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[–]LlamaTony 184 points185 points186 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The deadpan mention about you balding after already teasing. Forget that bitch. These aren’t shit tests, she’s a cunt.
[–]Alextryingforgrate 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah it’s already too late let her go. OP should have made boundaries after 2 or 3 tests. The second OP was thinking about coming here to ask this question is when he should have told her to kick rocks go buy a dildo and go fuck herself.
[–]_tantan 81 points82 points83 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If all these a real situations please just leave her. These aren’t even shit tests it’s just being blatantly disrespectful.
[–]IGetBoredSometimes23 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she's a bratty sub.
But she's not your sub, so she's just being an asshole. Tell her she's rude and needs to go fuck herself.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a seriously good point. I love brats because it’s fun for both of us to put them in their place but 99% of this sub would have a meltdown. I don’t think people here are into a bdsm mentally
[–]IGetBoredSometimes23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True. Most of the boys here think they're dominant but they don't know the first thing about being a Dom.
[–]19Black 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a girl is saying these things to you, she is not interesting in having sex with you, only in mocking you.
[–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This reminds me of an experience I had with a girl. She would shit test me in nasty ways. I would play it cool…then she would just come up with an even nastier way to shit test me. It was like she was trying to get a reaction out of me, trying to find where the line was. The thing is that a lot of shit tests feel disrespectful too, so it can get to the point where you have to call them out, but how do you go about that? I guess at that point your probably supposed to cut the girl off lol.
[–][deleted] 54 points55 points56 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Hold frame. Dont ever drop it. Mentally it should be clear she's not worthy of commitment because she sounds like a slut.
You can still fuck. Just. hold. frame.
[–]JLidii 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
THIS. This is where I pretty much fucked up with my summer fling/gf. After I removed myself from the situation and detached I realized that I could fuck her and see her as long as I wanted. Could have used this advice 2 months ago!
[–]crazybikedude 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What is holding frame mean
[–]SombraBlanca 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe someone can explain it better but what helped me understand is to think about frame as the degree to which the person you're presenting yourself to be is consistent with who you actually are. For example, someone struggling with anxiety trying to come off as calm and cool obviously doesn't add up therefore that person couldn't hold that frame. Now if that same person is managing their anxiety well, coming off calm and cool is much more inline with who they actually are, and the frame is stronger.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Holding frame is remaining the strong assertive male you were born to be throughout anything in a situation, as the man you are ‘framed’ as the dominant role in the pairing, this is nature
A lion does not concern himself with the thoughts of the sheep, as such a confident man doesn’t take notice when someone under him, be it make or female (he is alpha remember), pokes fun at him he is confident and holds true to the alpha he is ‘framed’ as
Hold true to being a confident man, if they joke, exaggerate what they say to make it sound ridiculous, if you are stuck for words, laugh it off, if you u trip, do a little dance
Let her know you aren’t phased by anything being thrown your way
Be unattached to outcome and confident in the skills and personality you possess
Hold true to your frame
[–][deleted] 22 points23 points24 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Generally, girls utilizing shit tests should be avoided altogether. No high-quality man would entertain the games they are playing.
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[–]Inked-Erotica 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Shit tests are to see if the guy has major issues with anger, respecting a gal’s boundaries, or other red flags that could endanger her, right?
For OP’s situation, it sounds more like she’s just being shitty than actually shit testing. Examples 1 and 3 I can kinda understand on their own, but 2 and 4 take it too far. There is a difference between checking if he’s going to potentially hurt you and going out of your way to be repeatedly and seriously shitty, just like there’s a difference between taking a biopsy with a needle or a scalpel so you can run some diagnostics, and hacking someone’s leg off with a wood ax for sport.
And I say this as someone who supports women using shit tests. It means they’re being proactive and thoughtful about their safety and who they’re letting into their lives, and while it’s sad they have to do that, it’s good they’re looking out for themselves.
Like, so what if I’m emotionally uncomfortable for a couple minutes? Boo fucking hoo. She’s literally assessing whether or not I’m likely to harass, rape, abuse or even murder her because she grew up in a world where she has to do that for her own safety.
They don’t owe me their time, respect, or trust, just as I don’t owe them mine. That stuff is earned by both parties, and as individuals we can decide how that is earned. Women have as much of a right to decide how, when, and why their respect and trust is earned as anybody else.
And seriously, when I’ve asked my partner and our female friends about where the bar is and what they’re looking for with shit tests for both friends and potential partners, it’s stuff like “Does he know how to take no for an answer?” “Will he freak tf out if I’m 5 minutes late?” “Does he throw temper tantrums or is he actually capable of expressing his emotions in a mature way?” “Is he really possessive or does he actually acknowledge that I’m an autonomous human being and not an object?” “How does he treat his mom or waitstaff?” “How does he talk about other women?” (Bc if you shit talk other women, you’re probably going to shit talk her too)
It’s mostly just basic stuff like that where the bar is so low it’s a tripping hazard in hell, but so many of us have been right down there with it limbo dancing with the devil that women have gotta filter them out somehow or else they could be serious hurt/killed.
And I know there’s way more to a relationship than just the answers to those questions, but they are a legitimately important baseline for deciding if someone deserves your time, trust and respect. Regardless of a person’s gender identity or yours, if they don’t understand/value consent, handle their emotions better that a toddler, treat you like a person, and/or act civilized/respectful to ppl they see as “below” them on the social ladder, you should not date them/keep them in your life because that’s an awful person. You deserve better, and their dog shit behavior should not be validated
Anyways, that’s my take on shit testing. Why do you think “high quality men” would want someone who doesn’t care about the kinds of people she lets in her life or bed? That seems rather counter intuitive to say the least.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
High-quality men are in demand, hence they shouldn't accept taking all kinds of tests simply to make sure that you feel safe or confident enough that he's worth your time. Instead, he should determine if you're are worth of his time, and surprisingly that's often done without playing all sorts of games.
Do you see the difference? One is about leading people on, the other is about establishing boundaries and aligning expectations. You could ask why women shit test and men don't, it's a different approach to dating and one that women should adopt instead of playing around.
Also, your last paragraph is more of a straw man than anything. Shit testing isn't equivalent to less promiscuity. On the contrary, high-value women will be straight up about what they want and avoid beating around the bush.
That's my take. As someone career-oriented with limited time on my hands, I'm neither able nor want this kind of childish behaviour in my dating life.
[–]Inked-Erotica -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean, I fundamentally disagree with you about making sure somebody is safe to invest your time in being equivalent to leading someone on or playing games. Playing games implies it’s frivolous, and leading someone on implies that she doesn’t care. You don’t legit shit test somebody if you don’t care about the response/the person giving the response. That’s just being an asshole.
As for being straight up and honest about what you want, it’s more complicated than that. People can and will lie. People can and will rationalize away their shitty behavior as not a problem. Actions are more honest, and shit testing is just asking a man to speak with his actions instead of with his words.
As for the “straw man,” I was genuinely referring to the kind of person, and used “life or bed” as a stand in for platonic life and love life respectively. If I wanted to talk about body count/numbers, I would have explicitly stated that I was switching topic from kinds of people to quantities of people. Good for you for calling out potential slut shaming though, we need more ppl like you calling that out (I’m actually being genuine and not facetious here)
[–]Raging_Asian_Man 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Imagine dealing with "shit tests" like that the rest of your life (or however long you plan on seeing her). Is that really what you want? If a woman treats you like that, move on immediately and save yourself a huge fucking headache.
[–]Twobithatter 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should draw the line when you feel disrespected. If a girl teases me about balding thats fine I can take it. A video of her getting fucked is way passed a shit test.
[–]martyr1337 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
ok there's a difference between shit test and toxic behaviour.
She is super insecure. I've dated a woman like this and ended things after 3 months. She drove me nuts. Always seeking for validation, constantly trying to test me with telling how many other guys are after her etc. forget about here because she won't stop.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Did she have a bad relationship with her father and/or bad experiences with men in her past?
[–]pratobison 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would have tossed a subtle neg back at her. Maybe commented on the fact that most people don’t know how common it is for women to lose their hair.
[–]chipper14 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had to look up what a shit test is because I have never heard or even done anything like that. That woman sucks if she’s doing all that to you, say it whenever the fuck you want to. Don’t entertain her or anyone’s games, you deserve better!
[–]JacobMoogberg69 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I mean in essence you sat there and took it. She felt that she could get away with all of this in one way or another. So where is the self respect? If she makes fun of you being bald, just say "whoa, okay there, don't know who pissed in your cereal this morning, but sure it wasn't me. Let's try this again being nicer". Or "I don't really appreciate you making fun of my bald head. My rule is to always have honesty, trust and respect". if she persists drop her ass. I don't really subscribe to the whole shit test theory of "let her abuse you and be witty about it".
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If you respond like that you sound like a butt hurt guy who’s insecure. OP responded a lot better.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sure, but that's how /u/JacobMoogberg69 might respond. OP should respond in a similar fashion but with their own words.
For me, it'd be something like "I'm all for teasing but that's a little much" and if she doesn't respect it, I'd begin to close that door
[–]macroxela 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Quite the opposite, saying what u/jacobmoogberg69 said takes confidence. It shows that you have boundaries and enforce them no matter what. Not enforcing your boundaries is what shows insecurity.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You are the guy that was preparing for days for his first date in god knows how long and she ended up canceling on you and ghosting you and you are the one giving advice?
[+][deleted] -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro tf you mean preparing for days? You’re the type of guy to tell a chick you love her on day 2 lmao
[–]escope7 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t have to say it in a butthurt way. If you just tell a girl your boundaries tactfully you can have her treat you the way you want. Maybe be witty about the first one and if she does it again say “Hey. I really don’t appreciate the way you’re speaking about me, have a little respect.” And if she does it again just leave and respect your own boundaries. You determine how you let people treat you.
[–]primallyours 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao@ the video. I’d say this it’s completely individual. Have a value threshold in general (maybe, maybe with a 10% +- either way) and act on it when boundaries are crossed. Women who push like that are seeing just how far they can get. Can’t count the amount of times I’ve heard women say: I need a guy who’s gonna put me in my place/not let me walk all over them/call me on my bullshit. In the words of Charlie Murphy, they are habitual line-steppers, but only as much as you’ll allow.
[–]mabden 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These aren't shit tests, this is blatant disrespect. Hard next.
[–]Shadow__Account 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I have had a couple of instances where I had enough after a lot of shit tests where I dealt with amazingly. The thing in my opinion is to still not get angry but very clearly put down your boundary, so for example I’d stop her and say look I don’t mind the jokes and teases that’s all in good fun. But don’t do x, that is not funny anymore and makes me feel like x. I like our time together and it feels good but this doesn’t and if you keep doing that I’m gone. In these instances what happened was the girls got angry but I kept my foot down and everytime a while later they came back profusely apologizing and with a new level of attraction. Boundaries are attractive. That being said in all of these cases these were girls with issues because let’s be honest what kind of girl lacks the total empathy to say certain things and or what kind of girl is so insecure that she endlessly needs to test you. Anyway more reason to show your boundaries. On topic, you make the line, you make your own boundaries. This is where being yourself is in general the best, but that being said, if you deep down already get angry over a hairline comment and you want that to be your boundary you will not get far. So the struggle is in finding out what you want your boundaries to be for the person you want to become.just be emotionally unreactive during the whole process, you can feel the emotions but take a second and not let them influence your behavior.
[–]recursivePasta 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Todd V once showed a infield of a girl said something quite offensive, he just drop everything and stared the girl dead in the eyes for like a good 5 sec. Then the girl broke and apologized.
There are 2 ways to pass shit tests, with value or with comfort.
Her:"you are ugly"
Pass with value "Yeah I know, makes me more obtainable" low energy set
"Yeah my mom didn't fuck my dad right" high enery set
"Pff I also have a tiny dick too" high energy set
Pass with comfort "You know, objectively I consider my face a 6, I'm always looking for ways to improve, I'd appreciate if you give me some tips, you got good skin"
Do you see how she can't really continue that frame after you pass with comfort without her knowing herself being to total cunt?
Another line I love is "What is that suppose to mean?" Same deal, if she repeat she is confirming to herself she's a cunt.
Key to all these is to stay grounded and confident. If you deliver them with stuttering and a weak tone it won't work.
[–]eonscrewedme 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes when it gets too much I meet it it with something like a shoulder shrug and confused look then I say: ‘okaaay, are we cool now?’
[–]jjeremy01 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girls likes if we are little bit jealous. I mean like healthy jealous. So after she said she is going to date with another guy i would immediately step in.
[–]YetzirahToAhssiah 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like nice people, including girls. If a guy or girl is being an asshole, I stop spending time with them
[–]OnceUponAWasteOfTime 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'd probably just yawn in response to some of these.
She's telling you she's going on a date with another guy? Changing the topic is always a good response to these. You don't really care (she's not worthy of anything serious at this point), since you're going on dates with other women too!
I once went to a party and got introduced to this chick. As we went to our table she immediately went dancing with another dude, right in front of me! I just kept my cool, went to the dancefloor on my own, and opened a way sexier girl. No way I'm wasting my time.
[–]GeeseCTM 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They don't teach anymore that we're the prize that she's trying to win over.
Everything she does is her trying to get me attracted to her or her trying to seduce me.
Like that mindset is so key and looking at most of these comments it's also completely lost..
You're right, I went out with a girl and we went and had drinks at this sushi bar. I was sitting there, and the cool looking bartender dude kept trying to flirt with my girl and also AMOG me at the same time.
I played it off, ignored it, suggested that they were cute couple they should go out with each other all sorts of stuff. After a couple rounds of drinks, and this continuing, and I didn't give a s*** attitude, the girl says to me, you know I want some cuddle time.
And I was like oh that sounds nice.. you want me to take off so you can hang out with your bar tender friend? I can't remember if these are the exact words but that was sort of my attitude..
She responded, "I want some cuddle time... With you."
And then, we went back to my place where there was absolutely no cuddle time whatsoever.
I actually was all ready to cuddle and just chill out, and she got on my bed with me, didn't have a chance to turn on any TV movie media laptop nothing not even music, she ripped my shirt off but in the movies where the buttons went flying all over the room and we went on the fast train to Bone town. That was really good sex too.
Guys are so trying so hard to figure out what an alpha male is, "an alpha male doesn't take her s***!!!!! An alpha male won't put up with her disrespect! An alpha male blah blah blah has choices and will NEXT HER!
Wrong. And alpha male has gone through this scenario plenty of times before and knows that this is her way of flirting and he's going to bang her anyway. She's doing this to make sure that he's not just some other loser guy who gets overly emotional.
[–]GeeseCTM 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Dude I've banged girls LITERALLY texting guys she is dating or that want to date her who are telling her at the same time to buy hang out with me. Girls who say they have boyfriends. Girls who literally call me creepy right after making out with them and then continue to sex.
The only way any of these effect you is if you let them.
Bald??
That's funny. I was about to say the same thing about you.
Talking about guys in her phone messaging her. Ignore it and pretend it didn't exist. Attitude: She's trying to impress me by letting me know guys want her.
She has a date with another guy: Get excited. "Is this a Tinder dude? Let me see. Haha look at that dude. I can totally see you with that type of guy. Laugh. Neg a pic of his.. REAL neg.. Not your insult shit that guys say are negs and complain don't work.
"Oh look at Mr. Styles. He got that jacket from Men's Wearhouse. I Guarantee It!'
Throw away attitudes and phrases.
I like the guy. Let's break up and you can go out to him instead.
Ok we all get it (gesturing to imaginary crowd) you're not a loser and people want to date you like everyone else in the normal world. Haha jk. I think it's cute you want to impress me.
You not paying attention. "Uh huh. Yea. Neat. Cool. Wow. That's too bad." Even purposely give the wrong response. "He just got promoted at work and says he works for a fortune 500 company."
You not paying attention: yea.. uh.. that's too bad. I hope he's ok.
Catch her. "What's to bad? What do you mean?"
You: "What you were just talking about."
Her: you weren't even listening.
You: Yea you were talking and your uncle going on a fishing trip.
Or
You: Yea I heard the part where you were saying, "Wah Wah Wah Wah wahhh Wawa wahhh"
https://youtu.be/ss2hULhXf04
FRAME:
So many of these guys miss the fundamentals that no longer exist in this modern joke of a seduction community.
Frame is "I'm the prize she's trying to win over. Everything she does or says is her trying to seduce me."
She's WITH YOU showing off other dudes. She's PARADING for you. She wants to see if you're going to be a jealous loser, a friend zone she can use as an emotional tampon, or are you the dude she's going to bang.
She doesn't know.. It's up to you to define it.
I'm going on a date with this guy...
"What is this highschool? Who gives a shit. Come here." Smack her ass.
She wants to be treated like a brat treat her like one. Calibration is key.
[–]SteroidsFreak 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I can tell you fuck. Props G. I've had my moments I have pulled shit like this at work and outside work.
He can't treat her like she wants to be treated because he's afraid of losing her. Ironically him playing it safe is why he's losing her. All that shit he's afraid to do or say because he might offend her is the exact shit that would keep her attracted.
[–]Da_SnowLeopard 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How am I supposed to not get jealous to her saying she is going to go on a date with another dude when I’m emotionally invested in her and we’ve been fucking for a while.
[–]GeeseCTM 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You didn't say you were dating her. You're not, by the way, if she talks to you like that. You are fuck buddies it sounds like.
I would anyway . Say, "Thank God." But get out there and go find more women. Yours is broken.
[–]Da_SnowLeopard 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How can you have sex with someone and not catch feelings? I don’t understand that, even if the woman is not good for me the sex gets me too emotionally invested
[–]GeeseCTM 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read.
It's a little bit different than the circumstance you're in but the same rules apply...
Q: “There’s this one woman (I’ve been chasing for X days/months/years)… how do I get her to [like / love / sleep with me]?”
A: This is called “one-itis“. An AFC who doesn’t realize he’s an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) will never understand why nobody can answer this question for him or why he will never be able to get this woman with his current mindset. First, you have to realize that if you’re thinking this way, you will always be an AFC and will almost always fail with women (you’re only sucesses coming from luck – hence, the term “getting lucky” which is used often by AFC types). Here’s why you can’t win over this woman: you don’t yet know how to go out and get 10 more desireable women in a short amount of time. If you DID know how to do that, you would not be obsessed with getting this one woman and you would already know how to answer your own question. Why? Think about it. If you could go out and have 10 (or more) women who are smarter, nicer, more beautiful, and more exciting than the one you are obsessing about, how important do you think she would be to you? You see, you can’t just go from being an AFC to PUA (Pick-up Artist) without a certain understanding. You have to first admit to yourself that you’re an AFC and get into recovery mode, becoming an RAFC (Recovering AFC). Learn to stop thinking like an AFC and the road to becoming a PUA will be clear. Once that road is clear, you will begin to understand the answer to this question. The reason this question is so difficult for an AFC to grasp is that truly understanding the answer is an epiphany.
[jetman coined one-itis, one of the most problematic symptoms of AFCs]
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Q: “I’m interested in a particular girl I know from [work, school, a club, whatever], can you tell me how to get her to [like me, date me, sleep with me, whatever]?”
A: “One-itis” strikes again. First, go sleep with 10 other women in the next month and then decide afterwards whether you still want to pursue this particular woman. If you already have the skill to bed that many women in a month then you already know the answer to your question. Otherwise, you need to work on your skills for doing just that – by reading the posts on ASF, participating in discussions, absorbing and experimenting with the knowledge you learn from others. Once you’ve done that, the woman you’re pining over now will likely disappear from your mind, knowing that your choice of women has increased vastly.
Q: “But I don’t have one-itis – my situation is different.”
A: It’s one-itis. Get over it.
There is only one reason why people will tell you that it sounds like one-itis, even though you have clarified in the beginning that “I assure you…it is not…”
The simple fact of the matter is that this forum, this seduction forum, has NO SPECIFIC ADVICE on landing “that one girl” – it is IMPOSSIBLE for the people here giving and asking advice to pinpoint exactly what makes this one girl “friend” of yours tick, so it would be impossible to say with certainty what to do to get her. [Formhandle: And, if it were possible for you to provide detailed information about her, what her values are, what her “map of the world” or belief system is like, then you would have all you need to begin leading her to a lay in the first place and you would not be asking for this kind of advice. Which means that your problem isn’t “that one girl”, it’s your lack of understanfing in general in being able to diagnose what’s missing in your PU skills. So the answer to your question can never be how to get that one girl, it’s that you need to figure out what PU and seduction skills you are lacking and start practicing and applying those missing skills on many other chicks.]
…the reason people will tell you that you need to “F**K ten other women” is still valid, because you will not know what you have to do with her until you have the skills to FTOW. It is that simple, and that is the only advice the best PUA’s can give.
~Sandstorm, mASF, 2002/02/28
Here’s an analogy:
You’re a lousy baseball player and somehow managed to get yourself signed up as a rookie hitter in some major league team. So in your first few games, you go up to swing the bat at pitches from a typical major league pitcher. He’s nothing special, he just happens to be worthy to be on a major league team. You keep striking out because, well, you’ve so far in your life been a lousy baseball player. But it’s cool to be on a major league team… and you don’t want to get cut. So if you want to stay on the team, you have to learn to hit.
You go to your coach and say, “Coach, I’m hitting lousy against this one pitcher, but I want to be really good at hitting in the major leagues. Can you tell me how I can get a hit through that one pitcher?” The coach says, “Your problem isn’t that one pitcher, your problem is that you’re a lousy hitter and have never played in the majors. Just practice with the team and play through the season against other pitchers and by the end of the season you’ll be in good form. And, who knows, you may even run up against that one pitcher at the end of the season after you’ve gained all your new skills and be able to get a hit off him then.”
The guy who doesn’t understand or accept what the coach is saying responds with, “But coach, I want to hit good against that one pitcher now! How is finishing up the season with field training and practice going to help me against that one pitcher now?”
[–]TallSwaggOVO 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just make fun of her back. If it gets to be too much, then you need to drop her.
“Shit tests” are something only Reddit puts to term. Irl, most couples kinda neg each other for fun. If it gets to the point someone is just being bratty or mean, you should take according actions. Whether that’s calling them out, or leaving.
Y’all focus way to much on trying to “pass” a shit test. That’s not the way regular social interaction works.
[–]rewinder909 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When she says she is going on a day with another guy that's when you block her and move on. At one point it's no longer cool guy it's more like needy guy. Don't waste your time mate.
[–]HughBeaumont500 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
She kicks you in the nuts and laughs
You think it's some silly shit test
She spits on the flowers you buy her and tosses them over her head not even looking to see where they land
You think it's a silly shit test
She sends you photos of the Amazon delivery guy dic pics next to her face
Where does it end? F shit tests. Would she pull this crap with a dude she took seriously?
Gain some self respect and ice this brat. She knows you'll just keep trying to figure out the puzzle. Naw you gotta' set that tone. You don't suffer fools.
Or I don't know maybe you do
My recommendation is to see these "shit tests" as the insults that they are. A dude with clear understanding of self worth not about being tested. Try that with some other goof
Don't be a culk
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is testing how much of a man you are. And how much you'll give up just to get some pussy. The first remark, ok, you can take a joke, 2nd one you look at her dead in the eye and tell her to cut it out, you won't tolerate crap and if she wants to be mean you'll leave. There is no next shit test cuz you prove you won't be bullied. Holding the frame and other crap advice is... crap. Imagine you need some money and a friend had a lot and could help you. He starts asking u to do menial tasks cuz he knows you want something from him. Where do you cut it off?
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've literally been in the position of the last one. I said "he's cute. is he down for a three way?" As it turns out, he was. It was a fun night. That's not a shit test. It's an invitation.
I don't get why the stock response to a shit test involving other guys has to be a competition. Why is the other guy going to disappoint her? Why not just tell her to have a great evening? Why not respond to other guys trying to get her attention with a high five?
This is mostly in-person advice though. I don't know shit about text game. Maybe making every comment she makes about having a social life outside of you with a sexual innuendo works in some contexts. I've honestly never tried it.
Shit test is something junior high girls do. To be honest, you should just ghost her. Stop replying. Don’t give her a reason. Don’t say fuck you bitch. Just end it immediately. The second example of her deadpan making fun of ur baldness is where the line is drawn. Everything after that is just absolute poison
[–]No_Acanthisitta5052 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Get synthethic hair. We don’t go for fat and unkept women. They feel the same for balding men. We don’t go for balding women either.
There is fun in disrespecting men. A lot of people think they deserve it because of their ignorance.
[–]DaddyPenguin1 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a joke right?
[–]TheTruth221 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
never
always remain still like a rock
It becomes too much on the first one.
Dude have some self respect, if she goes as low as to say I'm sleeping with someone else. You don't have to play any other games, all you gotta say is "aight have a good life hoe"
The only time you have to play confident, is when you are with someone WHO WANTS YOU BACK. Yeah play the game, but if she's being a bitch and expect you to go chasing her, don't lower yourself. you are giving her all the power the moment you chase her as she's screwing someone else. If she gets to that point, drop her and block her
Imagine dealing with that type of disrespect all because you want to fuck lol sad shit
[–]krispykreme01 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://c.tenor.com/PG7TQGmTPoMAAAAd/are-you-serious-spiderman.gif
[–]btrpb 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You fail a shit test she will either move on and come back with a harder one.
I'm afraid you need to look within. You are failing with this girl, you need to ask yourself why you are still in her vicinity.
Then build up your frame for your future endeavours.
[–]GraveyardZombie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She aint the only one. Do the same back
[–]devolve79 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
whenever you get tired of her shit. remember we are kings. we play till we wanna play and when we get bored we throw that toy away.
if shes getting on your nerves tell her to fuck off..
[–]Speedsloth123 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao thrust thrust 3000
[–]whatuneed7888 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s not a shit test, she’s probably a bit sadistic... in this case I would recommend you flip the script on her (u know what I mean) or walk away. People that get pleasure from that kind of (degrading) stuff usually also get it from being on the receiving end.
[–]The_Snake_Plissken 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want to keep fucking her, tell her, do whatever you want, and I’ll do the same.
[–]SnooCats196 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some people have personal issues and you shouldn’t stick around for their shenanigans. Just bail already!
[–]BillyJayJersey505 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
INFO: Have you guys hooked up yet?
[–]Gulag_Alpha 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Break frame?? Lol.. on the latter shit- that should be ‘take off’ ‘peace out’ ‘stop answering your phone’ (if this was a commitment relationship).. if it’s just a booty call- then keep those Trojans handy, and decide if you wanna fck w her or not, keep her at bay / in check 👌
Ok, this sounds too weird to be true.
If you’re saying that the girl actually sent you a video of her being clapped by someone else, it’s time to cut her off.
That’s not a shit test, she doesn’t respect you.
No, I’m sorry. She’s for the streets, sir. Let this one go.
[–]TraditionTraditional 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
now is the time
Most guys on Seddit.
Don't take her shit! Don't let her disrespect you. Get emotional and butthurt and let it sit by not talking to her again.
Me: Haha!! Let's play.. Give her shit back but never lose my cool.. Make fun of some of her attempt to shit test me, completely ignore others. It's only a matter of time before she gets naked. . . 😆
[–]skinisblackmetallic 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The lines are established by your values, criteria for the relationship and boundaries.
[–]GLight3 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, even the first balding comment is too much imo. It being a shit test doesn't change the fact that it's rude/disrespectful and if a woman is willing to do that then she simply doesn't respect you (hence why she went so much further). There are shit tests that aren't blatantly disrespectful. So many dudes focus on passing shit tests that they don't consider that you can judge a woman by the tests she gives you and decide whether she's worth your time at all.
[–]AelfredRex 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Isn't she just doing stuff the PUAs tell guys to do... negging, showing she's got options, etc?
[–]Sultmaker_9000 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Plough through if you just want to fuck.
[–]Sultmaker_9000 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Your frame isn't masculine enough, she knows she can get away with it, a confident puppy who's body can't write checks he's trying to cash. Toni Braxton ~"He wasn't man enough for me".
Some guy is going to be fucking her in short
How am I supposed to hold a masculine frame when I want her more?
I as the guy obviously want the sex more than she does, and if she acts a dick and I’m like hurr durr no attention for you she is just going to go get it from one of the other hundreds of guys who want her time. How am I supposed to win she has all the power.
[–]Sultmaker_9000 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's your overall presence as a man. I'm down to Bond mentality now I'm older, he doesn't laugh, you get a side smile at most, pay attention to voice tonality and body language. You should have the presence that she wouldn't dare try it, women are attracted to men they fear.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So you’re a professional killer for MI6 who was orphaned as a child
That's really not an important part of being masculine
[–]PatientAssociation62 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a chick shit test me with the jealousy routine, flirting with other guys at the bar we went to. I didn't lose my shit over it, but next date same thing. I told her I didn't like and she had a shitfit calling me controlling, was going to do whatever the hell she wanted, etc. Finally I had enough and decided to give her an object lesson in how easily replaceable she was. Never had it again.
I guess the line gets crossed when YOU say it's crossed. And you should always set healthy boundaries and stick to them.
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