PM |
| 35 | You want her? Don't tell her. Show her just enogh to keep her guessingExactly, but we are here for young women. | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 07:27 PM |
| 2 | How to be open minded about your thoughtsYou could have a "goal" that depends on you, not a goal that depends on her. For example: "I want to see if i enjoy myself when talking with this girl that i am curious about" U don't flirt because you want to get her, you flirt because it's fun for you to express yourself in playful ways regardless of the outcome. U don't say a joke to make her laugh, you say a joke because you find it funny and like to amuse yourself regardless of how she takes the joke. U don't talk to her because you want to… | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 11:46 AM |
| 2 | How do I get better at text game and social media game?yes search in the sub | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Being mysterious is not about being quiet, it's about being hard to read to pull her inOther people in some other posts who had trouble understanding it. | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 07:21 PM |
| 4 | How do I rebuild emotional investment after pushing her away?You don't come back from being needy. Women already saw your true face, and now your actions seem like a fake performance aimed at getting something from her. In other words, she sees through your bullshit because the strongest negotiating position here is not seeking anything at all from another person. She isn't seeking anything, you however are. So your attempts at being scarce, not chasing, carry that vibe of "i'm pretending to play hard to get" but it fails because you are the one taing the… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 06:25 PM |
| 5 | How do I rebuild emotional investment after pushing her away?This is not how you attract women. You don't apologize to get something from her or to start things again. In fact doing so just makes your apology insincere, because you are apologing to get something. Apologies are only sincere when you seek nothing. You simply show regret own up to your mistakes and move on. | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 06:20 PM |
| 10 | How to be open minded about your thoughtsYou need to understand one key thing about women, which is that you are not supposed to reveal what your goal is. Why? Because you shouldn't even have any goals to begin with by interacting with them. when a man approaches a woman with a goal, whether it’s to get her number, get a kiss, or get laid, he’s no longer present. He’s performing. He’s filtering everything through a lens of “Is this getting me closer to the outcome I want?” And women can smell that a mile away. It reeks of neediness, ma… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Being mysterious is not about being quiet, it's about being hard to read to pull her inOn a surface level, yyes, when a woman is already attracted, her mind will reach for reasons to justify or romanticize it. So she might call u mysterious, intriguing, different because those labels help her make sense of the emotional pull she feels. But mystery can also create attraction, when it’s rooted in presence and unpredictability. When you are so internally driven, self-contained aand un-needy that she can’t predict u. It creates tension because she doesnt know what’s coming next. Not f… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Being mysterious is not about being quiet, it's about being hard to read to pull her inAuthentic self is tricky because a guy might tell himself that being an open book and expressing her everythign he feels about her and clarifying everything is his authentic self, when in reality he is just seeking reassurance from her and validation by doing that, which naturally kills the mystery and makes him predictable instead of mysterious. Authentciity is only real, when you truly don't need something from her, not her affection, not her approval, not even clarity about where u stand with… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 05:35 PM |
| 3 | A Question Regarding First Impressions: Should I Talk to Girls Who Aren’t Interested at First Sight?Yes. Because when you understand the fundamentals of seduction, you will recongnize that seduction is about making her feel emotionally invested in you. As such, most girls (90%) are initially neutral towards you. Neutral means they are niether interested nor uninterested. They simply don't even think about you until they have a chance to feel your vibe. There are some who will be super attracted to you even when you don't do anything, and then there are those who will be completely uninterested… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 05:29 PM |
| 3 | How do I finally achieve a breakthrough?Just know that the more you make woman you go on dates with feel like you are looking for something serious too soon, the more you try to act like a boyfriend in an attempt to push for a romantic relationship or to convince them how great you'd be as a boyfriend, or the more you act like an open book with them about how excited you are with them, or you telling them how great the dates went and how you can't wait to see them again and start asking them when they are free and offer a lot of avail… | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Is my friend attracted to me?It must suck for those who are afraid to feel something real yes. | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 12:40 AM |
| 3 | Seeking Clarity from a Woman About Where You Stand Ruins AttractionPressuring women to do something they are not sure of carries consequences, usually in the shor-term, and eventually in the long-term. If you have to pressure women into making a decision, that says a lot, none of which is good. There are reasons you are not with her anymore and part of those reasons are ultimatums among others. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Is my friend attracted to me?That's a risk you need to be wiling to take. If you refuse to act until you know it's safe to do it, the opportunity will be gone. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 06:56 PM |
| 18 | Is my friend attracted to me?Seeking answers and clarity from women ruins attraction. You are not gonna get a girl by trying to play it safe or by making sure there is no risk for you to act. The game requires you to embrace risk, not avoid it. If you want answers from her, sorry but she will lose interest. You don't act because it's safe, you act because it's risky and that's what makes it exciting. So, learn to be ok with not knowing what a woman wants or thinks about you. Start acting and don't be afraid to feel somethin… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 06:34 PM |
| 3 | How Do I Keep a Girl Interested in Me While Chatting?The excitement dies when you become predictable, when the mystery dies in favour of clarity, when there is no tension accumulated because you've released immediately, when she can read you easily instead of having to read between the lines of what you say, when you begin to chase instead of stirring curiosity, when the conversation isn't emotionally stimulating and instead feels rational, and when instead of being yourself, you begin to perform in order to get a result, when the girl feels you a… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Seeking Clarity from a Woman About Where You Stand Ruins AttractionOk sure, older women seek clarity because they've become pragmatic with age, and don't need to feel anything real anymore. They just want security and stability because they already had their youth to feel everything they wanted to feel, so now they just want clarity because their time is running out, they don't get as much male attention as they used to, and don't care about romance or genuine attraction anymore, as much as they care about having a stable life with a predictable provider even i… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 03:28 PM |
| 103 | Approached a group of 3 women for the first timeDon't ask all the girls for their contact details, Just ask the one you actually like. And no, don't say that if her rules change, she knows where to find you cuz women don't operate like that. As for flipping the boyfriend/no male friends. The problem is that they say that because you didn't really seduce them. They were just turnign you politely, since it was clear for them that you were trying to get something from them, which raised their guard. Your conversation with them simply wasn't sedu… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 04:27 AM |
| 0 | Interesting scientific viewpointYou don't seem to understand what I am getting at. The whole argument is based on a "social trust map" that measures the percentage of respondents who believe that most people can be trusted. If you wanted to do actual science and not pseudoscinece, you cannot simply make conclusions based on that map because it's missing something called "variables" which is essential in any scientific research that wants to be taken seriously. What variables are we talking about? Let's go one by one. Trusting … | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 09:10 PM |
| 12 | I can’t tell if my colleague likes me or notYou have the wrong mindset here. You are too focused on whether a girl likes you, when you should be focusing on evaluating whether despite liking her looks, she is good enough for you, whether she deserves to enjoy the absolute privilege of dating you. Now, like most beta males, you are probably thinking "of course she is good enough for me, what kind of question is that, that was never a doubt in my head., have you seen her she is so attractive! I'd be lucky if she wanted me"... And this type … | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | I can’t tell if my colleague likes me or notBad advice. Befriending leads to the friendzone. You don't get a woman by acting like a fake friend in an attempt to later get in her pants. And yes becoming a friend as an strategy to date her later makes you a fake friend. | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Interesting scientific viewpointThis isn't scientific. This is pseudoscientific. His whole argument is based on an investigation about social trust that doesn't respect the scientific method at all. If you wanna know more about what pseudoscience is, you can read more about it here. | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Why does this women keeps asking me to meet up but is flaky?It's the man who has to suggest an specific time and place to meet, not the woman. I don't make the rules, that's just how it works. So if you are watiing for a woman to plan a date, sorry but that's not happening with this girl or any other girl. Sure there might be one exxception out of thousands who plans, but you shouldn't count on that because that's like waiting to win the lottery. The man has be the leader, not the woman. You are the one who has to be definite and lead! Not collaborate, l… | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 02:45 PM |
| 17 | Do any of you guys cold approach?Asking does cold approach work is like asking does going to nightclub work or do dating apps work? They work as long as you have the ability to connect with girls. If you don't have the ability then nothing works. | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 01:31 AM |
| 19 | Too old at 43?The problem is not your age, the problem is not having the full conviction that your age is ok, and acting ashamed or apologetic about it, specially when a woman tests you on it. Being confident is not about believing you are good enough because you believe you are perfect and flawless. Being confident is about believing you are good enough simply because you accept yourself as you are even if you are flawed. Women will test you on your age yes. But how you respond on the age objection is a choi… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 10:24 PM |
| 5 | have you seen 'pickup lines' make a comeback?The problem is not using pick up lines, the problem is being scripted, fake and not being just as funny after that. Guys who are not funny, or fun use them thinking that's what's gonna save them. Then the conversation becomes dull and boring again, filled with questions, stacked on small talk and impersonal stuff and those women tend to run away again from guys who use pick up lines because they see the pattern and realize that only guys who don't have social skills tend to use them, because if … | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Feel like I’m rusting out even though I been sober.- The female Dr vet who helped me rescue him didn’t seem interested in me at all even though I went looking fresh and dressed to the nines everytime and just chill. She lives close to me, too. Another downer to the ego but fuck it. So other than your doctor, you haven't approached any women to hit on them? because all you talk is about how much your lack of dating success sucks, but you don't talk at all about any of your approaches, what you said, what they told you, what obstacles they put, or… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 03:47 PM |
| 3 | What am I doing wrong??That's because you are probably doing something off putting that's turning them away. Time to self-reflect on what you are doing with far more scrutiny than you expressed here. Maybe you don't kiss them or create sexual tension, or because you give them to much clairity. Who knows. In order to know what's wrong, you have to explain the situation with far more detail. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 03:36 PM |
| 5 | Why should I approach?- I am 176cm (5.8) I appraoch because while i get rejected many times, i also get succeses here and then for trying enough. I don't take rejections personally. If they were genuinely attracted to me, wouldn’t they give me signals like eye contact or come closer to me? Because women signals are on the one hand very stuble, almost impercetible. They might give you one quick glance in one second, and then look away immediately. You try to interpret her glance, and if you are in "avodiing risk" mode… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Does Accent play a role? (good or bad?)Yes they play a role and some accents are more attractive than others, while other accents are very universally unnatractie. Indian and pakistani accents from men tend to be the most unnatractie worldwide. British accents, french, italian and Spain's Spansih tend to be the most attractive. In the case of spanish, since it's your language, an spanish man speaking spanish in south america will usually have lots of girls loving it. If you are from argentina and go to spain to speak spanish with arg… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 11:28 PM |
| 3 | Any tips for cold approaches appreciatedTip: Don't take rejections as proof that you are unnatractive and don't treat successes as proof that you attractive. Seduction is not about you trying to figure out if you are worth something based on whether a woman likes you or not. If you get confident only because a woman gives you a number oir sleeps with you, that might feel good but you are tying your sense of self-worth to her decision and that's treating her like a tool of self-affiramtion for you to feel good about yourself, not like … | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 11:25 PM |
| 0 | Does she want me to approach her ?While you try to analyze if she is giving you singals or not, another guy who doesn't give a fuck about singals, steps in, hits on her, asks her out, and because she loves his confidence, she accepts while you keep trying to avoid rejection. Women don't respect men who play it safe, they respect men who have no objective reason to believe they can succeed and try anyway. This ain't about avoiding risk mate, it's about embracing it. You don't approach because she indicates without talking she is … | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 11:19 PM |
| 20 | Men in their 40s and 50s, do you still not pay for the first/first few date(s)?Yes you pay, but you have to be more picky and selective about who deserves to go on a date with you in the first place. Not just offer it to any random girl you think is physically attractive enough or else you'll waste tons of money. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Approached a girl at a bar yesterday, didn’t go well. I’m trying tonight again and looking for tips.Create drama or absurdity for fun. Let's say you bump on purpose onto a girl and then say: "OUCH!! You hurt me!! you are a national threat! Please somebody arrest her!" Another way to start could be by offering to roleplay: "Hey, yo, you are kinda cute, let's get married for 2 minutes real quick here, and immediately braek up and divorce after that, what do you say!" Another role play: "Yo, I'm looking for a partner in crime, what do you say you and me rob a bank and fly off to mexico! I'll prom… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Approached a girl at a bar yesterday, didn’t go well. I’m trying tonight again and looking for tips.You need to be fun, playful, stir emotions, create curiosity, generate tension, not being logical, neutral, platonic, objective and dull. You should work on that way more than worrying about how you look. They did not engage with you because you were boring. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 04:52 PM |
| 13 | I want to learn how to talk to womenTalking to women is all about the ability to talk in such a way that makes them feel emotions such us: Intrigue, curiosity, challenge, desire, excitement, tension, admiration, surprise, connection, fun and mystery. So do your research on that. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 04:16 PM |
| 25 | What do married looking women want?You are failing to understand that women don't look for anything in particular. That's men's logic. Women's actions are driven by what they feel in the present moment. What they feel in the present moment can be influneced by a man that interacts with them and that can cause them to act in one way or another and do things they didn't plan on doing or weren't even thinking or fantasising of doing until it happened. So what do married women (or any women) want? A guy who happens to shows them what… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 03:29 PM |
| 5 | delusional confidence.It's easy to get girls without improving your life, but it's hard to keep them around long term without improving your life. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | fucked upTelling yoruself no girl is good enough to approach is a defensive mechanism to protect yourself. It makes sense in theory, why bother hitting on a girl u don't like huh? But let’s be real, that “standard” is often just fear in disguise, dressed up as self-respect. Telling yuorself “no girl is good enough to approach” sounds noble, like u’ve got high standards. But if you dig deeper, it’s usually just a clever way of saying: I’m scared of being rejected, so I’ll reject her first, in my head. Sur… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 12:43 PM |
| 2 | What does this mean?People are busy for things they don't prioritize. When a woman does not prioritize you is because going out with you does not sound promising so far. And i mean it when i say "so far" because t's not a permanent feeling, it can change if her feelings change; either because u both talked more and connected really well in the upcoming future, or because u suggested a plan that she just does not want to miss out on. As for her comment about not being a good texter, well that shows she has met many … | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Are spontaneous daygame same day lays possible?It's doable if you are in places where women are chilling and ideally with tourists. For example, cold approaching women on a warm beach in the afternoon/noon, you could potentially have success as long as you know how to seduce women. | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | I turned religious then stopped Cold Approaching altogetherSex before marriage might be a sin. But religion also says we are all born with sin by default and gives us a way to redeem ourselves (because god is all-forgiving) by confessing in church to the priest. So just have sex, then confess your sin to the priest. Problem solved. That's how they do it in south american and african countries. | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 03:01 PM |
| 4 | Opinions on self disqualifiers. Curious on how y’all deal with them?Double down on what she said by agreeing with her in an an exxagerated or absurd way. "Yeah I would never date a woman who looks at me like i'm a piece of meat; i'm glad you recognized your mistake ;)" | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 03:59 AM |
| 10 | What is the difference between quiet and mysteriousThe difference is significant. u see... romantic attraction thrives on mystery, uncertanty, unpredictability, challange andtension. Women r attracted to men who they can't fully decipher, men who r mysterious meaning they can't read if the guy is sold on them or not, whose feelings about her are a bit unclear. When she feels u like her, but can't be 100% be sure of it beacuse u either don't confirm it verbally even though ur body language ssuggess you do desire her, or u give her reasons to doub… | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Help me change my thought processBy stirring their emotions, triggering their curiosity by being unpredictable and ambiguous, challenging them to earn their approval, provoking and teasing them to create tension, being humurous to get them to laugh, to relax and lower their guards, relating to her on a personal level to build trust and connect, qualigying them to make them feel like their interest is earned, and stimulating her imagination to build anticipation and flirting sexually to make them feel desired and create sexual t… | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 01:38 PM |
| 9 | Help me change my thought processRomantic attraction thrives on mystery, uncertanty, unpredictability, challange, and tension. Women are attracted to men who they can't fully decipher, men who are mysterious meaning they can't read if the guy is sold on them or not, whose feelings about her are a bit unclear. When she feels you like her, but can't be 100% be sure of it beacuse you either don't confirm it verbally, or give her reasons to doubt or second guess it, or when you insinuate with body language you may desire her, but i… | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 12:15 PM |
| 3 | "Never Chase Women" doesn’t mean "ignore them and hope they notice you"You get stuck because you are prioritising geting her approval over evaluating genuine compatibility. When you prioritize getting her approval what you are doing is that you start acting like a politically correct politician. A typical politician does not say what he truly thinks because it might offend people and cost him votes, he is convinced that showing up is his true self would not be tolerated by the electorate, specially in his most controversial opinions, so he tones himself down, he st… | /r/seduction | 03/06/25 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Girl asked for my socials but won't be able to meet for months. Now what?You don't try to mantain a thing for months without seeing each other. You both live your lifes, and if destiny brings you together again, then you start things from scartch all over again. You can't expect a woman to be waiting just for you for months specially after a brief 30 min converastion where nothing significant happened. She is gonna meet more guys, maybe even break up with them after short term relationships, and be single again before you two meet. A woman is not gonna be more intere… | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Why the women you prioritize , pull away more, while the ones you barely text chase you?First understand that butterflies like to come and go from the garden, to feel the contrast, to have time to miss it. So don't think of the garden as a cage. The garden always needs to stay open, so that the butterflies stay in it, not because they are forced to, but because they chose to. Then, it's about living a life of purpose and mission that are more important than the relationship. The realtionship cannot be your center, or your priorioirty above all else. Your life needs to have directio… | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 03:42 AM |
| 7 | What to text after kissing in a party? Noob question- "hey, did you enjoy yesterday?" No... Asking this shows insecurity. Never show insecurity with women, if she has to say it's bad then she will say it on her onw without having to ask her if it was good or bad. If she doesn't bring it up then you don't need to ask her. Just assume it was good, because that's what confident people do. It's not a girl's job to give you nods of approval or to tell you that you did well, or that you need to improve something. They are not your mom, they are not jud… | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Is there any point in approaching women until I've lost weight?If a woman calls out your weight when you talk to her, how would you take it and respond? That will say if you are ready to cold approach or not. | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 02:43 PM |
| 1 | I smiled at her, but she looked away. Still approach?If you can't bring yourself to approach without prior positive feedback then you don't deserve to get success with that girl. The game is for risk-takers, not for risk-avoiders. The game is for people who don't need validation and approval from women. The game is for masculine men, not pussies. If you need a woman to give you positive sign then you are not being real, you are being fake for the sake of getting approval and avoiding dissaproval. You don't approach because women say out loud "plea… | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Is Approaching even worth it in this day and age anymore?If you get results doing it, it's worth it. If you don't get results doing it, it's not worth it. And this applies to any form of meeting women. So there is no universal answer that applies to all. Each person has different results meeting women in different ways. | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 11:53 PM |
| 16 | "Never Chase Women" doesn’t mean "ignore them and hope they notice you"The problem comes when guys socialize not to seek connection, but to seek proof that they matter and are worth something. You chase when you don't blieve you are good enough, but hope that women will tell you that you are good enough by loving you, choosing you, wanting to be with you. It's like the connection is not as important as getting proof that they are desirable and worthy because a woman wants to be with them. So that's why the chase, because they are desperate to get that "proof" of wo… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 09:26 PM |
| 2 | She Asked for a "Pause" After 3 Dates and a Great Vibe—Now I’m Stuck Thinking About Her. Am I Overthinking This?- I'll keep adding more here u/its_golgo13 because it didn't let me write more in the previous post told her that I really liked what we had, but I didn’t want to be in a “situationship” with someone who wasn’t ready. Yes, you did not need to say this verbally for her to know it. This is exactly what pushes her away, she coudl feel it with the way you acted and now that you verbally confirmed it, it just reinforces her decision to pull back even more. Talk about self-sabotage mate. Your impatien… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 08:15 PM |
| 2 | She Asked for a "Pause" After 3 Dates and a Great Vibe—Now I’m Stuck Thinking About Her. Am I Overthinking This?- The first week was amazing. Constant texting. Constant texting is not good. It feels good because it feels validating, but constant texting tends to kill desire in women without realising. All you accomplish is texting her out of liking you. It lowers attraction. Texting is for settign up dates, not to replace real life communication with vistual communication. You need to have a life, not be glued to your phone to text her. Be busy so she has time to miss you, not constantly present and orbit… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | PeacockingFirst of all you don't need to do peacocking to get girls. look around you and realize that the infinite majority of guys who can get laid, do it without dressing like a clown that seeks attention. This isn't directed at you, this si directed at other people who might be considering doing wierd stuff that they don't feel comfortable with. Now if you are gonna still do peacoking, then it needs to come from a place of authenticity rather than performance. You dress not to perform or act, but becau… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to offer options within the date or is that too indecisive?Men's job is to lead, while women's job is to choose whether to follow him or not. Asking women what they want is the easiest way to frustrate yourself. It's lie asking women what do you wanna eat. Not a question women like to hear. Inivite her to something you will do with or without her that causes fear of missing out. Also don't try to rationalize the thing by saying shit like "these are the pros and cons" like it's some business negotiation. Women aren’t looking for a sales pitch when it com… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 06:37 PM |
| 24 | Anyone in here get approached by girls but then as soon you start talking to them they lose interest in you?Probably because you choose to play it safe, generic, and bland in the things you say. That's usually the main problem. Having normal conversations that have no other purpose than to get factual information about each other, like jobs, studies,... etc. Specially in environments where people don't want normal conversations, like nightclubs. They lose interest, beacuse the conversation is not stimulating them, they feel nothing, and everything you say is something every other generic guy could say… | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Why the women you prioritize , pull away more, while the ones you barely text chase you?"Easier said than done" Nothing good in life is easy. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Thinking About Taking the Next Step Online… Need Some Advice!Trying to switch a friendshiop into romance is not going to work. They already got used to yoru platonic vibe and trying to suddenly act like a guy who wants to be ormantic will either fly over their head and be confuised with best friend behaviour at best, and at worst you will get told "what arey ou doing, we are just friends". You need to go for girls that are not your friends. This is not about playing yoru cards well with friends, friends don't appreciate a guy who tries to change the dynam… | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 03:28 PM |
| 2 | 25 yrs old, still virgin feels like its too lateAmazing how the head sabotages people. Before your head was like "nah im still very yoing, getting laid can wait", and now your head is like "nah, now i am too old, getting laid is no longer something for me". Note that this isn't a real obstacle beyond your control, this is you making the choice to even try. And why don't you wanna try when deep down you want to experience it? Because trying means being vulnerable and potentially facing rejections, and that's what you wanna avoid. If you had a … | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 03:27 AM |
| 2 | How to better develop conversation in the first interactions?You tease, you poke fun at them, your povoke them, you accuse them of things, you mess with them like a bratty little sister that you don't take seriously and want to get a little bit mad just for fun, you make fun of them lightheartedly, you push them away in lighthearted ways before pulling them back in when the tension is high. You don't respond with logic or objectivity to women's questions as that's predictable and neutraizes tension. You respond with subjectivity, exagerations, provocation… | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 03:21 AM |
| 4 | Tips for brown south asian man living in Europe?I found out the girls starts looking around mid convo or just leaves. This happens when they get bored, which tells me you are having platonic and safe bland conversations but I'll keep on reading... - Convos that I have almost flow well like " where are you from / I like your city- country / what's your hobby / oh you are very interesting, I like that " these are my first few lines As i predicted your conversations are the most generic, safe, neutral and bland you could have. No risks, no tensi… | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it still possible to recover?Not sure why you want advice from a seduction forum where the goal is to get romance or sex, if you just want a friendship with no sex and no romance. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 01:12 AM |
| 194 | Is it a coincidence that the women I treat like a second thought, generally care more about me than those I apply pressure on?Women are like butterflies, and men are supposed to attract them by nourshing a vibrant enticing garden, not chase them. When you go out “chasing butterflies” what you’re doing is running after something that is delicate, free, and naturally evasive. The more you chase, the futther away they fly. Now what is that... Cuz you’re signaling that your value lies outside of you, that you need to capture something in order to feel complete. now, if u become the irresistible garden, vibrant, colorful, o… | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 07:36 PM |
| 3 | How do i make it obvious that im looking for a serious relationship as a female?It's kinda irrelevant if you let it know because the problem is those guys will probably just lie to get what they want. Announcing what you want hoping that they will respect that boundary makes logical sense in theory, but it's a naive belief. It's not really something you have control over. All you can do is try to look for more authetic connection. | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 07:16 PM |
| 9 | Got 10 numbers in a day and none messaged back?You tease, you poke fun at them, your povoke them, you accuse them of things, you mess with them like a bratty little sister that you don't take seriously and want to get a little bit mad just for fun, you make fun of them lightheartedly, you push them away in lighthearted ways before pulling them back in when the tension is high. You don't respond with logic or objectivity to women's questions. You respond with subjectivity, exagerations, provocations, and an "I don't give a fuck how you take m… | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 02:23 AM |
| 35 | Got 10 numbers in a day and none messaged back?Just because women give you a number doesn't mean they are comitting to anything with you, it doesn't even mean they will still be interested after giving it to you. That's just a way to end the conversation without drama. They give it and then ignore you or block you, assuming they even give you a real number. You said that you had conversations that were good, and that might be true, from a man's perspective. From a woman's perspective the definition of good conversation can be drastically dif… | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 12:41 AM |
| 2 | How likely is it...If you think saying big and thick banan is supposed to be super risky thing to say, when it has double meaning and deep down you are not really saying anythig sexual because you are literally just saying that the banana is big and thick, then sorry mate, but you have a lot of social expereince lacking. No it's not uncalibrated if a woman is having fun with you and is enjoying her banana to say that. i said that joke a million times and much more riskier than that. But with you im usre it could b… | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | How likely is it...Well if her love is conditional, then imagine the rest of girls. Don't seek in other girls what your mum didn't give you because they won't. And if you lack empathy, then sorry but dating is not for you. As for the example, it matters as well how you say it. If you say it in a way that's overly serious or with an apologetic tone that is kinda expecting a bad reaction, or in a way that shows you are hoping to be applauded, then it won't work for you. If you fear a bad reaction when you say someti… | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 04:22 PM |
| -2 | Barney's playbook?Lmfao, ok buddy | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | I really like her, long distance?You met her two weeks ago, of course she is not gonna stay patient and loyal and neither should you. You are not in a commited relationship, so loyal to what? You are confusing feelings of infatuation with love. Hormones and infatuation can make you put a woman on a pedestal, even if you don’t really know her. You see her as perfect, flawless, “the one,” without having truly explored whether you actually like her, quirks and all. So, you’re not falling in love with her, but with the idea you’ve … | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 01:21 PM |
| -1 | Barney's playbook?Lol, it's a comedy, not a how to manual. lmfao Of course they don't work. | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 01:12 PM |
| 1 | How likely is it...Dude... - First of all why you trying to tease your mom. Show her some respect. She ain't a girl. Of course, your mom has to put boundaries, she is not your buddy, she is above you and always will be. Don't treat her like she is your age and don't be upset just because she didn't act like someone your age when you tried teasing her. The only one who gets to tease your mom is your father, or if she is divorced, whoever her partner happens to be now or in the future and htat knows how to flirt wit… | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 01:10 PM |
| 27 | Barney's playbook?It's not an actual serious book with useful advice mate. It's made as a joke. It's funny that you actually think it was some serious thign to follow. | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Bumped into a woman I kinda/sort of knew when we were kids. Added on Insta - Where to go now?You take the lead by sitting on the drivers seat tunring the car on and pushing the accelerator. You might crash sure, but getting somewhere with the car takes practice and making mistakes until you figure out. However, you need to be willing to lose girls on the learning proccess. In other words, you cannot really talk to this girl thinking "i don't wanna fuck this up" or "i wanna make sure that whatever i do works well" because unfortunately that's not realistic, even if you had the experience… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Can you overcome her preferences?You can "overcome" her preferences when you switch your mindset from trying to be liked by her, and instead shift back into provoking her, making her feel, challanging her and evaluating whether she is worthy of your time. You are supposed to be emotional expereince, you are the one she should tempted to experiment. Not because you fit her idea of what a good emotional experience should be according to her, but because you’re the kind of novelty she’s never tasted before and never saw coming, th… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 09:28 PM |
| 13 | Dating apps and cold approacheWhat to do? Step 1: Go to the gym, work out and lose body fat, become lean, and toned. Step 2: Learn social skills by reading books about it and putting it into practice in order to know what to say and to learn how to reduce anxiety. Yes social skills are the solution to anxiety. Books like Mystery method, Models, daygame code, magentic messaging, make them horny with humor, or no more mister nice guy. Step 3: Go to therapy in order to overcome those feelings of not being good enough or not lik… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 03:13 AM |
| 3 | My insane level of rejection fear is ruining it for me M19When someone says “X thing is creepy” what they really mean is “when i do x thing I feel creepy and therefore i am probably creepy” This means that you are projecting your own insecurities and experiences onto the action. In other words, you believe that approaching makes it creepy, whereas the action itself might not inherently be seen as creepy by others. For example, something as simple as giving a compliment can be seen as charming or flattering when done by someone who is confident, sincere… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Time to Give Up or do Something Else?So you give up because you refuse to learn how to approach women. That problem is the result of your choce to avoid learning and growing at all costs, not an irreversible conidtion that cannot be fixed. You want life on easy mode, and that's just not how life works for the rest of us mortals who have to put the effort to learn, experience pain, grow from it and improve our skills. You are hopeless, because you choose to be, not because hopelessness is something that's happening to you by an exte… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 12:56 AM |
| 1 | After date texting, did I fumble?Nothign too big, but you began to chase a little bit. Asking once was enough asking another just because your plane got delayed was a bit unnecesary as it allowed her to say no twice which was something you shold have seen it coming considering that people generally don't improvise things like that so quick more often than not. | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 12:52 AM |
| 1 | It's not a woman's job to tell you when and where to go on a dateThis might sound logical from a male perspective. But like already stated, a woman being free on a particular day doesn't mean she is commiting to a date with you on the particualr date even if she agrees to the a date. Whether she will attend the date will depend on how promising the date is and how she is feeling the same day of the date. She won't have any issue at all with cancelling last minute. So you don't want to revolve your life around a woman's schedule because that's handling too muc… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 08:27 PM |
| 9 | 8 month dryspell need help getting out of it 🙏They probably sensed arrogance or too much ego from you, and all those actions were meant to attack your ego by giving you harsh humble pie. Women don’t attack confidence; they attack what feels like compensating. If your energy comes off as "look at me," or like you need to prove something, their instinct is to knock you down a peg, not because they hate you, but because they’re responding to what feels like posturing. When women attack yoru ego, rather than acting like it's a punishment, you n… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 04:58 PM |
| 6 | It's not a woman's job to tell you when and where to go on a dateTrue. Hence why you need to be selective about which butterflies you actually let in your garden, cuz not every pretty butterfly deserves a place in your garden. | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 04:35 PM |
| 6 | It's not a woman's job to tell you when and where to go on a dateNever too late to date men since they are less exhausting. | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 03:59 PM |
| 7 | Struggling to physically escalateYou are too afraid to make things tense. Probably because your main priority above all else is: "Avoid fucking up, avoid making her uncomfortable, make sure you don't lose this chance". And when these is your main priority, ironically you will lose her anyway and get friendzoned. Because seduction is not about avoiding risk and avoiding tension, it's about embracing risk and creating tension. You can't win, if you just play not to lose. When your entire focus is on not messing up, you become ove… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 02:49 PM |
| 13 | It's not a woman's job to tell you when and where to go on a dateInstead of saying: "Hey Lisa! When are you free to get together? I was thining we could grab a drink this friday night at x bar? You can say: “"Hey Lisa. I’m grabbing a drink Friday night at this place I’ve been meaning to check out. low light, killer playlists, and apparently they make this smoky mezcal cocktail that’s ridiculous. You should swing by and match me drink for drink, if you think you can keep up.” The idea is that your plan should not depend on her. You cannot put yourself in a pos… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 02:43 PM |
| 28 | 8 month dryspell need help getting out of it 🙏- Had a rough date in late year where the girl essentially mocked and shamed me for my height (I’m 5’7) that wrecked my confidence a bit and I started dialling down how much I was going out or using apps This right here is where the problem started. This is something you still haven't got over with. When she said that, something in your head switched. Dating was no longer a game for you to have fun, connect and experiment, suddenly dating became about figuring out if you are good enough and prov… | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 02:22 PM |
| 8 | Double text to set up a dateWhy is it that you guys always wait to ask her out until she begins to change her behaviour for the worst? Asking her out is not supposed to be a hail mary to salvage a situation with a woman that starts to go wrong. You are now not asking from desire, but from fear of loss. It ain't seduction anymore, it's damage control. You were not leading. You were monitoring her responses, overanalyzing her signals, waiting for the perfect moment, which usually meant “when I feel safe enough to try”, and b… | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 12:02 PM |
| 1 | What to wear for casual date with older woman?Whatever feels good for you. Seduction is not about trying to dress for someone in particular, it's about being you unaplogetically and confidently. You aren't there to impress, or to prove your worth, or to seek approval. You are there to make her feel emotions. So your way of dressing should reflect how you would usually dress when you are meeting anybody else that you are not neccesarilly interested in. | /r/seduction | 24/05/25 04:54 PM |
| 3 | What goes through girls minds- When I was about to leave my sister's I asked her "where do we meet". To what she replied "dunno". I replied saying that since she is the local I would like her to show me her places in the city. From here on I never heard again from her Women need to feel excited about a plan, it's likely that having to be a your tour guide wasn't something exciting for her and she felt lazy about it. You can't assume that just because you think it would be a great idea to assign her a role she did not ask to… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Should I try to reschedule dates with girls who flake?This isn't pua, pua is telling him to do tricks and roitines. This is mindset and offering value. There is nothing wrong with coffee true. As long as she is gneuinely excited about you, if her interest is lukewarm or neutral, where she not completely sold, but also not closign the door completely. A coffee is very likely to get cancelled, unless there was a strong connection established beforehand. Like i said, the plan needs to be exciting, if your personality is super exciting on it's own then… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 08:25 PM |
| 15 | Should I try to reschedule dates with girls who flake?- In the past few days, I set up three dates, and in the end, all three girls canceled, without giving much of an explanation, just a “sorry, I won’t be able to make it today.” Look mate the problem is do you think they are missing out? Probably not based on how you asked the question. When you go on dates, the girls must feel like they are signing up for something amaizng that they would hate themselves if they miss out on. So what is the actual plan you invite them to? Just a coffee? Sounds li… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 02:55 PM |
| 2 | My mind has these thoughts that make sense to me that keep me feeling bitterYou know it when your priority is making sure that the girl doesn't leave you and making the relationship last as long as possible. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 12:09 PM |
| 3 | Response to common questions that women ask?Just don't be boring and logical. She asks: "Do all men cheat?" Bad answer: "Well some do, some don't. We can't generalize with everyone." It's bad because it's super predictable, even an AI bot could say this stuff. It doesn't say anything about you. Good answer: "Depends on how hot the woman is" , "men cheating is an absolute myth", "nah women are the biggest cheaters" These are good not because they are ethical or truthful, but because they show you don't give a shit about her approval, they … | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 02:16 AM |
| 5 | Starting cold approaching at 19- Should I just start now or should I work on my physique first? Having a better physique won't remove your anxiety or insecurities about cold approaching. - Should I only approach if they give signs? When you cold approach, there are no signs, hence why it's called "cold approach". If there were signs it would be called a "warm approach". Cold approach means you approach because you feel like it and have the balls to do it, not because women are signalling you to do it. - How to not take reject… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Self esteem issuesThe garden is your lifestyle, your life when you are on your own. What's exciting about your life? If the answer is nothing forget about women because women don't want to be the reason your life suddenly becomes exciting. Do you have outside hobbies? Do you go out to have new experiences and adventures? Do you try new things? Are you good at sex to the point women will miss sleeping with you because of how satisfying it feels to do it with you? Are you a fun person to be around? Do you sing well… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:55 AM |
| 3 | Sudden Improvement"My god, we'd look terrible together" as a tease is better than "we look good together". Because one creates tension and it's unpredictable. The other dissolves tension as it gives her validation that she did not earn. In texting you want to trigger emotions, make things tense, playful, provocative, intriguing, mysterious or spark curiosity. Being nice is basically being bland and emotionally flat. So a way to create tension, is to use push and pull, examples: “You’ve definitely got that ‘bad id… | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 12:15 AM |
| 5 | What's the play coach?Be a free thinker and look how flawed another dude's argument is. "Don't do cold approaches because women don't want to be approached at the store, work or gym unless you are 10 out of 10" Now this is premise, but where is the evidence for this that women don't want to be approached at those places? Every girl is different, there are some women who do, some women who don't. There is no evidence if the majority want to or don't want to. So where is this conclusion coming from? Probably from certa… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 11:43 PM |
| 10 | What to do with shy girls who don’t talk back much?They feel shy adn not very talkative because they don't feel like opeing up, and that happens when they don't feel like they relate to you or like you would understand where they are coming from. People naturally feel like sharing who they are when they feel free to express themselves as they are without fear of judgment and when the other person validates their feelings or relates to them. Then it feels fresh, like you don't have to keep your guard up around that person who seems to have simila… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 04:14 PM |
| 5 | Self esteem issuesWhat you are saying here is "I don't believe i'm good enough, i don't think i deserve her, but hopefully she tells me im wrong and believes in me even when i don't believe in myself". That "Please convince me I’m worth loving" only tends to repel women and no matter how much you try to hide it from her, it shows subtly through your actions and the way you speak to women in general. You are not trying to connect, you are trying to seek approval from her. You are not treating her like an equal, yo… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Dying for answers lolWell i'm sure I have driven off the highway way more times than you ever will and I'm still standing. But your thoughts already hint that the biggest battle you have right now is not about dating or women, it's with yourself. Just something to think about for more a brief moment. | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Dying for answers lol- I can definitely understand this, but in my experience, it's a recipe for disaster. That's something I've never been really good at at all. Sure, but that's no different than when you are learning to drive cars and saying "if i start driving on the highway i might probably crash because i still didn't get my driving license and can't still control vehicles in more safer zones". The answer to that is to practice more in order to learn, not to avoid taking risks and never learning. - In my mind,… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Dying for answers lolWhether she is interested or not will highly depend on what you tell her and make her feel. Her interest is not set in stone, it depends on whether you say something that makes her feel something from the very beggining or whether you are boring and generic right away. If women shut you down quickly, it's because you are being too generic, bland, and safe and thus not making her feel anything significant right away when it matters most. You need to be emotionally impactful from the very first mi… | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Dying for answers lolBecause taken women aren't in the game so they are more relaxed and not in "asses this guy" mode. They also get an ego boost from male attention and it also aligns with their primal mate-switching strategy, which consists on keeping men orbiting around, just in case as a backup plan, even if they are in happy relationships. They are not neccesarily thinking of cheating, but they are also not burning bridges, because they know it's important to hedge just in case, even if you are not too attracti… | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 09:41 PM |
| 3 | its 35 yo a good age to start, or its already too late?It's not like it's a choice whether you start or not. Self-development and self-improvement are part of the maturing proccess which never stops throuhgout your entire life. You could tell yourself that you are choosing not to start, which is like saying "I'm gonna stop evolving as a person". Even if you try, cirumstances of life are always nudging you forward, pushing you to adapt or break through limits. It’s not even a conscious decision; it’s part of being human. The real question is whether … | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 02:39 PM |
| 5 | Why Women Hate Nice Guys - An In-Depth Explanation On Why You Lose OutIt's not about being good or bad, it's about creating tension or being bland. Those you refer to as "nice guys" are not neccesarilly nice or nicer than the so called "bad guys". Everyone belives in their own head they are nice or morally correct from their subjective point of view. The so called nice guys just claim they are nice because they avoid conflcit at all costs, they avoid tension, they act like doormats, and then think that just because they do the bare minimum of not being an asshole … | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 01:15 PM |
| 2 | How to get over fear of being perceived as a creep or horndog?You have been mentally conditioned to believe that expressing desire in a girl is unwelcome and innaporpiate for women, specially if they have not indicated any clear sign of interest in you first. This is what makes you reluctant. It's a fear that comes from anxeity, anxiety predicts they will take it badly. Ironically when you are conivnced they will react badly and you approach anyways, your approach portrays all that inner doubt and insecurity expecting the worst, which is ironically what ma… | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 05:43 PM |
| 348 | Can you pull 9s and 10s while you are 6 or 7?Yes, but only when you start treating those 9s and 10s as 5s or 6s. | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 05:13 PM |
| 8 | [M33] Hypothetically, does friendzoning a girl after making out or more work?When you try to control the outcome, you will inevitably ruin everything. Attempting to control the outcome and dating don't mix well together. You begin calculating, filtering, overthinking every word and reaction. And women feel that. It’s not connection anymore; it’s performance with a pressure behind it. Real connection flows from letting go of how it’s "supposed" to go and actually tuning in to what’s happening. So stop trying to manage the future like a spreadsheet. Be honest, be present, … | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 03:11 PM |
| 3 | As a man, what does “bringing value” vs “taking value” actually mean in cold approaches?Taking value: You want to get something from her like "her approval, her number, a date,..." This energy says "please like me, please choose me, hope im good enough for you". Bringing/giving value: You want to offer something to her like: your playfullness, your curiosity, an opportunity to play together,,... This energy is more like "hey yo, i don't know you but fuck it, let's just get married" or "on a scale from innocent angel to should be supervised in public, where do you fall". "you look l… | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 11:47 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond when a girl answers most questions with “I was just feelin spontaneous”?If they don't open up, then you are the one who should open up personally without waiting for them to ask about how you feel, examples: "If i were you i would feel..." or "i once did that and i felt..." or "you know that felling you get which is like..." or "i once felt so (insert intense emotion) because (describe the experience, the sensations...) The thing is you need to be detailed about the feeling, you can't just say "i felt good or bad" which is vague. You need to be way more detailed. Do… | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 02:49 PM |
| 4 | How do you respond when a girl answers most questions with “I was just feelin spontaneous”?That's because women are like that. They don't have a reason to do things, they just do what they feel like on pure impulses and then they sometimes may rationalize why they felt like doing it. So stop asking why they do the things they do, and instead be more curious about how they actually feel or felt doing the things they do or did. That will allow them to give you better answers. | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Girl sending mixed signalsConfronting her is basically being all petty and whiny like "oh my gooood, why don't you give me attentiooonn!!! Im so upseeeet!!!". It's not masculone, it's petty. If you don't like waiting so long just move on without saying anything. Just focus on your own life and on other girls. But whining that a woman takes too long to reply sorry that's not gonna do anyting good for you other than look needy as fuck. If she takes long to reply is because she has other shit that is more improtant than you… | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 01:17 AM |
| 6 | We talke -> exchanged phone numbers -> no resposne ??This might sound harsh but women give numbers to many more guys in nights out specially at bars. For you she might be special, for her you are just another unmemorable conversation that made her feel nothing significant. Just some disposable entertainment. If you are out talking to women at bars, then it's better to just try to escalate to kissing and sex that same night, not try to continue meeting up some other day. | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 10:05 PM |
| 2 | What's the point of a cold approach? Or rather, how you make it work?Beaches, public parks, airport longues, train stations, and college/university campuses. | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Shopping mall approachesMystery mehtod wasn't made for daygame. It's made for nightclubs. Negging women who are not on that energy or drunk will get you shot down real quick. Daygame requires you to be more natural, not rely so much on routines. Unfortunately, mystery method was all made with the nightclub in mind, and anyone with experience knows nightclub and malls require very different styles of game. Daygame requiring you to not hide desire, create more connection, being more flirty and not tryinng to neg them bec… | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 05:59 PM |
| 5 | What's the point of a cold approach? Or rather, how you make it work?Walk up to a girl who seems cute and say something like: hi I just thought you look really pretty today, what do you think about getting a coffee or going for a walk sometimes? This will get you no results because most poeple don't wanna sit down with a stranger they know nothing about or don't know if they can trust. Put yourself in women's shoes, why would she trust that you have good intentions? Why would she feel safe going out somewhere with you when she doesn't know you? You could be dange… | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 05:50 PM |
| 1 | How do I even be "clear with my intentions "What does “being clear” actually mean? It’s about showing, not telling: Show you’re attracted. Show you’re not afraid to flirt. Show you’re grounded enough to hold sexual tension without rushing or apologizing. Instead of “I want to fuck you,” say something like: "You’re the kind of girl who makes a guy forget his good intentions" or "If you keep looking at me like that, I’m going to stop pretending I have self-control.” It’s playful, flirty, suggestive, and clear. It's about implying desire ins… | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 01:48 AM |
| 6 | getting a number but no text backJust because a woman gives you her number, doesn't mean she is interested in you. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 11:08 PM |
| 5 | At what point do you guys bring things like flowers to girls you're seeingWhen she is your offical girlfriend. If you only have sex, but are not in an official exclusive relationship, then you don't. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 11:02 PM |
| 1 | How to pull a girl when ur alonei was not giving advice to OP in this answer. I was replying to someone else. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 10:57 PM |
| 53 | How to pull a girl when ur aloneGirls only get comfortable around guys who are comfortable in their own skin. If you feel self-concious or uncomfortable about being alone, that vibe will be projected and girls will sense it making them uncomfortable. If you just own it, and are completely confident with the fact that you are alone, without feeling the need to justify yourself, they will be at ease. So it's all about your vibe. If girls test you about being alone and you immediately become defensive, that's what will turn them … | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 05:31 PM |
| 27 | How to pull a girl when ur alonePeople who care about being wierd are insecure and that's the real turn off. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Starting Cold approaches tomorrowI’m also aware that I will come off as a creep to some girls even if I do everything right, but oh well. If you come off as creep, there is a chance that you are not doing everything right even if you think you do. Beeing creepy happens when you are not socially aware, when you talk or do things with internal guilt or lack of conviction that it's perfectly fine which projects through your vibe. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 12:44 PM |
| 2 | I just got rejected.The reason you take a rejection so badly is because you still don't comprehend that a rejection doesn't say anything about your worth as a person. You are still thinking that if a girl likes you that's proof that you are worth something, and that if a girl does not like you then that's proof that you are worth nothing. Both conclusions are wrong and misguided. Because a girl liking you has nothing to do with your worth. It's about whether you connect sexually and emotionally and if you don't tha… | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | How to approach regaining trust after an overly-emotional reaction?THe problem with fucking up once is that women feel it and they don't forget it. It takes just one tiny little mistake that you think should be easily forgiven if everything else was done well, but nope. Women don't give second chances once they feel that shift in your energy even if it was just a very brief. You need to remember that if you are outcome dependent you will always lose. And any mistake in texting is 10 times worst than any mistake in person, because your desperation and neediness … | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Question for the unexplainable.Women show you more interest when they are in their ovulating period, and sometimes their ovulation periods are in sync. It also can happen if you project more self-assurance or presence based on your body language and non-verbal communication that you might do without being fully aware of it because it shifts based on how you are feeling on a particular time period. | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Just arrived from a dateSounds like you behaved too platonic, like a friend rather than a lover. So no sexual tension generated. If she wants a second date, which is not very likely, you will have one last shot to at least go for a kiss clearly, otherwise you will probably be told she just sees you as a friend and nothing more than that. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 08:24 PM |
| 1 | What should i do?Always remember that girls are not emotionally invested in any conversation that happens in a dating app. Talking with guys is similar to watching videos on tiktok or instagram reels. It might grab your attention for a while, but it's very likely that she will be distracted by the new videos as she keeps scrolling and forget the ones before. In other words, dating apps make people disposable and easily repleacable by the new emotional high. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Should you be open with your intentions?Being upfront doesn't mean directly saying "hey i may not know you at all, but i like your body and i want to have sex for fun once with you." It means showing interest in getting to know her first, and then escalating gradually to sex until sex becomes a consequence of the charged sexual tension that has been generated during the conversation. Sex does not happen immediately, it needs forplay first, and that requires getting to know her first. Even if you are just looking to meet one girl today… | /r/seduction | 13/05/25 08:00 PM |
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