This was just posted on a girl's tumblr. Sedditors take note.

nosleepatall · 2011-10-19T15:41:43+00:00

The awkward moment when you just had a heart-2-heart talk with an attractive woman, thought it would get you closer to her, and then realized that you just fucked up, big time.

sgrundy · 2011-10-19T11:23:12+00:00

Friendship NOOOOOOOOOOO

raydio27 · 2011-10-19T15:07:46+00:00

See, the guy in this situation probably thought that was how you hook up with a girl. I couldn't tell you how many times I thought that sitting and talking to a girl for hours would get me laid. Now, I know better. Not to say I won't have a heart-to-heart with an actual female friend, but this won't get you laid.

MisterMisfit · 2011-10-19T14:26:15+00:00

Keep in mind that this depends on the girl. Some girls like to get intimate with you before hooking up.

darkenspirit · 2011-10-19T13:54:55+00:00

Holy Crap. I've been doing shit like this before haven't I?

Dred · 2011-10-19T13:38:48+00:00

I just cringed because I realized I've probably been that guy a thousand times before...then I smiled knowing I'll never be that way again.

sedditaway · 2011-10-19T17:38:21+00:00

Okay gurus of seddit, how should this exact situation have been avoided? They head out to the parking lot together, she starts talking about her feelings....what to do?

TheAlphaMale- · 2011-10-19T12:48:07+00:00

Obviously that guy hasn't been on /r/seduction before.

buzziebee · 2011-10-19T11:52:22+00:00

Fuck LJBF.

nubwithachub · 2011-10-19T14:57:17+00:00

yeah you can still hook up with her though. this dude just had a heart to heart and then dropped the ball. ball was still very much in play

2011-10-19T15:06:56+00:00

See, girls posts field reports too lol.

Well, atleast she says hes her 'best friend' and not friend- a transition to F close is still doable.

2011-10-19T15:10:12+00:00

Pfft, just because you have a heart to heart doesn't mean you can't still hook up. He should have just kept up the kino, flirting etc etc.... really at the end of the day it's all kino damn it!

2011-10-19T17:01:28+00:00

This shouldn't be taken as a universal, tbh... I had a similar 2-hour heart-to-heart talk with a woman (in a parking lot, nonetheless), who ended up falling in love with me (the feeling was mutual, if that has any relevance).

grant0 · 2011-10-19T16:52:45+00:00

Okay, but not everyone shares the same goals as Seddit. Quite possible that this guy actually was NOT trying to bang this girl, quite possible that he's in a committed relationship, quite possible that he likes this girl as a friend and isn't interested sexually at all, quite possible that he wants to be her friend.

It's entirely possible that he wanted what he got. Seddit has a tendency to assume that the goal of all interactions with attractive women is sex, and anything less is failure. Not true. Remember, this isn't an FR on Seddit…we can't assume this guy was trying to get laid.

darkhindu · 2011-10-19T14:54:16+00:00

Why does everyone act like friendship is the worst thing that could happen to a man?

I know I'd appreciate it if I could even become a friend to a woman.

penguinv · 2011-10-19T19:41:45+00:00

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IranRPCV · 2011-10-19T18:03:05+00:00

Married redditer here - Never have I seen so many clueless comments on one post.

MaestrO_ · 2011-10-19T16:07:19+00:00

Everyone minus extreme introverts has done this before

ymrhawk · 2011-10-19T17:12:00+00:00

This called "snatching defeat from the jaws of victory".

I think all guys have been guilty of this at one time of their life. Damn it hurts to read that.

hopscotchking · 2011-10-19T19:38:21+00:00

Bleh. I do this.

AegisSC · 2011-10-20T03:04:13+00:00

Guy didn't even get laid? What a floormat

/seddit

puapsyche · 2011-10-19T15:21:28+00:00

My heart. It reaches out painfully for this guy.

2011-10-19T18:15:42+00:00

Hey guys just so you know you can have a heart to heart with women, but you must continue to be a sexual threat. Keep your sexual frame (seductive body language), teasing, light but suggestive touching, etc...

2011-10-19T23:45:08+00:00

I COULD NEVER DATE MY BEST FRIEND

Girls can be so fucking stupid.

2011-10-20T00:05:50+00:00

That moment when you realized that you didn't go from comfort to seduce fast enough and now you're stuck in the friend zone forever. Then, that moment when you realize that the friend zone is bullshit if you know what you're doing.

napalmthechild · 2011-10-20T04:14:18+00:00

719+ upvotes? Holy shit where did all you people come from?

modal11 · 2011-10-20T06:19:33+00:00

girlFAIL

puaCurveBall · 2011-10-20T07:30:11+00:00

After thinking about it, this post is a goldmine as opener material. You get people arguing about the motives of the guy, of the girl and of the situation in general.

This is a great opinion opener, as proven by all the debate here in this thread.... try it next time you go out!

puaCurveBall · 2011-10-19T18:03:02+00:00

I don't really understand the upvotes... we have a lot of bitter, butthurt people here.

I suppose if it leads anyone to seduction and to stop being a tool, some good may come out of it.

ledzep4life · 2011-10-19T15:34:15+00:00

Sed5 · 2011-10-19T18:19:14+00:00

I'm not sure why this post has 330 upvotes. Other than the funny factor, it's a terrible post on many levels. This thread is also full of assumptions.

Either way this is a great example of confirmation bias.

fall0ut · 2011-10-19T18:09:09+00:00

if they were on a date, something tells me he was in the friend zone long before he got her home.

Lazook · 2011-10-19T18:11:04+00:00

Maybe the guy is thinking the same. I mean I've been in that situation a few times where I'd rather be good friends with a girl (and not (always) because she was unattractive).

penguinv · 2011-10-19T20:41:40+00:00

and on that day we learned how to stay out of the friendzone.

rem3415 · 2011-10-19T23:34:03+00:00

┬─┬ノ( º _ ºノ)

(ノಠ益ಠ)ノ彡┻━┻

BPhair · 2011-10-20T01:03:17+00:00

In case anyone missed the point:

It's not bad to be open and emotionally connected with women. You just do it after you have established a sexual relationship.

MockingDead · 2011-10-20T07:17:32+00:00

FRIEND'D!

Sorry to hear about it.

2011-10-24T01:00:43+00:00

Aww, friends

2011-10-24T05:08:48+00:00

Story of my entire life

Uptonogood · 2011-10-19T16:34:38+00:00

Ugh. So painfull to see this kinda stuff. Maybe because it reminds me of myself and how Im trying not to be.

I just hope the guy has the tenacity to realize his wrongdoings. Maybe seek the pua community.

whiteyonthemoon · 2011-10-19T17:39:09+00:00

So....sedditors would rather have and awkward hookup than be someone's new best friend. Sounds desperate.

executex · 2011-10-19T14:55:22+00:00

Why is she acting like they are mutually exclusive--she's crazy, i wouldn't stick anything in her.

marvinkmooney · 2011-10-20T00:09:25+00:00

Being best friends doesnt in it self limit/restrict sexual access. Dont know the details of THIS heart to heart.

Title	This was just posted on a girl's tumblr. Sedditors take note.
Author	solarplexus7
Upvotes	845
Comments	190
Date	October 19, 2011 8:49 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lhb1u/this_was_just_posted_on_a_girls_tumblr_sedditors/
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