Hey fellow dudes, I've posted here from time to time and appreciate all the frank advice! I'm 6 months past divorce judgement and life is going pretty good. The exw decided her life was so terrible that she just had to cheat with the greatest emotional connection of her life and I peaced out of that as quickly as possible. I got my new house, big back yard, 50/50 with my kids, working out like a fiend and in general things are proceeding well despite having to see the exw as part of kids activities.
One thing I noticed being a divorced guy. You seem to get the "side eye" as I call it or where people view you suspiciously. Whether it be new neighbors (most are cool, a couple are a little cold), people at my kids school or whatever, it's just an "odd" feeling you get from people when they know you are divorced. I have no doubt my exw has poisoned the well a little bit at my kid's elementary school but still I feel like there is some stigma even with new people.
As for me, I'll never say I was a perfect husband but I worked hard for my family, was always there for my kids and am an active dad with them and definitely my wife's infidelity 100% killed our marriage, I never even looked at another woman despite travelling and even feeling somewhat alone in my marriage. Yet I feel like she comes out smelling like a rose. I did make sure to get the story out to friends and family but the wider net would not know.
Anyways, before I blather, has anyone else got this and how did you best deal with it? I'm simply dealing with all this by being kick ass at Dad life, being friendly and humorous with everyone and not being angry and hating life. Just curious how other's situations worked out.
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