I’ve been on five dates now with a wonderful woman. On day three we went back to my place and fooled around (oral.) We didn’t have sex because I was nursing some serious blue balls and could not get it up.

Ugh..

Last night, I invited her over to my place and told her to bring wine. I cooked dinner and we drank, ate, and watched a movie. After the movie, we immediately started making out. She was definitely into it. We went into my bedroom and continued kissing. She started saying things about being nervous and I teasingly reminded her that we’ve “been here before.” I started kissing her neck and collarbone. She got on top of me and we continued until I started to lift her shirt. she stopped, obviously embarrassed, and told me she was nervous and scared and that she “didn’t feel cute.”

I was measured in my reaction, I told her that I wasn’t going to make her do anything she was uncomfortable with. She apologized for seeming like a tease. She then lies next to me and we made out some more and then spent an hour or so talking.

This morning, so many things are running through my head. “Is she attracted to me?” “Is she using me for emotional connection with no intention of intimacy?” “Should I have kept pushing?” I’m totally aware that I am over analyzing this whole thing.

Are there any signs or red flags that I’m missing? How do I make her feel sexy and want me sexually?

Edit: can’t spell