I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girls

robbywallstreet · 2022-04-07T16:14:14+00:00

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shortyafter · 2022-04-07T16:50:56+00:00

Check out the argument from authority fallacy . Basically you can get advice from a guy that gets tons of pussy but has no idea how he got it " just be yourself bro " and good advice from someone that studied the game for a long time but doesn't get pussy for different reasons.

If the advice is good, is good regardless of the guy who says it. Advice like looking better, having boundaries, being a good person but not a doormat, stuff like that will always be fundamentals for good reason.

MattPruga · 2022-04-07T19:26:01+00:00

it's reddit, most are not

vroomvroomski · 2022-04-07T15:21:35+00:00

I gave better advice when I didn't get girls than now, because it feels more natural to me so I can't pinpoint things I'm doing.

Exmerus · 2022-04-07T16:24:28+00:00

I get girls. But still learn from y'all.

appmanga · 2022-04-07T18:23:51+00:00

The advice can be different because people are different. The reason I don't get as many women now is I'm now in an age bracket where women come with a lot more complications. I now have more interest in exercising preferences instead of just getting laid. But I'm still not dumb enough to turn down sex.

The primary thing I try to get guys to know is women want men as much as men want women and women aren't some unfathomable mystery beings. I would love to be 20-years old these days when half the guys in the world seem to be deathly afraid of women.

Crisia_1234 · 2022-04-07T15:28:04+00:00

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VDKay · 2022-04-07T20:12:16+00:00

Some people who get girls can give absolutelly horrible advice, while people who are not so experienced but observe a lot can give really insightful information.

As others say, it's up to you to keep not only what advice comes from the most experienced people, but also to keep what clicks with you as well.

Also, keep in mind that the issue with reddit is that each sub is an echo chamber and karma rewards keep it that way. E.g. here on seduction, we put far too much focus on "work on yourself first". Being an echo chamber both "experienced" and "noob" users will propagate the same advice because we get conditioned to do so. I said "far too much focus", because, yes, it's generally good advice, but it is a blanket statement. IMO, many people are good enough already, and also it's true that really controversial advice may work best for some people, but will really be buried deep with downvotes and "political correctness"

UnparliamentaryTea · 2022-04-08T00:00:44+00:00

The advice you see is generally pretty good and will help you with women in general. A better question might be what level of satisfaction people feel with their success and utilizing their advice.

In general I’m pretty happy, I match with a lot of really attractive women on dating apps, go out on a lot of dates, and maybe half of these dates end with us going home together. I’m also tall, good enough looking for just about any girl, and dress well enough for most women as well. I think I often give off a generic semi-flirty “friend” vibe, but a lot of the women I go out with like me enough that it doesn’t matter.

I also still struggle to be engaging and fun over text with that super hot girl on hinge, or to know what to do when the cute girl in the friend group touches my arm when she laughs and likes to rest her head on my shoulder. I’m sure I could give someone else advice in these circumstances, but it’s harder to apply in situations where I’m in my head about it than in those I feel completely confident and more detached from outcome. My point in saying this is that most of the advice you see does work and is solid if applied correctly and consistently. Nothing is a magic potion that works every single time, just like your own confidence, energy, and vibe is going to fluctuate from situation to situation. In general, however, if you follow the ideas in this sub you’ll notice increased success

Plamb79 · 2022-04-07T15:18:45+00:00

Even ones who don’t get girls still have an opinion that they like to share. Most people just try to help.

skinisblackmetallic · 2022-04-07T15:20:59+00:00

This is a legitimate concern and a question that could never really be answered unfortunately.

RastaPilot737 · 2022-04-07T16:37:19+00:00

I limit giving advise on what were my previous experiences, sometimes it's in line with other sometimes overlap, the thing is that you go try it yourself and see if it works.

BigTBoneDog · 2022-04-07T17:30:03+00:00

Well, I prefer do share advice on how to not get girls. I find that I mastered that art a long time ago and it is pleasure to teach y'all about it.

Woujo · 2022-04-07T21:44:00+00:00

The reality is that you will never know, so instead of just blindly trusting what guys on the internet say, focus on trying a bunch of different shit and applying advice you see in many different places. If a lot of people are saying X, X probably works.

At the end of the day, you need to figure out for yourself. Nobody can really help you.

AngeloMacon · 2022-04-08T01:43:18+00:00

Yeah, the real answer to all of you is go make friends. And in the process, you will meet some guys you can see are good with women. You ask that guy. But I domt know, millennial blah blah blah

2022-04-07T15:46:16+00:00

It will be hard to give practical advice without some expirience. But success alone does not mean that you are able to abstract what you are doing and that you are able to emphasise in a scenario of another person.

You can never know, who is sitting at the other end, giving you advice. It could be a kid, who never leaves the basement. That's why you should never blindly trust an advice, even when the majority on this board agrees with it. Always view it just as an inspiration, think through it on your own and draw your own conclusions based on your own expirience in real life.

2022-04-07T16:47:45+00:00

I get bitches

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2022-04-07T16:30:55+00:00

I do. 29, 10+ partners. Five of those years I was in a committed relationship that resulted in marriage and a divorce. Two partners since divorce in the last 6 months. One is my current gf of 3 months.

Particular_Visual531 · 2022-04-07T17:49:41+00:00

After 5+ years of developing a very successful system and implementing it, I'm now attached to a wonderful woman. But I have given and can give advice. I was dating 4 to 8 times a week. Dated 4-6 women almost always. Dated before the pandemic and during. Dated in multiple countries and my own country. I dated in resort areas as well as more typical areas. i dated in cities and also an area of many smaller cities. I have met women in the hottest clubs in the largest cities and I've met women online, especially during the pandemic. A typical weekend would be 2-5 dates depending on my mood. a first date or two, a date with a fwb or two and a date with a 2-4 date. I don't like to sleep with women on a first date, I like to develop some connection so Its a bit more work but i generated immense attraction for me in their lives. I had weekends where I went on 4 first dates and every woman said it was the best first date they ever had. I'm on here because I like to help guys be successful and I am planning to start doing it professionally in seminars with a follow up because its a process and you need to continually work to remember. What i teach is based on the science of attraction from pyschology studies and attraction experts. I'm very practical, I'll tell you how and why to do stuff but you got to go and do it. It sometimes takes some money to be most successful, for example, if you're teeth are a mess go get braces. I won't hold back but I want those i coach to succeed. I also believe I'm truly helping women. There are millions of girls in America that want to date and find relationships but are waiting on men to get their act together so the men are attractive enough to ask them out. Long term once a guy feels successful enough, he'll attract and connect with the right woman. Replicate that a million times and you make the world a much better place. But it starts with men understanding how to take control of their lives, be attractive, and thus confident.

Fit-Personality3003 · 2022-04-07T16:27:29+00:00

How often du u have to fuck to be "getting girls" i wonder?

chiheb_22 · 2022-04-07T23:27:37+00:00

Coaches don't play

2022-04-08T00:13:47+00:00

I'm old and been at this for well over 20+ years. Notches on my belt go into the upper double figures, but after a while you lose count and stop caring.

I'm also married with children - so I know what I'm talking about from every angle you can possibly think of, be that getting laid or relationship management.

21383029582873 · 2022-04-07T15:53:37+00:00

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mr_minerman · 2022-04-07T17:50:44+00:00

Every age group of women is different. I've found the early 20s and early 30s girls are completely different in what they are looking for in a man. Haven't even touched a woman in her 40s but I can imagine they are different as well. My experience with seduction is a lot like negotiating. To be an effective negotiator, you need to be able to place your self on both sides to truly understand what each party wants out of the deal. If you're trying to seduce women in their late 20s early 30s, you'll need to ask yourself, what are they looking for in a man? Most likely they value your ability to provide, will you be a good father, are you a genuinely good person, what is your relationship with your family like, are you fit and healthy? I'm not saying become a chameleon or fake it, but you need to outwardly display the traits that they are looking for.

ThePenTester88 · 2022-04-07T19:38:40+00:00

I actually think men who have less dating experience have the better advice. Why? Because they see from the outside in. They see what others are doing right and wrong. They see what is working and what isnt. They aren't jaded or bitter about a breakup, they aren't getting cheated on or have animosity either. Yes, some of those men are probably bitter but

2022-04-07T19:44:39+00:00

I for one give advice without getting much (still more than I would've got if I hadn't learnt this stuff). My reasoning is that I've learned a lot of what not to do, and quite often my advice is centered around avoiding doing things that have harmed my game in the past. There's merit in someone giving advice on what not to do.

SocialReject101 · 2022-04-07T20:13:46+00:00

I am a virgin at 33 y/o

Archyblackcat · 2022-04-07T20:38:50+00:00

Hardly anyone gives good advice.. those who do are the ones that get girls .. the others don’t , so they’re here giving advice without getting girls them selves ....

designer-gas · 2022-04-07T23:19:12+00:00

Success and confidence is all it takes. Easier said than done

blackopsplayer5 · 2022-04-08T00:00:18+00:00

I’m not getting girls because i got lazy and am kind of a hermit rn but i have! I-I p-promise guys!

2022-04-08T01:30:58+00:00

Im a virgin

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-08T02:09:57+00:00

It is an excellent question.

When I started posting here and posting advice I was in a LTR. Just figured I could help younger dudes and chicks out (I’m 51 now) with figuring shit out.

Then I broke up with my ex and jumped back into the swing lifestyle. Had some fun for a couple months then met a 28 year old and we agreed to be FWB’s. Six foot tall Russian blond and built but unfortunately she was dumb as a post. Then I met my now current girl. We had stayed open for a while and now we are exclusive and getting much more seriously involved.

So yeah I get plenty when I’m trying but right now I’m a haply man with what inhavr and where I’m at. About to take a five day trip with her amazing the first part of a week plus off together.

Upstairs-Locksmith96 · 2022-04-08T02:37:09+00:00

I am who I am and I always will

my_name_isnt_cool · 2022-04-08T04:18:35+00:00

Honestly. One guy made a post about how he didn't understand why women didn't date him when he had so much "potential." Some of it is genuinely good advice but sometimes...nah.

2022-04-08T04:39:27+00:00

Ask the dudes for videos...

Tell them to reveal their faces and show pics of them with women...

victorhugogime · 2022-04-08T14:18:28+00:00

Getting results doesn't directly correlate to good advice, some really deformed looking inkwell might have got a single girl at try 99999th,

Some adonis looking absolute stallion got his 99th lay of the month,

I bet you, the ugly guy advice is more sound, because it is a much more impressive feat,

If the hot dude applies the ugly guys advice he would triple results,

TLDR: results need more factors in account, including luck, which doesn't mean the factor "game" is the one lacking when talking results,

This is why i take most coaches with a grain of salt, because they attribute success to only the factors they are selling, and try to ignore randomness.

LevelUp84 · 2022-04-08T14:38:36+00:00

Like secret_twitch said, filter the bad advice for the good advice.

One top comment was: leave your ego at the door, but don't take disrespect. Basically, a girl you are hitting on might move one to another guy asap or she might ignore you.

Another piece was to talk to everyone instead of just the hot girl you like.

Particular_Visual531 · 2022-04-08T18:16:01+00:00

During the pandemic I primarily did picnic dates in a park. I'll look up an earlier post where I explained exactly how to do it. For a normal first date I normally try to meet for drinks or an activity. It doesn't matter too much except the date must feel romantic. No mid day coffee dates! God that's what you do to catch up with your family or friends. You want everything to build attraction and chemistry. I posted an indepth first date guide as well. I'll try to post that here too.

Title	I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girls
Author	dametime223
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Date	April 7, 2022 3:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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