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LlamaTony · 2021-10-28T00:58:32+00:00

The deadpan mention about you balding after already teasing. Forget that bitch. These aren’t shit tests, she’s a cunt.

_tantan · 2021-10-28T01:30:48+00:00

If all these a real situations please just leave her. These aren’t even shit tests it’s just being blatantly disrespectful.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-10-28T03:38:37+00:00

Sounds like she's a bratty sub.

But she's not your sub, so she's just being an asshole. Tell her she's rude and needs to go fuck herself.

19Black · 2021-10-28T04:32:30+00:00

If a girl is saying these things to you, she is not interesting in having sex with you, only in mocking you.

MegaManXanax · 2021-10-28T02:00:19+00:00

This reminds me of an experience I had with a girl. She would shit test me in nasty ways. I would play it cool…then she would just come up with an even nastier way to shit test me. It was like she was trying to get a reaction out of me, trying to find where the line was. The thing is that a lot of shit tests feel disrespectful too, so it can get to the point where you have to call them out, but how do you go about that? I guess at that point your probably supposed to cut the girl off lol.

JLidii · 2021-10-28T01:41:13+00:00

Hold frame. Dont ever drop it. Mentally it should be clear she's not worthy of commitment because she sounds like a slut.

You can still fuck. Just. hold. frame.

Big_Dick_Capitalist · 2021-10-28T09:14:01+00:00

Generally, girls utilizing shit tests should be avoided altogether. No high-quality man would entertain the games they are playing.

Raging_Asian_Man · 2021-10-28T05:17:26+00:00

Imagine dealing with "shit tests" like that the rest of your life (or however long you plan on seeing her). Is that really what you want? If a woman treats you like that, move on immediately and save yourself a huge fucking headache.

Twobithatter · 2021-10-28T01:09:52+00:00

You should draw the line when you feel disrespected. If a girl teases me about balding thats fine I can take it. A video of her getting fucked is way passed a shit test.

martyr1337 · 2021-10-28T10:17:28+00:00

ok there's a difference between shit test and toxic behaviour.

She is super insecure. I've dated a woman like this and ended things after 3 months. She drove me nuts. Always seeking for validation, constantly trying to test me with telling how many other guys are after her etc.
forget about here because she won't stop.

pratobison · 2021-10-28T06:38:34+00:00

I would have tossed a subtle neg back at her. Maybe commented on the fact that most people don’t know how common it is for women to lose their hair.

chipper14 · 2021-10-28T12:41:03+00:00

I had to look up what a shit test is because I have never heard or even done anything like that. That woman sucks if she’s doing all that to you, say it whenever the fuck you want to. Don’t entertain her or anyone’s games, you deserve better!

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-28T02:26:58+00:00

I mean in essence you sat there and took it. She felt that she could get away with all of this in one way or another. So where is the self respect? If she makes fun of you being bald, just say "whoa, okay there, don't know who pissed in your cereal this morning, but sure it wasn't me. Let's try this again being nicer". Or "I don't really appreciate you making fun of my bald head. My rule is to always have honesty, trust and respect". if she persists drop her ass. I don't really subscribe to the whole shit test theory of "let her abuse you and be witty about it".

primallyours · 2021-10-28T10:21:22+00:00

Lmao@ the video. I’d say this it’s completely individual. Have a value threshold in general (maybe, maybe with a 10% +- either way) and act on it when boundaries are crossed. Women who push like that are seeing just how far they can get. Can’t count the amount of times I’ve heard women say: I need a guy who’s gonna put me in my place/not let me walk all over them/call me on my bullshit. In the words of Charlie Murphy, they are habitual line-steppers, but only as much as you’ll allow.

mabden · 2021-10-28T12:41:18+00:00

These aren't shit tests, this is blatant disrespect. Hard next.

Shadow__Account · 2021-10-28T07:55:01+00:00

I have had a couple of instances where I had enough after a lot of shit tests where I dealt with amazingly. The thing in my opinion is to still not get angry but very clearly put down your boundary, so for example I’d stop her and say look I don’t mind the jokes and teases that’s all in good fun. But don’t do x, that is not funny anymore and makes me feel like x. I like our time together and it feels good but this doesn’t and if you keep doing that I’m gone. In these instances what happened was the girls got angry but I kept my foot down and everytime a while later they came back profusely apologizing and with a new level of attraction. Boundaries are attractive. That being said in all of these cases these were girls with issues because let’s be honest what kind of girl lacks the total empathy to say certain things and or what kind of girl is so insecure that she endlessly needs to test you. Anyway more reason to show your boundaries. On topic, you make the line, you make your own boundaries. This is where being yourself is in general the best, but that being said, if you deep down already get angry over a hairline comment and you want that to be your boundary you will not get far. So the struggle is in finding out what you want your boundaries to be for the person you want to become.just be emotionally unreactive during the whole process, you can feel the emotions but take a second and not let them influence your behavior.

recursivePasta · 2021-10-28T06:40:53+00:00

Todd V once showed a infield of a girl said something quite offensive, he just drop everything and stared the girl dead in the eyes for like a good 5 sec. Then the girl broke and apologized.

There are 2 ways to pass shit tests, with value or with comfort.

Her:"you are ugly"

Pass with value "Yeah I know, makes me more obtainable" low energy set

"Yeah my mom didn't fuck my dad right" high enery set

"Pff I also have a tiny dick too" high energy set

Pass with comfort "You know, objectively I consider my face a 6, I'm always looking for ways to improve, I'd appreciate if you give me some tips, you got good skin"

Do you see how she can't really continue that frame after you pass with comfort without her knowing herself being to total cunt?

Another line I love is "What is that suppose to mean?" Same deal, if she repeat she is confirming to herself she's a cunt.

Key to all these is to stay grounded and confident. If you deliver them with stuttering and a weak tone it won't work.

eonscrewedme · 2021-10-28T08:01:25+00:00

Sometimes when it gets too much I meet it it with something like a shoulder shrug and confused look then I say: ‘okaaay, are we cool now?’

jjeremy01 · 2021-10-28T11:50:56+00:00

Girls likes if we are little bit jealous. I mean like healthy jealous. So after she said she is going to date with another guy i would immediately step in.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-10-28T13:24:59+00:00

I like nice people, including girls. If a guy or girl is being an asshole, I stop spending time with them

OnceUponAWasteOfTime · 2021-10-28T15:24:52+00:00

I'd probably just yawn in response to some of these.

She's telling you she's going on a date with another guy? Changing the topic is always a good response to these. You don't really care (she's not worthy of anything serious at this point), since you're going on dates with other women too!

I once went to a party and got introduced to this chick. As we went to our table she immediately went dancing with another dude, right in front of me! I just kept my cool, went to the dancefloor on my own, and opened a way sexier girl. No way I'm wasting my time.

GeeseCTM · 2021-10-28T15:46:50+00:00

Dude I've banged girls LITERALLY texting guys she is dating or that want to date her who are telling her at the same time to buy hang out with me. Girls who say they have boyfriends. Girls who literally call me creepy right after making out with them and then continue to sex.

The only way any of these effect you is if you let them.

Bald??

That's funny. I was about to say the same thing about you.

Talking about guys in her phone messaging her. Ignore it and pretend it didn't exist. Attitude: She's trying to impress me by letting me know guys want her.

She has a date with another guy: Get excited. "Is this a Tinder dude? Let me see. Haha look at that dude. I can totally see you with that type of guy. Laugh. Neg a pic of his.. REAL neg.. Not your insult shit that guys say are negs and complain don't work.

"Oh look at Mr. Styles. He got that jacket from Men's Wearhouse. I Guarantee It!'

Throw away attitudes and phrases.

I like the guy. Let's break up and you can go out to him instead.

Ok we all get it (gesturing to imaginary crowd) you're not a loser and people want to date you like everyone else in the normal world. Haha jk. I think it's cute you want to impress me.

You not paying attention. "Uh huh. Yea. Neat. Cool. Wow. That's too bad." Even purposely give the wrong response. "He just got promoted at work and says he works for a fortune 500 company."

You not paying attention: yea.. uh.. that's too bad. I hope he's ok.

Catch her. "What's to bad? What do you mean?"

You: "What you were just talking about."

Her: you weren't even listening.

You: Yea you were talking and your uncle going on a fishing trip.

Or

You: Yea I heard the part where you were saying, "Wah Wah Wah Wah wahhh Wawa wahhh"

https://youtu.be/ss2hULhXf04

FRAME:

So many of these guys miss the fundamentals that no longer exist in this modern joke of a seduction community.

Frame is "I'm the prize she's trying to win over. Everything she does or says is her trying to seduce me."

She's WITH YOU showing off other dudes. She's PARADING for you. She wants to see if you're going to be a jealous loser, a friend zone she can use as an emotional tampon, or are you the dude she's going to bang.

She doesn't know.. It's up to you to define it.

I'm going on a date with this guy...

"What is this highschool? Who gives a shit. Come here." Smack her ass.

She wants to be treated like a brat treat her like one. Calibration is key.

TallSwaggOVO · 2021-10-28T19:14:35+00:00

Just make fun of her back. If it gets to be too much, then you need to drop her.

“Shit tests” are something only Reddit puts to term. Irl, most couples kinda neg each other for fun. If it gets to the point someone is just being bratty or mean, you should take according actions. Whether that’s calling them out, or leaving.

Y’all focus way to much on trying to “pass” a shit test. That’s not the way regular social interaction works.

rewinder909 · 2021-10-28T06:52:31+00:00

When she says she is going on a day with another guy that's when you block her and move on. At one point it's no longer cool guy it's more like needy guy. Don't waste your time mate.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-10-28T13:28:15+00:00

She kicks you in the nuts and laughs

You think it's some silly shit test

She spits on the flowers you buy her and tosses them over her head not even looking to see where they land

You think it's a silly shit test

She sends you photos of the Amazon delivery guy dic pics next to her face

You think it's some silly shit test

Where does it end? F shit tests. Would she pull this crap with a dude she took seriously?

Gain some self respect and ice this brat. She knows you'll just keep trying to figure out the puzzle. Naw you gotta' set that tone. You don't suffer fools.

Or I don't know maybe you do

My recommendation is to see these "shit tests" as the insults that they are. A dude with clear understanding of self worth not about being tested. Try that with some other goof

Don't be a culk

eszibit · 2021-10-28T06:08:50+00:00

She is testing how much of a man you are. And how much you'll give up just to get some pussy. The first remark, ok, you can take a joke, 2nd one you look at her dead in the eye and tell her to cut it out, you won't tolerate crap and if she wants to be mean you'll leave. There is no next shit test cuz you prove you won't be bullied. Holding the frame and other crap advice is... crap. Imagine you need some money and a friend had a lot and could help you. He starts asking u to do menial tasks cuz he knows you want something from him. Where do you cut it off?

AligatorTears · 2021-10-28T11:46:51+00:00

I've literally been in the position of the last one. I said "he's cute. is he down for a three way?" As it turns out, he was. It was a fun night. That's not a shit test. It's an invitation.

I don't get why the stock response to a shit test involving other guys has to be a competition. Why is the other guy going to disappoint her? Why not just tell her to have a great evening? Why not respond to other guys trying to get her attention with a high five?

This is mostly in-person advice though. I don't know shit about text game. Maybe making every comment she makes about having a social life outside of you with a sexual innuendo works in some contexts. I've honestly never tried it.

Tiko853 · 2021-10-28T15:26:59+00:00

Shit test is something junior high girls do. To be honest, you should just ghost her. Stop replying. Don’t give her a reason. Don’t say fuck you bitch. Just end it immediately. The second example of her deadpan making fun of ur baldness is where the line is drawn. Everything after that is just absolute poison

No_Acanthisitta5052 · 2021-10-28T10:23:45+00:00

Get synthethic hair. We don’t go for fat and unkept women. They feel the same for balding men. We don’t go for balding women either.

There is fun in disrespecting men. A lot of people think they deserve it because of their ignorance.

TheTruth221 · 2021-10-28T10:15:54+00:00

never

always remain still like a rock

User1701d · 2021-10-28T10:59:47+00:00

It becomes too much on the first one.

HolyMaCro1 · 2021-10-28T12:07:18+00:00

Dude have some self respect, if she goes as low as to say I'm sleeping with someone else. You don't have to play any other games, all you gotta say is "aight have a good life hoe"

The only time you have to play confident, is when you are with someone WHO WANTS YOU BACK. Yeah play the game, but if she's being a bitch and expect you to go chasing her, don't lower yourself. you are giving her all the power the moment you chase her as she's screwing someone else. If she gets to that point, drop her and block her

2021-10-28T12:14:42+00:00

Imagine dealing with that type of disrespect all because you want to fuck lol sad shit

krispykreme01 · 2021-10-28T12:37:49+00:00

https://c.tenor.com/PG7TQGmTPoMAAAAd/are-you-serious-spiderman.gif

btrpb · 2021-10-28T12:45:13+00:00

You fail a shit test she will either move on and come back with a harder one.

I'm afraid you need to look within. You are failing with this girl, you need to ask yourself why you are still in her vicinity.

Then build up your frame for your future endeavours.

GraveyardZombie · 2021-10-28T12:47:21+00:00

She aint the only one. Do the same back

devolve79 · 2021-10-28T12:47:31+00:00

whenever you get tired of her shit. remember we are kings. we play till we wanna play and when we get bored we throw that toy away.

if shes getting on your nerves tell her to fuck off..

Speedsloth123 · 2021-10-28T13:00:51+00:00

Lmao thrust thrust 3000

whatuneed7888 · 2021-10-28T13:29:26+00:00

It’s not a shit test, she’s probably a bit sadistic... in this case I would recommend you flip the script on her (u know what I mean) or walk away. People that get pleasure from that kind of (degrading) stuff usually also get it from being on the receiving end.

The_Snake_Plissken · 2021-10-28T13:41:31+00:00

If you want to keep fucking her, tell her, do whatever you want, and I’ll do the same.

SnooCats196 · 2021-10-28T13:42:06+00:00

Some people have personal issues and you shouldn’t stick around for their shenanigans. Just bail already!

BillyJayJersey505 · 2021-10-28T14:04:11+00:00

INFO: Have you guys hooked up yet?

Gulag_Alpha · 2021-10-28T14:53:19+00:00

Break frame?? Lol.. on the latter shit- that should be ‘take off’ ‘peace out’ ‘stop answering your phone’ (if this was a commitment relationship).. if it’s just a booty call- then keep those Trojans handy, and decide if you wanna fck w her or not, keep her at bay / in check 👌

2021-10-28T14:58:39+00:00

Ok, this sounds too weird to be true.

If you’re saying that the girl actually sent you a video of her being clapped by someone else, it’s time to cut her off.

That’s not a shit test, she doesn’t respect you.

SolutionAlarmed2452 · 2021-10-28T15:00:15+00:00

No, I’m sorry. She’s for the streets, sir. Let this one go.

TraditionTraditional · 2021-10-28T15:08:27+00:00

now is the time

GeeseCTM · 2021-10-28T15:16:04+00:00

Most guys on Seddit.

Don't take her shit! Don't let her disrespect you. Get emotional and butthurt and let it sit by not talking to her again.

Me: Haha!! Let's play.. Give her shit back but never lose my cool.. Make fun of some of her attempt to shit test me, completely ignore others. It's only a matter of time before she gets naked. . . 😆

skinisblackmetallic · 2021-10-28T17:34:34+00:00

The lines are established by your values, criteria for the relationship and boundaries.

GLight3 · 2021-10-28T18:27:45+00:00

Honestly, even the first balding comment is too much imo. It being a shit test doesn't change the fact that it's rude/disrespectful and if a woman is willing to do that then she simply doesn't respect you (hence why she went so much further). There are shit tests that aren't blatantly disrespectful. So many dudes focus on passing shit tests that they don't consider that you can judge a woman by the tests she gives you and decide whether she's worth your time at all.

AelfredRex · 2021-10-28T19:19:22+00:00

Isn't she just doing stuff the PUAs tell guys to do... negging, showing she's got options, etc?

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-10-28T19:26:52+00:00

Plough through if you just want to fuck.

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-10-28T19:35:41+00:00

Your frame isn't masculine enough, she knows she can get away with it, a confident puppy who's body can't write checks he's trying to cash. Toni Braxton ~"He wasn't man enough for me".

Some guy is going to be fucking her in short

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-29T16:15:46+00:00

I had a chick shit test me with the jealousy routine, flirting with other guys at the bar we went to. I didn't lose my shit over it, but next date same thing. I told her I didn't like and she had a shitfit calling me controlling, was going to do whatever the hell she wanted, etc. Finally I had enough and decided to give her an object lesson in how easily replaceable she was. Never had it again.

I guess the line gets crossed when YOU say it's crossed. And you should always set healthy boundaries and stick to them.

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