I had a girl walk away from me tonight mid set to talk to another guy

delusionalubermensch · 2021-04-19T09:24:50+00:00

You’re a beginner. It’s gonna be awkward and feel shitty for a while. Like learning anything it takes practice and a willingness to suck and look stupid at first. The most important thing is perseverance. With enough effort and practice you will start seeing success.

Hr_Art · 2021-04-19T09:19:20+00:00

Well you can't force someone into loving you, if there's no spark you can't blame yourself. It sure hurts but you have to deal with it and try again until you succeed.

Worried-Principle580 · 2021-04-19T11:22:54+00:00

You still achieved more than you would in a year on tinder and it cost you nothing. Keep going!

theflippityjim · 2021-04-19T12:45:10+00:00

You win some you lose some. She’s a stranger, she means nothing to you and has no impact on your life. You’ll just have to move on to the next one.

darianor_rules · 2021-04-19T14:04:16+00:00

Dude, 4 days ago you were posting about approach anxiety, today you approached. This is what progress is, trying and tweaking until something awesome happens! Keep going king, you got this.

fxdev77 · 2021-04-19T09:26:39+00:00

The only thing you should be judging yourself on is whether or not you are approaching.

A girl walked away from you, but at least you are one of the guys out talking to girls. That's masculine af! Would you rather be one of the guys sitting in a strip club, or one of the guys at a table begging a bottle girl for attention, or a guy that is so hopeless that he pays a prostitute for sex, or a guy that sits around and just waits to "bump into a girl"?

You are already winning! The fact that a girl gave you a chance to talk to her proves that. Just keep powering through. Focus on the process, not the end result. The more girls you approach the better you will get, so just let go of your ego and dedicate yourself to the process.

AloofusMaximus · 2021-04-19T13:04:49+00:00

It was going well

It was going well four YOU. Have you ever abruptly walked away from someone that you were into?

In any case, no biggie man. Yeah it sucks to get blown out, but it's gonna happen. You made it through though.

You're going to run into all kinds of crazy shit while interacting with people. That's how you build up experience, and then are able to handle it better the next time.

I really don't know much about RSD, and I don't do night game anymore. Most of my interactions in a social setting come from my view of "this person is interesting in some way, I'm going to find out how"

hob814 · 2021-04-19T12:37:36+00:00

This is a weird question, but were you listening.

When you say you were focusing on your vibe and energy, but what about the other person were you saying questions you thought of before.

Not sure how much the question was understandable so i will just explain it more here, if you did you can answer it. I know you heard what she said, but did you ask questions about what she said did you continue the conversation in it and gave the vibe your actually interest in what she is saying.

RockStarDrummer · 2021-04-19T11:03:04+00:00

You're already ahead of the majority of men out there just by the sheer fact that you're actually having some balls and are trying to make approaches. Also the fact that you're open and willing to learn is huge!

jarhead06413 · 2021-04-20T02:20:00+00:00

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Woujo · 2021-04-19T14:01:38+00:00

> I just never want that to happen again

Sorry that's the wrong mindset. Shit like this will happen again. You just gotta not give a shit.

ImJustSo · 2021-04-19T16:39:06+00:00

You are looking for yes girls and you are to be okay with all no girls. Because of the implication.

Do you think that every woman in the world that you do not find attractive should be upset and take it personally? Should billions of women take it badly that you aren't into them?

No, they don't give a flying fuck lol There's some women out there though that do care what you think of them. They do want you to like them. They do enjoy it when you display that to them.

That girl you spoke to didn't. You are just one of the guys that she doesn't like, no big deal. Her desire for you or lack of desire for you doesn't change you. You're still the same dude before you meet her and afterwards.

You're looking for yes girls though. You're looking for happiness and joy. You're hopefully looking for girls that enjoy your presence and you hopefully won't settle for some girl that hardly thinks of you.

A girl that literally turns and walks off to another dude....

That's the kinda girl you after? If not, then pay them no attention whatsoever. You had no idea she wasn't into you, until you went over and used curiosity to see what's what. Did you find out you weren't into her, too? Doesn't sound like a fun time to me, so I doubt I'd enjoy being with that girl personally.

Here's one last bit of food for thought. I've spoken to a lot of women. I wasn't great when I started out, but I learned, and so can every other guy.

The thing is I've spoken to thousands and thousands of women. That's not an exaggeration and it's just how things are. You get good at something by practicing and eventually it's effortless and you begin to only enjoy the fruits of your labor. Speaking to women isn't difficult anymore, it's only an enjoyable process to me.

If you've only flirted with one girl or twenty girls, you're still a thousand girls away from being comfortable. You're still three thousand from being smooth. You're five thousand from living experiences that you never believed were for you, until life showed they were.

Guys....get out there and enjoy life, enjoy talking to women. Let the other girls go to whoever guy they want, you've got more girls to worry about that are your cup of tea.

MisterShogunate · 2021-04-19T12:59:10+00:00

RSD has an annoying try-hard style. I would do the same if I was a girl and some dude puts on some fake over the top personality based on an imaginary character in a movie.

2021-04-19T12:41:04+00:00

Good shit, rejection is key to unlocking the next level of you. Let go of the hurt ego, and enjoy the experience.

revente · 2021-04-19T09:48:33+00:00

I just never want that to happen again

If you want to get any good there are hundreds and hundreds rejections waitin ahead of you mate.

Why to be ashamed tho? If a girl is single it means that not a single men out there has been able to satisfy her, don’t take it personally.

gowatchanimefgt · 2021-04-19T13:55:13+00:00

Dont say “set.”

Burner010132 · 2021-04-19T13:15:25+00:00

For one it’s hardly what you say, it’s more how you say it. Also, if you feel like the conversation is getting dry then you walk away from the girl, end the conversation and talk to someone better.

Game is everything a girl does to a guy, but instead it’s you doing it to the girl. Flip the script on them.

rickmackdaddy · 2021-04-19T14:07:38+00:00

If you down go down in flames half the time then you aren’t setting your sights high enough.

vagabondo99 · 2021-04-19T15:44:26+00:00

Feels bad man but its okay

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-04-19T17:54:52+00:00

Rejection is the norm.

inKritix · 2021-04-19T18:14:27+00:00

You can start by not looking at them as a game, think of everyone as an attachment of you, conversation becomes organic

Imtheassshole · 2021-04-19T12:28:37+00:00

Maybe y’all should talk to women as humans instead of conquests, you probably creeped her out

justdoitstoopid · 2021-04-19T19:38:34+00:00

Bro you guys are so fucking weird saying shit like "RSD hotseat type method aka free association, congruence with thoughts, words and actions, etc". No shit you are a repellant for women acting like this shit is dungeons and dragons.

blackwing2198 · 2021-04-19T14:40:29+00:00

Honestly maybe try just being yourself and hopefully finding the right person instead of changing everything and being disappointed with the results 🤷🏻‍♂️

Amer1kop · 2021-04-19T16:39:22+00:00

No shame in sharing, I'ma try to help you - - try to be less "introspective & brooding / focusing too centrally on your vibe". If your looks and natural energy are enough to get a girl to sit down with you, focusing on your conversation starters will be a good way to ensure she doesn't abruptly get up and leave. Think about this situationally - how was it going before she got up? I'm imagining awkward silence or just no spark ? Good way to lose a woman's attention is by trying to act hard like you're too cool to find something fun or goofy to say. Did she have a drink ? Did you have one ? Great way to break any awkward silence and set the tone is to start by saying "I'm going for a drink, do you want anything? I'll be right back." -- gives you time to think of something to observe/say on your way back and you've offered to share a drink. Look around you -- is there anything about the setting thats not ideal? Even if you're okay with it you might try -- "The lighting over here is bad / I can't see you, wanna go sit somewhere else?" or "I saw a better spot over there, lets go". Gives her a chance to say yes/no to you right away and will let her signal a hint of intent. finding little things to be more aware about in a situational setting will bring more substance to your vibe and gives off the understanding that you are truly thoughtful and interested in making the most of your time however short it might be.

2021-04-19T16:56:50+00:00

There is no “secret to success”. Pick up is practice makes perfect like anything else. Don’t give up. Learn to accept that feeling of disappointment and push through it. It will make you a stronger person in all areas of life.

Good luck!

Casanova-Quinn · 2021-04-19T17:04:24+00:00

Shit happens. Don't get caught up on singular bad experiences. If you're noticing patterns then there might be something to correct, but otherwise just chalk it up as a random fluke.

2021-04-19T17:39:41+00:00

You’re a bad ass for talking to her and being engaged. Women love being chased and I honestly always prefer the man to talk to me first. It’s sexy. Take a deep breath and onto the next!! Keep being brave. I promise it will pay off.

precense_ · 2021-04-19T17:40:19+00:00

You feel hurt bc you invested in the interaction more than she did. Focus on self amusement and it’ll hurt less. She’ll also notice this and see you as someone who’s confident and secure in himself.

skaag · 2021-04-19T17:40:57+00:00

It happens and it's fine. What you should work on is embracing it and even loving it. Maybe she thinks the other guy is more interesting. I've had a girl once tell me that she likes guys with "thick" wrists. My wrists were not "girthy" enough for her. Another girl once told me I have too much hair, when I asked her what she meant, she said she is attracted to bald men with a dad bod, and at the time I was too "fit" for her, and my hair was too fabulous and not thinning anywhere. Point is, if a girl is attracted to another guy, embrace it, feel happy for her that she found someone attractive, heck even prop the guy and make him feel like a king! And if they get laid that night, embrace it with a smile, because two people found each other and had a good time! :-)

Kitchen_Entertainer9 · 2021-04-19T17:56:22+00:00

If she is that rude, then its on her. Maybe you could have done better, but hopefully you learned a trick or line that worked

IBSwimn_inOshans · 2021-04-19T18:26:30+00:00

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2021-04-19T18:36:56+00:00

Nothing’s a guarantee, just keep putting yourself out there! It’ll happen, getting used to disinterest or rejection early helps.

muff_marauder · 2021-04-19T20:19:03+00:00

I just never want that to happen again

American women can do whatever they want with impunity, especially if they're beautiful.

I've been in your position on a date with a gorgeous woman who -- mid date -- tried to branch-swing from me to some guy who wouldn't stop flirting with her while she and I sat at the bar.

Thankfully walking out on her cost me nothing since she paid for the whole, expensive date.

el_guerrero98 · 2021-04-20T02:30:28+00:00

Best way to get thru it is to laugh about it. My usual response would be "well, damn! 🤣....oh well" like yeah im hurt but smiling thru it can numb the pain

RandomLoLs · 2021-04-19T16:33:58+00:00

I’ve been following an RSD hotseat type method aka free association, congruence with thoughts, words and actions, etc. So basically just random shit but having the right emotion with it. Idk how far it’s going to get me though.

I am not trying to say anything about OP here but since when is trying to flirt with girls become such a complex study.... like wtf are some of these words? Are people getting a bachelor's degree in pick up?

donaldtrumpsmistress · 2021-04-19T12:59:02+00:00

Wrong mindset mate, shit the RSD reaction would be to find that hilarious. Stuff like that will happen. You have to just find the humor in it and keep soldiering on

Psycholephant · 2021-04-19T13:05:07+00:00

That has happened to me many times. It's not the last time this is gonna happen to you bro. But here's the thing, who cares bro. Women don't fucking know what they want, so why take it personal? Whenever that happens you cut your losses, shake it off (it gets easier trust me) and go talk to a different girl.

olugbo · 2021-04-19T14:03:58+00:00

“set” = *cringe

Colonelfudgenustard · 2021-04-19T16:17:43+00:00

I wonder if, "Hey, the set's not finished!" might work in this situation.

HectoSexual · 2021-04-19T14:08:08+00:00

I’ve had girls straight up ignore me while in a set, or while I tried opening. Like literally they hear me, they just look away from me until I leave. It’s insanity, but it’s just part of the game.

From my experience, it’s probably not what you were saying, but just that she perceived her SMV to be higher than yours.

Game matters, but looks also matter, and status also matters. It’s not always your game that’s off.

ProfessionalProof325 · 2021-04-19T12:01:12+00:00

She shit-testing you you should have said, I'll let you two talk and left to go talk to someone else you would have had her in 15 minutes

wheresmyglassmate · 2021-04-19T12:46:43+00:00

letsgetrandy · 2021-04-19T15:24:06+00:00

STOP LISTENING TO RSD {whomever}

Grow a set. Sad but true. What you experienced was DATA! It was a learning experience. You did something and saw a result. GROW from it.

2021-04-19T16:29:45+00:00

If you want my two sense, just be yourself. Screw all the approaches and techniques. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone wouldn't you want to be yourself in it? It sucks you had that happen to you though anyway. Best of luck.

IBSwimn_inOshans · 2021-04-19T15:23:21+00:00

Don't worry, there's nothing to be ashamed of. Decisions of women are based on emotions and no matter how great you did there would still be a high chance of randomly being rejected. All you need to do is try more until you succeed

starfire_xes · 2021-04-19T18:42:58+00:00

I really don't know what the problem is. I am working five gir ls now, and I am working on other girls. Yes, a little older, some younger, and often a few who are in relationships. Girls are like that. I am working on hot women. No telling what what a women is going to do. The are fickle and chaotic in there thinking. I will fuck them first before I decide on exclusivity.

There are plenty of good women out there. Don't worry, this happens. Go for others, and learn from mistakes.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-04-19T15:12:41+00:00

Who is telling all of these clueless newbies to focus on cold-approach pickup? This is terrible advice because they need to learn basic skills. Cold-approach pickup is an advanced skill. That's why we hear endlessly from these novice guys who are getting rejected left and right, but they are like, "At least I approached."

It's like you're a boxer who refuses to learn about boxing or train for a boxing match. Dipshits on this forum are like, "Just get in the ring and swing your fists, training and study are stupid and don't help you succeed." The novice follows this bad advice because he's a novice after all, and he doesn't recognize it as bad advice.

So the novices try cold-approach and get knocked smooth the fuck out in round one. We read it on this forum everyday. Failure after failure. Why? Well, remember that they know nothing about boxing. Ahh, it all makes sense. So why not train and learn a little more about boxing before getting into the ring? Isn't that what the best boxers do? What's the value of falling like a novice who knows nothing? Well, the lowest effort response is to read nothing and to learn nothing, and most people are low effort.

IBSwimn_inOshans · 2021-04-19T16:34:44+00:00

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Sunlitstream264 · 2021-04-19T13:18:46+00:00

I was with a friend of mine trying to talk to two girls at a club recently and right after one finished her sentence her friend kinda tugged her off to talk to 2 other guys, one of which bought them drinks. Kinda sucks but the way they did it showed they were shallow. Just remember if they walk off on you it shows you were incompatible or they are not of good character depending on how they do it

dasanman69 · 2021-04-19T12:40:08+00:00

There are no failures, either you succeed or you learn but it's always a positive outcome. I suspect that you spent way too much time on her or your high interest was too obvious.

Gixicon · 2021-04-19T13:15:44+00:00

Natural

Warburk · 2021-04-19T13:57:41+00:00

You know the saying : you are a peach Work on becoming the best peach you can be. But whatever you do, some people don't like peaches.

That's nothing, you need to extract whatever teaching you can from the interaction but keep in mind that maybe everything was fine.

ubertoaster13 · 2021-04-19T13:58:11+00:00

Man that's happened to me many times. Its gonna happen again. After the hurt goes away you will be able to laugh at situations like that. But still stings bad.

used_npkin · 2021-04-19T14:05:50+00:00

It happens to the best of us. It feels absolutely awful. Learn from it and shake it off.

2021-04-19T14:09:31+00:00

My best advice is to stop thinking. I know its backwards, especially this day in age when we are all taught to be cerebral and that emotional thinking is bad. When you game though, rely on your instincts. Almost meditate when you flirt, think out loud. Don't strategize, plan, rehearse. Jump in head first and think on you feet. Feel the interaction, don't rationalize it. The way I see it, the human mating process in the initial stages are instinctual, it's so critical for our species that it has to be done against our will. You know that gut feeling you get when you look in a womans eyes. That's the feeling, now follow it.

dogsontheprowl · 2021-04-19T14:22:49+00:00

Dude. good rep though!

Bandaka · 2021-04-19T14:39:11+00:00

Perhaps you weren’t building enough attraction, sounded like you started out strong but the conversation stagnated.

Next time try and get the number and social media and dip out before things go south.

Theory_Agile · 2021-04-19T14:44:14+00:00

Gonna happen especially in crowded loud place, dont let it fuck with you man shake it off and keep it pushin. If shes that fucken rude of a person you better off

2021-04-19T17:19:19+00:00

It’s gonna happen man. Most of us have all had it happen at some point.

I think some women get intimidated or bored by men, but are afraid to announce it for the fear of how the man might react.

I’d also say that if you’re just meeting someone, try to keep it short and sweet and set up a new time to see them. Maybe she goes home with you night one, but more likely it will take a few dates or meetups for her to feel you out as a potential partner anyway.

She may have known you were “gaming” her too, so she wanted to bail and the other guy was a good way to do so and feel safe that you wouldn’t follow her.

One thing that always works for me is incorporating other people in my set. If I’m out with a group of friends, I’ll bounce around and not spend all my time focusing on her. If it’s a first date, I’ll ask the bartender/waiter/barista or other customers something we’re discussing. For example, went on a first date a few weeks ago and asked an older couple sitting next to us who had the better taste in cereal after we had been talking about cereal. They chimed in and I let them know it was our first date and we exchanged some convo with them and had a good time.

This does a few things 1) it shows you aren’t a serial killer. Seriously. After hearing how terrified some women are on first dates, they want to know you’re not afraid to speak with people around you to give her a sense of comfort. 2) it makes you more interesting. They want a man with high social status. 3) it shows you’re not solely there to just try and fuck her. You’re actually just out trying to have a good time and live your best life.

Hopefully this helps, and just keep shooting your shot!

earsurgery9 · 2021-04-19T17:23:20+00:00

don't worry about it

I can tell you with about 99% certain that if you were saying different sentences, it wouldn't have ended any better.

It's a numbers game. Game isn't black magic lol

Wjourney · 2021-04-19T19:21:37+00:00

Her loss

breakupstrategy · 2021-04-19T20:49:50+00:00

That will happen. Onto the next one.

Twobithatter · 2021-04-19T23:08:38+00:00

I would look more into the Mystery Method if you’re just starting for basics. I saw some of the RSD hotseat and thought it was cool but then I realized its very subjective to the set. Not really applicable in majority of set. Not talking random shit even with the right vibes is still random shit. Its not going to get you from A to B.

2021-04-20T01:13:59+00:00

Don't take it personally. Maybe a guy did the same thing to her last week so she wanted the first opportunity to do that, to the first sucker she was able to, in her revenge against men.

Drknz · 2021-04-20T04:03:52+00:00

Too much mystery 2001 game systems going on in your head.

Focus on becoming comfortable with yourself first, then in social situations and then self improvement and confidence.

ProductivityMonster · 2021-04-20T04:55:38+00:00

It's a rude thing to do and it's natural to be offended. But in the back of your mind, you have to think "good riddance - she filtered herself out."

Sue__Me__Then · 2021-04-20T22:00:49+00:00

Keep expanding your knowledge.

All techniques have weaknesses, be they RSD, Models, or Mystery Method. As you learn from more and more authors, you'll be able to understand the fundamental flaws in each of them, and how they do and don't work for you, and create a more complete method that's more personalized to you.

Don't let yourself be limited.

Title	I had a girl walk away from me tonight mid set to talk to another guy
Author	IBSwimn_inOshans
Upvotes	384
Comments	134
Date	April 19, 2021 9:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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