I am Cajun: woodsman, alcoholic, beard connoisseur, and lead instructor at Love Systems. AMA

kibbles_n_bits · 2012-07-30T02:53:13+00:00

Here is Cajun on Keys to the VIP.

jamesbluntrocks · 2012-07-30T03:23:20+00:00

Derek/Cajun/Greatest PUA period,

What's the top 3 coolest career/job you can think of, for a man to balance on decent income and hitting girls the same time?

errational_richard · 2012-07-30T01:59:40+00:00

hey cajun I'm currently in college and I just wanted to know whats the best way to practice my Game without people catching on? because in college you tend to hang around a certain social circle at parties and I don't want to be known as the pick up guy.

cajunspice · 2012-07-30T01:14:41+00:00

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zeezbrah · 2012-07-30T21:58:58+00:00

How much weed do you smoke?

wierdo5000 · 2012-07-30T03:00:34+00:00

I'll ask something non-pua related. What kind of sword fighting do you do? Western (broadsword, fencing, etc.), or Eastern (Kenjutsu, Weapons kung fu)? Also, where do you go to learn?

2012-07-30T04:04:47+00:00

Dude your were awesome in those insurance commercials.

3109 · 2012-07-30T01:14:23+00:00

Hey Cajun, thanks for the AMA. Really enjoyed the one you did last year. Anyway, my question I guess has to do more with inner game and motivation/dedication. I've been going out for a while but I haven't got any results. I've recently got fed up with "gaming" and the "seduction community" as a whole. It just started feeling so fake, and going out with a couple of friends (who know about the "community" as well) to "pickup" chicks felt more like work than enjoyment. I usually went direct too, and although I used to get fairly good responses and numbers, they never led to anything. Have you ever been through something like this? How can you keep yourself motivated and avoid falling back into the "old self"? I'm probably going about this in the wrong way as well, ny suggestions on how I should hit the "reset" button and start over?

killjoy87 · 2012-07-30T03:01:11+00:00

Hey Cajun

Do you have any tips on turning a normal conversation into a sexual one. Basically how to start the flirting. I feel like i got no control over this and sometimes it just happens and sometimes it doesn't. Any tips?

occupykony · 2012-07-30T02:30:34+00:00

Did you ever hook up with any of those girls you picked up on your Keys to the VIP episode?

wittymanchild · 2012-07-30T01:04:30+00:00

Hi Cajun, I love your material especially Beyond Words. I just created this account to ask this:

How have improv classes benefit your game? I have seen you recommend it before and I'm thinking about joining the improv club this year in college. Any other tips for incoming college freshman?

jbwong · 2012-07-30T03:13:12+00:00

Hi Cajun, have to been to Asia before and what's your dating experience so far and how you normally started a conversation in this region? It seems pretty hard to daygame girls tend to be more conservative.

slampoet · 2012-07-30T01:16:56+00:00

I know I'm going to feel like a teenage girl for asking this, but what advice would you give someone with huge self-image problems? In my case I'm 24 and my biggest problem is I'm balding, I look so much older than I am and most girls aren't into bald guys my age. What would you tell someone that had huge self esteem problems on how to get over it and be confident IN SPITE of looks?

Basically I want to know, how do you just not give a fuck and be confident even if you think you're not attractive?

jjt5656 · 2012-07-30T02:07:06+00:00

How did you meet Sasha pua? are you guys good friends?

gdffg · 2012-07-30T01:44:55+00:00

Hey,

I just watched the movie Rebel Without A Cause, starring James Dean, and i was wondering if you could talk about how he creates that sense of aura/mystique that you describe in your blog, and what makes someone like him an attractive person

cajunspice · 2012-07-30T01:53:38+00:00

Hey man,

A few questions:

Regarding inner game.. This is such a broad topic, and one could write an encyclopedia on it.. But I want to know what is the most important part of inner game and most crucial in order to find success in the field and other areas of life. What is one thing anyone should always be reinforcing?

Secondly, how do you prepare for nights out at a bar/club? What is something you have always done/used to do to help you get into state and 'warm up?

And lastly, what is one piece of advice you could tell someone who is just starting out, that you wish you knew? Maybe something that could have helped you develop your game quicker, a lesson better learned earlier than later?

Thanks, much appreciated!

Untraced · 2012-07-30T02:12:34+00:00

Cajun:

I really dig your work.

Are you always "on"? I've not been actively practicing game for long - only since my most recent breakup. I just had two Irish girls open me and my buddy while we were on our way home from the movies holding McDonalds. They were cute, but I didn't do shit! I negged a little and then just kept walking, even though they were clearly interested in being shown a good time around the city. I didn't realize that I didn't consciously game until after the interaction was over.

I keep looking for opportunities to go out and practice, yet when an opportunity hit me in the face I didn't do anything. Do you sometimes just not feel like it, or are you always putting your skills to practice?

Also, canned routines. On KttVIP I noticed you used a lot of canned stuff. Was that just to make sure newbies knew what you were doing? Do you always use the same canned stuff over and over, or do you have a big repository? I've seen Mystery say he only has 4-5 openers memorized at any given time. Should I just repeat the same ones over and over and over or focus on learning a few more each night? I've got a little cheat sheet on my phone but it keeps growing beyond the speed that I can learn it.

Are you gonna be in England for a bootcamp within the next year or so? Would my chances be better to schedule one for a visit back home to Canada? Would there be a lot of time spent with you, or mostly other instructors? I do respect the guys you work with - your team's solid.

Also, any tips for guys who are considering getting heavy into this just for the sake of teaching it?

thedoc112 · 2012-07-30T02:03:13+00:00

Sometimes I'll have a really nice time with a girl, and then the next day, it's like I don't exist or I'm just a piece of furniture. What gives? Why not even just an acknowledgement of some kind that I'm at least a human?
I once heard that an 'afc' will get 1/100 girls to like him and a 'mpua' will get 10/100 girls to like him (meaning that you are still fighting the odds greatly). How true is that in your opinion?
How will you ever know if low “success rates” will be because of the natural world of playing the odds or because you don’t even realize something that you are deeply communicating?
What's been your longest long term relationship?
How often are you the one that has to push the interaction?
What do you think people worry about the most?

PapaKilo · 2012-07-30T01:50:09+00:00

Saw your work on Keys to the VIP. Well done representing the community

djduni · 2012-07-30T03:09:49+00:00

Cajun,

I just turned 21 and I'm heading to Vegas this coming week. I have decent social circle game, but my bar/club game isn't the best. Do you have any tips or suggestions for increasing the odds of successfully meeting some cool chicks and maybe even bringing them back to our suite?

Cheers

Ryu6912 · 2012-07-30T03:22:59+00:00

Hey Cajun! I remember seeing you on some pick up/seduction show, can't remember the name but you were freaking stellar man! What can you tell sword fighting? Any cool styles, types of swords, rapiers, katana etc?

jlin68 · 2012-07-30T03:27:10+00:00

Can you tell me your favorite text openers? (you've met, had some laughs, and she looked at least medium-fuse)

MonkeySteriods · 2012-07-30T03:38:29+00:00

So what were some of your worse blowouts? What did you learn from them?

2012-07-30T03:52:04+00:00

I think they like me. But I am having trouble getting a meet up. I want to fix this. Edit: its kino all the way

JulietDelta · 2012-07-30T04:12:49+00:00

Hey Cajun, from your last AMA you mentioned that your game has changed since your outing on keys to the VIP. What has changed since then? What advice given 4 years ago would you now take back? What are you focusing on now that you didnt before? Thanks for the AMA! Great read.

G-Riz · 2012-07-30T04:17:28+00:00

I know it's a little late, but as a fellow outdoorsman I wanted to know if there's any special way to work that into my game?

Geaux · 2012-07-30T04:33:11+00:00

You wouldn't happen to be a doctor, would you?

tarnok · 2012-07-30T04:59:29+00:00

I wish we could have a scotch and chat up here in Canada. Thank you for doing this.

MachineLoveGun666 · 2012-07-30T05:14:54+00:00

GAMBIT RULES!!!

MARSpu · 2012-07-30T05:18:37+00:00

Hey Cajun. Just sshowing some love from Toronto. I remember meeting you and TenMagnet at the Madison some time ago. Hope you're still alive and healthy over there!

2012-07-30T05:21:21+00:00

How do I get extra reach on my fencing?

2012-07-30T20:29:11+00:00

I'd like to know why you began this whole game thing.

gdffg · 2012-07-30T21:24:53+00:00

Hey,

Could you recommend some movies (starring actors like brando, beatty, and valentino) that you think demonstrate masculinity, identity, and presence?

2012-08-10T22:57:40+00:00

Thanks to you, I am happily married to a ridiculously amazing woman that everyone would say is way out of my league.

I was googling to find out if Keys to the vip was the real deal. Came upon your blog.

Read everything. Read everything on Love Sys website, Magic Bullets (legally purchased) , watch all the videos.

I was a bartender, so I wasn't doing that bad, but reading all this changed my life.

God rid of so many bad habits.

You are a true rock star. Thank you so much.

cajunspice · 2012-07-30T01:17:42+00:00

Hey Cajun,

I did a bootcamp with you, tenmagnets and bullet in Brisbane last year and I recently did a one-on-one with future and i have to say that I think it's amazing how much incite to human interaction you guys have.

Now my question.

When out I seem to get the iv got a boyfriend line a lot. Any tips on that?

Thanks man for doing this AMA.

I hope to see you in Brisbane again sometime in the future.

monsterballads · 2012-07-30T03:05:36+00:00

what would you say your favorite type of chicken is? mild, spicy..

treygui · 2012-07-30T01:05:37+00:00

I was watching an interview you do on MensRoom and you told the guy "visualization is huge", just curious if you can go a bit in depth with that. For example, you see a cute girl, what do you visualize? Do you just like assume you'd get her no matter what and visualize her in your arms? What if it doesn't work out, wouldn't that effect you?

Other question is, do you visualize in other parts of your life?

nowheretowalk · 2012-07-30T01:53:31+00:00

Hi Cajun,

I was wondering what your stance was on the whole direct vs indirect opener.

And second, what are the biggest differences in approaching in daygame as opposed to night game?

Thank you.

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throwmyseddit · 2012-07-30T02:42:20+00:00

Hey Cajun,

I'm a 22 year old recovering alcoholic/addict and a single father of a 2 year old son. I first learned about the game in 2008, and it changed my life. Now being single, for a year and half, I'm happy in who I am and what I have accomplished since being single, but fall short of where to start on picking up on pick up again. I live at my parents and take care of my son 24/7, unless I am away at work which takes up the vast majority of my week. I see a good looking lady walking down the street and we smile at each other (being with my son or not) and I don't know what to do. So, my question to you is, where should I begin being a single father?

Xstream2 · 2012-07-30T03:07:58+00:00

whats the best way to get over a plateau?

fashionfag · 2012-07-30T01:11:23+00:00

Everyone has basically seen how well you do in-field. My question is how do you keep your composure so strong when talking to girls? You literally go for the hottest girls any man has ever seen yet your body language shows no reaction or fear. Does this have to be honed over time? Do you have any tips on forming stronger body language and maintaining composure?

Also, what's your favorite Scotch?

Thanks for your time bud

mystify89 · 2012-07-30T01:47:00+00:00

Hey Cajun. I would like your professional perspective on this:'

Is it true that this game, in the end, basicly comes down to - what is refered to - your "inner game" ? As in, your confidence, feelings etc? That essentially, when ure really good, you dont use much techniques at all cause your "vibe" do the most of the attraction for you, and you can basicly do anything (as long as ure not being a fucking retard) and tons of girls will feel attraction for you?

kamatres · 2012-07-30T02:06:20+00:00

Hey Cajun, not really question was just wondering if are there any plans for any of you guys from Love Systems to come to Eastern Europe, mainly Poland? I'd bet there would be massive interest as you guys are awesome and considering how"scene" here is poor at best, whenever i read forums or watch videos from "PUA's" here my eyes flood with tears from laughter. Besides women here are hot as hell and i'd definetely love to get shit-faced drunk with you at parties i'd take you to. Big love from Poland. Also can you accept friend invite on FB from me? Would love to talk to you some time.

maxormis · 2012-07-30T02:18:57+00:00

Hi Cajun, your episode on Keys to the VIP is the one I show friends when talking about this stuff. Great stuff! Loved watching the show too in general. There is one thing about that show though that always felt weird to me. Maybe you can enlighten me:

When watching the show I was always wondering about the "prize". It seems kind of strange to me to award the guy who has least problems with picking up girls by throwing him into a room of "free pussy" - obviously he (you in that case) doesn't need it and personally I'm kind of repulsed by any pay the girl to hang out with you kind of agreement (and act in slutty ways in front of a tv camera) - which seems to be going on there.

But maybe it's a cultural thing (I'm from Europe) or the girls are actually paying to party with the cool guy who wins the show or just doing whatever to get their face into tv (which then again would make them look bad in my book and I wouldnt actually look forward to having to hang out with that kind of girls).

So how was your experience with that?

And as nobody has asked yet: What is your favorite Sega game and why?

clook63 · 2012-07-30T02:26:08+00:00

Hey,

Who is the coolest person you have ever met, and what did they do that made them so cool? Thanks

Chucc · 2012-07-30T02:28:14+00:00

I'm fairly new to the game, I have read Magic Bullets and Mystery's first book, but I am having trouble making much progress. I feel like I know a lot about pickup but when I get into the field it's like I keep making the mistakes I made before. How can I better internalize the information I have? Is the only way to approach more often?

senator_mendoza · 2012-07-30T02:26:22+00:00

what's your spirit animal?

radical01 · 2012-07-30T02:36:51+00:00

Hey Cajun what's the single most important piece of advice you can give to a young pua just starting out?

0MagicPhil0 · 2012-07-30T05:23:36+00:00

Hey cajun i have been working at a restaurant 2 or 3 days per week for a little over 3 weeks now and there is this cute hostess working there. I pretty much know that she founds me attractive but i dont have a fucking clue how to go and initiate a flirting vibe with her... Also since when i work there i tend to be incredibly busy i have even more trouble dealing with this... Any advices from you will be gladly appreciated

Nuts_In_The_Ass · 2012-07-30T05:36:19+00:00

I'm a medical student, going into OB/GYN. When I tell this to girls, often girls seem a little creeped out. Most OBGYNs are females, and the males get a reputation for being creepy. Any thoughts on this? A witty response to "You're going to be a gyncologist??" Or ways to swing this in my favor?

thecajunone · 2012-07-30T06:14:43+00:00

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TheRockapotamus · 2012-07-30T06:19:05+00:00

Hi Cajun. Been following you for a long time now and I've heard that you considered yourself to have been raw and inexperienced during Keys to the VIP. How exactly have you developed your game since then? Do you find yourself using a lot less of the old tricks like negs you used on the show?

Meganick410 · 2012-07-30T06:30:37+00:00

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roxxe · 2012-07-30T08:12:28+00:00

do you still rock that moustache?

roxxe · 2012-07-30T08:13:33+00:00

escalation mofo how?

choc_is_back · 2012-07-30T08:19:10+00:00

Hey awesome, I just rewatched your KTTVIP performance and your Men's room interview yesterday! Especially the Men's Room interview is awesome, you have a great talent for explaining shit.

My question is this: how much do you still do the 'impressing the girl' kind of thingies (or 'interactive value demonstrations'), palm reading and things like that? They are classic 'old school Mystery Method', but I don't like them, and feel that you can get by just as well without relying on silly stuff like that. Thoughts?

yokhai · 2012-07-30T13:55:37+00:00

Are you hiring?

eXXaXion · 2012-07-30T15:29:01+00:00

Are you often doubted by your pupils because you're so ridiculously good looking?

I mean I saw the youtube vids of you and I'm pretty sure I would get slapped if I tried what you did.

2012-07-30T15:29:29+00:00

Hey Cajun, so I'm pretty decent at getting the prety but not super hot girls (i.e. 7 and 8) but what tips do you have for getting the 9s and 10s?

2012-07-30T22:07:01+00:00

Cajun, you blew me away on Keys. Literally impressed me more than any other contestant.

That being said, my question relates to the four hosts/judges of the show. Have you seen them in field or been sarging with any of them? Are they as good as they make themselves out to be?

My only other question is how do you judge whether to eject a set or plough through?

coconutlake · 2012-07-31T18:14:55+00:00

Hope I didn't miss the boat here. I saw your keys to the VIP and was impressed. You were having fun, and that's why I'm getting into this sub.

I live in a small resort town. The local population is about 10k and we get millions of tourists a year. I see a lot of advantages / disadvantages to this. I don't want to build a reputation among the local population that i'm pua or trying to pua (word spreads like fire among locals here). I'd like to focus more on the tourists that are here for a week, develop a connection, and have someone to visit in whatever faraway place they come from. For example, I met a gorgeous girl from Argentina a few weeks ago. She was stunning, very friendly, and impressed when I knew the region she was from (it's a place I'd like to visit someday). I'd like to be someone she remembers so six months down the road when I send her an email (got her biz card) she will remember me and want to help me out with my travels to her region. I meet people like this all the time, from all over the world.

So, any tips for developing that connection with tourists? People of other nationalities?

Dagoe · 2012-08-02T05:14:18+00:00

Hey cajun. Im just going straight to the point. I like this girl over a few years now. But i had to stop waiting. I felt like it was NOW or NEVER. We used to play alot about her marrying me and stuff, and how she owes me a kiss. So one day she dared me, and we kissed.. By that time she had a boyfriend. So then i thought that kiss would have triggered for me to try and win her. But she didnt want to. Then a few weeks later on her aunt birthday, we KISSED again. So i tried again.. But i cant seem to get her. Any advice on what i should do to win her over?

2012-08-10T21:29:29+00:00

Cajun can you explain why you play the "i'm going to adopt you as my little sister, you're adorable angle"? i know you get to put your arm around her, compliment her, and in a way she lets her guard down, but how do you capitalize on it if she starts thinking of you as family. Can anyone help me here?

cajunspice · 2012-08-19T20:52:34+00:00

Ahh shit I just missed your AMA. On the offchance that you catch this, I'd love to take a bootcamp with you if you're ever in the South Florida area. You're a huge inspiration and I'd love to learn from you.

quantumorbit · 2012-07-30T01:06:50+00:00

Hey, Cajun! You are a boss!!

I’d like to get your view on day game here in Canada.

I’ve been doing day game for about 3 months. 108 approaches later, I sense as if many girls feel it is not socially “normal” to randomly meet guys during the day. Despite quality interactions, most # closes don’t even reply to a first text. I can have a great conversation and even an amazing insta date with a girl in the afternoon and never hear from her again. For the sake of discussion, let’s assume my game is solid.

However, I can go to to a bar and have a 5 minute “job-interview” interaction with a girl and she will be overly eager to meet for a day 2! I don’t understand. Are girls in our culture simply more comfortable doing that? I talked to a few female friends and their relationships have been limited to bars and social circles / school.

I see many PUA vids filmed in Ukraine, London, Scandinavia etc and day game techniques seem a lot more successful there. My friend visiting from Germany, who is an avid day gamer, tried his skills here and had pretty poor results. He said it was more difficult.

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boom733 · 2012-07-30T02:16:09+00:00

Hey Cajun,

Who are your biggest influences when it comes to seduction, and what are some aspects of their body language/personality that you use in game?

Pedroky · 2012-07-30T02:44:27+00:00

Hey Cajun, I wanna know when are you coming to Montreal? And also I wanna know if you know people who live in Montreal that like to pick up. Thanks.

iguano17 · 2012-07-30T03:00:34+00:00

Hi there man! I would be great to take lessons grom you in Mexico' this is my queston. I've taken now two bootcamps, i've improved quite a lot a think, but ii'm still fighting with a "not worthy""i'll never be enough to any woman" kind of feeling... Right now there are four girls truing to get my attention but the ones i get to realy like i always blow it. Is there an effective way around it? Have you seen guys overcome this type of inner game issues? Best...

Hazaa1 · 2012-07-30T01:58:26+00:00

Have you had long term relationships (as in girlsfriends) in the lasts couple of years? Or are you hooked on the bachelor life? EDIT: What's your favorite movie?

cajunspice · 2012-07-30T01:55:03+00:00

Hey, lets hear some of the biggest sex tips. What leaves the biggest impression on the first time? Im amazing with eating a girl out, they always talk about how that was the most amazing part. Pretty much drove them crazy with just that alone. But Im curious as to what tips you can give the men of reddit, to make the sex better for her or maybe even keep her coming back?

chillseghi · 2012-07-30T01:55:45+00:00

Hey Cajun,

Before I start, gotta say your game is tight man, hope you've been keeping it up. I've been trying to go to the gym lately but have been having a ton of problems getting motivated. I'm tall (6'2") but not in the greatest shape (about 225 lbs). Do you think physical fitness is a primary factor in wooing a girl, is it that important? Thanks.

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magicroot75 · 2012-07-30T02:15:03+00:00

Hey Cajun, thanks for the AMA! I never really see a PUA talk about their stats. Out of the daygame sets you approach, what % ends in a succesful Day 2? Bar/Club Game?

perfectpotential · 2012-07-30T06:01:51+00:00

Hey Cajun I'll try to be as concise as possible. Currently I'm in college and I live in the downtown portion of my school above the bars. I've been going out about 3 days a week every week this summer and have been able to at least make-out with a girl almost every week. I just have a few questions for you.

All of our bars close at 2 but I can't ever seem to get anyone out earlier then 12:30 because they rely on our social circle for women. I feel like i need a little more time then that to find the right girls and build rapport with them to get them back that night unless i find her really early in the night. What are your thoughts also any good lines for getting them to come back after I've already built attraction?
I've been out of the txt game for a while because I'm not the best at number closing. I recently hooked up with this girl I feel pretty into and I got her number. Any txting tips to help get things going in a flirty direction to help me avoid boring her? Do you think it would be better to just txt her before a few days before we'll probably both be at the bars or try working txt game earlier in the week to meet up or something?
I've had a few instances at bus stops where girls will open me and we'll end up talking for a good bit at the stop and on the bus. Any tips on number closing? I've literally choked every time when I knew they probably wouldn't have minded giving it to me or really wanted me to.
Lastly what do you think was the biggest thing you realized to help you day game and just get you out there approaching? Thanks for any help you give me! I used to fence sabre myself for about 5 years and was really big into acting when i was in high school

thecajunone · 2012-07-30T10:48:35+00:00

To all the downvoting hate faggots on this thread, fuck you, that is all.

Cajun you rock dude, this AMA is great. Only question, are you actually of Cajun descent?

Seijen · 2012-07-30T21:47:14+00:00

I'd pay just to hear you talk words of any sort.

MulliganDringus · 2012-07-30T02:03:54+00:00

Hey cajun, thanks for doing this. A lot of people around Seddit have referred to you as the Robert Downey Jr of pickup. Watching you on KttVIP, there definitely is some sort of similarity in manner. Did you model any of your game after him?

KingMe_brian · 2012-07-30T06:29:50+00:00

I have a small penis. What to do?

2012-07-30T02:12:58+00:00

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Title	I am Cajun: woodsman, alcoholic, beard connoisseur, and lead instructor at Love Systems. AMA
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