So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?

itsmevichet · 2012-06-29T13:28:14+00:00

I dunno, man. You'd have to conduct a crazy large survey of both personal hypotheses of behavior, as well as record actual behavior.

Also, having the answer to this question doesn't necessarily help your game. The women who are willing to lay quick won't respond to you any better or worse because you have some statistic in your head that tells you a probability.

Be practical. Go collect some data. With your penis.

MrCluelessFrog · 2012-06-29T14:58:22+00:00

You are not asking the right question. "How many women would be willing to have sex with ME the same night," would provide you with a better answer.

randomhighfive · 2012-06-29T14:54:31+00:00

Women like to have sex just as much as men.

If you never try, you'll never succeed.

(Coming from a girl)

AFCGirl · 2012-06-29T12:36:55+00:00

In my experience, the hotter the girl, the more likely/willing she is to have sex sooner. I don't know if this has to do with self-confidence or the fact that less attractive girls may think you're trying to use them for sex. Either way, go for the really good looking girls if you're trying to have sex asap. Trust me on this one.

Go get 'em, tiger. ;)

glassuser · 2012-06-29T12:34:41+00:00

It's hard to put a good number on it due to selection bias. But if you're going out to interesting places and on your game, probably at least 50% will be interested in a first night lay. A good fraction of those will lose interest if you don't bang 'em on the first night.

venicerocco · 2012-06-29T17:20:14+00:00

Zen answer: None of them. And all of them.

Servios · 2012-06-29T15:00:15+00:00

TBH, I'm actually not really willing to have sex on the same night, and I'm a guy. Even though I've had one-night-stands before, when I find a girl interesting I want to see her again, and feel no need to jump into the bed upon first sight.

Gravitron3000 · 2012-06-29T13:21:45+00:00

I've had 2 okcupid 1st dates in the past week in a half. The first one was great! ended up with an epic make out session. Had a second one last night. Was not an expecting an F-close but it definitely happened, and damn did it happened quickly. I mean, within in 20 minutes of getting back from dinner. This girl was ready to get down to business. Good for me, I guess?... tl;dr I didn't realize how willing some women were until last night...

boss413 · 2012-06-29T15:34:14+00:00

About 40% report it. For your game's sake, think about it in terms of how many hours it takes to get a woman comfortable-enough with you to be willing to have sex with you. For some women that amount of time is very high, for some very low, and it is definitely affected by the situation and how good you are at achieving this objective. That number around four hours for the average if you're talking, not clubbing, and she isn't noticeably intoxicated.

Fun fact, women who like the taste of beer are about 70% more likely to be okay with sex on the first date than the overall population of women.

invalid-user-name- · 2012-11-17T00:51:22+00:00

Most women you meet have lower self esteem than they will admit. Most women will sleep with you the same night. I'm not some pro, however I can say that only one time since I was 18 that I didn't get a blow job or more on the first date. It's all about how you treat the situation. You need to be able to read her and the surroundings. If she is comfortable with you, and you treat her the way she wants to be treated you're in. The one girl I can say was a virgin and I don't think John Meyer could have tagged that. Most I got from her was a grab of her ass, and even that was too much for her. I worked on that shit for a month before I gave up. Also I will say that if you meet her at a bar probably not happening. You gotta put some convo time in, text or whatever. But from experience if you make her comfortable you're golden.

funkyjames · 2012-06-29T13:03:25+00:00

I used to think that all women didn't really want to have sex until she was in a committed long term relationship

not in my experience buddy! what worked for me in making that happen was being honest - dont be an asshole and mislead them. its on you to tell them you arent interested in a relationship, if thats the case. im always up front with my girls, and they usually dont run for the hills if im just honest in saying i enjoy being single and am staying that way

Magefall · 2012-06-29T15:40:36+00:00

A secret I was once told by a friend. Women want sex just like us. Sometimes just as much

lizzykins97 · 2012-06-29T17:25:21+00:00

It depends on whether the woman is looking for a relationship or sex. If she is looking for a relationship, she will want to build one long before having sex. If she is just horny, then yes she will go for a one night stand.

*Female, speaking from personal experience.

Whisper · 2012-06-29T21:33:51+00:00

Lemme tell you something truly mind blowing:

Women don't know in advance what they want.

I know, I know, it sounds horrible, doesn't it? But it's not the awful, insulting statement it sounds like. It doesn't mean that women are incapable of running their own lives.

What it means is that there's no sense trying to figure out if a woman wants to have sex with you, because she doesn't know until you make a move, and she either likes it or doesn't.

It's like being offered a new flavour of ice cream. How do you know you like it or don't until you taste it and know how it tastes?

For women, men are like that ice cream. There's the flavours you know you'll hate, because you hate something that goes into them (I don't like pistachios.) But the majority of flavours, you don't know if you like until you taste a spoonful.

She doesn't know if she wants you to kiss her. She only knows if she likes it or not, when you actually go for the kiss.

Can you see how your question makes no sense, now?

2012-06-29T13:30:02+00:00

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say women on average are about as willing as men.

itsiceyo · 2012-06-29T13:14:06+00:00

there was a post on here not to long ago portraying women's sexual urges, and it was ridiculously high.

pararin · 2012-06-29T13:49:41+00:00

This depends on how you game.

If you're just going for one night stands then the percent of sexually active women will gradually rise due the selection bias you will have. The further you go, the sooner you will start to recognize girls who are sexually active and who are not.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-06-29T14:09:37+00:00

Lots. And the ones that want to go on a formal date first are almost always down that night (second meetup) for me.

2012-06-29T14:14:43+00:00

About the same as guys. It might seem otherwise in somewhere like a club because girls might want to just dance and forget the guys for the night.

puaCurveBall · 2012-06-29T14:59:26+00:00

You don't know unless you try.

I'd say easily the majority are willing.

2012-06-29T15:23:32+00:00

Probably in exactly the same numbers as guys.

djrbx · 2012-06-29T17:49:21+00:00

Honestly, in my experience, it all depends on where you meet the women. If you go out to a place where they expect to hook up with a stranger that night, i.e. club, bar, party, etc., you could close the deal in as little as a week or less. When you meet someone through a mutual friend or randomly on the street, it may take longer like a few weeks or more since you both need to take the "wall down" in protecting yourself as people are more cautious in those situations.

This also depends on how comfortable and attracted they are with you. I've met girls who I slept with on the first night while others took a little while longer. Also depends on how flirty you are with them, which then creates the mood for foreplay which makes what happens next less forced upon.

littlematchgirl · 2012-07-22T11:25:22+00:00

as for me..... I'd like to get to know the guy first before showing my everything to him... I guess it also depends on the girls... some girls are willing to do it right away just because maybe the man made them feel so special or so beautiful... then they feel it's the right time and person for that moment.

Holeinonegal · 2012-10-25T05:08:39+00:00

In my opinion, being a female going through a divorce......I miss the connection of my husband and I would be willing to have sex for a connection....my former attitude was that I would not have sex unless there was a connection.....

2012-06-29T15:06:42+00:00

More than you might think. And it's always the ones that you least expect that will surprise you the most. That's been my experience, anyway.

MissBe · 2012-06-29T17:09:08+00:00

My take is: Am I in the mood? Do I feel comfortable with you? If yes, then it can be the first night.

Chances will be diminished if I have the feeling we will be around the same social circles (aka do I have to face you again?).

Thinking about your question more: Do I have the feeling that you will be an ass about it, or will you be discrete? Are you a grown up or just interested in your pleasure? 'What will be the aftermath?

endporn · 2012-06-29T17:17:31+00:00

The hotter you are, the more willing they get.

impotent_rage · 2012-06-29T17:45:52+00:00

There's only one answer to this question, and it is this = everyone's different. Both men and women.

However, women like sex too, and most women don't like to be sexually frustrated for long periods of time. And if they're single for long periods of time, that means they are probably interested in sex on some terms with someone that isn't a relationship. Not every woman is looking for a relationship, after all, and those who aren't, would probably like to still have options.

For me personally, as a single woman, I've learned that I need to feel a connection to a person in order to feel comfortable having sex with them. If they aren't genuinely interested in getting to know me as a person, and if I'm not genuinely interested in getting to know them as a person, and if I don't respect them as a good, decent, moral person, then I won't be comfortable on sexual terms either. For me, sex is always emotional, and I've learned to respect that and to not try to disconnect sex from emotions. HOWEVER, I've learned that the emotions involved don't have to necessarily be "I am in love with you and want to be with you." They can be warm regard for a friend and respect for a shared bond, on the terms that it is.

So for me personally, I am open to friend with benefits arrangements. I'm also open to sex with people who I am talking to or dating, when it's ambiguous whether it will become a relationship or not - so long as I've spent enough time with them to get a sense that I trust them and care about them enough to engage on that level. And sometimes that can happen relatively quickly.

And that applies to me, and probably to some other women but not to all. Every answer to this question is different, depending who you're talking about.

baaaark · 2012-06-29T19:20:27+00:00

One night stands and hookups can happen either two ways. Really good-looking and rich guys can get girls like this, but those aren't the best way.

The number one thing you'll find gets you ONS is not caring when women reject you. Those guys you find hooking up probably hit on 20 women that night, and then they found one that wanted it. This is how that "loser douchebag" got the girl, because he's not a loser douchebag, he's persistent and driven to get what he wants which is more important than being nice or mean IMO.

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-06-29T21:03:59+00:00

Every time, as long as it's with me.

lemonbrains · 2012-06-29T22:18:34+00:00

who cares? all of them most likely want to have sex with you.

2012-06-29T14:20:19+00:00

the majority of my sexual encounters are 1 night stands (mainly because i like to colonize new places) where i've just met the girl that night. Even if she hasn't ever had sex on the first night of meeting someone does not mean she won't, it just means she hasn't yet. So the answer is... all of them!

Shadowglove · 2012-06-29T18:04:30+00:00

First of all, don't judge us all. We're not all the same and we will never be. Some women screw on the first date, some on the second, some doesn't do it unless they are in a commited relationship and some doesn't do it at all. We are just like you.
First of all you shouldn't use movies and media as some sort of relationship guide.
And second, if you are that desperate for sex, for the sake of just getting your cock wet, I suggest you buy a hooker or something.

txcapricorn · 2012-06-29T17:12:43+00:00

I haven't read all the comments, so maybe this has been mentioned already - but I think it depends entirely on the approach. I know a lot of women who would jump into bed with a guy on night one if that's all they thought it was, but would slow down considerably if they thought it was something either party wanted for longer than the night and vice versa. But I've also met women who didn't see any need to wait if it was something both parties were actively interested in pursuing.

Honestly also goes a long way. Might not be the most popular approach, but a former roomie of mine used to walk up to girls and say "Look, I'm not looking for a relationship right now but you're really attractive and I'd like to take you home tonight." Even if he didn't f-close, he got a number almost every time.

voxpupil · 2012-06-29T18:37:47+00:00

Wait how are you "finding out" that girls frequently have sex with a stranger? When only knowing them for a week?

reph · 2012-06-29T20:44:22+00:00

They all wanna fuck NOW, but are you willing to get it out of their culturally imposed shyness?

HeathenBarbie · 2012-06-29T21:53:23+00:00

As a woman, I can share this small insight: If I'm not interested in having a long term relationship or building any possible relationship with you but I still want to get laid, I'd be very willing (and I'd make it apparent) that I want to have sex with you the first night.

Couple things: I'd need to feel safe with you.

I'd need to know you're a good guy.

I'd need to feel secure that you're going to be careful.

I would make damn sure that I'm in control of the situation.

Long story short, I would let you know exactly what I want, and I would need to feel in control.

howimetyourmeme · 2012-06-29T23:23:25+00:00

Try to keep in mind that women want sex just as much as men do. The problem is that society tells them that if they indulge in those appetites, they are sluts. Society also says that women have a lower sex drive than men, but that is a patently false idea. They are conditioned by culture to downplay it, and many do.

Your job as seductor is to encourage them to give in to what they already want to do. If you can carry on an intelligent conversation and you're not creepy, you can help a woman to feel comfortable enough to have sex on the first date. As I can personally attest, you can even have a threesome on the first date.

Cultivate your inner awesomeness. Don't let your fears of how someone will react stop you from being assertive and fun. And, most importantly, don't focus on sex as the goal. That becomes desperation very quickly, and that is a huge turnoff. Good luck!

2012-06-30T00:05:01+00:00

The majority of women that I've slept with, I have slept with within the same week.

Does it even matter? Enough of them are that you can find one if that's what you're looking for. Pick out girls who are at a bar/club by themselves. They are there for one reason.

reverselookup · 2012-06-30T00:20:49+00:00

Tequila... Tequila.. Tequila

Fu_Man_Chu · 2012-06-30T09:56:17+00:00

Let me put it this way, EVERY major relationship I've had in my life has started with making love on the first night.

Even over looking those I still tend to sleep with women whom I have chemistry with almost immediately. It's all about framing the issue and just letting it happen. Women love passion, they love feeling out of control. You just have to lead them there.

mysterymethhead · 2012-06-29T15:46:43+00:00

This thread from TwoXChromosomes points towards women not wanting sex as soon as possible. http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/vqj7e/i_hate_being_called_a_tease_rant/

Nihiliste · 2012-06-29T15:59:47+00:00

I think most women want to wait a few dates before they have sex. Certainly anything meaningful usually works that way, although I did have one relationship with someone I had sex with on the second date.

My advice: play it by ear. Be charming and attractive, and it'll probably be plenty obvious from the response how far a woman is willing to go. Do not push for sex on the first date unless you don't expect anything serious.

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