I thought there were two types of women, sex positive and sex negative. Those who were raised to feel shame for their sexual desires, afraid of being called a slut, they are unlikely to want to experiment in bed. I still think that with time you can turn these girls sex positive, show them how beautiful sex is, consume the right media, communicate.

Now once a girl realises sex can be fun and enjoys exploring each other’s bodies. I assumed almost everyone would be open to trying role play, bdsm, different positions.

But after reading many posts I realised many girls find bdsm demeaning. The power play isn’t fun for them? It’s degrading even when done with safe words.

I thought of such sex like horror movies or haunted house, we know it’s not a “real” haunted house. We suspend our disbelief and enjoy our time there. It’s not supposed to be really hurtful. So I’m curious how many girls you know have felt uncomfortable with bondage, submission, paddles, master slave and other role play, etc. where do you guys draw the line?

Personally for me, I don’t think electric play, choking and like any real pain is going to be fun. I might try once but I’m very skeptical it will enhance my experience.